FabSwingers.com forum: Juggling meets

By *ctionSandwich OP Couple
25 weeks ago

Newcastle under Lyme

What do you folk do when more than one person/couple approach you for a meet on a day you've advertised you're free? Do you agree to meet them all and then choose which ones to let down on the day? Alternatively do you tell them you've found a meet that day and hope the person/couple don't cancel?

People flake on meets for one reason or another. Sometimes its probably aa genuine reason and sometimes they likely never intended to meet or got cold feet.

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By *uliette500Woman
25 weeks ago

Hull

If you have already arranged something with someone just tell the second person you are already busy. If you havent then pick who you want to meet and say no to the other one but dont say yes to both and then let one down on the day, that is a total dick move.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
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25 weeks ago

Central

I'd accept a juggling meet, to enjoy ball tuition

I'd stick with the first agreed meeting and inform the others that I'd be in touch, if my plans changed or fix a different date with them, as my preference

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By *iss DevilWoman
25 weeks ago

Bedford

I'd be honest with people. If I agreed to meet someone, and then someone else asks me if I was free that day, I'd be truthful and say that I wasn't. I might offer them an option of letting them know as soon as possible if the other person/people cancel, but would make them aware that this could be very last minute. And I'd make it very clear with the Plan B person/people that, if they get a chance to meet someone else on the day when I could, potentially, be free if the cancellation comes, to take that other meet instead.

OP, you can always schedule them into time slots

. One, let's say, 10am, then 12 noon, then 2pm etc

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By *ellhungvweMan
25 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I tell people the truth - I am chatting to a few people but haven’t sorted anything yet. If they want to meet then let’s sort it out. If they are slow and someone else gets there first then I just tell them I am no longer free and see about another day.

Setting up a couple of meets and then cancelling one is wrong IMHO.

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By *ocketman20Man
25 weeks ago

Douglas

It’s been a long time since I’ve had to juggle meets!

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
25 weeks ago

Bristol/ Daventry

OP, you can always schedule them into time slots

. One, let's say, 10am, then 12 noon, then 2pm etc

This is what we do. It works. Showering and freshening up in between. It solves the no show issues.

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By *ifestyle1Man
25 weeks ago

southeast

"What do you folk do when more than one person/couple approach you for a meet on a day you've advertised you're free? Do you agree to meet them all and then choose which ones to let down on the day? Alternatively do you tell them you've found a meet that day and hope the person/couple don't cancel?

People flake on meets for one reason or another. Sometimes its probably aa genuine reason and sometimes they likely never intended to meet or got cold feet."

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By *ifestyle1Man
25 weeks ago

southeast

I think men not real

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By *abulincsCouple
25 weeks ago

near a bridge

If plans are made in first instance stick to them and inform others whom approach

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By *ricoupleCouple
25 weeks ago

Groningen NL

Had this a couple of times when we’ve been away on holidays. We message the first couple and ask if they would mind another couple at the same time then message the 2nd couple and ask them.

Always ended up in a good time

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
25 weeks ago

West Midlands

Had this once and simply timed to make sure we could meet the first guy, have time to clean up after and then meet the second. Was a very hot day and seemed quite frantic but 2 very pleasurable meets ..Wouldn't accept 2 and let someone down,honesty best or time it and do both

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By *ickD80Man
24 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

The two options you’ve suggested in the OP can be summed up as be dishonest or be honest…..the fact that an adult is asking for advice on whether to be dishonest or honest is disappointing.

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By *ink vixenCouple
24 weeks ago

Medway

I’ve recently taken up juggling as a hobby and I thought this was a potential meet up post for fellow jugglers!

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
24 weeks ago

Coventry

Not been in this situation as we only post a meet once in a blue moon. So very interested in how others operate.

Logically there seems to be a ballance to be achieved. Because on one hand we are here to fulfil our desires. On the other hand we should have respect enough for others not to mess them about. So maybe a period of seeing what offers come in before we choose. Although not too last minute because you don't want to mess people about or miss an opportunity.

I would say don't pick anyone out of desperation. Only pick people you're really down to have a hot time with. If you do that you don't have to mess people around. If you arrange something with people you truly find hot and then something else hot comes along you don't have to feel you've missed by honouring the original arrangement because they are also hot. You don't have to think dam I've missed out or consider letting them down for the new proposition because you are happy with the existing one. So to the new proposition you can simply say we have arrangements for today but maybe another time?

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By *ctionSandwich OP Couple
24 weeks ago

Newcastle under Lyme

We can't really agree to meet everyone as travelling about will just wear us out and make any follow on meets a bit sub-par. Can you imagine?

"Sorry hubby's a bit worn out, you'll just have to ride him for a bit and hope he's doesnt fall asleep. Not really appealing is it?

We're thinking of treating meets as pencilled in and tell everyone else we might be free if we get cancelled. Better than flat out turning folk down or not replying for a bit.

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By *ctionSandwich OP Couple
24 weeks ago

Newcastle under Lyme

Just to add, spend an hour on the A50 or M6 and you'll know what we mean. Doing that between activities would be a bit draining to say the least.

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
24 weeks ago

Bristol/ Daventry

"Just to add, spend an hour on the A50 or M6 and you'll know what we mean. Doing that between activities would be a bit draining to say the least."

Ooooh! Get them to come to you. 100% don’t travel between them.

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By *iss DevilWoman
24 weeks ago

Bedford

"Just to add, spend an hour on the A50 or M6 and you'll know what we mean. Doing that between activities would be a bit draining to say the least.

Ooooh! Get them to come to you. 100% don’t travel between them."

They can't accommodate. So the only option is to travel.

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
24 weeks ago

Newry

Say yes to one, then to the others I just say "sorry, I've just this minute" organised something. Maybe next time if you are still up for it".

I think it's a bit shitty to say yes to everyone then let down your least favourite options on the day. These are people, not commodities.

Not everyone is happy to be drafted in if you've been let down by someone else either. Those that are will usually tell you to let them know if that happens.

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
24 weeks ago

Bristol/ Daventry

"Just to add, spend an hour on the A50 or M6 and you'll know what we mean. Doing that between activities would be a bit draining to say the least.

Ooooh! Get them to come to you. 100% don’t travel between them.

They can't accommodate. So the only option is to travel. "

A local premier inn? Saves the travelling and no shows etc.

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By *lex.and.SexCouple
24 weeks ago

Bedale/Leeds/Stanley

We try not to offer the same day to multiple parties.

If we have a number of possibilities in the offing; and are offering a range of possible dates we are honest that the availability is subject to change until a booking is made.

Once the booking is made, it's made. It doesn't get offered elsewhere and if someone we have already offered it to gets back to us we ask them to select another

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By *ifestyle1Man
23 weeks ago

southeast

"If you have already arranged something with someone just tell the second person you are already busy. If you havent then pick who you want to meet and say no to the other one but dont say yes to both and then let one down on the day, that is a total dick move. "

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By *ifestyle1Man
23 weeks ago

southeast

Am i trying hard

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By *otPoshorBecksCouple
22 weeks ago

London

I would meet them in a club and meet everyone. I have done that multiple times and works well xx

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