FabSwingers.com forum: Male half of couple

By *agE97 OP Couple
14 weeks ago

Gwynedd

Hi xx

We've noticed that a lot of couples we chat to (probably 90%) is done by the male half of the couple.

Is this the norm?

When we ask (after the chat hits off) if the female half chats on here and that it would be nice to hear from "her", it gets a bit cagy and defensive!

We know there's a lot of fake couple profiles out there but surely not that much??

Both of us like to chat and allways identify as either myself or hubby at the end of the chat. xxx

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By *orgetmeKnotCouple
14 weeks ago

Rainham, Kent

We both chat on here in equal measure. We like to try and keep everything as 50/50 as possible as we're both in this together. We come as a couple so we like to communicate as a couple. But if anyone asks to speak to one of us in particular then we'd see that as a red flag and pretty disrespectful, and would ultimately end in them being blocked. There's nothing that can be said to one of us that can't be said as a couple.

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By *agE97 OP Couple
14 weeks ago

Gwynedd

Aww we're exactly the same as you guys. As we are in this together and like (or would like) to chat to coules in equal measures to build that four way connection.

But most of the couples we chat to it's the Mr that does all the chat and when we ask if Mrs does any chatting it's usually "she's to shy" or "No but she reads all messages" or we get ghosted??!??

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By *aandLoCouple
14 weeks ago

Southampton

I (Mrs,) do the Fabmin. Mr might add a comment occasionally to a conversation, but generally just waits to see if it progresses to a social.

If I start a chat with a couple I ask Mr early on if he likes what he sees with regard to the lady of the couple, otherwise there's no point taking the chat further.

With single guys, it's entirely down to the connection I feel. If I think a guy is someone I want to meet for a social Mr is happy to go along with my feelings, and rock up with me. 😁

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By *igladAndLulahCouple
14 weeks ago

South East

As the male I do the vast majority of the fabmin because Lulah said when we opened our couple profile, that she had to suffer the chaos as a single female on here on her single profile, so I can deal with messages, which is fair enough. It also plays in to our dynamic that I pick and choose who we are in contact with.

Sometimes Lulah will respond to some messages but that’s rare. When we start talking to a perspective playmate, she will read all the messages and join in the conversation, but 90% of the time it’s me on inbox duty.

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By *heStoryofOTV/TS
14 weeks ago

Bibury

Lots of men from couples message me. I like the attention, but it rarely lasts xxx

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By *ear_TinkerbellCouple
14 weeks ago

The lost village

We want to talk to both parties too and would to speak to the woman too if it was only the guy chatting. If she didnt talk or he just did all the fab stuff, we'd just leave the conversation there.

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By *weett N SpicyyCouple
14 weeks ago

We get a load of messages stating it’s the male half and the female is out for the night !!!

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By *teveanddebsCouple
14 weeks ago

Norwich

On its me that chats.

If it goes further i.e. WhatsApp, then Debs will chat as well.

Unfortunately you can't have 3 or more way chats on here

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By *aomilatteCouple
14 weeks ago

Midlands

"Hi xx

We've noticed that a lot of couples we chat to (probably 90%) is done by the male half of the couple.

Is this the norm?

When we ask (after the chat hits off) if the female half chats on here and that it would be nice to hear from "her", it gets a bit cagy and defensive!

We know there's a lot of fake couple profiles out there but surely not that much??

Both of us like to chat and allways identify as either myself or hubby at the end of the chat. xxx "

How could you be sure if it's the female half chatting on messages? Even some women's profiles are run by men. Our way of being sure is chatting face to face in person.

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
14 weeks ago

wonderland.

When we were looking for meets, I'd leave Mr to do most of the chatting as I have the attention span of a goldfish when it comes to chat. I don't want to chat or flirt just arrange a time and date to be at a club and see what happens.

Cali

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By *eekySweetheartWoman
14 weeks ago

Hampshire

On our couples one it's always me doing the chatting etc. A lot of couples we have met In clubs etc seem to say they leave it to the male half so I think it's quite common xx

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
14 weeks ago

Coventry

I would say we're typical of this statistic. I'm mainly in charge of the fabmin. We aren't together most nights so I can't just roll over in bed and tap Mrs Misfit on the shoulder to reply.

However its totally right you get a feel for people before you invest time and energy on a meet. I would suggest pre arranging a phone/video chat prior to a physical meet. That doesn't have to be now. You can say let's pick a time when we're all free and have a call.

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By *issmorganWoman
14 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

On our couple account, we both use it and sign off with who is speaking.

If Jack starts a chat with someone and I'm interested, I'll join the chat too, so they know I'm on board so to speak.

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By *CExeCouple
14 weeks ago

Hong-Kong/Exeter

I (male) do all the messaging here. Chels had a single profile on here before we met and lasted about 2 days because of the amount of vile abuse she received from men who couldn't take no for an answer. It works for us and we make it clear in our profile that that's the case. Have the verifications displayed so folks can see we're real. It can be a massive red flag though on unverified profiles or ones with no recent verifications.

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By *iddle and SquatCouple
14 weeks ago

Bristol

Mr here does most Fabmin, once connections are established we both get involved because as you know, 97% goes to nothing, Mr has the patience lol

If more serious we usually head to telegram or sometimes WhatsApp once met in person.

