FabSwingers.com forum: Women (not couples) - how often do guys no-show?

By *elaxed_Fun_Times OP Man
16 weeks ago

Buckingham

One of my friends was telling me she's had a few no-shows and honestly expects it so has a backup plan of what to do for the afternoon / evening each time.

The thing is she is quite attractive so I can't quite believe it. I wanted to ask, how often is it a single guy no-shows to a single woman?

I have only (so far) experienced a lady turning up and not matching her photos by a few years. But I'd have thought a woman no-showing to a man would be by far more common.

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By *izzy.Woman
16 weeks ago

Stoke area

I have experienced a few no shows from guys. One explained because I hadn't replied to his message, he thought I wouldn't turn up. He messaged after I had left home to drive to the location ! Others have just not contacted me, no excuse or apology.

It is frustrating. Now I tend to meet in clubs or for a social and only after chatting for a while, so there is some connection before we get together. I think some guys lose their bottle when it comes to actually meeting someone.

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By *ew year new nameWoman
16 weeks ago

Bolton

I've only had 1 no show. He said he thought I wouldn't show so he didnt.

And one who left the site 3 hours before we were meeting. He's back on now and thinks he's still on with a shout lol

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By *ymbunny99Woman
16 weeks ago

sheerness

I make arrangements to meet guys at clubs and they always blow out on the day or just don’t turn up at all

I had 1 guy say he had left and was on his way and still never turned up, never heard from him again lol

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By *issmorganWoman
16 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I haven't been active for a good while, when I was, I had one man stand me up for a social.

He was well verified too.

When I called him out, he said he'd decided I wasn't his type, I said you could have decided that beforehand.

He soon left fab unbelievably he rejoined on a new profile and asked me too meet again!.Not surprisingly I declined.

Some people are just v strange, they like the thrill of the chase.

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By *elaxed_Fun_Times OP Man
16 weeks ago

Buckingham

"I haven't been active for a good while, when I was, I had one man stand me up for a social.

He was well verified too.

When I called him out, he said he'd decided I wasn't his type, I said you could have decided that beforehand.

He soon left fab unbelievably he rejoined on a new profile and asked me too meet again!.Not surprisingly I declined.

Some people are just v strange, they like the thrill of the chase. "

That's terrible

On your last point yes, maybe some people (men and women) like the attention and that is all this is.

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By *issmorganWoman
16 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

"I haven't been active for a good while, when I was, I had one man stand me up for a social.

He was well verified too.

When I called him out, he said he'd decided I wasn't his type, I said you could have decided that beforehand.

He soon left fab unbelievably he rejoined on a new profile and asked me too meet again!.Not surprisingly I declined.

Some people are just v strange, they like the thrill of the chase.

That's terrible

On your last point yes, maybe some people (men and women) like the attention and that is all this is.

I think so. I'm open that I'm not after new meets now, but I think some do string others along and get off on it.

Perhaps others are attached and can't get away after all. Wherever it is, it's wrong and there seems to be loads of it nowadays, judging by the threads.

I think the man that stood me up, did it partly out of spite. It took me ages to meet him, because I worked ft and looked after one of my parents who was ill.

I was upfront about it all though and made it clear I meet when I can, not all the time.

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By *iss DevilWoman
16 weeks ago

Bedford

I have not arranged any private meets for quite a while, but when I was, I did get some no shows. It's the thrill of the chase and the fantasy for a lot of men. It's a very different story in real life.

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By *ilbert777Woman
16 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

Interesting. I had a no show and wasn't taking it too personally as he knew nothing about me but was wondering why, and of course wondering what I had or hadn't done wrong

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By *iss DevilWoman
16 weeks ago

Bedford

"Interesting. I had a no show and wasn't taking it too personally as he knew nothing about me but was wondering why, and of course wondering what I had or hadn't done wrong"
you haven't done anything wrong, they bottled it.

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By *eri24Woman
16 weeks ago

Bridgend

Not exactly no shows because I hadn't left the house

But in the last month I've made social plans with several men, day and time confirmed, only for them to just go radio silent in the days before

If I don't get confirmation the day of I don't head out

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
16 weeks ago

The bottom of the River Ankh

When I was first on fab I had a lot of no shows, including one guy who stood me up twice in the same day ! 🤣 It used to annoy me so much, these days , most of what I arrange works out . and those that don't show up I don't give a toss about lol

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By *otstuff77Woman
16 weeks ago

to close for comfort

I've had one no-show!

