FabSwingers.com forum: Help and tips for someone new to the scene.

By *iam Dee OP Man
12 weeks ago

Birmingham

I recently signed up to this site and have been trying to work out how it works.

Ive trued messaging people I am interested in but havent been having any responses/feedback.

Im a private person and i realise not having a profile picture doesnt help but my plan would be to send photos to the people that respond and got along with.

Would appreciate it if anyone would give some tips/advice on what works for you or what sort of messages you respond well to.

Thanks in advance!

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By *issmorganWoman
12 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Hi op

Most of us will look at a profile and delete the message, if its blank or tells us nothing.

Obviously it's your choice to have no pinky pics, but it will seriously reduce the responses you get here.

It's an instant delete for me if someone has no pics at all, I have plenty available. I always think shadows are hiding something (rightly or wrongly).

You've also written virtually nothing, so people will have no idea if there's any common ground or what you'd offer them.

My advice add a pic or 2, we can all put something on that doesn't identify us.

Write a bio about you, what you seek and what you'd bring to any meet.

If not, maybe think about a club as its gonna be very difficult op even getting a reply. People don't want to chat for a bit and then see there's no attraction at all.

Good luck.

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By *eeshellsCouple
12 weeks ago

Reading

You have no profile picture, no photos at all and no profile text.

There are 1000s of men who do and some of them have great bodies and/or intriguing text.

Your odds of getting any traction are precisely zero.

Go and read the plethora of identical posts from men asking to improve their profiles, and they do have photos and a bio. Improve your profile and improve your odds.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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12 weeks ago

East Sussex

What are your hopes and expectations?

How we respond very much depends on that

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By *he Silver FuxMan
12 weeks ago

Utero

"I recently signed up to this site and have been trying to work out how it works.

Ive trued messaging people I am interested in but havent been having any responses/feedback.

Im a private person and i realise not having a profile picture doesnt help but my plan would be to send photos to the people that respond and got along with.

Would appreciate it if anyone would give some tips/advice on what works for you or what sort of messages you respond well to.

Thanks in advance!"

Nearly every woman or couple I know deletes or ignores messages from any profile without a good profile picture. There’s far too many men messaging with better profiles that grab attention. You’re wasting your time I’m afraid unless you invest heavily in your profile and meet at socials and / or go to clubs / parties to network in real life.

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By *iam Dee OP Man
12 weeks ago

Birmingham

Thanks for responding, It now makes sense why people would ignore a profile like mine.

Im not on social media so writing about myself online doesnt come natutally and comes across awkwardly.

The photo situation is a tricky one because im in a lot of different circles so im apprehensive about being recognised. If I didnt have a face photo would just having body/clothed photos work?

Thanks again.

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By *issmorganWoman
12 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

"Thanks for responding, It now makes sense why people would ignore a profile like mine.

Im not on social media so writing about myself online doesnt come natutally and comes across awkwardly.

The photo situation is a tricky one because im in a lot of different circles so im apprehensive about being recognised. If I didnt have a face photo would just having body/clothed photos work?

Thanks again."

Yes, body pics in clothes are much better than a silhouette.

Just crop your head off.

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By *heSuccubusWoman
12 weeks ago

Darlington

When I click on a profile if it looks like somebody has made no effort at all, I won't put any effort into replying.

Your profile is your shop window. If you saw a shop which had no window display and no clear signage as to what they sold, would you go in?

Not being on social media has nothing to do with being able to write a few paragraphs on what you are looking for, and what you can offer. I understand that your situation on photographs. Nobody would recognise me from the pictures I've put on, but they are enough to give people an idea of what I am about. Size, build, my general presentation....

You can keep anonymous and still be creative

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By *iam Dee OP Man
12 weeks ago

Birmingham

What type of photos are usually well received? Im apprehensive about face photos being public because of my work/social circles.

I joined on here to have uncomplicated relationships where both people just enjoy hooking up without the pressure or expectations that usually involves.

Thanks for responding, its appreciated.

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By *iam Dee OP Man
12 weeks ago

Birmingham

Thanks for replying,

Id like meet some people that just want to enjoy good sex without expectations/pressure.

Ive only really been in relationships that end up feeling too complicated and want to spend some time just enjoying myself.

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By *iam Dee OP Man
12 weeks ago

Birmingham

Thanks, I am going to spend some time to improve my profile and I will add some pictures also.

