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By (user no longer on site) OP   
24 weeks ago

So, I am in a relationship, have been for quite some time, get on like a house on fire, since having a child, sex has slowed down - naturally, of course.

However, I'm stuck in a position where I want to dip my toes in the swinger world, and share the sex, make it more interesting, "spice it up" if you will. I maybe want to have a bisexual three/foursome and go to swinger clubs where everyone is enjoying themselves and having a good time and we can all be ourselves...no masks. Before I finish, no I havent done anything behind her back just general chat with people and seeing if anything sparks, she knows I am on here.

I guess my question and concern would be, how would I start to even bring up a topic like that, and how do i go about it. I dont want her to think I want other people or Im gonna run off with someone else.

Sorry for the novel

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By *inky_RagnarCouple
24 weeks ago

Peterborough

Messing around on here, behind your partners back is a no no. Suggest you speak to your partner about it rather than end up another seperated statistic.

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By *ellinever70Woman
24 weeks ago

Ayrshire

Think about whether it would even be practical around family life and childcare

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By *adyNyxWoman
24 weeks ago

Crawley

If she knows you’re on here, presumably you’ve discussed what might potentially happen…

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
24 weeks ago


"If she knows you’re on here, presumably you’ve discussed what might potentially happen…"
I mean no, we kinda spoke about bringing a man in the mix on text, then we talked about coming on here and having a gander seeing what its all about at first. But she didnt mention it when i saw here, so im a bit hesitant to bringing it up. I know i need to though.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
Forum Mod
24 weeks ago

Central

Just communicate openly and honestly. Potentially restrict use of Fab to just the 2 of you together

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By *rasshopper201Man
24 weeks ago

kendal

Be careful your now a dad not a lad !

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By *icecouple561Couple
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24 weeks ago

East Sussex

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By *icecouple561Couple
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24 weeks ago

East Sussex

Once you've both got the baby settled and all the household chores are finished make a cup of tea or whatever, sit down with your partner ask how she's doing and really listen to the answer. Once you know that say "remember me signing up to Fab, how do you feel about exploring further with me?"

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By *icecouple561Couple
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24 weeks ago

East Sussex

Also consider her mental, emotional and physical load, is she carrying more than you and if so how can you share some of it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
24 weeks ago


"Also consider her mental, emotional and physical load, is she carrying more than you and if so how can you share some of it "
I appreciate the insight, and I think I will do just that once we both have the night to ourselves.

I think for now I need to be as transparent as I can to my lady and grow a pair lmao

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By *icecouple561Couple
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24 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Also consider her mental, emotional and physical load, is she carrying more than you and if so how can you share some of it I appreciate the insight, and I think I will do just that once we both have the night to ourselves.

I think for now I need to be as transparent as I can to my lady and grow a pair lmao"

Excellent ! Good luck to both of you and bear in mind that you might need to wait for what you want but that doesn't mean you can't spice up your sex life in other ways, maybe she will have some ideas

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By *andb69Couple
24 weeks ago

leeds

If you can't discuss things openly and honestly with your partner you really aren't ready to share a swinging relationship with her.

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