FabSwingers.com forum: Private Parties

By *enny4it OP Couple
27 weeks ago

Central

We've never - yet! - attended an organised party. We meet other cpls from time to time and love all being together. Been chatting to some people on here and party fun is starting to sound very attractive, probably in smaller gatherings. Much fun to be had it appears!

Would love to hear others' opinions and thoughts- any must/mustn'ts or should/shouldn'ts?

Tell us more

Penny x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *weet and SpiceCouple
27 weeks ago

Around the Midlands

Keeping an eye on this thread 👍🏻

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ingleTipsCouple
27 weeks ago

Northampton

We have found that we prefer clubs events over hotel meets.

The club vibe, the social side to chat to new people and there's no pressure to play if nobody takes your fancy.

We have yet to attend a organised house party, but here's hoping x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *iss DevilWoman
27 weeks ago

Bedford

I find private parties much more intimidating than swingers clubs, particularly if I don't know anyone there. Also, there is no space to "escape" from people you don't get on with at those events, normally. At least in a club, you can go to a private lockable room.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *entlemanFoxMan
27 weeks ago

North East / London

Hi OP,

I have organised a few private parties and here are a few thoughts.

Just as in a club, everyone has the right to say no. Just because it is smaller and more intimate still doesn’t guarantee anything.

A good host should do the ground work to make sure the attendees will have something in common. So expect to have a social before you are invited ( I have found this stage to be a really good filter).

Happy to answer any questions.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *issmorganWoman
27 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I haven't been to a house party, purely because I've heard several times that people are expected to play at them.

I don't like that sort of pressure and I might not be attracted to any of the men there, so it's not for me.

My other half has been solo and it was pretty much everyone playing

If that's your thing, then go for it and enjoy.

I'd prefer a club, where there's no expectations on me and I can just stay with my other half if nobody catches our eye.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *entlemanFoxMan
27 weeks ago

North East / London

"I haven't been to a house party, purely because I've heard several times that people are expected to play at them.

I don't like that sort of pressure and I might not be attracted to any of the men there, so it's not for me.

My other half has been solo and it was pretty much everyone playing

If that's your thing, then go for it and enjoy.

I'd prefer a club, where there's no expectations on me and I can just stay with my other half if nobody catches our eye. "

MissM,

I am sorry to hear that. Yes most people play, but that is because they WANT to play, not because they have to. And not everyone plays with everyone.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *izandpaulCouple
27 weeks ago

merseyside

We've been to many house parties and we usually have to attend a social before the party date or at least be known to the organisers as swingers and not dreamers.

As there are so many timewasters and dreamers its only right that people who invite you into their home don't want idiots or people who can't behave like adults.

We have never, ever felt forced to play and have excused ourselves if the atmosphere isn't working for us. Only left early twice and was never asked why, just said goodnight to everyone and left, no issues whatsoever.

My advice, is give a party a whirl but maybe get some experience meeting people in a club environment first or maybe a swingers holiday so you are happy around a group of people and can be a bit of a social butterfly, happy to chat to everyone.

If you are a bit of a wallflower or a Billy no mates, maybe not for you just yet.

Good luck.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *entlemanFoxMan
27 weeks ago

North East / London

"We've been to many house parties and we usually have to attend a social before the party date or at least be known to the organisers as swingers and not dreamers.

As there are so many timewasters and dreamers its only right that people who invite you into their home don't want idiots or people who can't behave like adults.

If you are a bit of a wallflower or a Billy no mates, maybe not for you just yet.

Good luck.

💯

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *weet and SpiceCouple
27 weeks ago

Around the Midlands

"I haven't been to a house party, purely because I've heard several times that people are expected to play at them.

I don't like that sort of pressure and I might not be attracted to any of the men there, so it's not for me.

My other half has been solo and it was pretty much everyone playing

If that's your thing, then go for it and enjoy.

I'd prefer a club, where there's no expectations on me and I can just stay with my other half if nobody catches our eye.

MissM,

I am sorry to hear that. Yes most people play, but that is because they WANT to play, not because they have to. And not everyone plays with everyone. "

We generally go to clubs for the reasons given above. We did enquire about a private party a couple of years ago but were told that there would be an expectation to play as that's why people were there and what's the point of us attending if we don't! Completely put us off, so it's nice to see some of the other posts in this thread

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ONDONCOUPLE111Man
27 weeks ago

london

Private party's can be very hit and miss

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *j555Couple
27 weeks ago

peterborough

"I haven't been to a house party, purely because I've heard several times that people are expected to play at them.

I don't like that sort of pressure and I might not be attracted to any of the men there, so it's not for me.

My other half has been solo and it was pretty much everyone playing

If that's your thing, then go for it and enjoy.

I'd prefer a club, where there's no expectations on me and I can just stay with my other half if nobody catches our eye.

MissM,

I am sorry to hear that. Yes most people play, but that is because they WANT to play, not because they have to. And not everyone plays with everyone.

Thats the reason that we only go to clubs, if we turn up somewhere and J doesn't feel the vibe with any of the guys then she doesn't want to feel either pressured into playing or awkward about leaving early.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *umagain58Man
27 weeks ago

London

"I haven't been to a house party, purely because I've heard several times that people are expected to play at them.

I don't like that sort of pressure and I might not be attracted to any of the men there, so it's not for me.

