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By *elphinius OP   Couple
17 weeks ago

East Midlands

Husband and I have been looking on here for single guys for MFM fun. Every time we open our profile to SMs we find a handful that we’d like to meet socially. And then it goes wrong. Soo many ghost, delete their Fab account or just don’t turn up. The most recent was a guy who came for the social, agreed to a play date then stood us up ON THE NIGHT after we had paid for a room.

Seriously guys? So many of you say you have no luck on here, but I’ve never known such a flaky bunch of (non) f***ers. WTH is going on?

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By *siaessex2Couple
17 weeks ago

London

We get plenty of them that just chat big when you say ok meet they run & hide.

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By *njoysfunMan
17 weeks ago

telford

Sadly that’s why those of us who do want to meet get a bad rep across the board.

Peoples circumstances change and things happen sometimes but on the whole it’s the thrill of the chase that people enjoy and when it comes to the actual meet they back out because they get overwhelmed or scared.

Sorry you’ve had to have people back out. We’re not all like that though

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By *ddyerdsThickCockBeastMan
17 weeks ago

Erdington

Thats a shame. Sorry to hear that.

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By *esJulieCouple
17 weeks ago

Blackburn

Looks like we all have the same problem, very frustrating and it makes you lose enthusiasm to meet at all.. So what we do is to use swingers clubs instead.. If your arranged meet doesn't turn up, there are always guys around to use for your pleasure.. Our go to place is the empire cinema club in Huddersfield, it's perfect, always lots of horny guys there, safe, cheap, discreet and no hassle from all the unreliable losers who think they're gods gift.. We always have fun..

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By *ames2602Man
17 weeks ago

whittle

I just wish I could get the chance chat to a couple,nevermind meet. All goes pearshaped.

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By *ucksguy2000Man
17 weeks ago

aylesbury

I’m in a different predicament, I’d like a meet but can’t get one!

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By *ellinever70Woman
17 weeks ago

Ayrshire

If you keep getting let down, it's probably time to reevaluate how you go about things

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By *elphinius OP   Couple
17 weeks ago

East Midlands

Isn’t this what Fab is for? Any suggestions?

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By *alandNitaCouple
17 weeks ago

Scunthorpe


"Isn’t this what Fab is for? Any suggestions?"

We find that Clubs are a great place to meet people, and they've already "shown up" when you chat with them.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
17 weeks ago

You can’t get any attention on here OP As you have blocked guys !!

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By *all me FlikWoman
17 weeks ago

Galaxy Far Far Away

I was in a hotel once and wanted to invite a guy over so go chatting on here and there were four up for it guys. Invited them all on the basis there may be no shows but more than one would have been a bonus, then the excuses started. Result was fab guys nil, hotel barman one.

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By *east with 2 backsCouple
17 weeks ago

near Whalley

We're getting a lot of this kind of crap. Who would have thought it was so difficult to find a single bloke up for fun! Going to keep tabs on this post to see if we can learn something. If we reply to single men, don't be surprised if we ask lots of questions! So many wannabes it would seem, bad mannered and spineless it would appear!

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By *evonrobMan
17 weeks ago

Kingsbridge

Im reading this thread with incredulity! We all know how hard it is to make arrangements but to do so and then bail out is unbelievable. It is soooo hard to get meets with couples so it really does behove us to show up when we do!

Come on guys!

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By (user no longer on site)
17 weeks ago

Wannabe pornstars

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By *avrick180Man
17 weeks ago

Pontypool

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By *ambocoolMan
17 weeks ago

potters bar / Somerset

Must be mad , missing out on these lovely people ..

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By *xplorer1980Man
17 weeks ago

Rochdale

It’s not just single guys either. Couples are also very guilty of this. It’s happened to me more than once.

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By *ocialablechapMan
17 weeks ago

Paphos and also SW UK

Maybe just plain old nervousness?

I think for all of us the first time meeting is the most nervous. Thoughts as "What if they don't look like photos", "what if they simply don't fit once they've met", being outed as a swinger, sometimes worried about potential performance.

But yes, very much frustrating when arrangements result in a no show. Unfortunately members report that it happens.

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By *ewBurtonMan
17 weeks ago

DERBY

Quite sad to see all the comments here, I would think it’s because the guys you were chatting to were all married and playing away, I’m Derby area and love to chat and meet a couple xxx fingers crossed xxx

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By *rs_ReformedWoman
17 weeks ago

somewhere near you

Weve had the same and this is why we only meet in clubs now, at least your guaranteed someone to be there even if you don't play with them and they watch, its still fun

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By *ussy whisperer1000Man
17 weeks ago

west mids

It's very difficult to find genuine people that want to meet especially day meets for us night workers I have meet with a couple of very lovely ladies on here in the past but lately in seems less likely to find proper genuine fabbers

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By *orgetmeKnotCouple
17 weeks ago

Rainham, Kent

Yeh, we literally got stood up last Saturday too, annoyingly we were convinced he was going to show as he said he was at a shop and asked what wine we'd like. Then nothing....

It's really difficult because there seems to be no obvious signs as to who is likely to stand you up. We've been let down by guys with good profiles and plenty of verifications...but when it comes to it...nothing. not even a polite message to say they can't make it.

So clubs only for us now with anyone new.

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By *ercuryMikeMan
17 weeks ago

Newtown / Oswestry

Well It would be a hardship but I’ll volunteer to step in at short notice if anyone gets let down

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By *lossomTreeWoman
17 weeks ago

Ipswich

I've had the same experiences but with couples.

Unfortunately fantasists and time wasters are endmeic across the whole of Fab.

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By *ussy whisperer1000Man
17 weeks ago

west mids


"I've had the same experiences but with couples.

Unfortunately fantasists and time wasters are endmeic across the whole of Fab. "
. very true

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By *aomilatteCouple
17 weeks ago

Midlands

This is why clubs are so popular for Couples and singles. Real players who are already there.

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By *easejasmineWoman
17 weeks ago

Wymondham norfolk

I have had that problem to,men talk the talk but dont walk the walk. Dont understand men

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By *eyeYCouple
17 weeks ago

Nr Leicester

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By *en_Dover79Man
17 weeks ago

Oswaldtwistle

Can't tar us all with the same brush

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By *en_Dover79Man
17 weeks ago

Oswaldtwistle


"I've had the same experiences but with couples.

Unfortunately fantasists and time wasters are endmeic across the whole of Fab. "

Same

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By *en_Dover79Man
17 weeks ago

Oswaldtwistle


"We're getting a lot of this kind of crap. Who would have thought it was so difficult to find a single bloke up for fun! Going to keep tabs on this post to see if we can learn something. If we reply to single men, don't be surprised if we ask lots of questions! So many wannabes it would seem, bad mannered and spineless it would appear!"

Wow so local hello

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By *eyeYCouple
17 weeks ago

Nr Leicester

"I've had the same experiences but with couples.

