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"A few things come to mind. Firstly, as part of a couple looking for a couple, I won't message a profile if there's no pics of Mr. But, I don't need to see 5 pics of a cock from different angles, lol. Unfortunately, woman have more variety to offer photographically in my opinion. Pretty lingerie, various angles emphasizing each of our body parts, shoes, stockings etc. And generally we're more enthusiastic about being photographed. And yep, men are in the majority on here and they like to see us. 💕" True but like most men I’m very happy to see lots of pics of the same pair of boobs or pussy lol | |||
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"I quite like photos of naked men It's when it's just a close up penis it's not very enticing " Yes, cock close ups ain't that appealing! Well, close up PICS of cocks anyway - real uns are sometimes okay   | |||
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"A few things come to mind. Firstly, as part of a couple looking for a couple, I won't message a profile if there's no pics of Mr. But, I don't need to see 5 pics of a cock from different angles, lol. Unfortunately, woman have more variety to offer photographically in my opinion. Pretty lingerie, various angles emphasizing each of our body parts, shoes, stockings etc. And generally we're more enthusiastic about being photographed. And yep, men are in the majority on here and they like to see us. 💕" Yep to what you say about women and photographs. We're always a bit wary if there's bloke pictures on a couple's profile cos it often feels like it's just a bloke pretending to be a couple ... | |||
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"A few things come to mind. Firstly, as part of a couple looking for a couple, I won't message a profile if there's no pics of Mr. But, I don't need to see 5 pics of a cock from different angles, lol. Unfortunately, woman have more variety to offer photographically in my opinion. Pretty lingerie, various angles emphasizing each of our body parts, shoes, stockings etc. And generally we're more enthusiastic about being photographed. And yep, men are in the majority on here and they like to see us. 💕 True but like most men I’m very happy to see lots of pics of the same pair of boobs or pussy lol " | |||
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" We're always a bit wary if there's bloke pictures on a couple's profile cos it often feels like it's just a bloke pretending to be a couple ..." I like to see some pics of both a couple together. | |||
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"We like naked pics, just not initially. I want to meet and be actually interested in someone before I start seeing anything overly graphic. I always make people aware of this when we start chatting. Graphic Lady pictures are just as off putting as mens. Mr. " Yeah, we're pretty much the same - send pics if asked. And agree graphic pucsof either sex can be off putting  | |||
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" Another aspect of this that bothers me, is how men are not allowed to post photos of anyone but themselves " You can post pics including other people as long as they are not identifiable. | |||
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"And one other point, yes men like seeing naked women, but what about something for the lady of the couple?. How is she meant to know if there would be any sort of attraction, with no pics of the man showing at all. We won't waste our time chatting to profiles that just show her. As we've been here years and experience has shown it often takes ages to get a pic of him and then there's not always attraction on my part. Some body pics would at least give an idea beforehand. " Very well said. Its not blind date, spending days talking and then finding you arent attracted to them is just a bloody waste of time. | |||
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"And one other point, yes men like seeing naked women, but what about something for the lady of the couple?. How is she meant to know if there would be any sort of attraction, with no pics of the man showing at all. We won't waste our time chatting to profiles that just show her. As we've been here years and experience has shown it often takes ages to get a pic of him and then there's not always attraction on my part. Some body pics would at least give an idea beforehand. " Hmm. Good points you raise there  | |||
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"And one other point, yes men like seeing naked women, but what about something for the lady of the couple?. How is she meant to know if there would be any sort of attraction, with no pics of the man showing at all. We won't waste our time chatting to profiles that just show her. As we've been here years and experience has shown it often takes ages to get a pic of him and then there's not always attraction on my part. Some body pics would at least give an idea beforehand. Hmm. Good points you raise there "So many couples do it and I can't honestly see why they do. If they both meet and are involved, they should want to show both of them to any potential couples. As a straight woman it's massively frustrating and makes me feel like I wouldn't be important in their scenarios, so I avoid them. If it's just the lady who plays fair enough, no pics of him are needed. | |||
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"And one other point, yes men like seeing naked women, but what about something for the lady of the couple?. How is she meant to know if there would be any sort of attraction, with no pics of the man showing at all. We won't waste our time chatting to profiles that just show her. As we've been here years and experience has shown it often takes ages to get a pic of him and then there's not always attraction on my part. Some body pics would at least give an idea beforehand. Hmm. Good points you raise there
So many couples do it and I can't honestly see why they do. If they both meet and are involved, they should want to show both of them to any potential couples.
