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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have been on here a while now and have had no success at all is it worth being on here as a single guy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure there is really a question to answer here.

Im a single guy I do ok. I also meet couples though. I also spend a lot of time around computers so perhaps send more messages than you.

When it comes to only meeting single women numbers will always be stacked against you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been on here a while now and have had no success at all is it worth being on here as a single guy? "

All you can do is keep on trying. If your looking for a single lady then you may well have a long wait!! Maybe you should get out and try a club and see how that goes. You will get to meet people and then people get to know you.. Just an idea

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Patience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agrees it really is a numbers game and single ladies are out numbered by single men by 100's to one. I'd go check out a free dating site if i was you as you will have more chance on there than you will on here...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We meet single guys, but definately base meeting them on their first message.

'Do you want a fuck' or generic copy and paste doesn't get single guys anywhere.

Put a little thought into what you write, as well as a face pic and the meets should start happening.

Good luck!

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By *ralNewBiMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

I have the same annoying problem but don't give up

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks for the feedback.

When i message someone i make sure i have read there profile and i'm what they are looking for considered what i want to put that is not to short and generic not to long and waffly but given most sent messages never even get read let alone replied to i am seriously wondering what is the point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with Bi-couple. We also meet single guys but we choose them carefully. Its has to be said that some single guys often let the side down and don't have any manners. They seem to think that because we are on a site like this then we will just fuck anyone. Guess what they are wrong. The down side to this is that single ladies and couples have the gaurd up and it hard to break through that wall. Try reading a profile and then read it again. Do what is asked of you. I have deleted at least 5 friend requests this afternoon and more than twice that many messages. Why because the men who sent them either didn't read our profile or thought that our rules didn't apply to them. Well they did and all that happened is they ended up in the bin. Which is a shame for them as my little lady is totally awsome...lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thanks for the feedback.

When i message someone i make sure i have read there profile and i'm what they are looking for considered what i want to put that is not to short and generic not to long and waffly but given most sent messages never even get read let alone replied to i am seriously wondering what is the point."

You will never know if your are what someone is looking for because you don't look through there eyes. It sounds to me like you just need to be you, keep on plugging away. As i said single women are few and far between and maybe your looking in the wrong place. If you really want the facts message me and i will tell you the bare facts..

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I have been on here a while now and have had no success at all is it worth being on here as a single guy? "

All the single men I've met think so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been on here a while now and have had no success at all is it worth being on here as a single guy? "

Feel the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not in an offensive way maybe more photos and trim the pubic region a bit

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"not in an offensive way maybe more photos and trim the pubic region a bit

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I sent her a face pic she said 'butt ugly' difficult to see how that is not offensive!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be yourself. Develop friendships and take it from there. Treat everyone with respect unless they are a knob lol. Be genuine and have a good time.

I have been on here for two years and i havent met anyone yet. However, im looking for quality so i dont meet at the drop of a hat. Theres quite a few i have been speaking to throughout the time i have been here. Fingers crossed i meet them soon.

Apart from that, good luck. All the best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not going to come to you at the drop of an email. The winners on here are those that make the effort to go out there to the socials and get known.

Good pics and some smart messaging will get you somewhere.

Agree with the razor comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"not in an offensive way maybe more photos and trim the pubic region a bit

I sent her a face pic she said 'butt ugly' difficult to see how that is not offensive!"

I meant I was not trying no to be offensive with my suggestion

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"not in an offensive way maybe more photos and trim the pubic region a bit

I sent her a face pic she said 'butt ugly' difficult to see how that is not offensive!

I meant I was not trying no to be offensive with my suggestion "

Oh i see none taken btw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not going to come to you at the drop of an email. The winners on here are those that make the effort to go out there to the socials and get known.

Good pics and some smart messaging will get you somewhere.

Agree with the razor comment "

I see by your photos you're a fan of trimmed!

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Ive removed posts. Private messages are private for a reason - please don't discuss them in the forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging is a scene not just a website so my advice would be to get along to socials and clubs as well as on here to get yourself known. I know loads of single guys on here who aren't short of meets. good luck.

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By *aveandkate35Couple
over a year ago

telford


"not in an offensive way maybe more photos and trim the pubic region a bit

I sent her a face pic she said 'butt ugly' difficult to see how that is not offensive!"

Don't worry you'll be swamped with replies now.

Women and couples find nothing more of a turn on than people who moan on forums about not getting meets.

There are 100's if not 1000's of forum posts like yours. And just about every possible suggestion to improve your chances.

The fact people feel the need to start their own thread about it shows that their ability to help themselves is lacking. A simple forum search would have given you all the info you need, and know one would ever know the difference.

The thing is, it gets you wondering, how much of a woman's body are they going to have worked out if they can't even think to maybe search first? Doesn't fill you with confidence they are going to be me dynamic in the bedroom!

