FabSwingers.com forum: Not getting any responses or messages

By *ick9828 OP Man
23 weeks ago

watford

So I’ve been here awhile and am just not sure what I’m doing wrong?

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By *uenevereWoman
23 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

Probably nothing, but your profile could be better.

Most women read profiles and will simply not respond if it's uninspiring.

I'm afraid it's difficult on here for everyone. Best to send messages sparingly, well worded and then delete. If you get a response, then great, if not don't let it get to you.

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
23 weeks ago

Manchester(ish).

What were your expectations when you joined OP?

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By *OTSOSUBTLEMan
23 weeks ago

DUBLIN

"So I’ve been here a while and am just not sure what I’m doing wrong?

The first thing you are doing wrong is posting about it.

The next thing you have to realise is that messages can be unread, so it's hard to know if they've been read or not. If it's been read and you get no reply, that is a reply.

There is no automatic right to a reply when you send a message. Don't take it personally and message with no expectations that you will get a reply. If you do, sometimes it can be a no thanks, sometimes you'll message for several exchanges, then you've done nothing wrong, but you get no further replies. Sometimes, once in a blue moon, you'll get to arrange a phone call or even a meet and even that is no guarantee of success. There are about 1000 men on here for every womman, so they have a huge pool from which to choose to engage with or not, as is the case.

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By *ick9828 OP Man
23 weeks ago

watford

Good conversation and lots of fun?

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By *risxbrisxMan
23 weeks ago

Bristol

Post a clearer face shot and get verified genuine.

You've only been here 5 months.. give it time, write good messages - standout, most women here get 100s of messages a day.

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
23 weeks ago

Manchester(ish).

Even though most women get messages, the vast majority (99%) of them are utter rubbish.

So don't think just because you send something to someone they're going to respond.

Fwiw. Get out and meet people, go to events, socials, newbie nights at clubs.

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By *adia kochTV/TS
23 weeks ago

Derbyshire

Site must be at least 80% blokes. As a CD i get tons of traffic from randy blokes, God only knows how many messages "real" girls get.

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By *ick9828 OP Man
23 weeks ago

watford

"Even though most women get messages, the vast majority (99%) of them are utter rubbish.

So don't think just because you send something to someone they're going to respond.

Fwiw. Get out and meet people, go to events, socials, newbie nights at clubs.

Thank you Kate I will look into that and see what’s local to me. I appreciate the feedback

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By *eroLondonMan
23 weeks ago

Mayfair

Guenevere and Sinister_Spinster have pretty much summed it up. I would also consider polishing up your profile a little, OP. Hopefully it all works out for you. 🌿

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By *lenderfoxMan
23 weeks ago

Leeds

Obviously can't comment on the messages you're sending but as others have said, you could work on your profile and expand on it - it feels a bit generic.

It wouldn't harm to add a few more photos.

Think about how people will perceive you and how to stand out

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
Forum Mod
23 weeks ago

Central

Possibly nothing. Realistic expectations are essential.

Most people are not mutually compatible with most other people. You should expect nothing, because of this. How many people you contact, how appropriate your contact is and how appropriate your profile is for these people are essential aspects of results here.

Read some of the very many daily posts from men who complain of no progress and the copious tips and advice given them.

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By *CExeCouple
23 weeks ago

Hong-Kong/Exeter

You have just one photo. Your bio is well written, but ultimately says nothing about you. While you're photo verified, getting on the cams and getting verified by folks on there will help.

Keep an eye on the local meets page, and if you can get along to a club, post up that you're going as a newbie and people will likely say hello.

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By *ick9828 OP Man
23 weeks ago

watford

Thank you JCExe I have been looking into a few

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By *enAdams87Man
23 weeks ago

Halifax

You need a lot of luck and patience to go with a nicely worded creative message and nice photos to go with it. Don’t take it personally, single women get bombarded with messages.

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By *oiluvfunMan
23 weeks ago

Birmingham

"So I’ve been here awhile and am just not sure what I’m doing wrong?

Grow a pair of tits. A woman in my local updates got 400+ messages after only 2 days in here…..👍

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By *ick9828 OP Man
23 weeks ago

watford

Lol 😂

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By *immy 1968Man
23 weeks ago

Hessle

"So I’ve been here awhile and am just not sure what I’m doing wrong?