My other half has been solo and it was pretty much everyone playing

If that's your thing, then go for it and enjoy.

I'd prefer a club, where there's no expectations on me and I can just stay with my other half if nobody catches our eye. "

We go to private parties often and not had this experience. Ones we go to vast majority of people are very nice and fully respectful of what others like to do or not. We usually know most of people there so it helps. Some new ones as well and nice to get to know them. All helped by those who host and arrange- mostly the wives seem good at this and finding good people. We did have one guy earlier in the year who was just thinking about himself and not others or his wife. He got comeuppance in the end and served him right.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eeshellsCouple
27 weeks ago

Reading

Parties we have been to have always had people not playing and there was zero judgement (in fact we've become friends with some of them!).

We've very much enjoyed the parties and find them more successful than clubs for meeting and playing with new people

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *enny4it OP Couple
27 weeks ago

Central

Thank you for your replies so far - very interesting stuff!

We'd imagined there would be a relaxing social aspect to the whole event, meeting new people, and enjoying play as much as we'd want to participate? We'd be going with the expectation that we'd play though

Is that how it goes?

P xx

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eeshellsCouple
27 weeks ago

Reading

Obviously you have to meet someone that you like and vice versa.

Some parties set up a whatsapp group but we prefer those that publish a list of attendees. That normally sparks chats between people on Fab messaging.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *entlemanFoxMan
27 weeks ago

North East / London

"Thank you for your replies so far - very interesting stuff!

We'd imagined there would be a relaxing social aspect to the whole event, meeting new people, and enjoying play as much as we'd want to participate?

Yes to all this.

"We'd be going with the expectation that we'd play though

Is that how it goes?

How I handle it is there is a defined point where everyone dresses down. But no one has to play. Couples can certainly just play with their own partners and other guests should expect at least this to happen. Anything else depends on on consent and invitation - just like a club really , except more intimate.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *enny4it OP Couple
27 weeks ago

Central

I think it's this more intimate setting that we find attractive! x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *houtycatCouple
27 weeks ago

Henley

Sometimes it’s half of the couple’s idea so the other half is sidelined. A few meets spring to mind where the guy can’t get it up while watching his Mrs riding out her fantasy

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *he Silver FuxMan
27 weeks ago

Utero

Been to a few and they’re a great experience, the key is the organisers successfully ‘curating’ the guest lists. Very different from the random assembly of people at a club night.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ctionSandwichCouple
27 weeks ago

Newcastle under Lyme

Be exceedingly wary of parties where fees or contributions are being paid. If there are lots of single blokes perhaps have your hubby enquire first as a single to see if they ask for a fee.

Some folk on here advertise parties and ask to be contacted for an invite. They then say the bloke has to pay £90 or more to attend. Who gets that money?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
27 weeks ago

Coventry

I would say the key to a good private party is the hosts ability to bring together the right mix of personalities. The people make or break a party. I think often a good party is a host with a good judge of character inviting people they personally know and know would mix well together and/or people suggested by others they know and trust.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *he James gangCouple
27 weeks ago

NEWTOWNABBEY

We hold regular bi party's as others partys didn't float out boat. Bi is our common denominator for an invite (bi males only, fems either). We found some party's too large. Ours can anything from 6 -16 depending who bottles on the night. A tip I'd give is don't do food. We supply the venue and guests and if you're hungry there's plenty of cock, pussy and ass to eat. We also dress down after an hour and play. Some party's play didn't happen until lots of drink was taken and no sex until the small hours. No guest is ever expected to play but once the smell of sex is in the air, very few don't.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *enny4it OP Couple
27 weeks ago

Central

Thank you for all your responses - lovely thoughtful messages to take on board! Looking forward to some different fun x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ucianpoundCouple
27 weeks ago

Cap d’Agde, France

We organise parties at our villa in France and love attending others.

Since living here we use the French method which is to start with all coming at the same time, having an aperitif, drink, nibbles and chat, and later a sit down meal.

In between we separate our house into social and play areas

All very civilised, relaxed but the potential to get wild and kinky but certainly no pressure to play.

Check out our photos, veri’s for details.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *entlemanFoxMan
27 weeks ago

North East / London

"We organise parties at our villa in France and love attending others.

Since living here we use the French method which is to start with all coming at the same time, having an aperitif, drink, nibbles and chat, and later a sit down meal.

In between we separate our house into social and play areas

All very civilised, relaxed but the potential to get wild and kinky but certainly no pressure to play.

Check out our photos, veri’s for details."

Congratulations

They look really good events

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

"We've never - yet! - attended an organised party. We meet other cpls from time to time and love all being together. Been chatting to some people on here and party fun is starting to sound very attractive, probably in smaller gatherings. Much fun to be had it appears!

Would love to hear others' opinions and thoughts- any must/mustn'ts or should/shouldn'ts?

Tell us more

Penny x"
We I say we as in my wife and I attended many party's mostly the same ones repetitively! I don't go now to greedy girls events! Stick to quality couples only events and leave at anytime the vibe is not right for you!! They can get hectic and full on if the right people are there! It's nothing like a club! It's someone's house or better still a hotel apartment! Don't let one bad incident spoil you going again! I'm too old now for all that so wouldn't get invited anyway!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

Post new Message to Thread