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By *tlanshiaWoman
14 weeks ago

Chatham

If I'm chatting to a couples profile..I like to do either a video call, or a voice note pretty early busy to verify that's it is a male and a female.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
14 weeks ago

Leeds

We're both here equally, if we plan to meet we tend to arrange a group chat as it's difficult here.

Mrs

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By *inWithLZCouple
14 weeks ago

Bradford

She replies sometimes or might join the conversation at some point. Mainly because we have a young family and is busy with every day to day.

She's more of a browser and I'm the one that replies and then we talk about it.

I also have more time at work to have a browse as I work alone and she works in an office environment. The last thing she wants is for someone to see her on the site replying at work.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
14 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Another reason I suspect it's mostly the male side who answer messages on here is that it cuts down people trying to start sexting

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By *ntercouplemaCouple
14 weeks ago

Here, for a bit

i (mr) do most of the fabmin when it comes to meets, but mrs does also have access and responds to messages. we've found this is mostly the case with others we've spoken to and been contacted by.

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By *eyeYCouple
14 weeks ago

Nr Leicester

"We're both here equally, if we plan to meet we tend to arrange a group chat as it's difficult here.

Mrs "

True, how often does it go very quickly silent after you suggest that 🤔😉😂

D mostly here, as I hate fabs message system and he's far better than I with his words than I ☺️

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
14 weeks ago

Leeds

"We're both here equally, if we plan to meet we tend to arrange a group chat as it's difficult here.

Mrs

True, how often does it go very quickly silent after you suggest that 🤔😉😂

D mostly here, as I hate fabs message system and he's far better than I with his words than I ☺️"

It never has gone silent tbh, maybe we've been lucky 😂 but there's been plenty of chat before moving away.

Mrs

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By *eyeYCouple
14 weeks ago

Nr Leicester

"We're both here equally, if we plan to meet we tend to arrange a group chat as it's difficult here.

Mrs

True, how often does it go very quickly silent after you suggest that 🤔😉😂

D mostly here, as I hate fabs message system and he's far better than I with his words than I ☺️

It never has gone silent tbh, maybe we've been lucky 😂 but there's been plenty of chat before moving away.

Mrs "

Wow, evidently quite good at this then! 😉😘

We'll just give you our log in details and you can manage our account.. 🤷🤭 x

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By *abulincsCouple
14 weeks ago

near a bridge

Male half usually here she sees all

Messages but asks my to reply but has say just as much as I do who we meet

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
14 weeks ago

Leeds

"We're both here equally, if we plan to meet we tend to arrange a group chat as it's difficult here.

Mrs

True, how often does it go very quickly silent after you suggest that 🤔😉😂

D mostly here, as I hate fabs message system and he's far better than I with his words than I ☺️

It never has gone silent tbh, maybe we've been lucky 😂 but there's been plenty of chat before moving away.

Mrs

Wow, evidently quite good at this then! 😉😘

We'll just give you our log in details and you can manage our account.. 🤷🤭 x"

I wouldn't say good at this, I hardly speak to anyone 😂

Mrs

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By *inkyropecoupleCouple
14 weeks ago

carluke

Mr kinkyrope does the fabmin, filtering, dealing with the fantasists, one liner merchants and general time wasters - someone has to do the grunt work

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By *r and Mrs minionCouple
14 weeks ago

Bristol

It's normally Mr M as I'm busy with work. It's what works for us, but don't worry I keep an eye when I can

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By *CExeCouple
14 weeks ago

Hong-Kong/Exeter

"Another reason I suspect it's mostly the male side who answer messages on here is that it cuts down people trying to start sexting

You'd think so! Sadly a large portion of the single lads on here are seemingly incapable of reading a profile and seeing who deals with the messages 🤣

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By *BWmetalcouple666Couple
14 weeks ago

houghton

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By *BWmetalcouple666Couple
14 weeks ago

houghton

Male runs the account, Mrs vetos everything, verifications show we are genuine

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By *wodoswingCouple
14 weeks ago

swindon

It is quite common for the male half to run the account as in our case.Always willing to confirm genuine by a quick chat on phone with the female half. Find this sorts out the non genuine or fantasist. If yhey are not willing to chat on the phone then they are definately not going to meet.

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By *rodigal funCouple
14 weeks ago

Antrim Down Derry Tyrone Armagh

"If I'm chatting to a couples profile..I like to do either a video call, or a voice note pretty early busy to verify that's it is a male and a female. "

We do the same here after a bit of a chat. We'll suggest a video call with all four. That message is then unread and communication stops.

So it quickly becomes apparent that it's a fake couple account 🙄

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By *haringisCaring1208Couple
14 weeks ago

Lurgan

We share the “fabmin”, both chat on forums, post pics status’ etc independently, but only ever reply to or send messages when we are together

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By *WANDTGCouple
14 weeks ago

Borough of Greenwich

We both message on here and fab the pictures that appeal to each of us.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
14 weeks ago

East Lincs

It’s why we take chats off here as it’s usually just one person and generally the guy.

On telegram we can have a 4 way chat and then see how invested both of them are. If the guy only chats on telegram then we know it’s more driven by him.

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple
14 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"As the male I do the vast majority of the fabmin because Lulah said when we opened our couple profile, that she had to suffer the chaos as a single female on here on her single profile, so I can deal with messages, which is fair enough. It also plays in to our dynamic that I pick and choose who we are in contact with.

This for us too.

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