Grow a pair of tits. A woman in my local updates got 400+ messages after only 2 days in here…..👍"

🤪

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By *igladAndLulahCouple
23 weeks ago

South East

You have one picture which isn’t clear, very little information about you or what you’re looking for and no verifications. Basically in a place where you need to stand out, you don’t.

Not sure what your messages are like but that could also be a problem. My best advice to you is get to a club, or a club social, or a local social event. Meet some people, get some verifications displayed and you jump ahead of about 95% of the single men profiles on here.

Also don’t moan about about not getting any responses, it’s not a good look

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

Any advice on my profile would be appreciated. Don't hold back cheers

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
23 weeks ago

Newry

Improve your visual offering and ditch the AI-written bio - I want to read what you've got to say, get a glimpse of the person behind the profile through your own words, not the generic nonsense that has been churned out by ChatGPT and the like.

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

Assume that wasn't to me ?

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By *ick9828 OP Man
23 weeks ago

watford

"Improve your visual offering and ditch the AI-written bio - I want to read what you've got to say, get a glimpse of the person behind the profile through your own words, not the generic nonsense that has been churned out by ChatGPT and the like. "

Thank you for the advice I’ll delete it now

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By *ctionSandwichCouple
23 weeks ago

Newcastle under Lyme

As a couple the singles we have met we approached them. They just happened to have put themselves as 'add me to meet me today' via the Meets/Events part of the site.

As a couple, if we were to look for a single, that's how we'd do it. Why waste your time pinging messages into the ether? Just cast the line out and wait for a bite. You might not ever get one, but it's less effort than what you're doing now.

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

Just asking for help come on folks

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By *ick9828 OP Man
23 weeks ago

watford

"Just asking for help come on folks "

I feel like this is the roast of me in here 😂

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By *otPoshorBecksCouple
23 weeks ago

London

Thank you for the advice I’ll delete it now

What I just read was still generic. Why the dark photo? Why the discretion? Why weekday daytime meets?

It’s all very obvious without being blunt. But I am sure you’re other half will recognise your pic.

If you’re not in a relationship or married why all the cloak and dagger? Why no weekend meets?

Explain more in your profile xx

Sam xx

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By *atureandfilthyCouple
23 weeks ago

Watford

A man in a shirt and tie that’s outrageous.

You need to sell yourself which can also be discreet

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By *cnugatugMan
23 weeks ago

Chatham

I'm guessing you was expecting to join and be inundated with offers straight away. Sadly that isn't how fab works

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By *ustus696969Couple
23 weeks ago

Southampton

Everyone is in same boat

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By *aandLoCouple
23 weeks ago

Southampton

"Just asking for help come on folks "

Are you serious?

Single guy whose profile is not him but a women giving him head. One line in your bio.

Instant delete/ignore for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

Thanks for the advice oh no wait you just pissed all over it with not one suggestion. Sorry but are you serious? I hope when you ask someone for help they don't do that to you.

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By *ldbutrandyMan
23 weeks ago

West Midlands

Popcorn at the ready...( toffee flavoured)

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By *aandLoCouple
23 weeks ago

Southampton

"Thanks for the advice oh no wait you just pissed all over it with not one suggestion. Sorry but are you serious? I hope when you ask someone for help they don't do that to you. "

I'm saying what has been said on so many previous threads when guys ask for profile advice: write a decent bio and don't fill your photos up with cock shots and yourself in, or hanging out of women. There's loads of good advice across loads forum threads, use it, put a bit of effort in.

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

I had a very elequent bio and I was told by several women that women here hate sexual things off the bat. I dunno lads the photos are not faces due to kids and after that I just showed what I am into kink wise. I'll keep trying. Maybe this would be my new bio. Fuck it it will be. Fair play

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By *rad110Man
23 weeks ago

rayliegh

"Even though most women get messages, the vast majority (99%) of them are utter rubbish.

So don't think just because you send something to someone they're going to respond.

Fwiw. Get out and meet people, go to events, socials, newbie nights at clubs. Some people are not very good at writing depends what they do for a job half the time

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By *ustus5555Woman
23 weeks ago

Nottingham

I'll be honest and tell you how it goes for me.

