FabSwingers.com forum: Girlfriend’s gangbang fantasy

By *arymids OP Man
28 weeks ago

Tamworth

I’m after some thoughts and feedback from you experienced people here, on something that’s been weighing on my mind for a while.

Before I started a relationship with my partner, we spent a period having casual sex, we met on Tinder. I was divorced and she was estranged from her husband. She just wanted causal sex without commitment which suited me at the time, and this grew into a friendship, we went out on nice dates etc together, and after a while we realised we had feelings for each other and entered into a committed relationship.

We’d only been in the relationship for a few weeks when one day we were driving in the car, and she suddenly said, “would you believe while I was single I was thinking about going to a gangbang”. This took me by surprise, and I probably looked shocked! She said, don’t worry I’m only interested in you now. I didn’t really know what to think. Prior to meeting her, I’d only had vanilla relationships, including a long marriage, and had assumed gangbangs were largely the sort of thing that only really happened in porn.

I always knew I had a kinky side and as our relationship grew, she’s encouraged me to share and enact my fantasies with her, and I’ve now got the most amazing sex life. We’ve also incorporated her desires into our sex, she loves rough sex, impact play, and most of all being slutty and used. We’ve also found we share exhibitionist tendencies, we have a profile on Fetlife and we love knowing that other people are turned on by our photos and videos. More recently we’ve started going to Chameleons near where we live in the midlands and love being watched fucking.

A little while ago my girlfriend was the victim of revenge porn - her ex, who hated how our relationship starting ended the possiblity of him getting back together with her - sent me lots of photos of them, and also details of how my girlfriend was seriously looking at going to a gangbang with him at the time their relationship ended - this was detailed in texts and messages between them. They had joined the Private Club in Birmingham and were going to go to a Greedy Girl night there, she was keen to be made airtight. Twice they had to cancel at short notice due to her period and then the flu. Then they had a big bust up and their relationship finally ended.

I’m now really conflicted. She has given me everything I’ve ever wanted sexually. I love her being slutty. Half of me wants to let her have her fantasy. Sometimes I get hard thinking about the idea. Other times the thought makes me anxious.

I also can’t find out much about the Private Club and what it would be like at their greedy girl night. It’s not on here in the club reviews for some reason.

She doesn’t want to talk about what she’d planned with him as, understandably, she felt violated by the revenge porn, but it’s clear she was very committed to doing it.

Incidentally she’d previously told me she’d first done MMF when she was 18.

I imagine lots of men on here were nervous about seeing their partner with another man, but made their peace with it? Would she have the same experience at Chameleons if we decided to do it, or is there something in particular about the Private Club? I kind of need to know what it’s like before talking about the possibility of doing it.

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By *ister and Mrs SmithCouple
28 weeks ago

Manchester

It's definitely weird the first time seeing your partner with someone else, you want them to enjoy it, but not as much as she does with you, it does mess your head up a bit. But we've got to the point now where I'd love to see Mrs have a gangbang, and I love seeing her moan on other cocks.

We've been chams a few times so probably best if you go there and watch her do some soft play with another man, let it sink in for a few days and then see how you both think, ease in to seeing her with other people instead of diving straight in with a gangbang

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
28 weeks ago

Cambridgeshire

Don't do anything based on what her ex told you, unless you want to be her ex as well. Ignore any information he gave you, and never mention it, however intrigued you are. His intention was to mess you up.

Start from scratch with her.

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By *aughtyFreddoMan
28 weeks ago

Coventry

Maybe start off at a place for couples - Chameleons, Xtasia etc.

Private Club is full of riff raff/single men (like me).

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By *orgetmeKnotCouple
28 weeks ago

Rainham, Kent

Perhaps try a MFM threesome first to test the water. Don't dive in at the deep end if you're unsure. At least if you change your mind mid session, you've only got to communicate it with 1 guy x

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By *arymids OP Man
28 weeks ago

Tamworth

"Don't do anything based on what her ex told you, unless you want to be her ex as well. Ignore any information he gave you, and never mention it, however intrigued you are. His intention was to mess you up.

Start from scratch with her."

The ex’s intention was definitely to mess with me - but he sent WhatsApp screenshots, not his own spin on the situation - so I know this was what she wanted. She did say she’d been looking at going to a private gangbang in London too. I think the ex’s role was as much to look out for her as anything else. She was very committed to doing this while she was single. Now she’s with me, and we’re committed to spending the rest of our lives together, do I effectively prevent her from fulfilling this desire which she was clearly determined to go through with, or do I facilitate it, like she has done with so many of my fantasies…

It’s so tough. The thought of it does arouse me sometimes, and I’d went to be a participant, but other times it makes me feel very uneasy.

