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This will be the second time we have let them down but both times it was completely out of our hands.
So do I still go, drive the 21/2 hours pay for a hotel just to socialise and sit and watch everyone else play or do we cancel but miss out on the party and let them down ?
It’s so depressing and really controls my life with what I can and can’t do.
Any advice would be welcomed.
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"I know it’s not just me (Belle) but due to my medical condition I have very irregular periods that can show up literally at anytime which in the world of swinging makes it very challenging. Really worried that a couple are going to think we are time wasters as due to go to a party at the weekend that’s been in the diary for over a month but unfortunately I’ve come on
This will be the second time we have let them down but both times it was completely out of our hands.
So do I still go, drive the 21/2 hours pay for a hotel just to socialise and sit and watch everyone else play or do we cancel but miss out on the party and let them down ?
It’s so depressing and really controls my life with what I can and can’t do.
Any advice would be welcomed.
Thank you "Sorry to hear you’ve got a condition that leaves you being unreliable. But still go and have a social time. I do soft play when I am on my period. Some boob touching and cuddles. Just be clear with them about your condition xx  | |||
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"If you feel you can, why not share that with them and see what they think? They may still be happy for you to go etc and they may be really understanding. Sorry you're having this , I really sympathise as I'm peri menopausal and I used to be regular to the day, but my cycle is all over the place. Hence me not lookomh for meets, till it's sorted. " I’m sorry to hear this, my condition is something that can never be sorted unless I go private and I just don’t have the money. Technically we could still go for just a social but if I’m changing tampons and pads every half an hour it’s going to be so awkward and what if i have a leak? Another concern is when everyone’s playing me and Neil will just be sitting there like lemons and I would feel really awkward, if it was a club setting we could just spend the night on the dance floor but at someone’s house we don’t have this option. I’m still in two minds about what to do | |||
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"If you feel you can, why not share that with them and see what they think? They may still be happy for you to go etc and they may be really understanding. Sorry you're having this , I really sympathise as I'm peri menopausal and I used to be regular to the day, but my cycle is all over the place. Hence me not lookomh for meets, till it's sorted. I’m sorry to hear this, my condition is something that can never be sorted unless I go private and I just don’t have the money. Technically we could still go for just a social but if I’m changing tampons and pads every half an hour it’s going to be so awkward and what if i have a leak? Another concern is when everyone’s playing me and Neil will just be sitting there like lemons and I would feel really awkward, if it was a club setting we could just spend the night on the dance floor but at someone’s house we don’t have this option. I’m still in two minds about what to do ". Aww I'm sorry to hear that too. What does your partner think?. It sounds like you'd be self conscious if you did go. | |||
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"If you feel you can, why not share that with them and see what they think? They may still be happy for you to go etc and they may be really understanding. Sorry you're having this , I really sympathise as I'm peri menopausal and I used to be regular to the day, but my cycle is all over the place. Hence me not lookomh for meets, till it's sorted. I’m sorry to hear this, my condition is something that can never be sorted unless I go private and I just don’t have the money. Technically we could still go for just a social but if I’m changing tampons and pads every half an hour it’s going to be so awkward and what if i have a leak? Another concern is when everyone’s playing me and Neil will just be sitting there like lemons and I would feel really awkward, if it was a club setting we could just spend the night on the dance floor but at someone’s house we don’t have this option. I’m still in two minds about what to do . Aww I'm sorry to hear that too.
What does your partner think?.
It sounds like you'd be self conscious if you did go. "Well personally he’s said that he can’t justify driving 2 1/2 hours and paying for a hotel for a party where I’m going to be self conscious and probably not have a good time. If it was down the road we could have just popped in see how we felt and then left to go home if I kept leaking or wasn’t feeling it. I guess another thing to consider is everyone is going to be walking around in sexy lingerie and I can’t wear anything like that so I’m going to feel the odd one out ? Being a woman sucks ! | |||
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"If you feel you can, why not share that with them and see what they think? They may still be happy for you to go etc and they may be really understanding. Sorry you're having this , I really sympathise as I'm peri menopausal and I used to be regular to the day, but my cycle is all over the place. Hence me not lookomh for meets, till it's sorted. I’m sorry to hear this, my condition is something that can never be sorted unless I go private and I just don’t have the money. Technically we could still go for just a social but if I’m changing tampons and pads every half an hour it’s going to be so awkward and what if i have a leak? Another concern is when everyone’s playing me and Neil will just be sitting there like lemons and I would feel really awkward, if it was a club setting we could just spend the night on the dance floor but at someone’s house we don’t have this option. I’m still in two minds about what to do . Aww I'm sorry to hear that too.
What does your partner think?.
It sounds like you'd be self conscious if you did go.
Well personally he’s said that he can’t justify driving 2 1/2 hours and paying for a hotel for a party where I’m going to be self conscious and probably not have a good time.
If it was down the road we could have just popped in see how we felt and then left to go home if I kept leaking or wasn’t feeling it.