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By *iam Dee OP Man
12 weeks ago

Birmingham

What kind of photos are usually recived well?

Thanks for responding.

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By *eri24Woman
12 weeks ago

Bridgend

As everyone above has said, add some photos and text

Elaborate on what sort of fun and memorable experiences you would be looking for

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By *eeshellsCouple
12 weeks ago

Reading

"What type of photos are usually well received? Im apprehensive about face photos being public because of my work/social circles.

I joined on here to have uncomplicated relationships where both people just enjoy hooking up without the pressure or expectations that usually involves.

Thanks for responding, its appreciated."
Get yourself a Bluetooth selfie stick from Amazon and then do some creative full length shots. They're about a tenner and stop you using mirror shots or arms-length selfies.

For uncomplicated relationships, as mentioned before, your best bet is clubs or socials. Just be normal and get chatting.

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By *iam Dee OP Man
12 weeks ago

Birmingham

Just casual sex and experiencing the different kinks that people have. My previous relationships have always been quite vanilla, which I do enjoy. I imagine women on here are more more open and relaxed to just say what they enjoy.

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By *iam Dee OP Man
12 weeks ago

Birmingham

Thanks, i will look into that.

Im not dismissing intimate relationships but initially Id like to meet women that are after a more casual dynamic.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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12 weeks ago

East Sussex

Tap reply+quote under the post you're replying to so we know who you're answering

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By *iam Dee OP Man
12 weeks ago

Birmingham

"Tap reply+quote under the post you're replying to so we know who you're answering

Ffs haha! Sorry about that, didnt realise it didnt let you know...

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By *ull of PuddinWoman
12 weeks ago

isle of munters

It's not that hard, I don't know why there are soon many asking for advice when it's common sense.

OP use the search function at the top when you click on forums from the menu.

Type in profile advice

There's 100s of the threads saying the same thing

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By *hehighlander88Man
12 weeks ago

inverness

I don’t seem to attract much attention either but keep the chin up, add some pics and a bit about yourself and I’m sure in time it will help

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By *iam Dee OP Man
12 weeks ago

Birmingham

"It's not that hard, I don't know why there are soon many asking for advice when it's common sense.

OP use the search function at the top when you click on forums from the menu.

Type in profile advice

There's 100s of the threads saying the same thing"

Its more that im trying to understand the vibe of the site/community... I get the impression that 90% people on here are looking for no strings attached good sex but when I write a bio that tailors to that it just looks weird to me. Im a social person, chatting in real life comes naturally and i dont even need to think but as soon as i am on here i cant help but cringe at myself

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By *iam Dee OP Man
12 weeks ago

Birmingham

"I don’t seem to attract much attention either but keep the chin up, add some pics and a bit about yourself and I’m sure in time it will help"

Yeah dude, I am just figuring out how this will work for me.

Chin up and good luck out there!

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By *eeshellsCouple
12 weeks ago

Reading

"It's not that hard, I don't know why there are soon many asking for advice when it's common sense.

OP use the search function at the top when you click on forums from the menu.

Type in profile advice

There's 100s of the threads saying the same thing

Really, do get yourself to a social event. If you are a natural chatter then couples and ladies will warm to you.

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By *aandLoCouple
12 weeks ago

Southampton

Sorry, but it would be an instant delete from.us too. The same as many others have said, we need to see a few decent photos, and read a bio that gives enough about you to establish a potential mutual connection.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
12 weeks ago

Leeds

My profile says I don't respond to messages from a silhouette.

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By *eri24Woman
12 weeks ago

Bridgend

"My profile says I don't respond to messages from a silhouette. "

He's had 3 days worth of advice, and has done nothing 🤷🏼‍♀️

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By *izandpaulCouple
12 weeks ago

merseyside

"I recently signed up to this site and have been trying to work out how it works.

Ive trued messaging people I am interested in but havent been having any responses/feedback.

Im a private person and i realise not having a profile picture doesnt help but my plan would be to send photos to the people that respond and got along with.

Would appreciate it if anyone would give some tips/advice on what works for you or what sort of messages you respond well to.

Thanks in advance!"

No photos and no profile.

It says I'm lazy and can't be arsed.

Not good features to sell yourself.

Go back to the beginning and start again or pack it in.

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