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By (user no longer on site) OP
16 weeks ago

Hi, any tips on how I get someone to read my message? I think I’m a decent catch and women and couples are missing out. Any feedback on my profile would be appreciated as well. Thank you.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
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16 weeks ago

Central

Most people are not mutually compatible with most other people. This most messages are not replied to.

Would you reply to your profile? Is probably the best question to ask yourself. What would women and couples need, if you were in the minority of men who are mutually compatible with them, yo know that you were?

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By *andyrich555Man
16 weeks ago

ub4

Do a local search to see who is nearby... you'll probably discover the ratio is 1 couple, 1 female, 3 TVs, 35 and males.

Work out if your 'straight'... your profile says you are, but your text suggests your bi friendly and looking for bi husbands.

Look at your messages as they appear in your sent box... that's what the recipient reads whilst they decide if its worth opening.

Make your messages personal and about the recipient(s). State why YOU HAVE CHOSEN THEM, and WHAT MAKES THEM SPECIAL TO YOU.

Demonstrate that you have read their profile, address them both, send a face pic

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By *iss DevilWoman
16 weeks ago

Bedford

Your profile does not convey the fact that you believe you're a "catch". Try and explain why, what is that special something that you'd bring to the table that makes you stand out from other men.

Your bio says you're looking for couples yet your "looking for" is women only. As another poster has said, are you sure you are straight if you're looking for bi male couples? Why?

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
16 weeks ago

Tamworth

There’s no one size fits all good message. Aim to show compatible people why you think you’re right for them and they’re right for you.

Avoid obsequious sounding compliments, make it specific to the people you’re messaging and give them something to reply to. I read a lot of messages and am left wondering what I’m supposed to reply to them.

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By *vaRoseWoman
16 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

Your profile bio has a whiff of AI about it. The single photo is rather beige and no different to thousands of other profile pics. Try a little more effort into your shop front and see if that makes a difference

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By *layfullsamMan
16 weeks ago

Solihull

"Hi, any tips on how I get someone to read my message? I think I’m a decent catch and women and couples are missing out. Any feedback on my profile would be appreciated as well. Thank you."

Compare your profile and photos with men in your area and honestly ask yourself if you were a woman or couple would you pick you ?

It’s a tough market and you’ve got to sell the best version of you

Good luck

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By *arleycplWoman
16 weeks ago

Frodsham

"Hi, any tips on how I get someone to read my message? I think I’m a decent catch and women and couples are missing out. Any feedback on my profile would be appreciated as well. Thank you."

Well just have had 8 messages so far this morning and its obvious than none actually read my profile

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By *uliette500Woman
16 weeks ago

Hull

Women will tend to look at your profile before they even open your message.

Ask yourself does your profile show you in your best light. Does it tell the reader what you want and what you can offer.

I would take one look at your profile and delete the message.

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By *harAndBryCouple
16 weeks ago

Downham Market

"I think I’m a decent catch and women and couples are missing out."

No offense intended, but you say on your profile that you're selective for a reason and you say here that we're missing out, yet there's nothing that makes you seem anything other than very, very ordinary and nothing to make you stand out or make us think we're missing anything.

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By *eautyandthebeast86Couple
16 weeks ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

"Hi, any tips on how I get someone to read my message? I think I’m a decent catch and women and couples are missing out. Any feedback on my profile would be appreciated as well. Thank you."

You say straight but then ask for bi couples which is completely contradictory. Profile picture just a torso. Profile text very plain and boring. We would just delete the message or reply with a no thanks. Need to up your game a little OP, not being offensive just feedback.

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By *ockdownlickdownMan
16 weeks ago

paisley

"Women will tend to look at your profile before they even open your message.

Ask yourself does your profile show you in your best light. Does it tell the reader what you want and what you can offer.

I would take one look at your profile and delete the message. "

See .... A woman with her profile can say that..... Different rules 🤣

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By *uncouple153Couple
16 weeks ago

Abergavenny

You can read the first few words without opening the message. Don't waste them

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By *gly duck cdTV/TS
16 weeks ago

middlesbrough

As many have said , the ratio of ladies, couples , TV’s and men are vast and as a man you have to sell yourself a lot more with a true honest profile, bad pictures and any discrepancies just get you put into the bin and they move on to the next message.

Rethink your profile and pictures, read the persons profile your going to message and make it worth opening

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