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The rest of the profile is clear and concise but as a previous poster said you really have limited your options with the no travel policy. | |||
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"Maybe, but the OP was logged on 7 hours ago and the info was offered 11hrs ago .... " The op could have logged in briefly to respond to a message and logged right back out again, I'm a regular in the forums but don't always look when I've logged in, so it's possible that although he has logged into his profile it doesn't mean he has viewed the forums or this thread at that time. | |||
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"No mention, I may have missed it, of safe sex or bareback. One of your profile pics appears to show you having fun un bagged and for lots and lots of folk on here that is a real NO NO
The rest of the profile is clear and concise but as a previous poster said you really have limited your options with the no travel policy."have to agree here, even tho you have made an effort with your profile... the only other criticism i have is that im a person that reads people status and your often saying you have been let down and you are on the meet today like evryday...lol... just my own opinion... but nobody likes to meet a moaner, just enjoy your time on here, it will happen when your not looking for it as much... | |||
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"Looks fine to us, happy hunting." Tahnks | |||
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 . Alas it`s an irksome part of swinging you have to put up with. I now make lots of contact to the person who wants to meet up via messages on this site followed by a phone call or two. If they`re keen they will play it my way and we`ll meet. Since doing this, we have had far less dissapiontments. | |||
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"We have had problems when both accomodating and traveling when arranging things on the quick . Alas it`s an irksome part of swinging you have to put up with. I now make lots of contact to the person who wants to meet up via messages on this site followed by a phone call or two. If they`re keen they will play it my way and we`ll meet. Since doing this, we have had far less dissapiontments. "i dont have a problem with accomodating -my problem is finding people who travel | |||
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"We have had problems when both accomodating and traveling when arranging things on the quick . Alas it`s an irksome part of swinging you have to put up with. I now make lots of contact to the person who wants to meet up via messages on this site followed by a phone call or two. If they`re keen they will play it my way and we`ll meet. Since doing this, we have had far less dissapiontments.
i dont have a problem with accomodating -my problem is finding people who travel "It`s a bloody shame you too far away mate  | |||
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"hows my profile...feedback welcome" Ive got to take my hat off to you mate - 3 weeks on here and plenty of meets already mate . whats your secret ? i cant even get a reply to a message ,let alone owt else | |||
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"hows my profile...feedback welcome" i think after seeing how much sucess you have had in only 3 weeks ,i think i might admit defeat and call it a day | |||
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"shite ,,,, lol " what you got to complain about -you arny exactly struggling for meets either  | |||
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"try a few socials/clubs... your likely to have better luck there..." why do you think that ? im seeing from looking at males profiles ,a lot of blokes have a lot of luck on here - i just cant seem to find the secret of their sucess. | |||
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"try a few socials/clubs... your likely to have better luck there... why do you think that ? im seeing from looking at males profiles ,a lot of blokes have a lot of luck on here - i just cant seem to find the secret of their sucess. " well it was only a suggestion, and some guys dont have any luck... socials are a good way of meeting people on a social level before anything else takes place... | |||
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"hows my profile...feedback welcome Ive got to take my hat off to you mate - 3 weeks on here and plenty of meets already mate . whats your secret ? i cant even get a reply to a message ,let alone owt else " If you want honesty, maybe it is your negative attitude. | |||
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"ive got even more downhearted ,after looking at a males profile tonight. he has been on here for only 3 weeks ,yet has had 3 meets already . im no Brad Pitt , but im not ready for Mingers Re-United just yet ." Maybe it's a new profile but an old member, with verifications from past meets, or like us, from day 1 we were verified as we was introduced to this site through a meet. Remember, this is a swing site, not a put out to whoever site. I really do think showing your verification may help you, that is if you met a couple and not just chatted or cam'd. | |||
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"Well , ive found out the area of Barnsley for the social im on the list for ,but i think its a little too far for me ,as its not on a bus route from where i live ,so no way of getting there . Keep trying " Train?. If you seriously want to go, lack of buses wont stop you. | |||
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"no train to get to that part of Barnsley -annoying thing is ,if i had a car its only 15 mins away " Few quid in a taxi but if you really want to go then it could be money well spent | |||
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"no train to get to that part of Barnsley -annoying thing is ,if i had a car its only 15 mins away " The pub is a 10 min walk from the town center! | |||
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"no train to get to that part of Barnsley -annoying thing is ,if i had a car its only 15 mins away The pub is a 10 min walk from the town center! " It would be quite interesting to see what would happen if the Social organisers offered to sort out a whip round for his taxi fee | |||
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"I was a bit slow there, I have just realised that I know you from another site and that you have been using these sites for a long time, so you know how things work. As for the whole " I can't get to a place that is 15 minutes away" sketch, you have to be on a wind up." I agree He won't travel further than his own front door and has said so loads of times on here no matter how many people try to persuade him otherwise Just let him sit at home waiting for people to come to him | |||
