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By *arty-Dancer OP   Couple
8 weeks ago

Manchester

For Single Males

We have our profiles set to singles because, as a couple, we are interested in meeting single men as well as single women.

However, one thing that constantly frustrates us is the lack of effort we see. It’s as simple as not reading the profile, sending generic messages, or not having decent, up-to-date photos of yourself.

I can’t speak for everyone on the site, but I think the vast majority want to see personality. We want to see your character. Just saying things like “Hey, how are you?”, “She’s hot”, or “I’d love to fuck her” won’t work – nine times out of ten, you’ll just get blocked.

So, to the single guys out there: please take a little more time. Read the profile. Check if you actually match what we are looking for in this lifestyle. If you don’t even know what you want, you probably shouldn’t be on a site like this.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
8 weeks ago

East Sussex

I view these things as a good filter. If you're not mutually compatible why would you want them to change to fit your requirements when they clearly don't 🤷‍♀️

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
8 weeks ago

East Sussex

Oh and also this site is for everyone not just the people who suit you

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By *igBeardyDanMan
8 weeks ago

Bilston

I appreciate the 'advice' but you do realise this applies to everyone who uses this site, i received a message recently from a couple who just said " wife likes your cock " or maybe as a male on here i should just stay in my box until someone wants to play with me then put me back.

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By *ull of PuddinWoman
8 weeks ago

isle of munters

Maybe you should have titled the thread what your looking for when being messaged because I think it's not right to speak on behalf of the majority

Also, the advice threads say the same thing so if people can't be arsed to read the advice that's been written 1000s of times that should be your immediate block, move on and forget

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By *arty-Dancer OP   Couple
8 weeks ago

Manchester

It’s simply just some advice

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By *ellinever70Woman
8 weeks ago

Ayrshire

Do the single women who contact you need any advice?

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By *arty-Dancer OP   Couple
8 weeks ago

Manchester

I’m sure there is always advice for everyone to benefit from

Yes some people won’t like the idea of the conversation even being had.

But surely if we can all help one another to understand the lifestyle

Or how we might like to actually be addressed it would make the site a lot easier and overall more fun?

If I’m alone in thinking this is just some positive advice

Then apologise to anyone who gets offended

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
8 weeks ago

East Sussex


"I’m sure there is always advice for everyone to benefit from

Yes some people won’t like the idea of the conversation even being had.

But surely if we can all help one another to understand the lifestyle

Or how we might like to actually be addressed it would make the site a lot easier and overall more fun?

If I’m alone in thinking this is just some positive advice

Then apologise to anyone who gets offended

"

I don't think anyone is offended. Difference of opinion doesn't offend me

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By *igBeardyDanMan
8 weeks ago

Bilston

There was no offence taken just another patronising post by a couple when everyone's just as bad

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By *oiluvfunMan
8 weeks ago

Birmingham


"For Single Males

We have our profiles set to singles because, as a couple, we are interested in meeting single men as well as single women.

However, one thing that constantly frustrates us is the lack of effort we see. It’s as simple as not reading the profile, sending generic messages, or not having decent, up-to-date photos of yourself.

I can’t speak for everyone on the site, but I think the vast majority want to see personality. We want to see your character. Just saying things like “Hey, how are you?”, “She’s hot”, or “I’d love to fuck her” won’t work – nine times out of ten, you’ll just get blocked.

So, to the single guys out there: please take a little more time. Read the profile. Check if you actually match what we are looking for in this lifestyle. If you don’t even know what you want, you probably shouldn’t be on a site like this."

To be fair OP; I want the ‘great unwashed’ to continue making no effort, so that people like you block them, and eventually filter down to profiles like mine 😋

Pleased to read through your veris, and discover you actively include single guys you meet in clubs. A great shame there aren’t more like you, then I may have enjoyed, and felt welcome, in the club scene more. Please keep it up, for those guys you do meet 👍

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By *harAndBryCouple
8 weeks ago

Downham Market


"There was no offence taken just another patronising post by a couple when everyone's just as bad "

We've said it so many times, but of the messages we get from single guys, probably 50% of them are straight delete, no effort, so for words or dick pics.

Of the messages we get from couples, 90% are straight delete, worse than the guys. Pretty sure a LOT of couples think that because they're in demand, effort isn't required.