He said his battery had died 😂

I'm no pushover! I kept calling bullshit until he finally told me the truth....

He'd arranged a threesome in the afternoon! (Saying in a round about way that it was my fault from my messages. I'd made him horny and because we were only having a social,he needed to cum 🤦🏻‍♀️ yeah,really!!)

It went on longer than he expected! We wasn't meeting until 10pm!!

His plan was to shower then meet me....

I don't give second chances....😝

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
16 weeks ago

Manchester(ish).

Yeah, I had a situation where we'd made a definite plan of when & where to meet. And on the day they went silent.

I gave them the day to tell me why. Nothing by 1700, so I've deleted the chat and blocked them.

I'm not wasting my divine goddess energy on someone so flaky they can't even make an excuse.

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By *um n raisinWoman
16 weeks ago

taunton

not had a no show for years and i meet often o find it quite easy to suss the wasters out this is for planned meets or spor of the moment..

i never plan more than 7 days ahead most of the time even less and will grill my meet to be and ill add im very picky wont touch newbies wont touch non veri ignore all that are too far away and zero sexual talk must have pics face / body /cock

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By *d8567Man
14 weeks ago

Alsager

Interesting men to blame again again I fear more likely women arranging dates or wasting mens time messaging them then ghosting men or blocking them why not say you are not interested is it so hard I am not talking about a random message

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By *eralDeviantWoman
14 weeks ago

Hull

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By *eralDeviantWoman
14 weeks ago

Hull

I've had several no shows over the years.

Profiles being deleted or blocked minuites before a social.

Someone I'd met at large socials, friends on all social media, used to sell veg to his parents, visit him and show intrest in his kink crafts. He arranged to meet me 3times in a year!! Without knowing it 1st and 3rd were literally on my birthday and the 2nd was valentines day 😂 so at least he made them memorable 😂

This year hit a new low.. Bumped into an old friend on here.. Went to what's app... We chatted a little bit and arranged to meet for a walk (set a date) and after a gig he was playing.

We discussed the walk, chose the route... He didn't reply the night before or on the day.

Touched base between but only to out off convo until after his gig...

When I messaged him on gig night.. He said 'thanks' and replied to nothing else.

A few weeks later he messaged and apologised. Asked if I'd be free the following day for the walk. I said I'd try but it was unlikely as I have health conditions.

When I woke up I messaged.. And I messaged a month later to wish him well.. But he's never bothers to reply to either

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By *lr1974Man
14 weeks ago

Atherstone

If I'm given any chance of a meet then I'd take the chance as it's not often men my age get a chance of meeting so I don't understand men not bothering to show up and as for going silent giving radio silence ffs what a bunch of idiot's

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By *r_magic_tongueMan
14 weeks ago

Hull

Unfortunately this is an all to common issue and a sign of how swinging has changed for the worst over the last 5 - 10yrs.

Too many guys on here have no intention of meeting, they just enjoy the chase and having dirty chat whilst they wank.

Like you ladies, I don't understand them either, especially if they've got a meet set up with a lovely lady. Why not meet her??

So many ladies and couples I've met over the years have echoed exactly what you're all still saying.

There's too many fake profiles, women & couples profiles that are just single guys and people who are dreamers.

All I can suggest ladies is fully vet the guys, make them spend time getting to know you and putting effort in, that way they'll be more invested in wanting to meet you

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By *enelope2UWoman
14 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

99.5% don't show up or ghost. As I ONLY will do an in person first encounter they expect sex as most other women on here fuck on first contact. Despite me explicitly stating I don't they expect that so they waste my time and ghost or no show. Last year it was over 40 with zero resulting in anything legitimate off the ones who I did meet/verify

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By *tlanshiaWoman
14 weeks ago

Chatham

A few times. In my experience guys will arrange meets to try and get kinky talk or more pics under the guise of foreplay etc.

But get cold feet when it comes to it.

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By *uriousCouple20224Couple
14 weeks ago

nottingham

"I've had several no shows over the years.

Profiles being deleted or blocked minuites before a social.