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"Ok, got to step in here 'cos you're a local lad. Please don't take what i'm about to say the wrong way. In our opinion the reason you haven't had any meets is your incessant whining, you never stop and you give the impression that you may be some kind of stalker in the making. You mailed us a couple of weeks ago and by the time we had both got around to reading your message and profile you had changed your status 3 times whinging about not having any meets. Now Nikki put you on her 'B' list (this means no instant attraction from photos but would meet to see) and you are (very) local to us which is a plus as we only travel to meet single males but I really can see you being a bit of a stalker if we met. The Barnsley social is 7 miles from where you live, thats a 15 minute taxi ride, If Nikki & I wern't travelling to Boston for a party (as in 2 hour drive) i'd bloody well take you myself. To summarise, if you lose the negativity and put some effort in to meeting people you will succeed. I bet you're a Wednesday supporter too aint ya? Ash" Might have to make my way up to the Barnsley Social one of these days | |||
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" Might have to make my way up to the Barnsley Social one of these days "If you do maybe you could PM the OP as I expect he would appreciate a lift | |||
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" Might have to make my way up to the Barnsley Social one of these days
If you do maybe you could PM the OP as I expect he would appreciate a lift"Or he may just be washing his hair that night | |||
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" Might have to make my way up to the Barnsley Social one of these days
If you do maybe you could PM the OP as I expect he would appreciate a lift
Or he may just be washing his hair that night" | |||
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"i know where u are coming from, i think couples have their regular single guys they feel happy with really. and without doubt its tuff to get any form of meet being a single male. but making friends and patience prevails everytime i think." To a lot of people singles males are at the bottom of the foodchain on swinging sites ,which makes it even harder to meet anyone. | |||
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"i know where u are coming from, i think couples have their regular single guys they feel happy with really. and without doubt its tuff to get any form of meet being a single male. but making friends and patience prevails everytime i think. To a lot of people singles males are at the bottom of the foodchain on swinging sites ,which makes it even harder to meet anyone. " Still waiting to hear from you, o and btw 481 bus from barnsley drops you right outside the pub. | |||
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"ive got even more downhearted ,after looking at a males profile tonight. he has been on here for only 3 weeks ,yet has had 3 meets already . im no Brad Pitt , but im not ready for Mingers Re-United just yet . Maybe it's a new profile but an old member, with verifications from past meets, or like us, from day 1 we were verified as we was introduced to this site through a meet. Remember, this is a swing site, not a put out to whoever site. I really do think showing your verification may help you, that is if you met a couple and not just chatted or cam'd. "have to agree with what your saying... some fake verifications out there, so its always good to checked out the profiles of the verifications, see if they still members on the site or just made up... | |||
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" its always good to checked out the profiles of the verifications, see if they still members on the site or just made up..." If the verification is on a profile, that person is still on the site because the verification goes if the member leaves. | |||
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"i dont show the only verification i have ,as it was just from a bloke on here that lives close to me ,and we were chatting in chatroom over christmas ,both bored and we decided to meet up in a local pub for a few beers and a game of snooker. so its not relevent at all." fair and honest answer and exactly the way we see hidden verifications ie they don't mean nuffin not a fing, there again we think the same about webcam and phone verifications too. | |||
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" its always good to checked out the profiles of the verifications, see if they still members on the site or just made up... If the verification is on a profile, that person is still on the site because the verification goes if the member leaves. " i hear what your saying but does that mean the person lose the verified symbol on their profile... | |||
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" its always good to checked out the profiles of the verifications, see if they still members on the site or just made up... If the verification is on a profile, that person is still on the site because the verification goes if the member leaves. i hear what your saying but does that mean the person lose the verified symbol on their profile..." No, the verification sign stays x | |||
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"Hi . ive benn on here for a few weeks now ,and ive had a great meet with a couple ,who i hope to meet again very soon " @ the OP With regard to the verification issue why not get the couple you mention to verify you, especially as you plan to meet with them again. Can only help as opposed to hinder your cause | |||
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Rant over, and I had been bottling it up for the past 48h! | |||
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"I tried my best to help this single gent, even messaged to Kev and Kat to see if there are any spaces left for single guy, after the OP said Kev and Kat do not meet single guys. Hello??? They do not meet single guys personally, however, they always have spaces for single gents for the socials they organise. So I thought, RESULT! when I saw his post in their Valentines Social thread. And now I found out even this is too far for him to travel, we are talking about roughly 7 miles each way!!! Are you so skint that you cannot afford the taxi fare to go there? If yes, then say so, and ask for a lift!!! FFS OP, at this rate, you will not get any meet as no one wants to meet a moaner and one that is not prepared to make any effort to meet people some of the way let alone half way. Good luck in your quest, as you definitely need it unless you drop your attitude and that big chip on your shoulder!!!