Can't comment on single women - they don't message us

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By *tandardIssueNerdMan
8 weeks ago

Telford

I do my best to read profiles, see what catches my eye and I'll mention it in my initial message. Same goes for interests/what they are looking for. Some days I will admit I'm a bit lazy and send a sub-par message.

4/10 times my message will remain unread.

3/10 times it will be read, but no reply (and sometimes blocked for extra measure)

2/10 will ask for a face pic, and then no answer (or block me again - this is my favourite one)

1/10 might reply and have an actual conversation for a little bit. But it's probably rarer than that.

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By *tandardIssueNerdMan
8 weeks ago

Telford

I definitely didn't mean this as a rant or having a go at you OP.

Advice is always appreciated, but just wanted to give a different perspective (although there are plenty of single guys perspectives given on here already)

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By *ink vixenCouple
8 weeks ago

Medway

We get irritated by the “give me advice” threads.

The complete lack of awareness or pictures or bio text on some profiles is a very good filter.

Let them shoot themselves in the foot.

Saves us all a bit of time.

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By *heEpicureanMan
8 weeks ago

Plymouth

If you don’t pull in the real world you’ll likely not on here.

Getting all sassy about being ignored, deleted etc will get you no where, especially if you then whinge in your status.

Best place for meets are clubs.

I’ve been with single fem friends who log on here and will get 100+ messages in minutes. Most not even ticking any boxes stated on their profiles.

Read profiles, be polite, remember you’re not everyone’s cup of tea and just chill out.

Get verified, go on cams, go to social events. It’s a lifestyle after all

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By *rimandproper 2021Couple
8 weeks ago

Bolton

Quite agree with what your saying shame we're out of your age range could see us getting along lol

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By *am450Man
8 weeks ago

Sidcup/Bexley


"We get irritated by the “give me advice” threads.

The complete lack of awareness or pictures or bio text on some profiles is a very good filter.

Let them shoot themselves in the foot.

Saves us all a bit of time. "

Wouldn't be much left to read in the forums though. Apart from "Anyone like watching their Mrs being XYZ..."

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By *yr 48Man
8 weeks ago

ayrshire

Some guys have trouble expressing themselves down on paper

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By *ilthyfunfellaMan
8 weeks ago

deep in a misty valley

I hear what the OP is saying, let’s flip it around though. Many’s a time I’ve done exactly what the OP is suggesting: Profile read and digested, pics viewed, verifications and likes read and noted, message compiled including a few questions of my own and always with a recent (normally taken there and then) pic.

The reply to 75% or more (where a reply is given): ‘Hi’ or ‘good thanks, you’ or ‘more pics’.

Effort is a 2 way thing. I don’t think it’s just the men, more like society in general cannot be fucked to communicate!

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By *iverstMan
8 weeks ago

Rossendale


"For Single Males

We have our profiles set to singles because, as a couple, we are interested in meeting single men as well as single women.

However, one thing that constantly frustrates us is the lack of effort we see. It’s as simple as not reading the profile, sending generic messages, or not having decent, up-to-date photos of yourself.

I can’t speak for everyone on the site, but I think the vast majority want to see personality. We want to see your character. Just saying things like “Hey, how are you?”, “She’s hot”, or “I’d love to fuck her” won’t work – nine times out of ten, you’ll just get blocked.

So, to the single guys out there: please take a little more time. Read the profile. Check if you actually match what we are looking for in this lifestyle. If you don’t even know what you want, you probably shouldn’t be on a site like this."

In case you weren't aware, your face is on show in your last public photo. I'm not sure if you meant to set it to private with the effort you have taken to hide your faces in the other photo's. I tried to message this but out of your age range.

Good luck getting better messages D&M

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By *issmorganWoman
8 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

To be fair, it's not just single men who make no effort at all here.

I'm half a couple and they are just as bad at times. I don't look for couples on this profile, as I'm straight, yet they still used to wink and send me crap low effort messages too.

Don't get me wrong, some men don't read bios and do send vulgar messages, it's just an instant delete and block if they carry on.

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By *eyeYCouple
8 weeks ago

Nr Leicester


"I view these things as a good filter. If you're not mutually compatible why would you want them to change to fit your requirements when they clearly don't 🤷‍♀️"

That!!! A systematic white wash of profiles would benefit no one.

Those effortless profile's are indeed a very good way to filter 😘

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