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By *r Harper OP   Man
13 weeks ago

Coventry

Hey, ive been on FabSwingers for a while now and unfortunately im yet to have a meet up. Am I doing something wrong? Is my profile not aligning with what people are searching for? If anyone could give me any tips or advice then that would be great!

Im a single 26 year old straight Male.

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By *uliette500Woman
13 weeks ago

Hull

Your profile is ok, apart from the rather long and totally pointless legal warning at the bottom.

Some people don't like to see pics of other women on a single man's profile. We don't know if you have her consent and there is a feeling of 'will my picture be next if we meet'

Have you tried going to an organised social or a club? That can help with meets and get you verified.

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By *eyeYCouple
13 weeks ago

Nr Leicester

Honestly a touch 'stand offish' but regardless a profile here won't get you verifications, a social however.. 👍

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By *orgetmeKnotCouple
13 weeks ago

Rainham, Kent

The legal warning on a profile always makes us roll our eyes, and is not worth including...especially considering you have public photos of another person in your profile (which I'm guessing you don't have release forms for?)...kind of hypocritical to say you don't want your images used by others whilst doing that exact thing with someone else...would be an instant red flag for us.

You don't need to make a point about not meeting men, it puts MF couples off...just use message filters.

Explain what you offer as well as what you're looking for (a big cock is not going to be enough for most, so don't rely on that)

And as everyone will tell you, socials and clubs! They are the way. If you are seriously interested in this lifestyle and not just trying to get an easy shag then go to the places we hang out...we don't all just sit indoors desperate for someone to come and fuck us....we enjoy the lifestyle for it's social side too, and most of the time it's the best way to cut through the fab BS and find the genuine, reliable men.

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By *outhstaffscoupleCouple
13 weeks ago

cannock

We would advocate for socials too. Not necessarily one on one socials, but the organised group kind,also like others say, clubs.

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By *uperstar76Woman
13 weeks ago

North Lanarkshire

You have more pics of women on your profile than you, people want to see the person they might potentially meet not former conquests, your pics put me off so i didnt bother reading the bio so cant comment further

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By *CExeCouple
13 weeks ago

Hong-Kong/Exeter

The pics with girls in don't go down well on Fab. Ditch those, have some of you dressed and undressed. Lose the legal stuff, nothing removes your article 8 rights. If you're concerned about privacy, have friends only photos of face.

Get chatting on the cams and get to some socials. Takes time. We met an unverified guy recently though, so it does happen.

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By *ilbert777Woman
13 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

Irrespective of whether people like the photos with another woman, you don't need to many of them.

I'd get a photo of you suited and booted on there.

Some people do not go to socials and are scrolling through pictures at home. I'm not sure how many of them go on to genuinely meet people and I'd say a social is the easier way to get a verification. Don't get too many verifications or someone like me will be concerned.... Is it any wonder we all feel like we can't win?

What works for one person doesn't work for another. We are all human and all different. Best of luck

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
Forum Mod
13 weeks ago

Central

People do want to meet. Though we do need to give them what they are looking for, to be able to decide if we are or aren't right for them.

My take on what many people who want a single man are wanting, is to be as fully able as possible to know what the guy looks like, to assess attraction.

And to assess whether he's going to be able to satisfy us sexually, including what he brings along - his personality, tastes,interests, etc.

It won't typically involve seeing him having sex with other people. It's a given that he has some experience.

Anything that doesn't help this is going to potentially deter people. Some will give up quickly and move on to the next guy. It's probably best to assume that you have 1 chance at winning their interest.

OP - put yourself in the shoes of a woman and taste what we need.

Get rid of any meaningless disclaimers, etc. You will have people move away from you, because of them.

Get to socials and clubs to get to know people and potentially verified. Good luck!

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By *r Harper OP   Man
9 weeks ago

Coventry

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By *r Harper OP   Man
9 weeks ago

Coventry

Thank you for your feedback, I really appreciate it! I have taken your advice and removed the pictures of other females, I do have written consent from them but I totally get where where your coming from.

The legal terms on my profile was there purely for the safety of my pictures, however I have took your advice and removed that also.

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By *ilkyHotChocolateCouple
9 weeks ago

Basingstoke

Goto an organised social, dress smart, smell good, be polite. Chat to couples if its seems all smiles ask if they could possibly give you a verification to say you are who you say you are. Get a few social verifications and a meet could well follow. X

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By *izandpaulCouple
9 weeks ago

merseyside

Just had a peek at your profile, looks fine to me, good selection of pics.

Sadly, FAB is not the best place to get 121 meets, its becoming more a place for chatters who by and large have no intention of meeting or are hoping a sympathy shag may rear its head.

As others have stated get along to an organised social or a club.

If you are new to the scene a club may be a tad overwhelming, so would recommend social meet but not a 121 social as you may become disillusioned by the number of timewasters.

If there are no socials in your area why not get together with another single guy or single lady(very unlikely)and set up your own.

Maybe a pub meet, nothing fancy just a meet up with likeminded friends.

A single guy near to us did just that and it was a roaring success,we had some of our best nights there, it developed into private parties too.

Socials are a great way to sort out the wheat from chaff.

As many people on here are timewasters you will find there is a lot less competition in the real swingers world.

Good luck, let us all know how you get on.

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By *lackxxxwhiteCouple
9 weeks ago

huntingdon

As a couple with 2 special needs young children we struggle with going to events or socials at the current time. We find lots of people on fab feel that because we don’t attend clubs we aren’t serious, we feel it’s because some of the members on here are just looking for anybody and like u say are desperate it’s a shame really as fab used to be full of the serious couples xx

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By *oyahandrussCouple
9 weeks ago

Ilfracombe


"Hey, ive been on FabSwingers for a while now and unfortunately im yet to have a meet up. Am I doing something wrong? Is my profile not aligning with what people are searching for? If anyone could give me any tips or advice then that would be great!

Why don't you try a club V2V in Nuneaton has a newbies night on a Thursday which is good & also the attic club check them out they both have websites.

Im a single 26 year old straight Male. "

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By *an1978Woman
9 weeks ago

Gwynedd/ Powys Border

Your profile text is good,

As mentioned, some clothed pics would be nice.

Not just that one time you wore a suit to a wedding.

If you're a Bermuda shorts on the beach kinda guy, then you may catch the eye of those into that.

I'm absolutely more of a tidy jeans and wool jumper by the fire kinda person 🤪

A faceless clothed pic or a torso pic is better for a profile pic than a dick pick. Leave that for the bottom of the pile.

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By *harAndBryCouple
9 weeks ago

Downham Market

Sorry OP, but your one pic (also your profile pic) is proper off-putting.

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By *rightonsteveMan
9 weeks ago

Brighton - even Hove!

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By *ull of PuddinWoman
9 weeks ago

isle of munters

I pass by profile pics of dick. I'm sure a lot of people do the same

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