FabSwingers.com forum: feeling hard done to

By *ajaroo OP Couple
27 weeks ago

Mansfield

me and the mrs have been on and off the seen for years around 15 or so, well at the start of our swinging life there were rules especially placed on me the Male , at the beginning most of the meets were women and the rule was i couldnt touch them , this went on for a couple of years , then the wife started to see guys thats all good i didnt mind , at somepoint things would come my way surely , well from breaks of the scene , to her having little flings at work with colleagues, im still an onlooker , a very horny one and turned on one at that , fast forward to over 18 months ago, the wife meets someone that blew her mind and started seeing them quite often , about a year in i get permission that im ok to play and find someone, so i start to look then quickly see its not that easy for an average male to get meets , so after chatting with the wife she says she would join me and we would look for a couple , i think great , then after now over 18 months she has stopped seeing the guy and says shes not being part of the scene anymore, which now leaves me stuck , she says i can still meet knowing full well i cant get one , so now i feel a little hard done to , after everything i let my wife do and following all the rules

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By *iss DevilWoman
27 weeks ago

Bedford

Unfortunately, it happens. Women are much more sought after on the scene than men. Have you tried clubs or organised socials, so you can get known in the lifestyle as reliable and not just a "dreamer"? Also, are you trying to find meets through your couple's profile, or have you got a single one? Many women or couples would not engage with a couple's profile where it's only the male that's looking to meet.

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By *ellinever70Woman
27 weeks ago

Ayrshire

Maybe it would be best to just focus on nurturing the relationship you still have with your wife.

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By *ajaroo OP Couple
27 weeks ago

Mansfield

nothing wrong in that regard and is better than ever

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
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27 weeks ago

Central

This is why it's about getting it right in the moment, so everything agreed is right for all, so that when things change, everyone is content. Your priority is your relationship always, so you can only focus on that.

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By *erPleasureHisRulesCouple
27 weeks ago

Barnsley

Have you got your own profile? Or just the couples one? I would set up a decent profile and get some good pics on there. Maybe stay attending clubs too

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By *rgoodnbadMan
27 weeks ago

greenock

I've said it before and I'll keep saying it. Women have countless opportunities on sites like this, and even off them. Men generally don't. There may be a few exceptions, where some guys find very little problems attracting woman, but the vast majority will struggle. It's just a fact of life. So when couples join, the men need to be aware that when they allow their partners to have solo meets, she can have dozens of suitors before he even gets a fab on one of his pics. Pussy power trumps all.

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By *ormagenericlblokeMan
27 weeks ago

Hertfordshire

"I've said it before and I'll keep saying it. Women have countless opportunities on sites like this, and even off them. Men generally don't. There may be a few exceptions, where some guys find very little problems attracting woman, but the vast majority will struggle. It's just a fact of life. So when couples join, the men need to be aware that when they allow their partners to have solo meets, she can have dozens of suitors before he even gets a fab on one of his pics. Pussy power trumps all.

I get what you are saying but I dont think its as cut and dry as that

Even now I am older, I find it easy to flirt and do get opportunities off the site, I am just VERY fussy with real life encounters now, preferring people on the scene as you should all know what the deal is.

I think a lot of people don't really make the effort when striking up conversation (not just with the opposite sex) and aren't interesting enough.

I have seen some (less than) average guys in their 40s get a lot of attention and dates/meets.

But yes you are right. If a woman says she is open, she will get much more attention and opportunities

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By *issmorganWoman
27 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

One thing I'd point out op is you have no pics of you at all, on the profile.

So, it's going to attract more men for starters.

If she doesn't want to meet anymore , why not start a fresh single one. That shows you and describes what you're looking got and into.

I have to say I find it incredibly selfish when a partner wants to be able to play with others, but doesn't allow their partners to do the same.

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By *rgoodnbadMan
27 weeks ago

greenock

"One thing I'd point out op is you have no pics of you at all, on the profile.

So, it's going to attract more men for starters.

If she doesn't want to meet anymore , why not start a fresh single one. That shows you and describes what you're looking got and into.

I have to say I find it incredibly selfish when a partner wants to be able to play with others, but doesn't allow their partners to do the same. "

To me, it came across as if she didn't give a damn about him.

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By *inky PerkyCouple
27 weeks ago

Narnia

Yeah, you've be been fucked over (without actually getting fucked)

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By *ries AngelWoman
27 weeks ago

Southampton

"Yeah, you've be been fucked over (without actually getting fucked)"

Yep sounds like it…

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