FabSwingers.com forum: Clubs and what to expect

By *reener OP Man
28 weeks ago

durham

As a single male what can I expect from going to a club? (Never been to one at all)

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By *questMan
28 weeks ago

peterborough

I have only recently started going, and it depends on the day, the night, and what you expect.

I was told by a lady that organises events that going to clubs and just getting to know people is very important. You get seen face to face, and that you are not a weirdo. Be polite, engaging, non pushy. Verifications can then follow.

And dont expect play. You are there to observe, learn, and ultimately be sociable. If someone asks, great. I have an issue at the moment about the ask, but thats OK. Its about confidence.

And a lot of the time, there isnt much happening.

Other thing I noticed is that although most clubes say dress to impress, as guys, we dont. We dont even smell that nice. So its worth thinking about how you look.

And always take a towel, bathrobe (waffle one is perfect) and some sort of slippers, because there is always a hot tub.

I have done some afternnon sessions, where is geenrally chat. Thats OK, and probably a good way to start

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By *iss DevilWoman
28 weeks ago

Bedford

Check this thread: https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/clubs/1749861#message_42824948

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By *ev_1Couple
27 weeks ago

Bickliegh

Never expect anything start from there

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By *reen Eyed GuyMan
27 weeks ago

Hereford

Going to my first club on the 28th (Xtasia) and looking forward to it. Keeping my expectations low and just hoping to have a good dance!

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By *questMan
27 weeks ago

peterborough

Just make sure you park in the right car park. i found out the hard way one closes at 9pm

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By *azzabiguyMan
27 weeks ago

Longton

As a single male I'd say go and enjoy the atmosphere,have a good look around,enjoy any facilities they may have like a sauna,jacuzzi etc.if you can pluck up the courage speak to people,they are all friendly.dont follow any single ladies or couples around constantly as that is very off putting.just enjoy yourself ,have a few drinks and a dance and if you are lucky enough to be invited for some fun then that's a bonus.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
27 weeks ago

Coventry

As a guy who started in clubs as a single guy I would say you never really know till you go a see for yourself. Also different clubs are a different experience as a single/lone male. Some clubs are definitely more warmer and friendlier to single guys than others.

I would say simply look for a club that is convenient, takes your eye, is not extortionate (as you may not like it) and go. Make sure you understand the clubs policies first and get stuck in. Just treat it like a normal night out with no expectation, just curiosity. See for yourself and you'll soon know if its for you or not. I loved my first time. After an awkward and nervous rocky start I got chatting to few people, hit it off with a single lady and had a great night. I've been enjoying clubs ever since.

Sometimes the only way to do a thing is to do it.

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By *hefoxesofpenCouple
27 weeks ago

chester

Some tips from a female point of view

Some may seem blindingly obvious but I promise you these have all happened to me, hence I'd discourage you from doong likewise

Don't smell like a polecat. A decent standard of hygiene is a given.

Don't rock up straight from work, in your filthy rigger boots, with hands covered in oil

Trim.your.fingernails.

Don't eat an entire garlic bulb before entry

If you smoke, bear in mind that puts plenty of people off. What do you want more, nicotine or action?

Ditto booze. Dutch courage ok, incoherently d*unk, no.

I attend with a partner. However, I am not a possession he loans out, nor does he speak for me. Be conversational with both of us.

Come up for air. I've had men machine gunning their life at me at a million miles an hour.

Ask what I want and explain how you can help.

Listen to my answers

Be polite and respectful. Remember, no might be no tonight, not no for ever. Spit your dummy out and you'll be discounted for ever.

Don't be a wanking dead lemming, following ladies and couples around the minute there is a hint of flesh.

Above all, just be yourself. Be confident, attentive and self depricating if needed- by avoiding all the above you'll stick out (in a good way) over half the other men there.

Best of luck.

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By *reener OP Man
27 weeks ago

durham

"Some tips from a female point of view

Some may seem blindingly obvious but I promise you these have all happened to me, hence I'd discourage you from doong likewise

Don't smell like a polecat. A decent standard of hygiene is a given.

Don't rock up straight from work, in your filthy rigger boots, with hands covered in oil

Trim.your.fingernails.

Don't eat an entire garlic bulb before entry

If you smoke, bear in mind that puts plenty of people off. What do you want more, nicotine or action?

Ditto booze. Dutch courage ok, incoherently d*unk, no.

I attend with a partner. However, I am not a possession he loans out, nor does he speak for me. Be conversational with both of us.

Come up for air. I've had men machine gunning their life at me at a million miles an hour.

Ask what I want and explain how you can help.

Listen to my answers

Be polite and respectful. Remember, no might be no tonight, not no for ever. Spit your dummy out and you'll be discounted for ever.

Don't be a wanking dead lemming, following ladies and couples around the minute there is a hint of flesh.

Above all, just be yourself. Be confident, attentive and self depricating if needed- by avoiding all the above you'll stick out (in a good way) over half the other men there.

Best of luck. "

Seems a lot of it is all about just being an actual human being and not a scumbag. glad to see I have already ticked all the boxes just have to make the jump and actually attend a club, appreciate the well thought out advice I hope the both of you enjoy the rest of your week!

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By *he Silver FuxMan
27 weeks ago

Utero

"Some tips from a female point of view

Some may seem blindingly obvious but I promise you these have all happened to me, hence I'd discourage you from doong likewise

Don't smell like a polecat. A decent standard of hygiene is a given.

Don't rock up straight from work, in your filthy rigger boots, with hands covered in oil

Trim.your.fingernails.

Don't eat an entire garlic bulb before entry

If you smoke, bear in mind that puts plenty of people off. What do you want more, nicotine or action?

Ditto booze. Dutch courage ok, incoherently d*unk, no.

I attend with a partner. However, I am not a possession he loans out, nor does he speak for me. Be conversational with both of us.

Come up for air. I've had men machine gunning their life at me at a million miles an hour.

Ask what I want and explain how you can help.

Listen to my answers

Be polite and respectful. Remember, no might be no tonight, not no for ever. Spit your dummy out and you'll be discounted for ever.

Don't be a wanking dead lemming, following ladies and couples around the minute there is a hint of flesh.

Above all, just be yourself. Be confident, attentive and self depricating if needed- by avoiding all the above you'll stick out (in a good way) over half the other men there.

Best of luck. "

This lady clubs, heed her advice.

I’ll add, smile, appear friendly and approachable, though don’t stand there expecting to be approached. Go and say hello, tell them it’s your first time (I’ve a friend who uses this line and he’s been going to clubs for years). Don’t approach a woman when her partner disappears to the bar / toilet, that’s a dick move.

Relax, have no agenda other than having a social time. It’s amazing how desperation puts people off.

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