FabSwingers.com forum: Why be mean?

By *laire Fox OP TV/TS
21 weeks ago

Hinckley

I wonder why most people compliment me, but women always put me down.

Just had a woman say my thighs are too muscly. But my waist line is better than hers?

I said it’s because I control my diet and work out every day, suggested she try it.

I now feel I’ve been equally as diminutive?

She walked off calling me an attention seeker.

It’s made me feel a bit sad.

Can we just be nice to each other? Please xx

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By *aven RedWoman
21 weeks ago

who knows, but it's not raining x

Even when someone is mean to me, I try to be nice back, even when I have to bite my tongue not to be mean back to them. It confuses them and sometimes pisses them the hell off when they don't get a rise out of me. I give random people compliments and try to go about my life being positive. Theres far too much negativity in life x

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By *oochie DeLiciousWoman
21 weeks ago

Wolvo

Some folk have sad lives and try to get control back by being arseholes to others. I try to tell myself that, when encountering those sorts of people.

Being kind isn't difficult ❤️

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By *ampireLoveMan
21 weeks ago

Essex

Maybe she didn’t realise she was being mean. A lot of people come off a certain way due to a not understanding the power of tone and words.

People are mean for all different reasons. Some are to ensure they still feel important and relevant. Some, purely because they don’t realise they are.

Don’t let them get you down!

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By *ink vixenCouple
21 weeks ago

Medway

The criminalisation of corrective violence in our society has made the arseholes feel that they can always get away with being arseholes.

I still enjoy surprising one every now and again.

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By *enelope2UWoman
21 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

It's character and it's a keyboard..most hide behind one because they don't have the first

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By *eo PublicMan
21 weeks ago

Lincoln

Some people are just arseholes, maybe she felt threatened by you (you look incredible to me). I've even had it as a guy, some guy messaged me telling me all the things he like to do with me. As soon as I said he wasn't my type he went off on one saying as I'd got a veri from a certain person I obviously didn't care about my sexual health and he wouldn't touch me with a bargepole. Now so queer as folk.

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By *a1970Man
21 weeks ago

East cork

There's always going to be a ass hole somewhere... Just ignore it. Move on. Easier said than done I know but just say fuck it

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
21 weeks ago

Herts/Leeds

Sorry what was the mean thing?

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By *ymbunny99Woman
20 weeks ago

sheerness

I always get told I’m too masculine to be a female and too feminine to be a male, some people just enjoy making others feel like crap, most of the time they are projecting

When I get told I have too much muscle it is normally from someone who doesn’t have any

Haters will always hate, it makes them feel better about their own shitty lives

Keep shining and being you

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
20 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

"I wonder why most people compliment me, but women always put me down.

Just had a woman say my thighs are too muscly. But my waist line is better than hers?

I said it’s because I control my diet and work out every day, suggested she try it.

I now feel I’ve been equally as diminutive?

She walked off calling me an attention seeker.

It’s made me feel a bit sad.

Can we just be nice to each other? Please xx"

Lol! Odd woman who said that to you.

Mostly I ignore and ignore those types of comments.

If I say anything, I tell them things like "well I've always had thick thighs since childhood and I've always had a pot belly since childhood. the GP says I'm healthy and that's all that matters really in the grand scheme of things."

I think that woman is jealous of you and wanted to bring you down a peg. Ignore or use "I" statements and then go do something fun and nice for yourself.

Keep being you for you.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
20 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

"I always get told I’m too masculine to be a female and too feminine to be a male, some people just enjoy making others feel like crap, most of the time they are projecting

When I get told I have too much muscle it is normally from someone who doesn’t have any

Haters will always hate, it makes them feel better about their own shitty lives

Keep shining and being you "

"Haters will always hate,"

Facts. I'm too old to give a damn. Lol! I can go full Karen on them if necessary, but 99% of the time it isn't necessary, and I need to conserve my limited perimenopausal autism spoons.

So until the GP chases me down with some Obesity-related meds, I think I'm fine with my fat arse and round belly and 279lbs linear leg press. Lol!

Goes the other way too don't let anyone tell you that you are too skinny unless the GP voices concern. It's no one else's business once you are an adult. Skinny jeans was something I could never wear with comfort and when I had an A cup, not wearing a bra was bliss! So being slim and thin definitely has it's perks!!

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
20 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

"Sorry what was the mean thing? "

Some silly women don't think women should have muscles.....

Those are the ones who become frail little old ladies breaking bones and they can't squat on a toilet or a dick. Lol!

My gran was never a frail little old lady until 6 month before her death. My mum's 75 and has more energy ( i have more strength) and could probably slap the shit out of me if I behaved badly Lol! They never went to the gym but they always had muscle just from housework, stirring a giant family pot, gardening and lifting furniture around.

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By *henicanidoMan
20 weeks ago

Kings Lynn

They look great to me.

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By *essTTWoman
20 weeks ago

Birmingham

"I wonder why most people compliment me, but women always put me down.

Just had a woman say my thighs are too muscly. But my waist line is better than hers?

I said it’s because I control my diet and work out every day, suggested she try it.

I now feel I’ve been equally as diminutive?

She walked off calling me an attention seeker.

It’s made me feel a bit sad.

Can we just be nice to each other? Please xx"

You'll never know why, best to just ignore and move along.

Some women are just catty for no reason, try and keep away from them for your own sanity xxxx

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
20 weeks ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

The ole Chinese proverb springs to mind,"fuc um".

You be you! Be the best you, you can be. Be happy and contented.

that is all that matters...

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
20 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

"They look great to me."

Exactly. Other woman has got to be jealous that OP looks better than her. Lol!

Nice hair, nice clothes, nice makeup, nice nails and NICE LEGS.

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By *erigold300Couple
20 weeks ago

Doncaster

Maybe they’re just awkward?

I know I’m an awkward person and sometimes say the wrong thing, but never with mean intent.

I have to practice giving compliments because I’ll fuck it up and then beat myself up for it.

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By *eaponisedAutismTV/TS
20 weeks ago

Preston

The only homophobia I've had in my life has come from women, men at worst are indifferent but women... Ive been called disgusting, a paedo, a sex offender etc. I really don't understand it, even on here when they say they want to meet up with TV/TS they reply with nasty messages

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By *avrick180Man
20 weeks ago

Pontypool

Thats what some are like on here iv had it aswell been called names and all that rubbish aswell

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By *onyHoveMan
20 weeks ago

North East

There's never anything to be gained by being mean.

Anyway...happy new year all x

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