Unfortunately fantasists and time wasters are endmeic across the whole of Fab. "

That!

Not reserved to single guy's as has been said already, and we find guy's to be pretty decent by and large.

Though by the fact men make up the vast majority here, proportionally they'll be more case's reported, however with the Fab hierarchy, if any guy here posts a similar thing about ladies or couples there'd be a public crucifixion or tumble.. 🤷🤣😘

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By *evlishduncMan
17 weeks ago

north suffolk south norfolk

I am disappointed to read this thread. There are genuine guys, with experience and credibility out there who have plenty to offer but who are being let down by the actions (or inaction) of others.

I do have limited time to meet because of work and caring for aged parents, but when I am free, I really am free to meet.

I don’t know what the answer is …. Just keep kissing frogs, I guess!

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By *andystick72Man
17 weeks ago

kinky Street

It must be hard for yourselves, trying to find a needle in a haystack ,of who you are attracted to and arrange with confidence that they will turn up ,

When I arrange I go by veris ,the vibe but again its all about trust ,

When you get 5 tale a peek at my profile/ veris

I may be of interest to yourselves

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By *arryandhedgehogCouple
17 weeks ago

Essex

Every day there are forum posts from men crying about how they cant get meets but they will never understand the sheer level of dross women or couples have to look through if they want to meet men. If you haven't seen it you can't understand it.

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By *over of ladiesMan
17 weeks ago

cannock


"You can’t get any attention on here OP As you have blocked guys !!"

Maybe a click bait headline to get views.

If a playdate was arranged i wouldn't cancel without a good reason,but I would be contacting to let them/her know,I wouldn't just not turn up.

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By *eyeYCouple
17 weeks ago

Nr Leicester


"You can’t get any attention on here OP As you have blocked guys !!

Maybe a click bait headline to get views.

If a playdate was arranged i wouldn't cancel without a good reason,but I would be contacting to let them/her know,I wouldn't just not turn up."

The OP specifically stated that they had opened their filters to single guys.

Evidently closed them again, we do exactly the same as and when we are looking for a guy so don't think that's a fair comment.

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By *over of ladiesMan
17 weeks ago

cannock


"You can’t get any attention on here OP As you have blocked guys !!

Maybe a click bait headline to get views.

If a playdate was arranged i wouldn't cancel without a good reason,but I would be contacting to let them/her know,I wouldn't just not turn up.

The OP specifically stated that they had opened their filters to single guys.

Evidently closed them again, we do exactly the same as and when we are looking for a guy so don't think that's a fair comment."

Doesn't have to be a fair comment but it is how some people work,not saying they are like that but we just dont know

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By *eyeYCouple
17 weeks ago

Nr Leicester

Correct we don't know, it was your suggestion though.

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By *irsSubCouple
17 weeks ago

Stockton

We just meet them at clubs, sorts the wheat from the chaff, and if they aren't out cup of tea in person there's plenty others to choose from on the night

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By (user no longer on site)
17 weeks ago

DeyeY replied to my comment then blocked me you weapons

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By *usty Hotwife 1977Couple
17 weeks ago

Hudds


"We get plenty of them that just chat big when you say ok meet they run & hide."

That’s been our experience over the years on here. Always invite at least double the number of men you want for a GB because at least half will flake & those who turn up bring other issues.

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By *izandpaulCouple
17 weeks ago

merseyside

We find FAB as a 121 meeting site is horrendous, too many timewasters.

We tend to use clubs, parties, socials and swingers holidays.

FAB is great finding all these venues.

As others say, why mix with timewasters when clubs and socials have no timewasters and at a social the almost guarantee of a lovely night which may lead to fun at a later date.

Seems a win, win for us.

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By *manteeCouple
17 weeks ago

Manchester

Its a good idea to have a look at their verifications if they have any, always a good indicator. Guys who are constantly changing their profile names and contacting us time and again are always a waste of our time

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By *arriedfun69Man
17 weeks ago

Bedford

Shame so many spoil it for the rest of us ..it’s a up hill struggle getting meets on here without blokes messing about

Good luck with future meets x

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By *awpleasureMan
17 weeks ago

Sutton Coldfield


"It’s not just single guys either. Couples are also very guilty of this. It’s happened to me more than once. "

100% I'm on my worst ever run with couples. 5 on the bounce recently.

Not turning up at the hotel they said they were staying in, another insisting i pay for the hotel but won't give out phone number or share face pic, ghosting, blocking.

Certainly isn't just SM

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By *abioMan
17 weeks ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Husband and I have been looking on here for single guys for MFM fun. Every time we open our profile to SMs we find a handful that we’d like to meet socially. And then it goes wrong. Soo many ghost, delete their Fab account or just don’t turn up. The most recent was a guy who came for the social, agreed to a play date then stood us up ON THE NIGHT after we had paid for a room.

Seriously guys? So many of you say you have no luck on here, but I’ve never known such a flaky bunch of (non) f***ers. WTH is going on?"

Why are you opening up your profile

If you know exactly what you are after, why don’t you do the looking, why aren’t you being the hunters rather than waiting on the mountain to come to you?

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By *awpleasureMan
17 weeks ago

Sutton Coldfield


""I've had the same experiences but with couples.

Unfortunately fantasists and time wasters are endmeic across the whole of Fab. "

That!

Not reserved to single guy's as has been said already, and we find guy's to be pretty decent by and large.

Though by the fact men make up the vast majority here, proportionally they'll be more case's reported, however with the Fab hierarchy, if any guy here posts a similar thing about ladies or couples there'd be a public crucifixion or tumble.. 🤷🤣😘

"

Fully agree and sorry to hear about the shattered ankle. What a start to a new year! Ouch!!

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By *inky PerkyCouple
17 weeks ago

Narnia

In our experience it's the unverified ones who are the biggest time wasters.

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By *abioMan
17 weeks ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Shame so many spoil it for the rest of us ..it’s a up hill struggle getting meets on here without blokes messing about

Good luck with future meets x"

The “spoil it for the rest of us” line is a kop out answer!

You don’t dictate how well I may or may not do on here…. I am not influential in how you do

That is an easy excuse in i am doing everything right and it’s everyone else’s fault

Sometimes a bit of self reflection in how can i be better and what can I do to make that happen is in order

Mirrors.. great to look in to once in a while

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By *i_guy37Man
17 weeks ago

Oxford


"We just meet them at clubs, sorts the wheat from the chaff, and if they aren't out cup of tea in person there's plenty others to choose from on the night "

I agree this is the way to go. Once you know they're genuine (or not!) you can set up a private meet for a later date.

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By *eyeYCouple
17 weeks ago

Nr Leicester


"DeyeY replied to my comment then blocked me you weapons "

Err, no we didn't.