You may be better off at sympathy-shagging.com

Sorry if that sounds harsh but, everything you write on an open forum will be there for people to make a descission about the type of person you are.

What exactly have you wrote in this thread that makes people want to meet you?

We LOVE meeting single guys, in our opinion there arn't enough!

The guys that "get it" have no trouble getting meets, yes some of them are chiseled, handsome young men, others are men you wouldn't look twice at on the street. And I've never seen any of them moaning on here...

I realise it can be frustrating, but maybe ill be honest and answer your question... No, there isn't any point if your just going to moan. People come on here for fun. If you prefer to moan than have fun - you'll continue to be as successful. (Yes I do understand the irony of that last statement!

Cheers

D

Sorry, every 50th "I'm a single guy having no luck" post I'm compelled to comment on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well said that person above

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you make a lot of valid points but the suggestion that someone doesn't know their way around a woman's body because they dont know how search a forum is a bit harsh.

I agree there is a lot of duplication on forums but I think that is a reflection on people not being used to them!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *uxtapositionMan
over a year ago

CARDIFF

The same questions are BOUND to be asked ad infinitum, ad nauseam as people come, and people go, ( go more often than "come" I think sometimes )

It is my opinion that a single straight man on fab who is trying to meet single girls in the main is almost trying to do little more than "pull" in the conventional sense of the word and as such would have far more chance of "pulling" face to face, in the real world off the internet !

But there again that's just what my observations have told me so I may be wrong !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Duly noted thanks for the costructive feedback

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The same questions are BOUND to be asked ad infinitum, ad nauseam as people come, and people go, ( go more often than "come" I think sometimes )

It is my opinion that a single straight man on fab who is trying to meet single girls in the main is almost trying to do little more than "pull" in the conventional sense of the word and as such would have far more chance of "pulling" face to face, in the real world off the internet !

But there again that's just what my observations have told me so I may be wrong !"

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"not in an offensive way maybe more photos and trim the pubic region a bit

I sent her a face pic she said 'butt ugly' difficult to see how that is not offensive!"

Says more about her than you: no need to be rude!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The same questions are BOUND to be asked ad infinitum, ad nauseam as people come, and people go, ( go more often than "come" I think sometimes )

It is my opinion that a single straight man on fab who is trying to meet single girls in the main is almost trying to do little more than "pull" in the conventional sense of the word and as such would have far more chance of "pulling" face to face, in the real world off the internet !

But there again that's just what my observations have told me so I may be wrong !"

I was looking for couples too as always fancied trying it and thought this a good place to start!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

with all due respect you have all these people here trying to help you out and then you put up a negative status.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And hidden the profile!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

haha

you can take a horse to water

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Decided early couples (D&K) post was right so taking a break from here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been on here a while now and have had no success at all is it worth being on here as a single guy? "

Oh boo hoo, there there single guy let me kiss it better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep at it mate .. I have been on here for 8 weeks and have had a couple of great meets . So just keep trying and you will get one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"not in an offensive way maybe more photos and trim the pubic region a bit

I sent her a face pic she said 'butt ugly' difficult to see how that is not offensive!

Don't worry you'll be swamped with replies now.

Women and couples find nothing more of a turn on than people who moan on forums about not getting meets.

There are 100's if not 1000's of forum posts like yours. And just about every possible suggestion to improve your chances.

The fact people feel the need to start their own thread about it shows that their ability to help themselves is lacking. A simple forum search would have given you all the info you need, and know one would ever know the difference.

The thing is, it gets you wondering, how much of a woman's body are they going to have worked out if they can't even think to maybe search first? Doesn't fill you with confidence they are going to be me dynamic in the bedroom!

You may be better off at sympathy-shagging.com

Sorry if that sounds harsh but, everything you write on an open forum will be there for people to make a descission about the type of person you are.

What exactly have you wrote in this thread that makes people want to meet you?

We LOVE meeting single guys, in our opinion there arn't enough!

The guys that "get it" have no trouble getting meets, yes some of them are chiseled, handsome young men, others are men you wouldn't look twice at on the street. And I've never seen any of them moaning on here...

I realise it can be frustrating, but maybe ill be honest and answer your question... No, there isn't any point if your just going to moan. People come on here for fun. If you prefer to moan than have fun - you'll continue to be as successful. (Yes I do understand the irony of that last statement!

Cheers

D

Sorry, every 50th "I'm a single guy having no luck" post I'm compelled to comment on.

I am sure he feels a lot better now lol

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Profile hidden now. No point giving advice now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Profile hidden now. No point giving advice now"
You can me some so you dont feel has though you have wasted your time

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Profile hidden now. No point giving advice now"

I'm quite pleased I only typed one word. I think he maybe changing it and will re show it when he's finished.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

try 3 months without a 1 v1 only done socials

so your choice to stay or go

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By *ombshellWoman
over a year ago

islington

i only meet single guys! however not single guys who have their profiles hid!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, it is worth it, if it's what you want.

