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By *unguy1233 OP   Man
9 weeks ago

sheerness

so i’m not sure what i’m doing wrong when im messaging people, im picking some from there profile, saying there pics are sexy and complimenting the wife or gf, but also not leaving the husband or bf out, im dint want to come across rude or pushy, or like a sex pest i cant seem to find a middle ground any advice would be appreciated

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By *arryandhedgehogCouple
9 weeks ago

Essex

Your profile says nothing about you except what you want and you have no public pics would you reply to your profile if it was someone else messaging you?

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By *unguy1233 OP   Man
9 weeks ago

sheerness

ok what kind of thing would i say on my profile

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By *rightonsteveMan
9 weeks ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"ok what kind of thing would i say on my profile "

I would make sure my spelling and grammar are top notch. Why alienate those for which such things matter? Your wants are quite niche so your target audience is going to be small. As for your profile, it’s up to you really.

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By *aandLoCouple
9 weeks ago

Southampton

Seems to be purely a list of your wants. Combined with no public photos, and a narrow dynamic, I'm not sure you'll get much traction with profile views.

Yeah, you want to be a live in bull but what are your attractive personal attributes, and what differentiates you from other guys labelling themselves bulls?

Your profile is your chance to catch people's eye.

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By *hrough the looking gla55Couple
9 weeks ago

Epsom

Are you messaging cuckhold couples who are seeking what you have applied on your profile or all couples.

Because that is an important factor here.

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By *unguy1233 OP   Man
9 weeks ago

sheerness


"Are you messaging cuckhold couples who are seeking what you have applied on your profile or all couples.

Because that is an important factor here. "

yes of course i am doing that

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By *ull of PuddinWoman
9 weeks ago

isle of munters

Your profile pic tells me your profile info isn't accurate

I personally would see the pic, see your straight and think you were lying and pass

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By *iss DevilWoman
9 weeks ago

Bedford

As the poster above said, your profile pic and your bio do not match. Rather than using a random pic off the internet (I assume), just put a photo of you. Otherwise, the couple are going to expect a buff guy, yet your bio says "ample".

The dynamics you're looking for is rather niche, especially when you add your preference for bareback. Therefore, you need to be patient.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
Forum Mod
9 weeks ago

Central

It's important to make realistic expectations, so that your wellbeing stays intact. Most people are not mutually compatible with most other people. Add in more niche interests and it probably cuts it down. Single men are prolific so it does mean hard graft.

A lot of people look for the men they want, so giving them that option, without making it difficult would ensure you're not passed by. Single men's profiles demonstrate how well or badly, they cater to other people's needs - or even if considered at all.

Get to socials and clubs so that you get known to others.

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By *uliette500Woman
9 weeks ago

Hull

The fact you have no public pics and no profile photo will be enough to put people off before they even read your message.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
9 weeks ago

Leeds

I think having no profile pic just a silhouette is a big reason why people don't reply.

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By *iss DevilWoman
9 weeks ago

Bedford


"The fact you have no public pics and no profile photo will be enough to put people off before they even read your message. "
he had a profile picture that was not showing him.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
9 weeks ago

Leeds

I didn't see it

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By *roublemaker93Man
8 weeks ago

epsom


"so i’m not sure what i’m doing wrong when im messaging people, im picking some from there profile, saying there pics are sexy and complimenting the wife or gf, but also not leaving the husband or bf out, im dint want to come across rude or pushy, or like a sex pest i cant seem to find a middle ground any advice would be appreciated "

I feel u, been happening to me aswell lol, even tho i fit the criteria they looking for, still most of the times am not getting any reply 🤷🏼‍♂️

Looks like a code i cant crack… 😒

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By *aviniaCDTV/TS
8 weeks ago

Leeds (close to G.A.P.)

Why do people use text speak on these sites???

I doubt very much that anyone is looking to hook up with a 12 year old!

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By *sm265Woman
8 weeks ago

Perthshire

Your 'looking for' states couples and women, yet your profile wording is aimed very specifically at cuckold couples.

The lack of profile pic and public pics will illiminate you for a lot of people (both these are also filter options).

The spelling and grammatical errors will put some people off.

Your preference for bareback will also put a lot of people off.

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By *issmorganWoman
8 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Agree the bareback thing and lack of any pics, mean most would delete your message op.

What can you offer meets? We can all add some sort of pic that won't give our identity away.

You need to make your profile as appealing as you can, to those you're looking to meet.

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By *exycouplesswingCouple
8 weeks ago

Tunbridge Wells

No pics, very specific cuck couple desire,.. your search field is very small,

The use of the term bull is vastly overused.

A lot of single guys don’t even understand the dynamic, they just see it as another way to get laid..

Also…. Go to some socials…. Or some clubs..,

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By *artorialMan
8 weeks ago

weymouth

Take the long view, Rome wasn't built in a day and all that. Attend Socials and clubs as regularly as you can manage, chat to people but leave sex chat out to start with. Folks invariably need to feel a connection, attraction can be instant but more often it creeps up.

This lifestyle as a single fella can be brutal but perseverance and looking how to set yourself apart from the crowd, for me it's clothes. I stand out, get noticed and it's an amazing ice breaker. It also gives off the impression of being confident even if inside your bricking it.

It's all about building contacts, one contact for me has opened up a whole new world but it took time and chance.

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By *untime40Man
8 weeks ago

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You have no public pics couples want to know who they are dealing with if you don’t want to put a face pic at least take a body shot so they have a idea also meets are few and far between on here your best option is head to clubs meet people and connect on here your in sheerness head down to shellness beach in the summer and get chatting to people down there most of them are on here I for one lol


"so i’m not sure what i’m doing wrong when im messaging people, im picking some from there profile, saying there pics are sexy and complimenting the wife or gf, but also not leaving the husband or bf out, im dint want to come across rude or pushy, or like a sex pest i cant seem to find a middle ground any advice would be appreciated "

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