FabSwingers.com forum: Kinky Bratty Dom Advice

By *orajade OP TV/TS
28 weeks ago

barnsley

Hey folks

I’ve got a naturally playful side that’s led me down the path of starting a dom-sub thing with a younger guy.

Neither of us are into pain or anything physically extreme, but with an ex boyfriend a few years ago, I was into tying him into a bed, blindfolding him and teasing him in ways that were super fun.

Like, I’d play with ice and candle wax, a soft whip, I’d edge him and then refuse to go further unless he sang me a song - his mind went to Kiss’ God Gave Rock n Roll To You for reasons completely unknown and then often in public with him from then on, I’d hum it faintly while we shopped or ate in a restaurant, etc then laugh when I saw him stifling a hard-on.

Anyway…I wanna incorporate all of that again with this new dude.

Any other tips for stuff along that theme? I’m also going to bring him to a club at some point and am thinking I can use him as a footstool, have him follow me on all fours, etc.

By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
27 weeks ago

Coventry

There is so much out there and I think as a BDSM type of relationship grows it finds its own direction. I think what you've got going on is enough for now. Try concentrating on playing with those ideas first and see what it unlocks and leads you. Because a lot of what is hot for both of you is a voyage of discovery. Its about sharing your thoughts and allowing your play to open new doors and show direction. I would say just do those things and get them to openly describe how they feel about these things, which in it's self is really hot. Do they find them hot, difficult, scared, comforting, etc? Its a really beautiful and hot thing if they will openly discuss with you how they feel. Be that as you do it or when debriefing or even make them keep a dairy. My point is you don't need to ask us because hopefully the next play will become apparent to you naturally.