FabSwingers.com forum: Returning after 13 yrs

By *otsurewhattocallmyself OP Man
14 weeks ago

sometimes here

So I have been trying to get back into the swing of things for a while and it’s just not working out for me.

I did have a partner and we used to swing but after a break up and a lot of shit stirring she caused me I come away from it.

13 yrs on and so much has changed and as a single larger guy no one wants one of them.

Even clubs I find it hard to go to as being a single guy no one like them either.

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By *ovinglife!40Man
14 weeks ago

Hinckley

"So I have been trying to get back into the swing of things for a while and it’s just not working out for me.

I did have a partner and we used to swing but after a break up and a lot of shit stirring she caused me I come away from it.

13 yrs on and so much has changed and as a single larger guy no one wants one of them.

Even clubs I find it hard to go to as being a single guy no one like them either. "

Agree.

Single guys looking for sex are two a penny.

You need to accept that.

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By *rectus HumongusMan
14 weeks ago

morecambe for the day

The bit about single guys and no one want them that is incorrect there are plenty of females, single and those in relationship.

The ratio of men to women is massive and females can pick and choose who they wish to interact with as should everyone else.

So whilst I am lucky on fab but you have get lots of rejections before being lucky to be given chance to be invited into someone else's private life

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By *abulincsCouple
14 weeks ago

near a bridge

We returned after a 5-6 years away and a very different place to which we left so difficult to actually get meets we’ve booked hotels got let down so many times turned up at a guys house to be left stood on door step lol we soon left after driving over an hour each way

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By *CExeCouple
14 weeks ago

Hong-Kong/Exeter

Single guys are always wanted, you just need to remember there's a lot more of them; supply and demand etc.

Self deprecation can be a good thing, but it sounds like you need to work on your self confidence and self belief a little. Chat on the forums and cams, get to some socials and be yourself. You'll do fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
14 weeks ago

Relatively new to this world myself and can understand your frustration/disappointment. Stick in OP and keep your head up, I'm sure your luck will change 👍

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By *igladAndLulahCouple
14 weeks ago

South East

" Single guys are always wanted, you just need to remember there's a lot more of them; supply and demand etc.

Great advice

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By *issmorganWoman
13 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Op, by having no pics and not much text, you're reducing your own chances on here.

People do want to meet single guys, but there does have to be an attraction and something on their bio to spark that initial interest.

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By *izzy.Woman
13 weeks ago

Stoke area

"Op, by having no pics and not much text, you're reducing your own chances on here.

People do want to meet single guys, but there does have to be an attraction and something on their bio to spark that initial interest. "

This is exactly what I was going to say.

Think about your profile and if it looks like it to get people to want to meet you. Definitely add some photos , even fully clothed and in the distance is better than none.

Chat on the forums, attend an organised social where you can chat to others in the lifestyle or go to a club. Dont go with the expectation to get involved with the play, but as an excellent chance to talk to people, build your confidence and get a couple of verifications to say what a polite, friendly, fun gent you are.

But things take time and you have to put some effort in, to get anywhere in this lifestyle. Good luck

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By *harAndBryCouple
13 weeks ago

Downham Market

"as being a single guy no one like them either. "

We almost exclusively meet single guys and only to go clubs where single guys are allowed. However we wouldn't bother replying to a message from a profile with literally no pics to see - sex is a physical thing for us and there has to be an attraction.

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By *oiluvfunMan
13 weeks ago

Birmingham

"So I have been trying to get back into the swing of things for a while and it’s just not working out for me.

I did have a partner and we used to swing but after a break up and a lot of shit stirring she caused me I come away from it.

13 yrs on and so much has changed and as a single larger guy no one wants one of them.

Even clubs I find it hard to go to as being a single guy no one like them either. "

As a single guy looking for hookups (or more), you will have more luck meeting single ladies (and not so single) on the popular dating apps 😉

As soul and self-confidence destroying being a single guy in Fab has become, it is purely down to numbers, and that is basically the sheer lack of single ladies in here (and the clubs tbf), and the fact that swinging is, and always has been, a pastime for couples….

Take the one positive Fab has for single guys, over all the contact apps out there, and all the swinging clubs; you can use Fab completely free of charge at all times.

There ARE people out there, who will want you OP, but you will need to liven up your profile with a lot more ‘kerb appeal’. Chin up, and good luck 😎👍

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By *ilts-warm-cplCouple
13 weeks ago

WARMINSTER

We have just returned after a 12 year break.

Very different place to what we left behind.

We have met four single guys over the past month and sift through the many messages we gratefully receive.so

We played with two, one was not suitable and another is banked for a future date.

There are so many guy on here, you really need to read the profiles your writing to and e currently tick the boxes of you want a reply.

Must be very difficult.

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By *oiluvfunMan
13 weeks ago

Birmingham

"We have just returned after a 12 year break.

Very different place to what we left behind.

We have met four single guys over the past month and sift through the many messages we gratefully receive.so

We played with two, one was not suitable and another is banked for a future date.

There are so many guys on here, you really need to read the profiles you’re writing to, and currently tick their boxes if you want a reply.

Must be very difficult.

I don’t think there ever was a time in Fab, when a single guy could join this site, and after only 5 weeks, have had 4 meets, whilst sifting through “many messages”……..but we can dream! Sighs…..

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By *heSuccubusWoman
13 weeks ago

Darlington

I am mainly looking for single guys, and I'm quite sure a lot of other people are too. It is true that the ratio of men to women is completely off balance, but saying no one wants them is just not true.

If you messaged me, I would disregard your profile straight away. I think my advice would be make your profile something people get excited by, or feel they'd want to engage with. Or if you can't do that, get yourself to social events.

Sitting at home telling yourself people don't want to meet you, is not going to help you meet people. You need to be proactive

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