We responded to 'Van Mans' comment on your comment and for the record you were already blocked as we do with folk who's forum comments we find unnecessarily antagonistic, it must have been a previous post of yours we blocked you from and evidently just.

Have a great day x

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By *eyeYCouple
17 weeks ago

Nr Leicester


""I've had the same experiences but with couples.

Unfortunately fantasists and time wasters are endmeic across the whole of Fab. "

That!

Not reserved to single guy's as has been said already, and we find guy's to be pretty decent by and large.

Though by the fact men make up the vast majority here, proportionally they'll be more case's reported, however with the Fab hierarchy, if any guy here posts a similar thing about ladies or couples there'd be a public crucifixion or tumble.. 🤷🤣😘

Fully agree and sorry to hear about the shattered ankle. What a start to a new year! Ouch!!"

Thanks, he did it last year, but a long recovery 🤷😔

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By *ongandharderMan
17 weeks ago

Rotherham


"Husband and I have been looking on here for single guys for MFM fun. Every time we open our profile to SMs we find a handful that we’d like to meet socially. And then it goes wrong. Soo many ghost, delete their Fab account or just don’t turn up. The most recent was a guy who came for the social, agreed to a play date then stood us up ON THE NIGHT after we had paid for a room.

Seriously guys? So many of you say you have no luck on here, but I’ve never known such a flaky bunch of (non) f***ers. WTH is going on?"

Not al of us or like that I myself am respectful understand that if I say I'm going to meet i meet

And know that people have to plan put effort in

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By *heekyCharmMan
17 weeks ago

Colne

I’ve had the opposite happen to me. Responded to meet requests, get chatting…then nothing.

I just think communication is a big grey area in society as a whole anyway because we’re not really taught how to communicate effectively!

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By (user no longer on site)
17 weeks ago

Buffoons

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By *istressdandsubtCouple
17 weeks ago

caterham

We find it hard to meet the right single bi gguy but we d8d have a guy contact us recently . Who sauid our pictures were out od date . Which in fairness they are but we havent changed that much. Als9 wad not realy up for a social i mean even in a club you always chat to someone before playing . And h3 thought he would turn up fuck and go. C'mon realky. So i the male decided you know what i cant be arsed to meet him . It just didnt feel right . Funnynthing is where we asked to meet him we met another guy who we had a cracking might with and the verification speaks volumes

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By *ink buddiesCouple
17 weeks ago

birmingham

In our Experience, Single guys jump to the conclusion that we are meeting after just a couple of messages. Then start to only address the female. This really gets our back up.

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By *tandardIssueNerdMan
17 weeks ago

Telford

And here I am struggling to even get a response back most of the time, let alone have a chance at bailing on a meet.

Last month I was chatting to the female half of the couple on Telegram. All going VERY well (maybe a bit too well), and then just after Christmas completely ghosted me, with no explanation. I even messaged them on here to see what was going on, and got ghosted again.

So there's plenty of couples/women on here that seemingly mess about.

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By (user no longer on site)
17 weeks ago

Like others have said, it gives us genuine guys a bad rep...even more sad as I'm not far and looking for couples to play with

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By *azz EdgeCouple
17 weeks ago

Silverstone

We’ve seen the same trend over the past year. And Sunday evenings are worst. Bored guys wasting genuine peoples times. We need a solution as it’s killing Fabs.

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By *niformed professionalMan
17 weeks ago

Exeter

I am definitely meeting if get chance, but seems a lot of people get taken in by smooth talking instead of honesty.

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By *ames2602Man
17 weeks ago

whittle

I would like to be in the catagory of the guys who will turn up. But just can't get that couple to meet.

Genuine vers bi guy in the north west near and around preston. Any couples or ladies around this area willing to give me that chance. I await with open arms

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By *aughty But nice..Man
17 weeks ago

Staffs

It's does astound me when guys chicken out

Just take that leap of faith and turn up to a meet, if when you get to the meet it's not for just he polite and say no thank you, but to ghost or back out at the last minute especially when couples and ladies have gone out of there way to meet you is simply stupid

No wonder us single guys get such a bad reputation on here

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By *oiluvfunMan
17 weeks ago

Birmingham


"This is why clubs are so popular for Couples and singles. Real players who are already there. "

And yet the clubs I've visited, were filled with couples "We're not interested in single guys thanks", and rarely a single female present....

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By *oiluvfunMan
17 weeks ago

Birmingham

I was ghosted by a single female on Wednesday. Hot to trot to meet, now vanished off the face of the Earth

After over 13 years of using Fab, I can honestly say I hold a 100% attendance record for arranged meets. Single females and couples letting ME down though; plenty....

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By *eachesandtatCouple
17 weeks ago

Lancashire

We've recently opened up to meeting a single guy and can't believe how hard it is to find one. We narrowed it down to one and within the 24hrs before the meet he just stopped replying to messages wasted about 3 days of our life planning it. We then had a free night and booked a hotel and sent a couple more messages to SG's and one of the replys we got back of a man

probably 25miles away was ''it's a bit far for a * * * * isn't it!! WTF?? We are speaking to a gent now who is actually married and he has been the most honest one from the start and hasn't messed us around, currently trying to pin a date down.

Also we have spoken to guys and they have just demanded pics of us straight away which is really really off putting. To the single guys in the Lancashire/Greater manc area if you've got a big cock 8'' + aren't a bell sprout are honest and reliable, doesn't smoke* like a few pics of

ours and I will get back to you as messages aren' open to sg's. Cheer Tat.

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By *ames2602Man
17 weeks ago

whittle


"We've recently opened up to meeting a single guy and can't believe how hard it is to find one. We narrowed it down to one and within the 24hrs before the meet he just stopped replying to messages wasted about 3 days of our life planning it. We then had a free night and booked a hotel and sent a couple more messages to SG's and one of the replys we got back of a man

probably 25miles away was ''it's a bit far for a * * * * isn't it!! WTF?? We are speaking to a gent now who is actually married and he has been the most honest one from the start and hasn't messed us around, currently trying to pin a date down.

Also we have spoken to guys and they have just demanded pics of us straight away which is really really off putting. To the single guys in the Lancashire/Greater manc area if you've got a big cock 8'' + aren't a bell sprout are honest and reliable, doesn't smoke* like a few pics of

ours and I will get back to you as messages aren' open to sg's. Cheer Tat. "

Wish I could message you.

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By *askedmeetMan
17 weeks ago

reading

I show up 100% of the time and manners and a good vibe, no point in wasting people's time

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By *askedmeetMan
17 weeks ago

reading


"We've recently opened up to meeting a single guy and can't believe how hard it is to find one. We narrowed it down to one and within the 24hrs before the meet he just stopped replying to messages wasted about 3 days of our life planning it. We then had a free night and booked a hotel and sent a couple more messages to SG's and one of the replys we got back of a man

probably 25miles away was ''it's a bit far for a * * * * isn't it!! WTF?? We are speaking to a gent now who is actually married and he has been the most honest one from the start and hasn't messed us around, currently trying to pin a date down.