I'm happily single, and have made some good friends, and had some amazingly fun, and horny times.

Don't expect swinging to be a free shag fest.

Do be realistic.

Girls/couples get 100's, if not 1,000's of messages. Many will be from wanker wannabes. Try and make sure you stand out as not being one of them.

Be honest, and patient. It makes me laugh at all the status updates, about 'rude slags not replying'. Bitter Billies gets nowhere here.

No reply means move on.

Eventually people will hear your genuine, handsome, and hung like the winner of the Epsom Derby...and you'll be fighting off those lovely ladies with your big stick.

Swinging's a distance race, not a 10 yard dash, with your egg and spoon.

Happy swinging, and good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The first thing I do when we get a nice message is look at the profile. If I saw a status update saying -rude slags not replying-I'd block the profile and delete the message. There's no way we're going to meet people with an attitude like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well if all single men thought like that, then there would be no point in me being here either lol Some of us actually want to meet single men, believe it or not! Stick with it and good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nope..

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

We meet single guys - but then effectively being one myself too - I know the difference between a good well written profile and message, created by someone who has the right motives and has a sensible expectancy level of what the site can do for them - and a one line profile /message written by someone perceiving Fab as 'instashag'.

Hence when our meet posts go up it's usually pretty simple to spot the difference and for us to quickly evaluate all those getting in touch.

Having been on here for years with a single male profile - in answer to your original question - yes, of course there's a point being on here.

So long as that point isn't just to get laid as often as you can with anything that moves.

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford

Can I just suggest helpful hints? Read profiles, don't copy paste, be original, you need to say more than just "hello, want to meet", and most important I'm my opinion is not to seem desperate... It's so off putting when men just come across as mindless fuckers. Just my opinion but hope it helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met single males... infact .. I've met nothing but single males from this site. However I don't meet many. I agree with what has already been said. I tend to go off first messages. If you don't stand out ( and I don't mean looks) then your lost in the many messages single fems receive. My advice would be to go into the chatrooms. Your more likely to stand out if you can get into a bit of banter. Not specifically with a single fem... just in general. If your respectful and easy going and up for a laugh then when you inbox people there more likely to think .. "oh ... its such and such from the chatroom" Also you can go on cam. Not to be naughty but people do tend to chat more with some one who they can put a face too. Also you'll find it easier to get verified,which always helps.I realise some people cant put pictures on for various reasons but there are ways round being recognised. See mine Unfortunately ... its just a game of chance. you have to make the most of all chances and what you have to offer. Just because its a swingers site it doesn't mean we're all "gagging for it" patience,humour,non pushy and above all else funny would put you in high stead with me Good luck !! Hope this helps !! xxx

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By *atelotmanMan
over a year ago

Chatham

Im a more mature single guy and may I say Ive been lucky to have met a few single ladies and still do on as regular thing.It took a while but everything comes to them who wait

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey man, don't be desperate if they don't like your picture, you can't do much about that. but if they won't respond to a simple hi fuck them. Why should you advertise yourself on the first message I usually don't unless the message comes to me otherwise its just hi start.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been on here a while now and have had no success at all is it worth being on here as a single guy? "

Why don't you try visiting a club, meeting people that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" if they won't respond to a simple hi fuck them. Why should you advertise yourself on the first message. "

I despair!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been on here a while now and have had no success at all is it worth being on here as a single guy? "

Of course there is. Otherwise there wouldn't be any profiles looking for single guys.

Speaking personally Im having a ball on here and think personally that if you put the effort in then a single guy is the best camp to be in on here, far less hassle.

And tbh I've had more meets with single ladies than couples, merely because a higher percentage of them are looking for single guys.

And I hardly send out any messages either, unless a lady really catches my eye, in which case I try to make it enchanting and tailored to her needs... just make the effort with my profile and enjoy taking part in forum discussions. Often a huntress or a lady who wishes me to hunt her will make the first contact....

Good luck!

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By *peedypeteMan
over a year ago

derby

I have been on various sites for years and hardly ever met single fems. They usually want young lads or other women, so the fun is to be had by meeting couples.Its beetr socially and hopefully fun follws and often logn teerm friendships.

If you meet a single fem you are lucky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey man, don't be desperate if they don't like your picture, you can't do much about that. but if they won't respond to a simple hi fuck them. Why should you advertise yourself on the first message I usually don't unless the message comes to me otherwise its just hi start. "

How is that working out for you? I noticed you don't have a green tick...

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By *kin BohnerMan
over a year ago

derby

I find it makes little difference what you say in an opening message, there is a slim chance of it being read in the first place let alone getting a response. I have a detailed profile and I only send polite introductions, mostly I get no response at all sometimes I get a reply of a couple of words such as "how big are you" sometimes I get a second message and then nothing and just once or twice a year (yes a year) I get a polite reply that leads to more. Its a numbers game for us single guys so my advice is to keep plugging away and eventually your name will be drawn from the long list of hopefuls in the ladies or couples in box. And no I don't fire off hundreds of messages... maybe if I was less fussy I get a better successes rate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey man, don't be desperate if they don't like your picture, you can't do much about that. but if they won't respond to a simple hi fuck them. Why should you advertise yourself on the first message I usually don't unless the message comes to me otherwise its just hi start.