As a straight woman it's massively frustrating and makes me feel like I wouldn't be important in their scenarios, so I avoid them.
If it's just the lady who plays fair enough, no pics of him are needed. "In our case, and perhaps for other couples it's cos we assume - perhaps with inadvertent sexism - that face pics are more important to women, and we don't put those on public view | |||
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"I’ve often wondered this. Most of ours are of babygirl. People just don’t engage with photos of men so it seems pointless to post any. " Yes, pretty much what we initially assumed - then we got thinking 🤔 Hence this post | |||
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"I’ve often wondered this. Most of ours are of babygirl. People just don’t engage with photos of men so it seems pointless to post any. " Disagree. Anyone wanting to couple swap or for the male to be involved....you need pictures. Yes women arent as responsive to them as horny men are....but we need to see your body style and face. We would ignore any profile now that doesnt show both people. | |||
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"I’ve often wondered this. Most of ours are of babygirl. People just don’t engage with photos of men so it seems pointless to post any. Disagree. Anyone wanting to couple swap or for the male to be involved....you need pictures. Yes women arent as responsive to them as horny men are....but we need to see your body style and face. We would ignore any profile now that doesnt show both people. " That is fair. I wonder if there’s an issue if men also needing to feel wanted in the same way women do (we all are human after all) which then leads to despondency and a lack of willingness to be publicly visible which in turn creates a lack of interest and the cycle endlessly repeats lol Sorry for the run on sentence there | |||
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"If a woman likes the look of a man because of pics on the profile then surely he will feel wanted when she wants to meet. " Yup this is why I referred to it as a cycle. It requires the pre use “if the man is not feeling wanted” to be true and then kick starts and endless cycle from there | |||
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"If a woman likes the look of a man because of pics on the profile then surely he will feel wanted when she wants to meet. Yup this is why I referred to it as a cycle. It requires the pre use “if the man is not feeling wanted” to be true and then kick starts and endless cycle from there "Premise* | |||
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"And one other point, yes men like seeing naked women, but what about something for the lady of the couple?. How is she meant to know if there would be any sort of attraction, with no pics of the man showing at all. We won't waste our time chatting to profiles that just show her. As we've been here years and experience has shown it often takes ages to get a pic of him and then there's not always attraction on my part. Some body pics would at least give an idea beforehand. Hmm. Good points you raise there
So many couples do it and I can't honestly see why they do. If they both meet and are involved, they should want to show both of them to any potential couples.
As a straight woman it's massively frustrating and makes me feel like I wouldn't be important in their scenarios, so I avoid them.
If it's just the lady who plays fair enough, no pics of him are needed.
