FabSwingers.com forum: going to a club

By *dventurecouple2000 OP Couple
27 weeks ago

Cambridge

Hi, we are intrigued to visit a club as a couple, we think we like the idea of just watching for a start and seeing how things evolve, looking for advice on what to do, what to expect, how to conquer nerves, and are our expectations unrealistic

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By *empted23Couple
27 weeks ago

countryside

Just be brave and go

We have been to many

There is - in our experience -

No pressure to play

Everyone was new once and knows what it's like

Not sure what your area or preferred club is but HellFire is a great club to start

Not too massive and always full of respectful people

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By *dventurecouple2000 OP Couple
27 weeks ago

Cambridge

thank you for your response very kind, what can we expect, what is expected of us, we like the thought of voyeurism, is that ok, or would it be off limits

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By *allySlinkyWoman
27 weeks ago

Leeds

Voyeurism is totally acceptable. Lots of people play in public and enjoy being watched.

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By *empted23Couple
27 weeks ago

countryside

As for how things evolve

It will look like nothing is happening all night

Then you go to the toilet at 11:54

Come back at 11:56 and everyone will have disappeared to all go and play

Still haven't worked out how that happens on cue but it does

Unrealistic expectations

It's entirely possible you go and find absolutely nobody you would want to play with anyway

Which takes the pressure to play off on your first visit

But gets tedious by visit 27

Get used to going with the idea that your gonna have fun together

And if one day there are those that float your boat

It's a bonus

Depending on the club

Avoid the wanking dead ( can explain if needed )

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By *empted23Couple
27 weeks ago

countryside

Oh go and watch and be watched

That's high on everyone's list

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By *dventurecouple2000 OP Couple
27 weeks ago

Cambridge

your advice is well received, what is the wanking dead lol

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By *oughmanMan
27 weeks ago

Sunderland

The nerves come with the territory. Most, if not all feel exactly the same way the first time. Research your club first and go to their websites and have a look to see the rules and what they offer. Observing is just fine anytime you go but you may be required to dress down to access those areas. You shouldn't be forced into anything you do want to do. That's usually a major rule, No means No.

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By *empted23Couple
27 weeks ago

countryside

"your advice is well received, what is the wanking dead lol"

So in some clubs

There is a contingent of single males who have attended

Whom nobody particularly wants to play with

So they wander the communal areas and haunt the doorways of couples only areas - which many clubs have

Wanking while watching

And as they resemble a herd of masturbating zombies

We call them the wanking dead

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
27 weeks ago

your bed

"Hi, we are intrigued to visit a club as a couple, we think we like the idea of just watching for a start and seeing how things evolve, looking for advice on what to do, what to expect, how to conquer nerves, and are our expectations unrealistic"

Honestly there is nothing to fear. You may want to pick your club depending on how comfortable you are in either clothing or lingerie as some are dress down on entry. Others you can stay dressed in the bar area, then dress down to wander the playrooms.

We tend to find most people have a good standard of behaviour and actually most whilst there in the hope of sex are actually fairly shy in approaching people and chatting.

If you treat it like going to any normal bar, then you will be fine.

In terms of watching it will depend on the venue and rooms but most clubs you are able to watch. But just don't be offended if you get asked if you want to join in.

A no thank you works with most people. We've been swinging since 23 and can only count on a handful of occasions where some people did not take no as no and had to be told to leave.

Generally they are safe places they are not wild orgies and wandering hands the second you walk through the door.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
27 weeks ago

Coventry

Nerves are nerves. The best way to do a thing is to just do it. When I took Mrs Misfit to a club for her first time (I'd been to clubs before) I literally had to boot her through the door as she just froze at the entrance. Within 30mims of being in there she was like a duck to water and being spanked by the bar maid.

The first bit about knowing what to expect is just checking out the Club website. Opening times, dress code, policies etc. Know the score before you go. When you get there tell them its your first time and get the tour. Staff will show you around, give you any information you need and maybe even help you break the ice. As for the rest of it it's really as easy as just going and seeing where your night leads. There's no obligation to do anything. Just soak it all in and go at your own speed. If you're feeling social then socialise, if your not, don't. What you do or don't do is really up to you and what you're feeling. If nothing more it's a bit of a different night out for you to enjoy as a couple.