How is that working out for you? I noticed you don't have a green tick... "

only been here two weeks. he will be gone soon!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it makes little difference what you say in an opening message, there is a slim chance of it being read in the first place let alone getting a response. I have a detailed profile and I only send polite introductions, mostly I get no response at all sometimes I get a reply of a couple of words such as "how big are you" sometimes I get a second message and then nothing and just once or twice a year (yes a year) I get a polite reply that leads to more. Its a numbers game for us single guys so my advice is to keep plugging away and eventually your name will be drawn from the long list of hopefuls in the ladies or couples in box. And no I don't fire off hundreds of messages... maybe if I was less fussy I get a better successes rate. "

Clearly its up to you but perhaps if you showed more skin you might fair better. After all this is a swinging site and I guess people want to see the goods!

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I am looking for single men, but I will admit if the profile is bland, then they dont really inspire me, but I do keep looking, it's not that easy for us women either

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By *kin BohnerMan
over a year ago

derby


"I find it makes little difference what you say in an opening message, there is a slim chance of it being read in the first place let alone getting a response. I have a detailed profile and I only send polite introductions, mostly I get no response at all sometimes I get a reply of a couple of words such as "how big are you" sometimes I get a second message and then nothing and just once or twice a year (yes a year) I get a polite reply that leads to more. Its a numbers game for us single guys so my advice is to keep plugging away and eventually your name will be drawn from the long list of hopefuls in the ladies or couples in box. And no I don't fire off hundreds of messages... maybe if I was less fussy I get a better successes rate.

Clearly its up to you but perhaps if you showed more skin you might fair better. After all this is a swinging site and I guess people want to see the goods!"

And yet I see so many negative remarks about all the 'cock' shots... I have nothing to hide and can send other photos if asked though I do not have many and the ones I do have are poor quality...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it makes little difference what you say in an opening message, there is a slim chance of it being read in the first place let alone getting a response. I have a detailed profile and I only send polite introductions, mostly I get no response at all sometimes I get a reply of a couple of words such as "how big are you" sometimes I get a second message and then nothing and just once or twice a year (yes a year) I get a polite reply that leads to more. Its a numbers game for us single guys so my advice is to keep plugging away and eventually your name will be drawn from the long list of hopefuls in the ladies or couples in box. And no I don't fire off hundreds of messages... maybe if I was less fussy I get a better successes rate.

Clearly its up to you but perhaps if you showed more skin you might fair better. After all this is a swinging site and I guess people want to see the goods!

And yet I see so many negative remarks about all the 'cock' shots... I have nothing to hide and can send other photos if asked though I do not have many and the ones I do have are poor quality... "

People dont just want cock shots. Body shots as well. With respect they are just talking to a head at the moment. My own opinion is that sites like these often unreliable when it comes to the written description of an individual and therefore it is necessary to back it up with photographic proof.

As regards poor quality photos take some? get a camera phone etc. Id ont wish to be rude but that just doesnt wash anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Going to put the dreaded 'single male curse' on myself now .....

I've been lucky so far (and there you go, curse placed), in that I've managed to meet quite a few ladies, and being of the dreaded 'no Asian' preference, somehow have managed to chat pleasantly to ladies and assure them that I am 'really of this planet'. Ventured once into the couples scene but I'm greedy lol I want to devour a lady all by myself

I would just say, you first message is important, it's gotta make the reader read it to the end, and then be intrigued to reply.

Right, now I've said that, I might as well become a monk now, because the curse has been placed lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey man, don't be desperate if they don't like your picture, you can't do much about that. but if they won't respond to a simple hi fuck them. Why should you advertise yourself on the first message I usually don't unless the message comes to me otherwise its just hi start.

How is that working out for you? I noticed you don't have a green tick... "

I have met someone on here and more to meet hopefully, then maybe I will get it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been on here a while now and have had no success at all is it worth being on here as a single guy? "

You could always stick a skirt on and try being a cross dresser instead for a while and see if things pick up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope I have enough toys so why would the men bother?

It's not like us single women or couples looking for single men are real or whatever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly I'm having the same issue... 11 months and not one meet... And been called a fake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it makes little difference what you say in an opening message, there is a slim chance of it being read in the first place let alone getting a response. I have a detailed profile and I only send polite introductions, mostly I get no response at all sometimes I get a reply of a couple of words such as "how big are you" sometimes I get a second message and then nothing and just once or twice a year (yes a year) I get a polite reply that leads to more. Its a numbers game for us single guys so my advice is to keep plugging away and eventually your name will be drawn from the long list of hopefuls in the ladies or couples in box. And no I don't fire off hundreds of messages... maybe if I was less fussy I get a better successes rate. "

I disagree with the whole 'numbers game' theory here.

