FabSwingers.com mobile

Join us FREE, we're FREE to use

Web's largest swingers site since 2006.

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to Swinging Support and Advice

Uncalled for drama

Jump to newest
 

By *oodtimes2992 OP   Man
14 weeks ago

glasgow

Sadly over the pass few days I discovered that a fellow fabber had posted my profile all over social media as a form of revenge, punishment or just because but I think the reaction is very extreme and over the top.

I understand that on here that couples get a lot of traffic and being a single gent you want to try get notice so sometimes send multiple messages. But what I sent and if any one has seen this post, it’s polite in my eyes.

I actually find it a bit contradictory after the fact that said fabber was on a ln actually swingers program and promotes the lifestyle a lot. Than easily saying no thank you or just a block.

I have had a few people ask if I was ok which I am cause I’m thick skinned but from the comments I have seen some people would rather be sheep than make up their own mind and opinion on someone rather than to read one’s profile, verifications and get to know them.

I have wrote this to try and defend myself from the public backlash that I may or might receive from what this fellow fabber has done by putting my name all over social media for anyone to see for nothing.

Thank you and good luck swinging

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By *ealerThanReal_NIMan
14 weeks ago

Kilrea


"Sadly over the pass few days I discovered that a fellow fabber had posted my profile all over social media as a form of revenge, punishment or just because but I think the reaction is very extreme and over the top.

I understand that on here that couples get a lot of traffic and being a single gent you want to try get notice so sometimes send multiple messages. But what I sent and if any one has seen this post, it’s polite in my eyes.

I actually find it a bit contradictory after the fact that said fabber was on a ln actually swingers program and promotes the lifestyle a lot. Than easily saying no thank you or just a block.

I have had a few people ask if I was ok which I am cause I’m thick skinned but from the comments I have seen some people would rather be sheep than make up their own mind and opinion on someone rather than to read one’s profile, verifications and get to know them.

I have wrote this to try and defend myself from the public backlash that I may or might receive from what this fellow fabber has done by putting my name all over social media for anyone to see for nothing.

Thank you and good luck swinging "

Holy fuck are you ok???

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By *oodtimes2992 OP   Man
14 weeks ago

glasgow

Yeah all good just think it’s a bit of a low blow thank just saying no thanks after all I’ve seen far worse things couples have been sent so I can’t get my head round why I was the lucky guy to be posted all over social media where vanilla friends and family might come

Across it.

But it’s done now

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By *CExeCouple
14 weeks ago

Hong-Kong/Exeter

If there's any intimate photos of you that have been posted by them, it's a criminal offence. No doubt you're not the only one they've acted like this towards. Report them to Fab, and if it's causing an issue in your personal life, report it to the police.

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By *oodtimes2992 OP   Man
14 weeks ago

glasgow

Thank goodness no but I’m not as childish and would of dealt with it with an easy no thanks or block

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By *elkieWoman
14 weeks ago

Durham

There’s never any excuse for doxxing or outing someone. Never. Please report to fab.

But also, please don’t be one of those people who sends repeated messages?

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By *oodtimes2992 OP   Man
14 weeks ago

glasgow

Well we all make mistakes

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By *ear_TinkerbellCouple
14 weeks ago

The lost village

Report to FAB OP, this is not okay no matter what. Should report to the police too but they should definitely be banned from here.

Tink

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By *lowupdollTV/TS
14 weeks ago

Herts/Leeds

Fab won’t take any action if it doesn’t affect the site, but you should definitely go to the police.

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By *eautyandthebeast86Couple
14 weeks ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)


"Sadly over the pass few days I discovered that a fellow fabber had posted my profile all over social media as a form of revenge, punishment or just because but I think the reaction is very extreme and over the top.

I understand that on here that couples get a lot of traffic and being a single gent you want to try get notice so sometimes send multiple messages. But what I sent and if any one has seen this post, it’s polite in my eyes.

I actually find it a bit contradictory after the fact that said fabber was on a ln actually swingers program and promotes the lifestyle a lot. Than easily saying no thank you or just a block.

I have had a few people ask if I was ok which I am cause I’m thick skinned but from the comments I have seen some people would rather be sheep than make up their own mind and opinion on someone rather than to read one’s profile, verifications and get to know them.

I have wrote this to try and defend myself from the public backlash that I may or might receive from what this fellow fabber has done by putting my name all over social media for anyone to see for nothing.

Thank you and good luck swinging "

Firstly how did you find out because we don’t know anyone we have met or played with their social media, secondly you have no face pictures so you are not instantly recognisable. Thirdly this is against your wishes and not to be tolerated at all.

We tend to keep it to this and never share social media apart from one gent who’s a genuine friend.