Also we have spoken to guys and they have just demanded pics of us straight away which is really really off putting. To the single guys in the Lancashire/Greater manc area if you've got a big cock 8'' + aren't a bell sprout are honest and reliable, doesn't smoke* like a few pics of

ours and I will get back to you as messages aren' open to sg's. Cheer Tat. "

Liked a few of your pics as well

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By *spire2writeandEnjoyMan
17 weeks ago

Pontypridd


"Husband and I have been looking on here for single guys for MFM fun. Every time we open our profile to SMs we find a handful that we’d like to meet socially. And then it goes wrong. Soo many ghost, delete their Fab account or just don’t turn up. The most recent was a guy who came for the social, agreed to a play date then stood us up ON THE NIGHT after we had paid for a room.

Seriously guys? So many of you say you have no luck on here, but I’ve never known such a flaky bunch of (non) f***ers. WTH is going on?"

That’s very bizarre.

As it goes, I’m actually learning how strangely common it is.

Currently part of a planned party next month, and the amount of guys dropping out now is pretty wild.

I guess there’s a big chunk here who like the idea and fantasy more than they like following through.

Sorry you’ve experienced it. Truth be told, it’s also annoying for us guys who do wanna get out and meet. Understandably, makes couples and girls lose a lot of trust.

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By *spire2writeandEnjoyMan
17 weeks ago

Pontypridd


"We’ve seen the same trend over the past year. And Sunday evenings are worst. Bored guys wasting genuine peoples times. We need a solution as it’s killing Fabs. "

I think there should maybe be some kind of strike system.

Like you no show once, red mark, and you need to explain a reason to the site owners, and if you do it again, instant ban. No creating a new profile.

Reddit somehow manages to do it. So it is possible.

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By *ewBurtonMan
17 weeks ago

DERBY

I do find also that there seams to be always something not quite right , never mind it’s all just a game xx

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By *elphinius OP   Couple
17 weeks ago

East Midlands


"You can’t get any attention on here OP As you have blocked guys !!

Maybe a click bait headline to get views.

If a playdate was arranged i wouldn't cancel without a good reason,but I would be contacting to let them/her know,I wouldn't just not turn up.

The OP specifically stated that they had opened their filters to single guys.

Evidently closed them again, we do exactly the same as and when we are looking for a guy so don't think that's a fair comment."

We DID have our profile open to SMs, and after deleting the dross “hi how ru’s”, we had about10 guys shortlisted. 5 came back to us, and we arranged socials. 3 stood us up, including one AFTER a social when we had booked a hotel, and 2 disappeared off fab.

You can see why it has massively pissed me off! I just want a decent MFM with FWB potential-not too much to ask or so I thought. But we’ve had much more success with unicorns. Sigh.

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By *abulincsCouple
17 weeks ago

near a bridge

In our experience guys just want to turn up fuck and go like a free professional lady once we say about meeting for a drink to start off with whether at home or hotel ghosting no show are absolutely rife

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By *orkmanflirt69Man
17 weeks ago

Livingston

Most of them probably enjoy the chat and get off.

No doubt probably have a wife and family and just can't get out or find an excuse to get away.

Just my opinion

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By *rectus HumongusMan
17 weeks ago

morecambe for the day


"Husband and I have been looking on here for single guys for MFM fun. Every time we open our profile to SMs we find a handful that we’d like to meet socially. And then it goes wrong. Soo many ghost, delete their Fab account or just don’t turn up. The most recent was a guy who came for the social, agreed to a play date then stood us up ON THE NIGHT after we had paid for a room.

Seriously guys? So many of you say you have no luck on here, but I’ve never known such a flaky bunch of (non) f***ers. WTH is going on?"

May I ask had you got the blokes mobile? If asked for my number I sometime give early on but only if thd one asking has photos on the profile and never do if there has not been back and forth messages

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By *he MuffinmanMan
17 weeks ago

Forest of Dean, Gloucestershire

Sorry to hear of your bad experiences.

I can assure you that we’re not all like that as I’m very genuine etc

Love meeting new people for socials or otherwise and really doing understand why guys do this.

That said I’ve been ghosted by plenty of couples/Fems over the years. But, as yet never been let down on the day

So, frustrating to be tarred with the same brush

Stay safe and happy Fabbing

X

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By *ion Tamer 84Man
17 weeks ago

Barrowford

Probably had some Dutch courage before realising theyre out of their depth.

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By *weetHotwifeCouple
17 weeks ago

Northampton

And this is why we only meet at Chams or PDI Gran Canaria, because you can't get let down face to face, unless they don't turn up and then in those environments there are plenty more fish in the sea so to speak. However we do have 1 local bbc meet from fab a year or so ago who has become a regular

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By *weetHotwifeCouple
17 weeks ago

Northampton

Just to add our Chams meets never let us down

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By *aptain obviouslyMan
17 weeks ago

Manchester


"Just to add our Chams meets never let us down "

Love Chams. I hope to get there on Fridays more often

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By *east with 2 backsCouple
17 weeks ago

near Whalley


"Well It would be a hardship but I’ll volunteer to step in at short notice if anyone gets let down "

Lmao excellent

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By *ongandharderMan
17 weeks ago

Rotherham

Don't have tons of meets but I make sure I keep my word and am respectful. And allways turn up if I say I am going to

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By *r SproutMan
17 weeks ago

M54

Hello couples that keep being let down. Check my profile and verifications. Get in touch if interested

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By *ung-stallionMan
17 weeks ago

Manchester

I guess some lads are all talk, when it comes down to business they bottle it, might be insecurity, I'd happily turn up

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By *hitelotusMan
17 weeks ago

london

Nothing ! We are good people !

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By *ichaelsmyMan
17 weeks ago

douglas

there is just no understanding some people on here as to how they treat others

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By *ature male OldhamMan
17 weeks ago

Royton nr Oldham

Couples and single females are just as bad ( well some are ) I've actually reached the point of sitting waiting for people who have promised to be there within the hour...

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By *ockdownlickdownMan
17 weeks ago

paisley

It's just a guess.... I imagine lots of straight guys get off stalking and arranging to meet but just aren't into men? That would fit, right?

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By *arvest84Man
17 weeks ago

brigg

well , i try ,

but not much luck ,

but, hey ho , you never know lol.

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By *unboy197077Man
17 weeks ago

Manchester M46


"I've had the same experiences but with couples.