Yes a good profile helps. Yes a good opening messages helps too! So does getting known in the forums or chat, attending clubs and socials, and interacting with others in a positive, expectancy free, respectful way.

The one thing many seem to forget - is that at the end of the day all the above won't help a jot if there's not that key ingredient - attraction!!

We all have our tastes and preferences - but the best profile, photos and behaviour on site won't sway someone who just isn't in the slightest attracted to you.

Bear that in mind and it may explain why with all the best intentions in the world, messages aren't responded to and interest isn't reciprocated!

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By *oulou45Woman
over a year ago

Bucks


"I find it makes little difference what you say in an opening message, there is a slim chance of it being read in the first place let alone getting a response. I have a detailed profile and I only send polite introductions, mostly I get no response at all sometimes I get a reply of a couple of words such as "how big are you" sometimes I get a second message and then nothing and just once or twice a year (yes a year) I get a polite reply that leads to more. Its a numbers game for us single guys so my advice is to keep plugging away and eventually your name will be drawn from the long list of hopefuls in the ladies or couples in box. And no I don't fire off hundreds of messages... maybe if I was less fussy I get a better successes rate.

I disagree with the whole 'numbers game' theory here.

Yes a good profile helps. Yes a good opening messages helps too! So does getting known in the forums or chat, attending clubs and socials, and interacting with others in a positive, expectancy free, respectful way.

The one thing many seem to forget - is that at the end of the day all the above won't help a jot if there's not that key ingredient - attraction!!

We all have our tastes and preferences - but the best profile, photos and behaviour on site won't sway someone who just isn't in the slightest attracted to you.

Bear that in mind and it may explain why with all the best intentions in the world, messages aren't responded to and interest isn't reciprocated! "

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By *otwifeguyMan
over a year ago

Exeter


"I find it makes little difference what you say in an opening message, there is a slim chance of it being read in the first place let alone getting a response. I have a detailed profile and I only send polite introductions, mostly I get no response at all sometimes I get a reply of a couple of words such as "how big are you" sometimes I get a second message and then nothing and just once or twice a year (yes a year) I get a polite reply that leads to more. Its a numbers game for us single guys so my advice is to keep plugging away and eventually your name will be drawn from the long list of hopefuls in the ladies or couples in box. And no I don't fire off hundreds of messages... maybe if I was less fussy I get a better successes rate.

I disagree with the whole 'numbers game' theory here.

Yes a good profile helps. Yes a good opening messages helps too! So does getting known in the forums or chat, attending clubs and socials, and interacting with others in a positive, expectancy free, respectful way.

The one thing many seem to forget - is that at the end of the day all the above won't help a jot if there's not that key ingredient - attraction!!

We all have our tastes and preferences - but the best profile, photos and behaviour on site won't sway someone who just isn't in the slightest attracted to you.

Bear that in mind and it may explain why with all the best intentions in the world, messages aren't responded to and interest isn't reciprocated! "

unfortunately he is right here it's very basic human nature , laws of the jungle apply on here . If your very good looking you will have no problem on here at all . If your average you will need to work incredibly hard to make it work for you . You have to accept that I'm afraid . There are other sites with fewer guys on tho ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met some very good looking guys (calvin klein model type) who have bored the arse off me or there's just been no chemistry and also met some guys that have been nothing to write home about looks wise but I've had a great time as they were really nice, funny and sexy. Attraction is attraction regardless of looks imo., Ms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it makes little difference what you say in an opening message, there is a slim chance of it being read in the first place let alone getting a response. I have a detailed profile and I only send polite introductions, mostly I get no response at all sometimes I get a reply of a couple of words such as "how big are you" sometimes I get a second message and then nothing and just once or twice a year (yes a year) I get a polite reply that leads to more. Its a numbers game for us single guys so my advice is to keep plugging away and eventually your name will be drawn from the long list of hopefuls in the ladies or couples in box. And no I don't fire off hundreds of messages... maybe if I was less fussy I get a better successes rate.

Clearly its up to you but perhaps if you showed more skin you might fair better. After all this is a swinging site and I guess people want to see the goods!

And yet I see so many negative remarks about all the 'cock' shots... I have nothing to hide and can send other photos if asked though I do not have many and the ones I do have are poor quality...

People dont just want cock shots. Body shots as well. With respect they are just talking to a head at the moment. My own opinion is that sites like these often unreliable when it comes to the written description of an individual and therefore it is necessary to back it up with photographic proof.

As regards poor quality photos take some? get a camera phone etc. Id ont wish to be rude but that just doesnt wash anymore"

Yes, the camera never lies, does it?

Well not unless you smear Vaseline on the camera lens, or send your 25 year old happy holiday snaps.

Nah.