Message in inbox. :- if your lucky I might read.

If I read and it's an interesting Message. :- I'll have a look at the profile.

If the profile look interesting

:- I'll possibly reply depending on my mood.

Now I'm not suggesting for one moment that that's every woman on here, far from it. That's just the way I used to look when I let single guys message. ( blocked now.)

There's nothing wrong with your bio, but if you were to ask I would suggest a few more pics of the arty type that you have up. Avoid the usual dick pic in public and only send if asked.

Wish you all the best.

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By *rad110Man
23 weeks ago

rayliegh

Most women on here are meeting men well out of there league because they have so much choice not much different from clubbing

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By *penminded7Man
23 weeks ago

Ebbw Vale

Hardly get any responses from women.

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

I'd say lads could take up darts and master the game hit a nine darter. Log back in and still they wouldn't have a response 😂

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By *rad110Man
23 weeks ago

rayliegh

"I'd say lads could take up darts and master the game hit a nine darter. Log back in and still they wouldn't have a response 😂"
so true

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By *ick9828 OP Man
23 weeks ago

watford

I did not mean to star all of this omg 😂😅

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By *igladAndLulahCouple
23 weeks ago

South East

"I'll be honest and tell you how it goes for me.

Message in inbox. :- if your lucky I might read.

If I read and it's an interesting Message. :- I'll have a look at the profile.

If the profile look interesting

:- I'll possibly reply depending on my mood.

Now I'm not suggesting for one moment that that's every woman on here, far from it. That's just the way I used to look when I let single guys message. ( blocked now.)

There's nothing wrong with your bio, but if you were to ask I would suggest a few more pics of the arty type that you have up. Avoid the usual dick pic in public and only send if asked.

Wish you all the best.

Very sound advice

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By *harAndBryCouple
23 weeks ago

Downham Market

"Hardly get any responses from women."

That's because you're falling foul of the most basic, easiest to implement filter of them all.

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By *harAndBryCouple
23 weeks ago

Downham Market

"So I’ve been here awhile and am just not sure what I’m doing wrong?

Add more pics. Let's say I want to buy a car. There's a handful of them that meet my criteria, one has fifteen pics showing the car from different angles and details. Some have three or four pics but I can see all the car. One has a pic of the front and a note to ask for more. Which one I going to the bottom of the pile?

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By *ldbutrandyMan
23 weeks ago

West Midlands

"So I’ve been here awhile and am just not sure what I’m doing wrong?

If i were him I'd take your advice. as if you were a car for sale on the forecourt , you wouldn't be there long. Not with your sales brochure

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By *inkPomPomWoman
23 weeks ago

Isle of Man

The big emphasis on being discreet would make me think you're attached

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By *orthwichguyMan
23 weeks ago

Northwich

Hi.. I totally realise there are absolutely loads more men than women on here so never really expect a reply, especially given my age. But have started wondering if something on my profile might also be off putting? Any feedback on it would be taken on the chin 🤣

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By *harAndBryCouple
23 weeks ago

Downham Market

"Hi.. I totally realise there are absolutely loads more men than women on here so never really expect a reply, especially given my age. But have started wondering if something on my profile might also be off putting? Any feedback on it would be taken on the chin 🤣"

Nothing wrong with it as such, but nothing especially good about it. Not a great selection of pics and doesn't make you stand out from the crowd unfortunately.

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By *orthwichguyMan
23 weeks ago

Northwich

Thankyou... Points noted.. I'll have a redo of it and try to make it a bit more appealing.

Cheers 😁😁😁

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By *1267Man
23 weeks ago

Birmingham

Trust me, it's even harder when you cant post any public photos so it can always be worse lol

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By *andystick72Man
23 weeks ago

kinky Street

Fab is awesome

The club scene is awesome

Life is awesome

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By *linkyVWoman
23 weeks ago

Nottingham

Your profile reads really well for someone I'd meet for coffee. But I want to know about your passions, interests, kinks.

What turns you on, what do you really enjoy

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By *oiluvfunMan
23 weeks ago

Birmingham

"Fab is awesome

The club scene is awesome

Life is awesome "

#winning

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