Unfortunately fantasists and time wasters are endmeic across the whole of Fab. "

Yep me too. Stood up/ghosted on the day twice recently, once in the afternoon of the meet and the other time just as I was getting in the car to drive the 20 mins to the meet. Despite being well verified genuine and respectful I get treated with utter contempt a lot of the time. Im fast losing faith in the scene let alone the site

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By *unboy197077Man
17 weeks ago

Manchester M46


"We've recently opened up to meeting a single guy and can't believe how hard it is to find one. We narrowed it down to one and within the 24hrs before the meet he just stopped replying to messages wasted about 3 days of our life planning it. We then had a free night and booked a hotel and sent a couple more messages to SG's and one of the replys we got back of a man

probably 25miles away was ''it's a bit far for a * * * * isn't it!! WTF?? We are speaking to a gent now who is actually married and he has been the most honest one from the start and hasn't messed us around, currently trying to pin a date down.

Also we have spoken to guys and they have just demanded pics of us straight away which is really really off putting. To the single guys in the Lancashire/Greater manc area if you've got a big cock 8'' + aren't a bell sprout are honest and reliable, doesn't smoke* like a few pics of

ours and I will get back to you as messages aren' open to sg's. Cheer Tat. "

I would love to meet and have liked some of your pics

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By *ean34Man
17 weeks ago

Cleveland

So many fuck it up for us genuine guys and make what’s already a hard job near impossible. I think there should be more measures in place for single blokes because what’s in place is failing us good lads massively. I completely understand the other side of the coin too as I have had couples profiles in the past. Frustrating

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By (user no longer on site)
17 weeks ago

Agree with what they say. I do meet up and have played plenty of times with couples but is usually in clubs since is difficult to meet through here. Most of my messages get ignored even after sending a polite one. Which is totally fine. But it's the way fab is

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By *enalliginMan
17 weeks ago

Wool

Wow I’d not let you down if offered a meet… stunning

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By *igBeardyDanMan
17 weeks ago

Bilston

I only meet in clubs its so much easier to chat with people plus if your in a club you know their there for a good social maybe a little play too.

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By *oung GunnerMan
17 weeks ago

Cleckheaton

I would love to meet a lovely lady but it what scares me most is because I have a non working bladder and have to wear bags all the time & its the thought of someone new seeing it & its a huge thing for me .

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By *LiamMan
17 weeks ago

Midlands

Time wasters are available in both genders

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By *eedof1Man
17 weeks ago

Wolverhampton


"We get plenty of them that just chat big when you say ok meet they run & hide."
may because you haven't meet the right one anyway

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By *eedof1Man
17 weeks ago

Wolverhampton


"I was in a hotel once and wanted to invite a guy over so go chatting on here and there were four up for it guys. Invited them all on the basis there may be no shows but more than one would have been a bonus, then the excuses started. Result was fab guys nil, hotel barman one."
you're right but not all guys behave like that some of couples too disappointed too believe me

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By *eedof1Man
17 weeks ago

Wolverhampton


"It’s not just single guys either. Couples are also very guilty of this. It’s happened to me more than once. "
god bless you for saying the truth

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By *eautifully TwistedWoman
17 weeks ago

Telford

It's the nature of fab unfortunately, you just have to block and move along.

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By *eedof1Man
17 weeks ago

Wolverhampton


"This is why clubs are so popular for Couples and singles. Real players who are already there. "
both couple and single disappointed but me i had never disappoint anyone before if I promise to show i will for sure

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By *omRachCouple
17 weeks ago

Wirral


"Husband and I have been looking on here for single guys for MFM fun. Every time we open our profile to SMs we find a handful that we’d like to meet socially. And then it goes wrong. Soo many ghost, delete their Fab account or just don’t turn up. The most recent was a guy who came for the social, agreed to a play date then stood us up ON THE NIGHT after we had paid for a room.

Seriously guys? So many of you say you have no luck on here, but I’ve never known such a flaky bunch of (non) f***ers. WTH is going on?"

EXACTLY THAT happened to us 6 months ago. His loss!

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By *ewbfbcplCouple
17 weeks ago

Reading


"In our experience guys just want to turn up fuck and go like a free professional lady once we say about meeting for a drink to start off with whether at home or hotel ghosting no show are absolutely rife

"

We're pretty much looking for exactly that, turn up and play straight away, and we have as much trouble getting guys to show up as everyone else has said on here already. That also includes guys who have many meet verifications on here too.

Clubs are difficult for us with our circumstances, so we mostly do last minute or a day or so before and see if they show. We try and not let it get to us anymore, in having the attitude of if they show up its a bonus but we'll still have a fun time anyway.

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By *east with 2 backsCouple
17 weeks ago

near Whalley

Whether singles/couples etc In this day and age of communication, and as adults, all we ask for is that if you change your mind, have a better offer, or have no intention to meet but want some fun/sexy banter, that’s fine, just say so then we aren’t left in limbo and feeling a knob! (Or rather not feeling a knob 😂)

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By *ojanMan
17 weeks ago

Bedford

I keep asking but I must be from mars or somewhere maybe one day wishful thinking but it’s common that people let you lot down there must be on medication or they have lost the ability to perform lol

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By *xourlittlesecretxxCouple
17 weeks ago

NW

This has also happened to us on numerous occasions.

We are like you guys scratching our heads as to why. x

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By *aldaVelvetTV/TS
17 weeks ago

London

I feel I need to share another perspective. Not one person I've met with on this site or fet has failed to show up pretty much right at the appointed time.

I do chat with people beforehand and my last threesome with Nightpatrol and friend was in the diary for six weeks before the event. My next one in a couple of weeks has been live for two months. You get a feel for potential meetings that are built on sand.

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By *erlicanMan
17 weeks ago

Newbury


"Husband and I have been looking on here for single guys for MFM fun. Every time we open our profile to SMs we find a handful that we’d like to meet socially. And then it goes wrong. Soo many ghost, delete their Fab account or just don’t turn up. The most recent was a guy who came for the social, agreed to a play date then stood us up ON THE NIGHT after we had paid for a room.

Seriously guys? So many of you say you have no luck on here, but I’ve never known such a flaky bunch of (non) f***ers. WTH is going on?"

Believe me, it's not all one way. I'm in a difficult position and know some find reason to be censorious, but twice now I've found what seems ideal and then been ghosted when I tried to actually meet. My first ever potential meet simply disappeared and returned a year later!

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By *oiluvfunMan
17 weeks ago

Birmingham


"In our experience guys just want to turn up fuck and go like a free professional lady once we say about meeting for a drink to start off with whether at home or hotel ghosting no show are absolutely rife

"

In my experience, couples just want a ‘stunt cock’ for the wife, at a moment’s notice, to drop whatever they’re doing, run round to their hotel because she’s had enough alcohol to say “Oh go on then”, wham, bam, and can you leave now please…..