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By *oodtimes2992 OP   Man
14 weeks ago

glasgow

They uploads a post with my profile in the background so can clearly see my name and people sent me links

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By *eautyandthebeast86Couple
14 weeks ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)


"They uploads a post with my profile in the background so can clearly see my name and people sent me links "

On where though I’m confused ? X

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
14 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Sadly over the pass few days I discovered that a fellow fabber had posted my profile all over social media as a form of revenge, punishment or just because but I think the reaction is very extreme and over the top.

I understand that on here that couples get a lot of traffic and being a single gent you want to try get notice so sometimes send multiple messages. But what I sent and if any one has seen this post, it’s polite in my eyes.

I actually find it a bit contradictory after the fact that said fabber was on a ln actually swingers program and promotes the lifestyle a lot. Than easily saying no thank you or just a block.

I have had a few people ask if I was ok which I am cause I’m thick skinned but from the comments I have seen some people would rather be sheep than make up their own mind and opinion on someone rather than to read one’s profile, verifications and get to know them.

I have wrote this to try and defend myself from the public backlash that I may or might receive from what this fellow fabber has done by putting my name all over social media for anyone to see for nothing.

Thank you and good luck swinging

Firstly how did you find out because we don’t know anyone we have met or played with their social media, secondly you have no face pictures so you are not instantly recognisable. Thirdly this is against your wishes and not to be tolerated at all.

We tend to keep it to this and never share social media apart from one gent who’s a genuine friend. "

Social media can be traced from phone numbers or reverse image searching photos

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By *eautyandthebeast86Couple
14 weeks ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)


"Sadly over the pass few days I discovered that a fellow fabber had posted my profile all over social media as a form of revenge, punishment or just because but I think the reaction is very extreme and over the top.

I understand that on here that couples get a lot of traffic and being a single gent you want to try get notice so sometimes send multiple messages. But what I sent and if any one has seen this post, it’s polite in my eyes.

I actually find it a bit contradictory after the fact that said fabber was on a ln actually swingers program and promotes the lifestyle a lot. Than easily saying no thank you or just a block.

I have had a few people ask if I was ok which I am cause I’m thick skinned but from the comments I have seen some people would rather be sheep than make up their own mind and opinion on someone rather than to read one’s profile, verifications and get to know them.

I have wrote this to try and defend myself from the public backlash that I may or might receive from what this fellow fabber has done by putting my name all over social media for anyone to see for nothing.

Thank you and good luck swinging

Firstly how did you find out because we don’t know anyone we have met or played with their social media, secondly you have no face pictures so you are not instantly recognisable. Thirdly this is against your wishes and not to be tolerated at all.

We tend to keep it to this and never share social media apart from one gent who’s a genuine friend.

Social media can be traced from phone numbers or reverse image searching photos "

That’s super worrying..

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
14 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Sadly over the pass few days I discovered that a fellow fabber had posted my profile all over social media as a form of revenge, punishment or just because but I think the reaction is very extreme and over the top.

I understand that on here that couples get a lot of traffic and being a single gent you want to try get notice so sometimes send multiple messages. But what I sent and if any one has seen this post, it’s polite in my eyes.

I actually find it a bit contradictory after the fact that said fabber was on a ln actually swingers program and promotes the lifestyle a lot. Than easily saying no thank you or just a block.

I have had a few people ask if I was ok which I am cause I’m thick skinned but from the comments I have seen some people would rather be sheep than make up their own mind and opinion on someone rather than to read one’s profile, verifications and get to know them.

I have wrote this to try and defend myself from the public backlash that I may or might receive from what this fellow fabber has done by putting my name all over social media for anyone to see for nothing.

Thank you and good luck swinging

Firstly how did you find out because we don’t know anyone we have met or played with their social media, secondly you have no face pictures so you are not instantly recognisable. Thirdly this is against your wishes and not to be tolerated at all.

We tend to keep it to this and never share social media apart from one gent who’s a genuine friend.

Social media can be traced from phone numbers or reverse image searching photos

That’s super worrying.."

Keep a separate phone for fab and don't use any photos on fab that you use elsewhere.

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By *exycarlashane181Couple
14 weeks ago

Stratford upon Avon


"Sadly over the pass few days I discovered that a fellow fabber had posted my profile all over social media as a form of revenge, punishment or just because but I think the reaction is very extreme and over the top.

I understand that on here that couples get a lot of traffic and being a single gent you want to try get notice so sometimes send multiple messages. But what I sent and if any one has seen this post, it’s polite in my eyes.

I actually find it a bit contradictory after the fact that said fabber was on a ln actually swingers program and promotes the lifestyle a lot. Than easily saying no thank you or just a block.