No one would be so stupid, if they actually wanted to meet someone...who wasn't with a guide dog.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life is sweet.

Life's (sometimes) a bitch.

Life's what you make of it.

The swinging lifestyle is exactly the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"not in an offensive way maybe more photos and trim the pubic region a bit

I sent her a face pic she said 'butt ugly' difficult to see how that is not offensive!

Don't worry you'll be swamped with replies now.

Women and couples find nothing more of a turn on than people who moan on forums about not getting meets.

There are 100's if not 1000's of forum posts like yours. And just about every possible suggestion to improve your chances.

The fact people feel the need to start their own thread about it shows that their ability to help themselves is lacking. A simple forum search would have given you all the info you need, and know one would ever know the difference.

The thing is, it gets you wondering, how much of a woman's body are they going to have worked out if they can't even think to maybe search first? Doesn't fill you with confidence they are going to be me dynamic in the bedroom!

You may be better off at sympathy-shagging.com

Sorry if that sounds harsh but, everything you write on an open forum will be there for people to make a descission about the type of person you are.

What exactly have you wrote in this thread that makes people want to meet you?

We LOVE meeting single guys, in our opinion there arn't enough!

The guys that "get it" have no trouble getting meets, yes some of them are chiseled, handsome young men, others are men you wouldn't look twice at on the street. And I've never seen any of them moaning on here...

I realise it can be frustrating, but maybe ill be honest and answer your question... No, there isn't any point if your just going to moan. People come on here for fun. If you prefer to moan than have fun - you'll continue to be as successful. (Yes I do understand the irony of that last statement!

Cheers

D

Sorry, every 50th "I'm a single guy having no luck" post I'm compelled to comment on.

Next time try not to mince your words pmsl cruel but awesome great rant !!

"

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By *otwifeguyMan
over a year ago

Exeter


"I've met some very good looking guys (calvin klein model type) who have bored the arse off me or there's just been no chemistry and also met some guys that have been nothing to write home about looks wise but I've had a great time as they were really nice, funny and sexy. Attraction is attraction regardless of looks imo., Ms"

yes I agree , but just making the point most people don't meet face to face on here , so judgement is mostly physical based on profile pictures .

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By *ere4uMan
over a year ago

London

Well I employ the method of allways having a brief meet if both parties are appealed to each other then only decide to go ahead. Keep up your principles and you don't have to just jump and go for any offers. Always make sure there is an attraction between you and her or them. And do not fear to say thanks but no thanks. I have refused to play with a few as there was no real connection. At the end of the day you have to enjoy what you do. Well that's how u roll... hope it helps. good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been on here a while now and have had no success at all is it worth being on here as a single guy? "
time .patience . thought young jedi.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer single guys and try to stick with only meeting them, sadly not everyone is honest on here. (and not just about being single, I have come across lies about job, age, area, etc..)

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

There has been constructive advice and it looks like the OP has been taking notes.

- body shots more than cock shots; bums, backs, shoulders and torsos are far more tittilating.

- consider clubs and socials. You can make great contacts/friends, get veris and learn more about the swinging life and have a fun night.

- now you've found the forums join in and have natter. Talk crap or go for the serious stuff, we don't care, just join us - warning the forums are addictive!

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By *kin BohnerMan
over a year ago

derby


"I find it makes little difference what you say in an opening message, there is a slim chance of it being read in the first place let alone getting a response. I have a detailed profile and I only send polite introductions, mostly I get no response at all sometimes I get a reply of a couple of words such as "how big are you" sometimes I get a second message and then nothing and just once or twice a year (yes a year) I get a polite reply that leads to more. Its a numbers game for us single guys so my advice is to keep plugging away and eventually your name will be drawn from the long list of hopefuls in the ladies or couples in box. And no I don't fire off hundreds of messages... maybe if I was less fussy I get a better successes rate.

Clearly its up to you but perhaps if you showed more skin you might fair better. After all this is a swinging site and I guess people want to see the goods!

And yet I see so many negative remarks about all the 'cock' shots... I have nothing to hide and can send other photos if asked though I do not have many and the ones I do have are poor quality...

People dont just want cock shots. Body shots as well. With respect they are just talking to a head at the moment. My own opinion is that sites like these often unreliable when it comes to the written description of an individual and therefore it is necessary to back it up with photographic proof.

As regards poor quality photos take some? get a camera phone etc. Id ont wish to be rude but that just doesnt wash anymore"

Erm if anyone was to to take the trouble to actually talk to me they would soon discover I am more than a head! As for new photos I have a camera on my phone and a perfectly good camera but the point is (for me anyway) self portraits taken in a mirror just look daft.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it makes little difference what you say in an opening message, there is a slim chance of it being read in the first place let alone getting a response. I have a detailed profile and I only send polite introductions, mostly I get no response at all sometimes I get a reply of a couple of words such as "how big are you" sometimes I get a second message and then nothing and just once or twice a year (yes a year) I get a polite reply that leads to more. Its a numbers game for us single guys so my advice is to keep plugging away and eventually your name will be drawn from the long list of hopefuls in the ladies or couples in box. And no I don't fire off hundreds of messages... maybe if I was less fussy I get a better successes rate.