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By *iseekingbiCouple
17 weeks ago

N ireland and West Midlands

Stick to bi couples. We show up

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By *obra1986Man
17 weeks ago

stoke

Some mess it up for the others. I’m always happy to meet couples especially for a social. If you don’t click some will say but others find it hard to be honest and are shy. Some will say I’m abit too honest but it’s the best way on here I find. Met some lovely people in clubs and had a good laugh. Very hard to start a convo on here though especially when there’s thousands of single men. I sometimes think it’s myself or how I put my profile across or it’s just me in my pics

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By *elphinius OP   Couple
17 weeks ago

East Midlands


"Husband and I have been looking on here for single guys for MFM fun. Every time we open our profile to SMs we find a handful that we’d like to meet socially. And then it goes wrong. Soo many ghost, delete their Fab account or just don’t turn up. The most recent was a guy who came for the social, agreed to a play date then stood us up ON THE NIGHT after we had paid for a room.

Seriously guys? So many of you say you have no luck on here, but I’ve never known such a flaky bunch of (non) f***ers. WTH is going on?

Why are you opening up your profile

If you know exactly what you are after, why don’t you do the looking, why aren’t you being the hunters rather than waiting on the mountain to come to you? "

Crass comment. How do you know I’m not already doing this? (I am btw!)

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By *arand25Couple
17 weeks ago

Crowborough

We've had quite our share of timewasters, especially at first when we joined here. It was really frustrating just trying to find a guy for MFM & had three bail out last minute. Finally found a decent local guy, we got there in the end.

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By *iHungMan
17 weeks ago

Blackpool

I’ve done quite a few MMF with couples, few verifications still but some gone as people have left the site. Looking for more in Blackpool & surrounding area.

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By (user no longer on site)
17 weeks ago


"Result was fab guys nil, hotel barman one."

Haha love it

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By *iHungMan
17 weeks ago

Blackpool


"Stick to bi couples. We show up "

Would love to meet a bi couple

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By *heekyCharmMan
17 weeks ago

Colne


"Stick to bi couples. We show up

Would love to meet a bi couple "

I’ve met a couple of bi couples on here.

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By *rasshopper201Man
17 weeks ago

kendal


"Husband and I have been looking on here for single guys for MFM fun. Every time we open our profile to SMs we find a handful that we’d like to meet socially. And then it goes wrong. Soo many ghost, delete their Fab account or just don’t turn up. The most recent was a guy who came for the social, agreed to a play date then stood us up ON THE NIGHT after we had paid for a room.

Seriously guys? So many of you say you have no luck on here, but I’ve never known such a flaky bunch of (non) f***ers. WTH is going on?"
hang on you’ve blocked any single guys from messageing you I would and will travel from the lakes to have fun with both of you check me out I always turn up

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By *rasshopper201Man
17 weeks ago

kendal


"We're getting a lot of this kind of crap. Who would have thought it was so difficult to find a single bloke up for fun! Going to keep tabs on this post to see if we can learn something. If we reply to single men, don't be surprised if we ask lots of questions! So many wannabes it would seem, bad mannered and spineless it would appear!"
well I’d travel to meet both of you check my profile I’m 100% genuine always turn up massage me for a photo if your interested

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
17 weeks ago

Coventry


"Husband and I have been looking on here for single guys for MFM fun. Every time we open our profile to SMs we find a handful that we’d like to meet socially. And then it goes wrong. Soo many ghost, delete their Fab account or just don’t turn up. The most recent was a guy who came for the social, agreed to a play date then stood us up ON THE NIGHT after we had paid for a room.

Seriously guys? So many of you say you have no luck on here, but I’ve never known such a flaky bunch of (non) f***ers. WTH is going on?"

I'm the opposite - I have a long-term track record of reliability and all things positive, but although I do really well in a club I now find myself ignored a hundred per cent of the time on Fab.

I think the bottom line is that Fab was such a more honest, genuine and friendly place before Covid. Couples, women and men sent messages and received messages, but no longer. The sire is swamped with single guys who aren't genuinely swingers, who make little effort, aren't ever going to meet and are just using the site as a 'w**k-bank'.

On the flip side a lot of good guys come and go due to a perpetually empty inbox, having tried to jump through all the hoops demanded of them, only to be ignored. I've known several brilliant guys simply walk away after a period. For me personally there's no way I'm messaging anyone now - it's simply not worth the time and effort. I stay here to message friends I already have, or who I meet at a club and to keep my verifications for those who might be interested in a club, but who want to check me out beforehand.

We all know women (and couples) get bombarded with messages and can never answer all, but guys are also not going to continue making the effort for nothing either.

In the end nothing is going to change - you'll continue to get the wasters, but hopefully you'll find the odd diamond among them. Those guys are well worth the wait, if you can be bothered to make an effort for them too.

Good luck!

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
17 weeks ago

Coventry


"Sadly that’s why those of us who do want to meet get a bad rep across the board.

Peoples circumstances change and things happen sometimes but on the whole it’s the thrill of the chase that people enjoy and when it comes to the actual meet they back out because they get overwhelmed or scared.

Sorry you’ve had to have people back out. We’re not all like that though "

Very well said!

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
17 weeks ago

Coventry


"It’s not just single guys either. Couples are also very guilty of this. It’s happened to me more than once. "

Yep, same! Drove all the way home to Coventry from Cardiff for a meet with a couple, only for them not to show up.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
17 weeks ago

Coventry


"This is why clubs are so popular for Couples and singles. Real players who are already there. "

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By *heekyCharmMan
17 weeks ago

Colne


"It’s not just single guys either. Couples are also very guilty of this. It’s happened to me more than once.

Yep, same! Drove all the way home to Coventry from Cardiff for a meet with a couple, only for them not to show up."

That is brutal…

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
17 weeks ago

Coventry


""I've had the same experiences but with couples.

Unfortunately fantasists and time wasters are endmeic across the whole of Fab. "

That!

Not reserved to single guy's as has been said already, and we find guy's to be pretty decent by and large.

Though by the fact men make up the vast majority here, proportionally they'll be more case's reported, however with the Fab hierarchy, if any guy here posts a similar thing about ladies or couples there'd be a public crucifixion or tumble.. 🤷🤣😘

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By *ornucopiaMan
17 weeks ago

Bexley


"I just wish I could get the chance chat to a couple,nevermind meet. All goes pearshaped."

Maybe not every couple is looking for a pear shaped one!

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
17 weeks ago

Coventry


"Every day there are forum posts from men crying about how they cant get meets but they will never understand the sheer level of dross women or couples have to look through if they want to meet men. If you haven't seen it you can't understand it."

....and therein lies a big issue. Plenty of single guys who are poor, but also plenty of single women and couples who are equally as disrespectful, just in the opposite way.

High value men will do all the right things, but will only bang their heads against a wall for so long, then leave or change their approach, leaving the women and couples with the guys who are fantasists, wasters and who just get a kick out of the messaging.

Personally I'll never waste my time messaging a single woman or couple on Fab again - ever. It's just not worth the effort.

There are guys who aren't worth giving the time of day to of course, but those who have self-worth will simply walk away after jumping through all the hoops demanded of them, if the result is perpetual tumble.

