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By *tephanieSnow_tv OP   TV/TS
28 weeks ago

rotherham

I'm good friends with a guy on here. We've known each other several years and he usually messages me every day on here and or WhatsApp, mostly just to say hello and how are you. I know from our chats that he's going through some family stuff (elderly parents and an adult son with problems) and I also noticed the last few times I've been over for a coffee that he's developed a terrible cough which I have been asking him to go to the doctors about. It's been 5 days now since he's been online and that I've had any contact from him through any platform and I'm Getting concerned for his wellbeing. I'm not really sure what to do about the situation as I don't want to end up inadvertently outing him in my attempt to find out what's happened to him. Anyone have any idea or advice on how to approach this?

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By *ormagenericlblokeMan
28 weeks ago

Hertfordshire

What an awful situation for you to be in. I hope you are OK as well.

I am not sure if this is a thing, but perhaps you could call the local police station anonymously and see if they can do a home visit?

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By *iss DevilWoman
28 weeks ago

Bedford

This is definitely a tricky situation to find yourself in. I don't know how regular was your contact with him, OP, so can't judge whether 5 days with no contact is normal or not. Some people, though, men in particular, tend to stay away from social media/internet when they're going through tough times. They just don't have enough head space for that. Let's hope this is the case and that you'll hear from him soon.

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By *ew year new nameWoman
28 weeks ago

Bolton

Can you see from his Whatsapp if he's been on there. Unless he has it turned off..should say last seen today..etc?

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By *ormagenericlblokeMan
28 weeks ago

Hertfordshire

good tip

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By (user no longer on site)
28 weeks ago

If you usually have daily contact and he’s been radio silent then I would be worried. Have you messaged and not been replied to?

Is there a reason to be concerned regarding mental health?

From what I can gather you’re quite close, only you know if it would be overstepping to pop round and check on him.

Char

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By *aven RedWoman
28 weeks ago

who knows, but it's not raining x

I think the police can do welfare checks. Not 100% sure though x

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By *tephanieSnow_tv OP   TV/TS
28 weeks ago

rotherham

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By *tephanieSnow_tv OP   TV/TS
28 weeks ago

rotherham


"This is definitely a tricky situation to find yourself in. I don't know how regular was your contact with him, OP, so can't judge whether 5 days with no contact is normal or not. Some people, though, men in particular, tend to stay away from social media/internet when they're going through tough times. They just don't have enough head space for that. Let's hope this is the case and that you'll hear from him soon. "

He would usually touch base with me every day in one form or another. Tbh I think I'm maybe the only real friend he's got and it seemed to me that he ran all his personal/family problems by me (a problem shared is a problem halved). Its highly unlike him to just go silent like this. Its 7 days now since he's been online and on WhatsApp.

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By *ormagenericlblokeMan
28 weeks ago

Hertfordshire


"This is definitely a tricky situation to find yourself in. I don't know how regular was your contact with him, OP, so can't judge whether 5 days with no contact is normal or not. Some people, though, men in particular, tend to stay away from social media/internet when they're going through tough times. They just don't have enough head space for that. Let's hope this is the case and that you'll hear from him soon.

He would usually touch base with me every day in one form or another. Tbh I think I'm maybe the only real friend he's got and it seemed to me that he ran all his personal/family problems by me (a problem shared is a problem halved). Its highly unlike him to just go silent like this. Its 7 days now since he's been online and on WhatsApp."

Definitely contact the police and ask for a welfare chck

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By *ookingFor.....Man
28 weeks ago

Horsham/Crawley

You have his number… have you called it?

Then you’d know if number out of action.

Call if needed from a different number?

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By *etty-spaghetti90Woman
28 weeks ago

Manchester

If something isn't sitting right with you, then its probably not.

I would ask either 111 or 101 to do a welfare check.

You dont need to disclose where you met, just that hes a good friend and that you would normally speak everyday.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
28 weeks ago

East Sussex

Call his phone.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
Forum Mod
28 weeks ago

Central

I agree with the above ideas. If local. I'd probably do a drive past, to check for signs of activity. And potentially dropping a note in, to send good thoughts

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By *enelope2UWoman
28 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

I messaged you as i just recently had unfortunate news and similar circumstances.

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