I guess another thing to consider is everyone is going to be walking around in sexy lingerie and I can’t wear anything like that so I’m going to feel the odd one out ?
Being a woman sucks ! "I agree it totally does at times. I think it sounds like you've made the decision. If you won't feel sexy and worry about leaks etc, it may be wise to avoid. Hopefully they'll understand. It's not something you can help or would choose to happen. Hope they're OK about it, if not as others said, don't worry about it. | |||
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"I'm so sorry to hear how you're feeling and what you're going through. As has been said if you're going to feel uncomfortable don't go. Don't put yourself into a situation where you won't have fun, and are wishing you'd stayed at home in your PJs with chocolate and a movie. Life is too short. If people don't understand they are not worth your considerations. I will say though you don't have to wear skimpy lingerie to be sexy. There are some great bodysuits or catsuits which would look amazing on you. I obviously don't know you or your preferred dynamic, but do you get pleasure from giving, without receiving? Could you gently explain your boundaries for that evening and have fun within them? Lots of people happy to be a pillow princess/prince to your attentions I'm certain. Xx" Thank you for your kind words. I do have some outfits similar to what you said but they are quite tight so my pad would be obvious, make me even more paranoid lol. As for play I am open to giving with out receiving and making the woman or man ( or both ) feel good and give them pleasure, my partner is the same he would be happy to pleasure the ladies with his hands and tongue and get nothing in return. I just don’t feel I’d be any good at doing it if I have to keep stopping mid play to go and change my pad or tampon and I think it would kill the mood, would hate to be about to give someone an orgasm but have to quickly stop to rush to the bathroom! I’ve never been to theirs before and so I don’t even know the set up, like is there an en-suite or is the bathroom all the way downstairs etc. Too many worries
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"I'm so sorry to hear how you're feeling and what you're going through. As has been said if you're going to feel uncomfortable don't go. Don't put yourself into a situation where you won't have fun, and are wishing you'd stayed at home in your PJs with chocolate and a movie. Life is too short. If people don't understand they are not worth your considerations. I will say though you don't have to wear skimpy lingerie to be sexy. There are some great bodysuits or catsuits which would look amazing on you. I obviously don't know you or your preferred dynamic, but do you get pleasure from giving, without receiving? Could you gently explain your boundaries for that evening and have fun within them? Lots of people happy to be a pillow princess/prince to your attentions I'm certain. Xx Thank you for your kind words. I do have some outfits similar to what you said but they are quite tight so my pad would be obvious, make me even more paranoid lol. As for play I am open to giving with out receiving and making the woman or man ( or both ) feel good and give them pleasure, my partner is the same he would be happy to pleasure the ladies with his hands and tongue and get nothing in return. I just don’t feel I’d be any good at doing it if I have to keep stopping mid play to go and change my pad or tampon and I think it would kill the mood, would hate to be about to give someone an orgasm but have to quickly stop to rush to the bathroom! I’ve never been to theirs before and so I don’t even know the set up, like is there an en-suite or is the bathroom all the way downstairs etc. Too many worries
"PJs, chocolate and a movie it is then. 😆💕 There will be other opportunities to go out and have fun, and people will be delighted to see you then. Xx | |||
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"Well I decided not to go as still so so heavy and just wouldn’t feel comfortable but glad I haven’t gone because the hosts haven’t even bothered to reply to my message that I sent back on Thursday to make my apologies so clearly not the kind of people we would want to spend time with and we clearly dodged a bullet. The rudeness and entitlement of some people really puts us off, thanks to everyones kind words and advice. " good luck honesty always wins | |||
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"Well I decided not to go as still so so heavy and just wouldn’t feel comfortable but glad I haven’t gone because the hosts haven’t even bothered to reply to my message that I sent back on Thursday to make my apologies so clearly not the kind of people we would want to spend time with and we clearly dodged a bullet. The rudeness and entitlement of some people really puts us off, thanks to everyones kind words and advice. " You said earlier in this post that this is the second time you have let the hosts down so maybe they are a bit fed up you didn't come yet again. They might have turned others away as your slot was booked. | |||
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"Well I decided not to go as still so so heavy and just wouldn’t feel comfortable but glad I haven’t gone because the hosts haven’t even bothered to reply to my message that I sent back on Thursday to make my apologies so clearly not the kind of people we would want to spend time with and we clearly dodged a bullet. The rudeness and entitlement of some people really puts us off, thanks to everyones kind words and advice. You said earlier in this post that this is the second time you have let the hosts down so maybe they are a bit fed up you didn't come yet again. They might have turned others away as your slot was booked. " It’s a party with 5 other couples going and so we were just one couple that’s let them down they still have 5 other couples to go to the party with them. We gave them notice Tuesday and then confirmed Thursday that we couldn’t due to my entrometiosis and periods. | |||
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"We hear you on this as female hear is same an now we are been told we are not a couple an just a guy lol " We can’t help being on x | |||
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