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By *kbwc1995 OP   Man
26 weeks ago

manchester/bradford

There's a woman i work with. We're really close and we really get on. We've built a really good relationship and are really good friends we open up with eachither and know bits about eachother that not many people know.

I can't tell if she's just really comfortable with me or if she's dropping hints. She's friendly and a little flirty. She's once pulled her top up and adjusted her g string infront of me and then left it out whilst we were talking. She's told me she was too hot and I said take your jumper off and then said she can't. I said why and she proceeded to show me her love bite.

Basically are we just really close and she's comfortable with me. Or is there somthing more too it?

Sounds really pathetic reading it back but would like some advice and maybe just someone to talk too about it

Thanks in advance

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By *ngry IngridWoman
26 weeks ago

Cardigan

Ask her what she see you as and then you'll know for sure.

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By *kbwc1995 OP   Man
26 weeks ago

manchester/bradford

I don't want to ruin the friendship so nervous to do somthink like that. And we're both nervous people so not sure if the answer would be the truth if you get me

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

Invite her out or to your home for a drink, coffee etc if its practical to do so.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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26 weeks ago

East Sussex

Nobody can answer your question except her. If she's a similar age to you she knows that adjusting her thong and showing you a love bite (who gave it to her?)is giving out a particular vibe but none of us knows if she sees you as a mate or a romantic interest.

How about saying something like " I really want to try a pumpkin spice latte, do you want to come with me?" Then you can see how she is with you outside of work

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By *ingpong70Man
26 weeks ago

Surbiton

Ask her out on a date. That usually sorts the women who are interested from the ones who just want a male girlfriend.

Don't end up in the FriendZone.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
26 weeks ago

Herts/Leeds

You say you’re good friends. Can’t that just be enough?

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By *ctionSandwichCouple
26 weeks ago

Newcastle under Lyme

Why is she showing you a love bite from somebody else? That's not flirting that's teasing you.

What would make more sense would be to stay on her good side to see if she has single friends, and keep things professional with work colleagues.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
26 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Ask her out on a date. That usually sorts the women who are interested from the ones who just want a male girlfriend.

Don't end up in the FriendZone."

He doesn't want to lose her as a friend, he said that

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By *rectus HumongusMan
26 weeks ago

morecambe for the day

Show her fab that will give you a clue😁😁

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago


"Ask her out on a date. That usually sorts the women who are interested from the ones who just want a male girlfriend.

Don't end up in the FriendZone.

He doesn't want to lose her as a friend, he said that"

But he ready to shag her 😁 maybe fell in love with her already, he just doesn't know yet

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By *ingpong70Man
26 weeks ago

Surbiton


"Ask her out on a date. That usually sorts the women who are interested from the ones who just want a male girlfriend.

Don't end up in the FriendZone.

He doesn't want to lose her as a friend, he said that"

There is no reward without risk. From where I'm standing, it looks like he wants to earn romance through proximity, which never works.

Be honest, make a move, don't try and secure the outcome

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By *eautifully TwistedWoman
26 weeks ago

Telford

If it's worth losing the friendship for then go for it.

Only you can answer that, I don't know of she is actually flirting or just teasing you only she can answer that ha.

There are no rewards without risk like the gentleman said though so ultimately you either take the leap and talk to her or leave well alone. You can't predict the outcome.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
26 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Ask her out on a date. That usually sorts the women who are interested from the ones who just want a male girlfriend.

Don't end up in the FriendZone.

He doesn't want to lose her as a friend, he said that

But he ready to shag her 😁 maybe fell in love with her already, he just doesn't know yet"

The age old conundrum.

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By *veragecouple2000Couple
26 weeks ago

South Wales

It sounds like there could be interest there but hard to tell as we don’t know her 😄

Do you see each other outside of work as friends or is it just during the working day? Xx

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By *otPoshorBecksCouple
26 weeks ago

London

Two options

1. Make a move

2. Don’t make a move

Your choice

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
26 weeks ago

Cambridgeshire


"How about saying something like " I really want to try a pumpkin spice latte, do you want to come with me?" "

But what if she says yes?

I mean, she may be smoking hot, but no woman is worth having to drink a pumpkin spice latte for.

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
26 weeks ago

Cambridgeshire


"Two options

1. Make a move

2. Don’t make a move

Your choice

"

Sage advice there.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
26 weeks ago

East Sussex


"How about saying something like " I really want to try a pumpkin spice latte, do you want to come with me?"