Clearly its up to you but perhaps if you showed more skin you might fair better. After all this is a swinging site and I guess people want to see the goods!

And yet I see so many negative remarks about all the 'cock' shots... I have nothing to hide and can send other photos if asked though I do not have many and the ones I do have are poor quality...

People dont just want cock shots. Body shots as well. With respect they are just talking to a head at the moment. My own opinion is that sites like these often unreliable when it comes to the written description of an individual and therefore it is necessary to back it up with photographic proof.

As regards poor quality photos take some? get a camera phone etc. Id ont wish to be rude but that just doesnt wash anymore

Erm if anyone was to to take the trouble to actually talk to me they would soon discover I am more than a head! As for new photos I have a camera on my phone and a perfectly good camera but the point is (for me anyway) self portraits taken in a mirror just look daft. "

Yours looks fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i been on here 9 weeks and ive only just managed 1 meet haha, it takes time mate.. ive messaged well over 200 girls and 190 of the messages never even got read, they got deleted straight away... copy n paste the messages i say change a little detail after reading there profile ;P

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

This is just my experience, but I find most men are after instashag.com and that is just not me, I like to get to know someone first, however, yes attraction is very important to me, so yes I have struggled on here for a while now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Erm if anyone was to to take the trouble to actually talk to me they would soon discover I am more than a head! As for new photos I have a camera on my phone and a perfectly good camera but the point is (for me anyway) self portraits taken in a mirror just look daft."

If you're not willing to help yourself or at least take photos why ask others? Sensible suggestions get put forward and they juest get dismissed

Look at it another way - Would you enquire about a car where you could see only the front of it when there were thousands of other cars and you could see all parts of them?

Perhaps not the best example but you should see my point.

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By *ICEFITMan
over a year ago

dundee

Of course, just be patient, and maybe maybe!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i been on here 9 weeks and ive only just managed 1 meet haha, it takes time mate.. ive messaged well over 200 girls and 190 of the messages never even got read, they got deleted straight away... copy n paste the messages i say change a little detail after reading there profile ;P "

how do you know they were deleted without being read?

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By *ssexguy69Man
over a year ago

thurrock Essex

im single and iv done ok on here ,was hard at first to get a meet but expected that , bare with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i been on here 9 weeks and ive only just managed 1 meet haha, it takes time mate.. ive messaged well over 200 girls and 190 of the messages never even got read, they got deleted straight away... copy n paste the messages i say change a little detail after reading there profile ;P

how do you know they were deleted without being read?"
it tells you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to be of the opinion that single guys have to be under 35, male models with bodies that only attending the gym can get (and there are a lot of ladies and couples that prefer black guys). Now everybody is entitled to their choices but many are just not realistic And they themselves are far from body beautiful but want perfection. Don't get it really but hey that's life!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I tend to be of the opinion that single guys have to be under 35, male models with bodies that only attending the gym can get (and there are a lot of ladies and couples that prefer black guys). Now everybody is entitled to their choices but many are just not realistic And they themselves are far from body beautiful but want perfection. Don't get it really but hey that's life!!! "

And that's the whole point, this isn't real life for a lot of people. It's an escape from it. That's why women / couples can be very fussy and specific as to what they're looking for because they can be, there are plenty to chose from. I'm far from body beautiful but the men I have met on here and had fun with are fit and gorgeous and younger than me. Some might say it's unrealistic of me to want to meet fit younger men but that's my choice. At the end of the day single men do have a hard time on here because there are so many but that's life!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find the whining on here unbelieveable from single guys.

Get a grip.

It's law of the jungle out there, just like in a bar or a nightclub, women will be attracted to the most attractive, most witty, cheekiest or whatever it is that floats their boat. If you struggle to pull in'real' life why on earth would you think it any different on here? Just cause you filled ina form on a free website doesn't entitle you to have your shirt up and down your back like a roller blind!

Strongest survive, weak go home alone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I tend to be of the opinion that single guys have to be under 35, male models with bodies that only attending the gym can get (and there are a lot of ladies and couples that prefer black guys). Now everybody is entitled to their choices but many are just not realistic And they themselves are far from body beautiful but want perfection. Don't get it really but hey that's life!!! "

Under 35 male model? Yuk! Turn off for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i been on here 9 weeks and ive only just managed 1 meet haha, it takes time mate.. ive messaged well over 200 girls and 190 of the messages never even got read, they got deleted straight away... copy n paste the messages i say change a little detail after reading there profile ;P

how do you know they were deleted without being read?it tells you"

The recipient could have looked at the senders profile in stealth mode before deciding to delete the message or she could have looked at the senders profile name or first line of the message and decided she didn't want to go any further.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have 3 options 1. Get a life, 2, start taking PROZAC, 3, Delete your profile.