I now go to quality clubs and have great success, without wasting time messaging people I know won't reply. Other genuinely committed guys will find what works for them elsewhere. I can see the day when the couples and single women have pretty much only the wasters left to choose from, plus a very small quantity of top class men who are massively in demand.

Having started my Fab journey as part of a couple I know where you're coming from, but the blame isn't just on single guys.

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By *oxycouple28Couple
17 weeks ago

bexley

We must be lucky then....every meet we have arranged with a single guy has resulted in a meet. Some guys more than once!

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
17 weeks ago

Coventry

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
17 weeks ago

Coventry


"We must be lucky then....every meet we have arranged with a single guy has resulted in a meet. Some guys more than once!"

Brilliant! Proves beyond doubt that there are still some really great guys out there. Generally it's single guys who cop the blame for pretty much everything, but I know some absolutely class acts!

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By *elphinius OP   Couple
17 weeks ago

East Midlands

Well I’m glad that some people on here have good experiences with SMs, and yes ofc it’s not all guys-but IME I’ve been stood up and let down by about 80% of SMs. I’m just looking for a couple of male FWBs in my local area who want to play with couples. It shouldn’t be so difficult!

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By *ussy whisperer1000Man
16 weeks ago

west mids


"Well I’m glad that some people on here have good experiences with SMs, and yes ofc it’s not all guys-but IME I’ve been stood up and let down by about 80% of SMs. I’m just looking for a couple of male FWBs in my local area who want to play with couples. It shouldn’t be so difficult!"
. Where about are you if your anywhere near Bromsgrove I'm more than happy to come along

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By *eepitsimple1Man
16 weeks ago

London

Sorry to hear about the let-downs — that’s never fun. Single guy here, genuine and happy to meet if we connect.

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By *ondiego85Man
16 weeks ago

nottingham

Fab has many more dreamers than it has serious people

By the way, I’m in Nottingham and I’m serious, so consider me

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By *agneto.Man
16 weeks ago

Bham

Happens both ways. That's why I tend to meet at clubs these days because if they cancel or something comes up for them I can still go there on my own and have a good night regardless. Bonus if they do show up.

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

well i can’t message you …perhaps you could message me ?👍😀

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

i’m in Spondon and always available , please take a minute to look at my bio .

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By *en_Dover79Man
16 weeks ago

Oswaldtwistle


"Every day there are forum posts from men crying about how they cant get meets but they will never understand the sheer level of dross women or couples have to look through if they want to meet men. If you haven't seen it you can't understand it.

....and therein lies a big issue. Plenty of single guys who are poor, but also plenty of single women and couples who are equally as disrespectful, just in the opposite way.

High value men will do all the right things, but will only bang their heads against a wall for so long, then leave or change their approach, leaving the women and couples with the guys who are fantasists, wasters and who just get a kick out of the messaging.

Personally I'll never waste my time messaging a single woman or couple on Fab again - ever. It's just not worth the effort.

There are guys who aren't worth giving the time of day to of course, but those who have self-worth will simply walk away after jumping through all the hoops demanded of them, if the result is perpetual tumble.

I now go to quality clubs and have great success, without wasting time messaging people I know won't reply. Other genuinely committed guys will find what works for them elsewhere. I can see the day when the couples and single women have pretty much only the wasters left to choose from, plus a very small quantity of top class men who are massively in demand.

Having started my Fab journey as part of a couple I know where you're coming from, but the blame isn't just on single guys. "

Exactly this

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By *ucianpoundCouple
16 weeks ago

Cap d’Agde, France

Gave up on the single guy meet years ago after getting pissed off with all the excuses.

Fact is that most single guys are not single.

Most have a wife/girlfriend not in the lifestyle so getting meet-time is near impossible.

If genuinely single they often come with a host of other problems.

We have plenty of 3somes mostly with an extra guy but they invariably come from swinger couples we’ve already played 4 with.

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By *iltshirefunmaleMan
16 weeks ago

Devizes


"In our experience guys just want to turn up fuck and go like a free professional lady once we say about meeting for a drink to start off with whether at home or hotel ghosting no show are absolutely rife

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How disappointing. I prefer the bit of chat and drink first too. There are times for a quickie but mostly, I prefer it where we all get on!

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By *nexplored kinksMan
16 weeks ago

Oldham


"We've recently opened up to meeting a single guy and can't believe how hard it is to find one. We narrowed it down to one and within the 24hrs before the meet he just stopped replying to messages wasted about 3 days of our life planning it. We then had a free night and booked a hotel and sent a couple more messages to SG's and one of the replys we got back of a man

probably 25miles away was ''it's a bit far for a * * * * isn't it!! WTF?? We are speaking to a gent now who is actually married and he has been the most honest one from the start and hasn't messed us around, currently trying to pin a date down.

Also we have spoken to guys and they have just demanded pics of us straight away which is really really off putting. To the single guys in the Lancashire/Greater manc area if you've got a big cock 8'' + aren't a bell sprout are honest and reliable, doesn't smoke* like a few pics of

ours and I will get back to you as messages aren' open to sg's. Cheer Tat. "

I also wish that I were able to message you

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By *iHungMan
16 weeks ago

Blackpool


"We've recently opened up to meeting a single guy and can't believe how hard it is to find one. We narrowed it down to one and within the 24hrs before the meet he just stopped replying to messages wasted about 3 days of our life planning it. We then had a free night and booked a hotel and sent a couple more messages to SG's and one of the replys we got back of a man

probably 25miles away was ''it's a bit far for a * * * * isn't it!! WTF?? We are speaking to a gent now who is actually married and he has been the most honest one from the start and hasn't messed us around, currently trying to pin a date down.

Also we have spoken to guys and they have just demanded pics of us straight away which is really really off putting. To the single guys in the Lancashire/Greater manc area if you've got a big cock 8'' + aren't a bell sprout are honest and reliable, doesn't smoke* like a few pics of

ours and I will get back to you as messages aren' open to sg's. Cheer Tat. "

Definitely interested, have veri’s with couples.

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By *elphinius OP   Couple
16 weeks ago

East Midlands

To all the guys saying they’d like to message me-thank you, I do appreciate it. If you aren’t close to Nottingham however then there’s little point. And if you are close then LMK here and I’ll take a look at your profile.

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By *elphinius OP   Couple
16 weeks ago

East Midlands


"We've recently opened up to meeting a single guy and can't believe how hard it is to find one. We narrowed it down to one and within the 24hrs before the meet he just stopped replying to messages wasted about 3 days of our life planning it. We then had a free night and booked a hotel and sent a couple more messages to SG's and one of the replys we got back of a man

probably 25miles away was ''it's a bit far for a * * * * isn't it!! WTF?? We are speaking to a gent now who is actually married and he has been the most honest one from the start and hasn't messed us around, currently trying to pin a date down.