But what if she says yes?

I mean, she may be smoking hot, but no woman is worth having to drink a pumpkin spice latte for. "

I hadn't thought of that 🤔 it's a fatal flaw in my cunning plan

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

Hi I am new to this and want to visit a club. I have never been to 1 but would love to go. I don't have transport, could anyone help in the Blackburn area. Please let me know x

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
26 weeks ago

Cambridgeshire


"Basically are we just really close and she's comfortable with me. Or is there somthing more too it?"

OK, to be serious for once, there are two possibilities here - she wants a relationship, or she just wants to be friends.

If she wants a relationship, and you do nothing, then the friendship probably won't last very long. She'll find what she's looking for somewhere else.

But if she just wants to be friends and you want more then it also won't last very long as she'll start to feel uncomfortable.

Short summary: whatever you do, there's an equal chance that things won't work out. So do what YOU want to.

There's also a chance that she's not 100% sure. In which case making it clear how much you like her may just tip the balance in your favour. We all like being fancied.

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By *obshortMan
26 weeks ago

Cork


"Ask her out on a date. That usually sorts the women who are interested from the ones who just want a male girlfriend.

Don't end up in the FriendZone."

Definitely don't want to be in the friend zone.

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple
26 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Try the Fab male approach: show her a dozen pics of your cock and tell her you want to fuck her ass - it works 100% of the time on here, so i it must work in real life too!

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By *layfullsamMan
26 weeks ago

Solihull

You’ve got to put your big boy pants on and ask her

I fancied a girl at school but thought she was out of my league so didn’t say anything.

Long story short she died and at her funeral her best friend said she really liked me but thought I didn’t like her

Since that day I’ve always asked someone out if I like them, you don’t always get the answer you want but at least you know

No good being on your deathbed thinking what if.

Regret the things you’ve done and don’t regret not doing things

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By *kbwc1995 OP   Man
26 weeks ago

manchester/bradford

Thanks for the advice everyone. I'll update if anything changes

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By *otPoshorBecksCouple
26 weeks ago

London


"Two options

1. Make a move

2. Don’t make a move

Your choice

Sage advice there. "

lol well everyone is making it so complicated and I thought I’d simply for the OP xx

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

You should have said you had a lovebite like that once. 8 inches from the end of your cock!

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By *otshot14Woman
26 weeks ago

tunbridge wells

Ask her,coz I love to tease men just to see what there going to do.

I push and play without sex to start off with just to see how long there going to stay.

I do kind of give them mix signs but sometimes that's coz I've got nervous,then my head over thinks.

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By *atureandfilthyCouple
26 weeks ago

Watford

Accidentally show her your cock and you will have the answer

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By *ereFlix75Man
26 weeks ago

Hitchin

1. You haven't actually said that you would like a relationship, or that you want to fuck her a 1000 times, its not clear to me, can you clarify?

2. Sometimes having a friend like that is worth more than a thousand fucks. Once I liked a girl, we kissed once; i asked her out, but there was something missing so we stopped. we have since been best friends and we know each other's secrets and confide on each other, it's such a wonderful feeling.

3. you can tell her that you feel uncomfortable with her flirting as you are not used to that; tell her you like her but it sometimes feel like mixed messages; if you are honest and she is worth it, you'll find a solution good for both

4. I once had a very very good friend, for many years; one day we got together and had sex; we ere d*unk and the sex was very bad; we havent talked about that night ever again. we remain very good friends

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
26 weeks ago

East Sussex


"

1. You haven't actually said that you would like a relationship, or that you want to fuck her a 1000 times, its not clear to me, can you clarify?

2. Sometimes having a friend like that is worth more than a thousand fucks. Once I liked a girl, we kissed once; i asked her out, but there was something missing so we stopped. we have since been best friends and we know each other's secrets and confide on each other, it's such a wonderful feeling.

3. you can tell her that you feel uncomfortable with her flirting as you are not used to that; tell her you like her but it sometimes feel like mixed messages; if you are honest and she is worth it, you'll find a solution good for both

4. I once had a very very good friend, for many years; one day we got together and had sex; we ere d*unk and the sex was very bad; we havent talked about that night ever again. we remain very good friends "

This makes an awful lot of sense.

Unfortunately very many men are incapable of having women friends, they don't want to

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