This year hit a new low.. Bumped into an old friend on here.. Went to what's app... We chatted a little bit and arranged to meet for a walk (set a date) and after a gig he was playing.

We discussed the walk, chose the route... He didn't reply the night before or on the day.

Touched base between but only to out off convo until after his gig...

When I messaged him on gig night.. He said 'thanks' and replied to nothing else.

A few weeks later he messaged and apologised. Asked if I'd be free the following day for the walk. I said I'd try but it was unlikely as I have health conditions.

When I woke up I messaged.. And I messaged a month later to wish him well.. But he's never bothers to reply to either "

That's really poor of him. I would just block and move on.

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By *parky123Man
13 weeks ago

Lincoln

This never fails to surprise me. I can honestly say I’ve never not shown up, but again this is another forum thread that show there’s a large population of men making it hard for everyone

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By *ruella DeThrillWoman
13 weeks ago

Essex

I had a few.

Similar to what other ladies have said. Thrill of the chase. Expecting something they weren’t going to get…

No idea.

Not something I’m concerned with anymore though.

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By *hadowSirenWoman
13 weeks ago

Wales

When I came back onto Fab last year, I either had loads of ghostings after making plans or I just met assholes. One week I had made several plans and was ghosted by each person and the only one that didn’t ghost me cancelled after I’d left because he’d ’met someone in the hotel bar and couldn’t turn the offer down’.

My luck changed a little after that and didn’t get as many no shows/ghostings, but sadly I ended up meeting a psycho who has since decided to make my life hell for cutting him out of my life due to his red flag and stalking, controlling behaviours…. Jealousy is a horrible trait….

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By *eautyandthebeast86Couple
13 weeks ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

We have not had any meets outside of clubs for years, we have never been stood up but it’s more we just can’t find what we looking for or when we do we make a plan and it never actually happens. Clubs are the only way forward to stop time wasters and you can see in person if they are a true couple as they don’t have a computer screen to hide behind !

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By *AngelXWoman
13 weeks ago

North East

For me about a third of guys disappear before an arranged social and half of those pop up again later as if nothing happened.

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By *eautyandthebeast86Couple
13 weeks ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

"For me about a third of guys disappear before an arranged social and half of those pop up again later as if nothing happened."

What I don’t get is there are so many threads on the forum of single men not getting meets and complaining that they never get lucky and then the finally get one with someone as lovely as you and then let you down ?

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By *eri24Woman
13 weeks ago

Bridgend

"For me about a third of guys disappear before an arranged social and half of those pop up again later as if nothing happened."

In the last 2 months I've lost count of the amount of men doing this, it's got to be in double figures.

One of them were supposed to see me at 7, heard nothing all day, then popped up at 9 asking me what I was up to 🤦🏼‍♀️

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By *undayGirl 69Woman
13 weeks ago

Coalville

"Interesting. I had a no show and wasn't taking it too personally as he knew nothing about me but was wondering why, and of course wondering what I had or hadn't done wrong"

Its not you. Its them. They'd been lying. Or just lost the bottle. I had one ghost me after talking for ages...this was when I first joined. He came back 3 months later all sheepish, turns out he had a Mrs blah blah. Men wonder why women are cold on here...

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
13 weeks ago

SW1A1AA

In my experience it never happened to me. I never had a no show or cancellation

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By *oko75Man
13 weeks ago

morley

"I make arrangements to meet guys at clubs and they always blow out on the day or just don’t turn up at all

I had 1 guy say he had left and was on his way and still never turned up, never heard from him again lol "

Soo disappointing.. when wait for no one to finally show up

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By *oko75Man
13 weeks ago

morley

Black men always turn up in most cases.. I have never disappointed a lady for meeting. Its always the other way round

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By *ojanMan
13 weeks ago

Bedford

"For me about a third of guys disappear before an arranged social and half of those pop up again later as if nothing happened."
well they must be completely mad to be letting you down i don’t understand it i really don’t

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By *uv2play84Woman
13 weeks ago

Glasgow

Scottish scene is the same. So many keyboard-wankers, time wasters and pic collectors.

I’m the same as many and if I don’t get confirmation I don’t even bother getting ready but it is 90% of the reason I hide my profile for long periods of time as it’s so frustrating!!!!

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By *entleman JayMan
13 weeks ago

Leeds

It’s a bit of a Fab curse.

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