In our case, and perhaps for other couples it's cos we assume - perhaps with inadvertent sexism - that face pics are more important to women, and we don't put those on public view"Faces are important too, yes. But most couples don't include any in messages and if there's nothing at all of him to see, we're gonna just delete that message. When past experience has repeatedly shown, that couples don't send pics of him, even when asked, we just choose not to engage now. There's plenty of my other half on our couple profile, as we're after partner swaps. Then people can see us both & know by looking, if we'd be for them or not. I do tend to fab pics of the man of a couple, when I see them, so they know it's appreciated. | |||
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"We want to see cock pictures. Other pictures are also appreciated but at the end of the day if we’re looking for an extra that part of the deal that s kind of important" Do you want to see cock pics in an initial message or in the person's profile? | |||
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Interesting opinions and perspectives on this - and it's persuaded us to put some pics of us both on our profile | |||
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"You make a good point, OP. Men are dammed if they and damned if they don't on here. That said, there's only so much you can do with a dick pic. Another aspect of this that bothers me, is how men are not allowed to post photos of anyone but themselves but there are countless photos on couple profiles where there are other people in them and this is allowed. " Ahh yes mate; the double standards of Fab! It’s like a hierarchy system isn’t it? #knowyourplace | |||
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"It's really simple for me. I've never met anyone without seeing a face photo and also verifying over WhatsApp/Telegram. I was burnt when I was green to this 15 years ago but never again. No face pic, no meet. I've ended countless conversations about meeting on this basis. " WhatsApp and Telegram are great for voicenotes too! Definitely sorts the men from the woman you thought you were chatting with…….😂 | |||
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"I assume that people use pictures that their empathy tells them that their desired demographic wants to see. Where they don't, it suggests that there may be a deficit in their understanding of and empathy for the desired gender. " I think I understand the first bit, but can you explain more fully the second bit please 🤔 | |||
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"You make a good point, OP. Men are dammed if they and damned if they don't on here. That said, there's only so much you can do with a dick pic. Another aspect of this that bothers me, is how men are not allowed to post photos of anyone but themselves but there are countless photos on couple profiles where there are other people in them and this is allowed. Ahh yes mate; the double standards of Fab! It’s like a hierarchy system isn’t it? #knowyourplace" Not always double standards. Just us two in our photos. We don't like, and don't need to see people in photos other than the profile owner(s.) We don't need a photo CV of their sexual prowess. If a party profile has loads of photos of party attendees we're also put off, and wouldn't attend. It's partly about potential lack of consent, and partly because they're simply not needed. Good verifications tell us what we need to know. | |||
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"I assume that people use pictures that their empathy tells them that their desired demographic wants to see. Where they don't, it suggests that there may be a deficit in their understanding of and empathy for the desired gender. I think I understand the first bit, but can you explain more fully the second bit please 🤔 " I think what Sophie is saying, is often people don't think about what the people they want to attract would want to see. Ie men/couples showing multiple action shots with others in, many couples and ladies won't be attracted to that. When couples just show the lady, yet seek other couples to play with, they are almost disregarding the woman of the couple. As she can't see anything of the male and therefore will pass that profile by. Of course people can show whatever they choose on their profiles, but I've seen so many moans on the forum, from couples with just the lady who can't attract women or couples. Or they don't like that men just address the woman, yet it doesn't look as if it's a couple account. | |||
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"You make a good point, OP. Men are dammed if they and damned if they don't on here. That said, there's only so much you can do with a dick pic. Another aspect of this that bothers me, is how men are not allowed to post photos of anyone but themselves but there are countless photos on couple profiles where there are other people in them and this is allowed. Ahh yes mate; the double standards of Fab! It’s like a hierarchy system isn’t it? #knowyourplace Not always double standards. Just us two in our photos. We don't like, and don't need to see people in photos other than the profile owner(s.) We don't need a photo CV of their sexual prowess. If a party profile has loads of photos of party attendees we're also put off, and wouldn't attend. It's partly about potential lack of consent, and partly because they're simply not needed. Good verifications tell us what we need to know." “Not always double standards”…….but usually. The irony of having a solo male profile in here is; I get more traffic to my profile when I display pics of me with lady friends. Go figure…..🤷♂️ | |||
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"We want to see cock pictures. Other pictures are also appreciated but at the end of the day if we’re looking for an extra that part of the deal that s kind of important Do you want to see cock pics in an initial message or in the person's profile?" It really doesn’t worry us to be honest. | |||
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"In our case I’m the one that takes all the photos so I’m usually behind the camera not in front of it lol. I also feel like I look a right prat in pretty much any photo where babygirl is a lot more photogenic (I do appreciate the extent to which this doesn’t help anyone know me or see me but what can I say I just don’t like photos of me lol)" Likewise on our profile | |||
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"In our case I’m the one that takes all the photos so I’m usually behind the camera not in front of it lol. I also feel like I look a right prat in pretty much any photo where babygirl is a lot more photogenic (I do appreciate the extent to which this doesn’t help anyone know me or see me but what can I say I just don’t like photos of me lol) Likewise on our profile " Just had a goosie at your profile  | |||
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