It would also be a good thing to put some pictures on your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stick with it mate .I have only been on here 9 weeks and had a couple of meets and trust me im no Brad Pitt . Just keep messaging and you will get one that likes your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find the whining on here unbelieveable from single guys.

Get a grip.

It's law of the jungle out there, just like in a bar or a nightclub, women will be attracted to the most attractive, most witty, cheekiest or whatever it is that floats their boat. If you struggle to pull in'real' life why on earth would you think it any different on here? Just cause you filled ina form on a free website doesn't entitle you to have your shirt up and down your back like a roller blind!

Strongest survive, weak go home alone!"

Bang on. Just because people are casual about sex does not mean they lower their standards. Yes most of us on here probably have a high sex drive but that doesn't mean we fuck anybody

It is coming across a bit whiny. End of the day its not a public service!

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By *aveandkate35Couple
over a year ago

telford


"I tend to be of the opinion that single guys have to be under 35, male models with bodies that only attending the gym can get (and there are a lot of ladies and couples that prefer black guys). Now everybody is entitled to their choices but many are just not realistic And they themselves are far from body beautiful but want perfection. Don't get it really but hey that's life!!! "

While I'm sure this happens, I think you'll find that's not always the case by a long shot.

The irony with your post is that there is another thread running with a good looking, six packed, relaxed black gent with large cock who can't even get verified!!!

There is someone for everyone, and it's like the stock market on here - there are so many, MANY things that influence how popular the "stock" is, that while you may think you know what's a good bet, for some reason it just never comes good, other times it'll be the opposite.

Be true to yourself and then even if you get 1 meet every 10 years it'll at least be a good un!

D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"End of the day its not a public service!"

Now that would be something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"End of the day its not a public service!

Now that would be something."

Could you imagine it - not the NHS is in shambles the SSS - state sex service

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a numbers game...men do far outweigh women.

you have to pitch your profile like you would a job cv...you get one shot to grab attention.

keep it brief snappy

Pictures make it easier to for women and couples to window shop without having to make contact to see your pix.

i am by no means an expert on women...on observed human behaviour yes.

Women get swamped by men messaging and winking. So when they see your profile avatar you need to show your face clearly in close up.

not a tiny pic of your torso or covered by hat and glasses.

women won't make the 1st move

Women are naturally more vulnerable and need to feel safe with a man.

Penetrative sex is very intimate and requires trust to relax and know that it will stop on request.

you might have more success with couples...ie a man looking after his woman while he shares her with another man.

in nature it is not natural for males to share females nor females to court the male.

So clear pix, if your hiding yourself...why...married...not genuine...serious ??

causes suspicion...informative mature profile...not blunt and crude.

and don't wait to be found...go hunting...

take no for an answer with good grace and politely...

maybe make notes of how you far you get..ie no reply...not interested...chatting but nothing...interested...swapped numbers...etc

so you don't pester the same people. And keep track of those who are interested.

i get plenty of success...albeit with straight men who are curious...and like women want respect and discretion...

Think of yourself as a fox in a chicken coop...

good luck

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By *ark NoirMan
over a year ago

London

Keep plugging away, you get out what you put in and anyway some people on here are snobs but don't let that deter you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could try a different site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and no it depends what you are looking for I've met single women and the female half of couples but I've not met with a couple yet and not with our trying I might add so like I sead it depends on what you are looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I tend to be of the opinion that single guys have to be under 35, male models with bodies that only attending the gym can get (and there are a lot of ladies and couples that prefer black guys). Now everybody is entitled to their choices but many are just not realistic And they themselves are far from body beautiful but want perfection. Don't get it really but hey that's life!!!  "

Sorry mate, but I fear that is bobbins. Since I turned 35 the interest level I get hasn't altered one bit. I enjoy chatting, flirting, teasing, playing with and yes, sliding my penis inside ladies that I find attractive on a regular basis.

I keep myself in half decent shape, but Id be a fool to think that there weren't chaps in here with far better bodies than mine.

The only modelling I did was on a shoot for charity. Twelve years ago!

Plus I tend to find the quality of mine that appeals most to the fabulous maidens of the fairer sex is my boundless imagination, ability to actually distinguish what they want and pour sweet seductive filth into their lovely minds...

Same as anything else mate, identify the qualities in you that will appeal to ladies you want to meet, and use them. Go hard or go home. A profile where the disclaimer is longer than the rest of your text and two shots of your cock will entice very few indeed, sadly.

Work with what you have, everyone has their positives.

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last timeci made comment about single men moaning on here i had enforced forum rest so will say no more

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By *ark NoirMan
over a year ago

London

I'm having the same issue, keep going but have in mind you won't attract everyone, got to take it on the chin.............also I've been told there are a few snobs lurking so again brush it off

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