Also we have spoken to guys and they have just demanded pics of us straight away which is really really off putting. To the single guys in the Lancashire/Greater manc area if you've got a big cock 8'' + aren't a bell sprout are honest and reliable, doesn't smoke* like a few pics of

ours and I will get back to you as messages aren' open to sg's. Cheer Tat.

Definitely interested, have veri’s with couples. "

You also have a hidden profile!

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
16 weeks ago

Coventry


"To all the guys saying they’d like to message me-thank you, I do appreciate it. If you aren’t close to Nottingham however then there’s little point. And if you are close then LMK here and I’ll take a look at your profile."

How close is close? Coventry ok? X

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By *esYesOMGYes!Man
16 weeks ago

Didsbury

I could say the same for couples on here no showing but I honestly suspect it’s down to single guys again, just on this occasion it’s single men pretending to be couples for the titillation.

In the years I’ve been on and off here it does appear to be getting worse. I’ve met some wonderful folk through Fab so I hang in there hoping.

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By *needit888Man
16 weeks ago

Eastbourne

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By *needit888Man
16 weeks ago

Eastbourne


"[Removed by poster at 25/01/26 14:26:13]"

Simply i ditto that

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By *ockybukMan
16 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

Wish i could get the chance to meet a couple or single lady

Problem is a lot of single guys ruin it for the genuine decent ones with their attitudes in clubs and socials and the way they are , A lot of them are fantasists too which is why they dont show up

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
16 weeks ago

Coventry


"I could say the same for couples on here no showing but I honestly suspect it’s down to single guys again, just on this occasion it’s single men pretending to be couples for the titillation.

In the years I’ve been on and off here it does appear to be getting worse. I’ve met some wonderful folk through Fab so I hang in there hoping. "

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By *oucancallmeAlMan
16 weeks ago

east anglia

I dont think its any harder for couples than singles. The age old problem of no shows and fantasists. Really think fab should have some kind of rating/league table

Such as

Name invites no show show

Id win on goal difference

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

You're right.

They give the rest of us a bad name.

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By *elphinius OP   Couple
16 weeks ago

East Midlands

I’m sure you would. Shame you’re so far away!

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By *ing swing 71Man
16 weeks ago

Stretford

_east with 2 backs. Do you remember Monroes in Whalley? Great times.

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By *en_Dover79Man
16 weeks ago

Oswaldtwistle


"_east with 2 backs. Do you remember Monroes in Whalley? Great times. "

Monroes was great harwood next town up from Whalley. if we are thinking of the same place

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By *ice_genuine_guyMan
16 weeks ago

around

Mad isn’t it that single guys complain about not getting meets….. then don’t turn up. Seems the majority ruin it for the rest of us x

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By *andomessexguyMan
16 weeks ago

Essex

Im based in essex would love a couple to show me some new experiences.

Watching, cuck, MMF, events. Im pretty open.

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By *ohnne15Man
16 weeks ago

newcastle

Look up _ommy 2w from burton

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By *ommy 2wMan
16 weeks ago

burton on trent

Hi I'm Tommy from Burton-On-Trent can travel. I'm clean respectful and hung. Love to have some sexy fun

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By *ommy 2wMan
16 weeks ago

burton on trent


"Husband and I have been looking on here for single guys for MFM fun. Every time we open our profile to SMs we find a handful that we’d like to meet socially. And then it goes wrong. Soo many ghost, delete their Fab account or just don’t turn up. The most recent was a guy who came for the social, agreed to a play date then stood us up ON THE NIGHT after we had paid for a room.

Seriously guys? So many of you say you have no luck on here, but I’ve never known such a flaky bunch of (non) f***ers. WTH is going on?"

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By *ommy 2wMan
16 weeks ago

burton on trent

Wow I'd love to meet you both your so hot

Tommy

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By *east with 2 backsCouple
16 weeks ago

near Whalley


"_east with 2 backs. Do you remember Monroes in Whalley? Great times. "

Great Harwood definitely… showing your age now!!

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago


"Isn’t this what Fab is for? Any suggestions?"
always look for good verifications with profiles you can check up .

I've seen some single men and so called females (sick males pretending to be females ) post fake profiles and verifications but its so obvious if you do a little checking first sign is not photo verified and no other profiles on the false couple or female its a joke to them sadly its not for the rest of us better luck for the future all the best Tom x

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By *rasshopper201Man
16 weeks ago

kendal


"It’s not just single guys either. Couples are also very guilty of this. It’s happened to me more than once.

Yep, same! Drove all the way home to Coventry from Cardiff for a meet with a couple, only for them not to show up."
I drove all the way from the lakes to an address which no one lived at in south Birmingham

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By *areDevil99Man
16 weeks ago

West Midlands

Surprised at that, thought most guys would jump at the chance.

Make sure they're meet verified first I guess

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By *jonesMan
16 weeks ago

south west


"I could say the same for couples on here no showing but I honestly suspect it’s down to single guys again, just on this occasion it’s single men pretending to be couples for the titillation.

In the years I’ve been on and off here it does appear to be getting worse. I’ve met some wonderful folk through Fab so I hang in there hoping. "

I "discovered" by a chance conversation and someone spotting the same photo ...a couple that had other couple and single profiles (nothing like each other) and they used them to organise meets ...and we're giving the same reasons on the different profiles for last minute cancellations...

Just be wary of assuming it's just single guys driving all the fake profiles ...

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By *andystick72Man
16 weeks ago

kinky Street

I have no luck ,no verifications ,

Any help please

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By *ad Bod AdonisMan
16 weeks ago

Birmingham

Incredible that anyone would do that.If I ever got a meet through here I'd think I'd won the lottery. I certainly wouldn't back out.

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By *horskin!Man
16 weeks ago

you

Omg these guys must be crackers meets are like gold dust for me

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By *elphinius OP   Couple
16 weeks ago

East Midlands


"I have no luck ,no verifications ,

Any help please "

Well you could start by replying to private messages you get sent.

And also, rather than ask for advice on my thread-please start one of you own, piggybacking is rude.

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By *jonesMan
16 weeks ago

south west


"Husband and I have been looking on here for single guys for MFM fun. Every time we open our profile to SMs we find a handful that we’d like to meet socially. And then it goes wrong. Soo many ghost, delete their Fab account or just don’t turn up. The most recent was a guy who came for the social, agreed to a play date then stood us up ON THE NIGHT after we had paid for a room.

Seriously guys? So many of you say you have no luck on here, but I’ve never known such a flaky bunch of (non) f***ers. WTH is going on?"

Lovely profile and pics...

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By *e and him 2021Couple
16 weeks ago

stoke on trent

Over the years we’ve had some great meets with single guys but it’s slowly started to get worse over the last few years, no shows when arranged to meet then then excuses when you ask others.

But the last 2 guys we’ve met have been great and restored a little faith in fab. Xx

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