I have had a few people ask if I was ok which I am cause I’m thick skinned but from the comments I have seen some people would rather be sheep than make up their own mind and opinion on someone rather than to read one’s profile, verifications and get to know them.

I have wrote this to try and defend myself from the public backlash that I may or might receive from what this fellow fabber has done by putting my name all over social media for anyone to see for nothing.

Thank you and good luck swinging

Firstly how did you find out because we don’t know anyone we have met or played with their social media, secondly you have no face pictures so you are not instantly recognisable. Thirdly this is against your wishes and not to be tolerated at all.

We tend to keep it to this and never share social media apart from one gent who’s a genuine friend.

Social media can be traced from phone numbers or reverse image searching photos

That’s super worrying..

Keep a separate phone for fab and don't use any photos on fab that you use elsewhere. "

We have a play phone that only connects to WiFi and that is the only number we will ever give anyone

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By *rectus HumongusMan
14 weeks ago

morecambe for the day


"If there's any intimate photos of you that have been posted by them, it's a criminal offence. No doubt you're not the only one they've acted like this towards. Report them to Fab, and if it's causing an issue in your personal life, report it to the police."

Absolutely correct poster needs to keep screenshots of any social media posts by the individual, it is a standalone criminal off.

Also defamation of character.

Do not let the person involved get away with such as he/she has done.

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By *eyeYCouple
14 weeks ago

Nr Leicester

Sympathetic and don't hide..

We had a particularly prolific member bad mouthing us to all who'd listen over a complete misunderstanding.

I wanted to delete our profile and potentially rejoin under a new name it was that inflammatory and insulting.

D stopped me, stating "that is a demonstration of guilt rather than truth".

Don't give them the satisfaction 👍😘

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By *oodtimes2992 OP   Man
14 weeks ago

glasgow


"Sympathetic and don't hide..

We had a particularly prolific member bad mouthing us to all who'd listen over a complete misunderstanding.

I wanted to delete our profile and potentially rejoin under a new name it was that inflammatory and insulting.

D stopped me, stating "that is a demonstration of guilt rather than truth".

Don't give them the satisfaction 👍😘"

Well thank you

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By *enelope2UWoman
14 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

Sadly the sites full of keyboard wishers and wankers who have no other life than fantasy without consequences.

Hope you're ok.

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By *lackxxxwhiteCouple
14 weeks ago

huntingdon

How awful 😞. That’s completely unacceptable behaviour, really hope you’re ok xx

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By *rimson_RoseWoman
14 weeks ago

Tamworth

I’m sorry that that’s happened to you, OP.

Unfortunately, some people never develop the emotional intelligence to deal with disappointment and hardships in life. They resort to punishment and revenge.

The best thing you can do is maintain a dignified silence, although where an offence has been committed I’d certainly consider going to the police.

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By *andA1985Couple
14 weeks ago

Melton Mowbray

I have actually seen the tik toks with your profile posted. While they have made a valid point, you should not be vilified in such a public form outside the 'lifestyle' platforms. I would try apologising and contacting directly to ask them to at least remove your profile name. People who are public facing should not have the opinion that they can talk about other lifestyle people in public forums/media. Also maybe just change your profile pic and name for a little bit of shelter. Unless your liking the extra views lol

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
13 weeks ago

Bristol/ Daventry


"I have actually seen the tik toks with your profile posted. While they have made a valid point, you should not be vilified in such a public form outside the 'lifestyle' platforms. I would try apologising and contacting directly to ask them to at least remove your profile name. People who are public facing should not have the opinion that they can talk about other lifestyle people in public forums/media. Also maybe just change your profile pic and name for a little bit of shelter. Unless your liking the extra views lol"

Exactly this. Sounds like a drama triangle and continuation of “unnecessary drama”.

Most would just change name & photos, learn the lesson about multiple messages and move on so the their day.

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By *witchywomanWoman
13 weeks ago

GLASGOW

Is there a risk you will see them at events?

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
13 weeks ago

O o O oo


"Fab won’t take any action if it doesn’t affect the site "

That is a strange thing to say. Doxxing is against site rules, if there is evidence of it on the site then people don't get any warning at all and are disabled straight away

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 
 

By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
13 weeks ago

O o O oo

To the OP, sending multiple messages is not a reason for someone to do this to you. You shouldn't need to apologise for sending mails so these people take your details down as someone suggested. They have a block button to use if they don't like messages from someone and could have used it.

If there is any proof on the site that someone has done this to you please report as Admin really take this seriously. I would also report it on the site they have put it on and inform the police if needed.

If the police need to get in touch with the site they can do through the contact links.

https://www.fabswingers.com/contact/owners

https://m.fabswingers.com/contact/owners

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
back to top