In the many years I've been going to clubs I've seen so many first time couples. And only 2 times have I seen a couple not like it and leave. So chances are you'll enjoy the night and be back whatever you do or don't do.

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By *heffield BikerMan
27 weeks ago

Sheffield

So im single man. I worry that if I go everyone is thinking I here for just 1 thing. Im here to enjoy it I would love to find a woman to go down with and enjoy it together. Just think as a single guy your a desperate and do anything. That's not me are there normally single women there to or meet some before and go.

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By *inklou300Woman
27 weeks ago

birmingham

going to do my first club on sunday . nervous but excited

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By *urious-Couple-123Couple
27 weeks ago

Cumbria

We just had our first club visit a couple of weeks ago. Really nervous going in!

We chatted to people the same way as if we were dressed, spent time in the hot tub, chatted to people there, then visited all the rooms togther.

Lots of exhibitionists, so it's easy to be a voyeur if thats your thing. Mrs dressed in a thong body suit, Mr in some tight boxers. Everyone was dressed down by the time we got there, so we did as soon as we arrived. When everyone is dressed down, you feel silly having you normal clothes on!

Happy to chat over DM if you want to message. Hope that helps!

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By *andJDubaiCouple
27 weeks ago

Dubai, with visits to Glasgow, Edinburgh and London

It’s interesting you mention dress code. We always assumed the lady would wear a little black dress or lingerie but we are always confused as to what the guys should wear.

Can’t see them walking round in boots and jeans as practical but then is a mass of naked guys walking around any better.

Haha we assume that last part depends on the guy.

We tend to find most people have a good standard of behaviour and actually most whilst there in the hope of sex are actually fairly shy in approaching people and chatting.

If you treat it like going to any normal bar, then you will be fine.

In terms of watching it will depend on the venue and rooms but most clubs you are able to watch. But just don't be offended if you get asked if you want to join in.

A no thank you works with most people. We've been swinging since 23 and can only count on a handful of occasions where some people did not take no as no and had to be told to leave.

Generally they are safe places they are not wild orgies and wandering hands the second you walk through the door."

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By *allySlinkyWoman
27 weeks ago

Leeds

Most men don't walk about naked. They wear a towel or nice boxers.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
27 weeks ago

your bed

"going to do my first club on sunday . nervous but excited

Enjoy, have fun and don't be shy about saying hello and talking to people.

It's no strings so you can always walk away if the chemistry does not flow.

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By *rivervaderMan
27 weeks ago

bolton

Just go have fun chat with folk never be pressured into doing something you don’t want to.if you like to be watched pic a room with a lock and a window then you can play in peace and be watched

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By *he Silver FuxMan
27 weeks ago

Utero

"thank you for your response very kind, what can we expect, what is expected of us, we like the thought of voyeurism, is that ok, or would it be off limits"

Could I suggest going to Vanilla Alternative or Liberty Elite - plenty of places in these wonderful clubs to observe without it being intrusive or awkward. You will not be alone, there are many couples that go to experience the sexy vibe and are not there to play with anyone else. No one is going to judge you, there’s absolutely no pressure to do anything than just have a good time. I’ve been playing with friends and have been asked a few times by people “is it okay if we just watch” Absolutely! 😈

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By *lowercandyWoman
27 weeks ago

Lancashire

"thank you for your response very kind, what can we expect, what is expected of us, we like the thought of voyeurism, is that ok, or would it be off limits"

Nothing is expected of you. It's that simple.

Even if someone invites you/asks no means no

You yourself need to decide what club you want to go to as they are different (some more nightclub some more dress down) and then go to their website and read..

Are you looking for a wet area with sauna and jacuzzi or not do you prefer to have a dancefloor

Decide what you want

Find the club that offers it

Read their own rules and then go for a night out (just like any night at a pub)

You go

You chill

You chat

You do nothing or you find a private room and play with eachother

Or you find it really your thing and go whole out

But ultimately it's just you two

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