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By *educatedGent OP   Man
20 weeks ago

London & Midlands

Hi all,

I could do with some advice on how to respond to a wink from another member.

We seem to go through a cycle every 6 months or so where we wink at each other and then I send a message then she doesn't reply. The messages I've sent haven't been anything crazy (e.g. meet now?) and I've sent face photos (no cock photos) since I don't have any public ones on my profile.

The first time this happened, she winked at me after probably seeing I looked at her profile.

From her short bio, I seem to match what she's looking for but I can understand if she's changed her mind after I've sent photos.

We've now just started this cycle for the third (maybe fourth) time where I winked at her a few days ago, she's looked and my profile and winked back.

Are winks not a good indicator I could at least expect a response to a message? I'm starting to think that maybe my previous messages were a little too tame and maybe I should send something more X-rated this time...any advice on how to proceed would be appreciated.

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By *sm265Woman
20 weeks ago

Perthshire

Personally, I dont really look at winks and I never send them, so Im probably not an expert on winking etiquette. However, having seen many posts similar to this one over the years, there is no difinitive answer, people use and interpret winks in all sorts of different ways.

Maybe base your latest message around your confussion over the ongoing game of wink tag and see if she responds?

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By *aomilatteCouple
20 weeks ago

Midlands

Don't waste your time looking at their profile and bother responding to them again. If they want to meet you they'll message you.

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By *eroLondonMan
20 weeks ago

Mayfair

I won't even begin to suggest what I think about winks. A perfunctory gesture. Each to their own.

However, this form of breadcrumb'ing is new to me. Move on, OP. Focus on something more viable.

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By *estinysswingersCouple
20 weeks ago

Worsley

We don’t respond to a lot of winks. A message is preferred.

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

If someone winks at me and I'm interested I'll wink back to see if they message and reply if they do.

If she isn't replying to your messages it's probably worth just blocking and moving on.

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

I don't think I get many winks I never really look to be honest

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By *eroLondonMan
20 weeks ago

Mayfair


"If someone winks at me and I'm interested I'll wink back to see if they message and reply if they do."

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We shall have to try this curious method of flirtship.

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By *issmorganWoman
20 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

If i were you id stop playing along with her. If you've messaged and send face pics and she hasn't responded, leave her to it op.

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By *erPleasureHisRulesCouple
20 weeks ago

Barnsley

We don't respond to winks, we are looking for single guys and there are loads so they have to stand out by sending a decent message. We think winks are lazy.

As for the ops situation I would leave it, if she was interested she would message you.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
20 weeks ago

East Sussex

It seems to me she's winking back in much the same way she would respond with 'hi' to a passer by who acknowledged her in the street, with no expectation of further discourse.

I would say to anybody who feels confused about any form of communication on fab that anything other than a positive, in writing response in unambiguous terms is a 'not interested'. It's not a 'maybe' or ' I'll get back to you'.

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By *inkPomPomWoman
20 weeks ago

Isle of Man

I would just move on

Winks are a strange one, i tend to just delete them

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By *illyboy4Man
20 weeks ago

Maidstone

Winks can be the start of something new, a lot of people don’t like them but I like to think of them as a polite hello

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By *tandardIssueNerdMan
20 weeks ago

Telford

What I've gathered from the forums (and profiles) over time is that single men like winks, and that the majority of couples and women really don't like them.

Maybe such a feature should be removed if everyone keeps arguing that it's pointless?

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By *19nehMan
20 weeks ago

Kirkby-In-Ashfield, Nottingham

I like this, its like a little icebreaker

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By *ycleguy300Man
20 weeks ago

telford

I do like a wink as a polite hello… but I think winking to women and couples gets missed as they seem to get so many messages it gets lost unfortunately.

Love to get more winks though

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