FabSwingers.com forum: What should I do

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Me and my wife sweetie finally had our first meet with another couple that ate not members of this site. I was totally into it and she not so much. She has decided that she enjoys posting the pics the thought of other people seeing turns her on. And says she wants to just do cam. So we are going to set up for that. But seeing how much I was into it had told me that I could still play as long as she approved of the other parties and was safe about it. We have a solid relationship and I'm not worried about whether she ment it or not. My issue is that part of my turn on is we were doing it together. Should I try it with out her and if so how should I go about changing our profile on this site. Because even though she doesn't want to play she may want to be there or not she isn't sure. Has any one else here ever been in this situation and if so How did u handle it. Please only serious replies.

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By *uck_us_hardCouple
over a year ago

N.E Lincolnshire

Speak to her about it, if she's happy then you try it and see! X

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

If you have any doubts at all don't do it. Step back, alter the wording of your profile and take some time to get your head round how you want to carry on.

Hope whatever you decide makes you both happy.

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By *orney hunCouple
over a year ago

galway

try threesome with another guy itmight be she a little gelious of you only an idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Might be worth exploring with her what she didn't enjoy about the meet especially with it being your only one. It could have been a lack of chemistry with that couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP - the two of you need to put a brake on things and talk this through PROPERLY. You need to be 101% honest with each other or things can turn nasty. Ruby and I hit a problem a few weeks back after thinking we both knew what the other wanted out of the scene, but we hadn't talked it through sufficiently, so we sat down and had frank discussion and sorted ourselves out. It's something you need to do regularly and not assume that you are both singing off the same hymn sheet. Your wife may have moved onto a different hymn sheet altogether without you realising it.

If you're swinging as a couple, you have got to be open with each other and FULLY understand how the other feels before you dip your toe in...

Good luck - and have that talk..

Ted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say maybe try a mmf threesome...or even mmmf.

Make her the centre of attention.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"OP - the two of you need to put a brake on things and talk this through PROPERLY. You need to be 101% honest with each other or things can turn nasty. Ruby and I hit a problem a few weeks back after thinking we both knew what the other wanted out of the scene, but we hadn't talked it through sufficiently, so we sat down and had frank discussion and sorted ourselves out. It's something you need to do regularly and not assume that you are both singing off the same hymn sheet. Your wife may have moved onto a different hymn sheet altogether without you realising it.

If you're swinging as a couple, you have got to be open with each other and FULLY understand how the other feels before you dip your toe in...

Good luck - and have that talk..

Ted"

Completely agree with this..... sensible words.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all the good advice we have decided to hide our profile until we decide what to do. Thanks agin

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