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By *olo_89Couple
28 weeks ago

Kettering

The 1st time seeing your other half with another man can be strange. I found it unusual, not a turn on but not a jealousy thing either. I did enjoy how excited she was and the reclaim was amazing.

I have recently grown more into sharing her with other men especially for DP/DVP and watching her face. My perspective has changed over time and yours very well could aswell. But start slow mfm,mfmf and so on before jumping into a gangbang.

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
28 weeks ago

Cambridgeshire

"The ex’s intention was definitely to mess with me - but he sent WhatsApp screenshots, not his own spin on the situation - so I know this was what she wanted. "

Anything he sent you is toxic to your relationship. Don't look at it, delete it, block him immediately, and never think about it again.

Do you really want her thinking that you're influenced by him? Do you want her thinking that you're like him?

Do what you do with her entirely because of what she says to you, not because of what someone else said or showed you.

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By *arymids OP Man
28 weeks ago

Tamworth

Do you really want her thinking that you're influenced by him? Do you want her thinking that you're like him?

Do what you do with her entirely because of what she says to you, not because of what someone else said or showed you. "

I think you’re right. She did mention her gangbang fantasy to me well over a year before her ex told me about it too though. I wonder if she was testing the water with me?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
28 weeks ago

Leeds

I'm curious why you have a profile on here

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By *arymids OP Man
28 weeks ago

Tamworth

"I'm curious why you have a profile on here"

After I got divorced I went on here for a while. Then started a relationship and had no interest in meeting anyone else.

Recently my girlfriend and I developed an interest in exhibitionist and decided to go a club. There is lots of information about clubs on here so I came back to look at that information, making sure my profile in no way suggests I’m looking to meet anyone, nor have any posts to forums I’ve made suggest I’m looking to meet anyone. I do however find this forum interesting and have useful contributions to make to some topics.

We’ve only been to chameleons so far but we are interested in trying other clubs and I’m not aware of a better place than here to find information about clubs.

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
28 weeks ago

Newry

Just because she wanted to do something back then when she was in a relationship with him, it doesn't mean she still wants to now.

Communication, not second guessing, is surely the way forward?

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By *aughtyFreddoMan
28 weeks ago

Coventry

"Perhaps try a MFM threesome first to test the water. Don't dive in at the deep end if you're unsure. At least if you change your mind mid session, you've only got to communicate it with 1 guy x"

Good advice

Perhaps watch Open House together on C4 streaming beforehand

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By *arymids OP Man
28 weeks ago

Tamworth

"Just because she wanted to do something back then when she was in a relationship with him, it doesn't mean she still wants to now.

Communication, not second guessing, is surely the way forward? "

She wasn’t in a relationship with him then as such, she’d booted him out six months previously and she was enjoying being ‘single’ but among other casual partners, did go back to him a couple of times.

You are right to say communication is key, but she doesn’t want to talk about the specifics of her plans with him as she feels violated due to the revenge porn, and if I’m to raise it more generally, I’d want to be comfortable with going ahead with it, as I wouldn’t like to raise her hopes.

Hence I’m keen to understand what the dynamic in the mysterious Private Club which has no reviews on here, compared to Chameleons, which we’ve been to, though haven’t witnessed any gangbangs there (yet).

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
28 weeks ago

Newry

"Just because she wanted to do something back then when she was in a relationship with him, it doesn't mean she still wants to now.

Communication, not second guessing, is surely the way forward?

You're missing the only point that matters. I'm not talking about communicating with her about then, regardless of their relationship or lack thereof.

It's communication with her about her wants and needs now, today, in the present. Communication that includes your fears too. Involving her in discussion about it from the outset, rather than scurrying about secretly finding out about some mysterious club to see whether that might be the deciding factor for YOU.

If she felt violated by her ex's behaviour and betrayal of trust then why on earth are you perpetuating that instead of being open and honest with her?

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By *ookiemonsterMan
28 weeks ago

folkestone

She'll probably do it anyway, so the question is, do you want to be there or not?

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By *iddle ManMan
28 weeks ago

Walsall

Firstly, jumping straight into a gangbang could be a bit full on, and a greedy girl night at that club will be taking it to the max. Although as with any club, you only do as much or little as you like.

My suggestion is to start off a bit slower threesome and foursome. See how that feels, a gangbang can be an intense experience especially for the female.

Watching your partner being pleasured by someone else for the first time can be odd, but as long as she is enjoying herself I'm sure you will find it hot aswell.

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By *ony-JonesMan
27 weeks ago

Gillingham

Revenge porn is nasty, her ex is jealous and could also send those pics to your family and friends and is also illegal, ask him if he wants to spend time inside. Every one has kinks and desires this doesn't mean will carry them out. If she does want a gang bang is probably best to do at a club, at least you will be there for her safety rather than her try it on her own.

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