Rant over, and I had been bottling it up for the past 48h! "thanks for your thoughts and opionion . i have used the advice given to me about my profile ,and changed a few things in it ,and had some positive feedback about my profile and pics. On the down side ,the only negative views ive had are concerning the fact that i dont travel . i would be very interested to know if any couples who only accomodate have had the same negative views about the fact they dont travel . Im grateful for the advice given about my profile ,and after acting on that , i now have a profile im happy with. | |||
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"I tried my best to help this single gent, even messaged to Kev and Kat to see if there are any spaces left for single guy, after the OP said Kev and Kat do not meet single guys. Hello??? They do not meet single guys personally, however, they always have spaces for single gents for the socials they organise. So I thought, RESULT! when I saw his post in their Valentines Social thread. And now I found out even this is too far for him to travel, we are talking about roughly 7 miles each way!!! Are you so skint that you cannot afford the taxi fare to go there? If yes, then say so, and ask for a lift!!! FFS OP, at this rate, you will not get any meet as no one wants to meet a moaner and one that is not prepared to make any effort to meet people some of the way let alone half way. Good luck in your quest, as you definitely need it unless you drop your attitude and that big chip on your shoulder!!!
Rant over, and I had been bottling it up for the past 48h!
thanks for your thoughts and opionion .
i have used the advice given to me about my profile ,and changed a few things in it ,and had some positive feedback about my profile and pics.
On the down side ,the only negative views ive had are concerning the fact that i dont travel . i would be very interested to know if any couples who only accomodate have had the same negative views about the fact they dont travel .
Im grateful for the advice given about my profile ,and after acting on that , i now have a profile im happy with. "So, are you going to the Valentines social? | |||
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"Hi . ive benn on here for a few weeks now ,and ive had a great meet with a couple ,who i hope to meet again very soon , BUT ,ive also been stood up twice after travelling for meets , so ive now decided only to accomodate . ive re-worded my profile ,and would like some feedback on how it comes across. i have loads of recent face pics in friends gallery and always send nice pics when sending a message. any feedback would be welcome . Thanks in advance Mark "Have you ever been able to travel? Your first post states you've been let down twice when you've travelled, but in aother post it states that you need a bus route to get anywhere? Me thinks there's a wind up going on somewhere....... If you are here just to piss us all off, just say so........ Or is it fun now you don't use the other sites..........] YES..... I recognise you. | |||
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"And...... And it's funny how your only verification, before you hid it, was from a bi man that you met in a pub for a drink and a game of snooker........you managed to get your arse off the sofa for that meet!! And you travelled!" yes i used to travel ,but after let downs made the decision NOT to travel again . this is a safeguard against having my time wasted. as for going for a pint and a game of snooker - im always happy to pop round corner to my local . | |||
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"How about organising a party at your place, all inclusive with food and wine thrown in etc., then sit back and wait for the freeloaders to reply? "But then he'd have to travel to get the food and drink and it's such a drag, lugging Tesco bags on a bus..... | |||
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"a lot of people on here dont travel , so why people are making a big deal about my no travelling policy is beyond me . a vast amount of couples on here dont travel ,so why is it an issue that a single man dosn`t travel . " It may appear double standards but I think is's supply and demand. No disrespect but single men are two a penny and often post about not getting meets, therefore a single man who only wants meets from his neighbours and who doesn't want to spend a fiver on taxi fare sounds remarkable and a wind up. You may not intend to, and again no disrespect but you sound whiney: not an attractive trait. EVERYONE experences timewasters in one form or another, par for the course when swinging, but some how this seems to have been a shock to: why is that? | |||
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I e mailed him a cpl of times as we very much like to meet males who accom!
However his mardi face and constant whining in here tells all you need to know!
Would you like some chese with that whine?
We wont be bothering again, so negative!
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"i do hope that if you can be bothered to come to the social you will leave all this negativity behind you as our socials are geared around fun if we wanted to have wingers we would put the price of the beer up and make pussy stay dressed lol "ah fook does that mean i have to keep me kit on coz some numpty who doesnt travel may get the bus. am coming from liverpool ffs, and no wont pick yer up. | |||
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"To all those who have given me positve advice about my profile and pics -thank you ,and i have taken that advice on board and have even more new face pics taken today in my friends gallery. to those who have been negative about my no travel policy -dont condem someone just because they dont travel ,you never know they may be a lovely genuine person. since i started posting on this forum , a lot more people are viewing my profile, even though nothing has come of it ." your not being condemed for not traveling, just dont whine when you dont get meets, as a single male your ten a penny and so many single guys will do almost anything to meet a fem or cpl with your dictating that you wont even travel and most cpls wont go to a single guys house untill they know him well, you dont stand a chance we certainly wouldnt meet you with your attitude sorry if sounds harsh but its true | |||
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"i looked ,,,, wanted to see the guy whos winding everyone up ,,, well done that man " Think you have a point regarding the wind up: no one would continue to whine so much after being told by all and sundry it's a turn off unless attention seeking/wind up!! | |||
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"after my first let down , i thought id just put it down to experience and accept the fact there are some timewasters around and not let it put me off, but after it happened a second time i thought long and hard before making the decision not to travel anymore. " hell hun i been stood up 3 times this week alone - just thankful the number of genuine peeps on site far outnumber the timewasters. your profile reads well to , concise and self explanatory, so much so i may feel obliged to get in touch next time i'm down your way | |||
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