FabSwingers.com forum: I think I got a decent profile now.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's taken a lot of re-writing and a lot of thinking about what I want from the site and what I can present to others.

I think I've hit on a pretty good profile that is pretty clear about what I want and what I can offer.

I'd love it if you could give me some feedback

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Some body pics would be good - the whole package as it were. There's a lot about what you like and not enough about what you can offer. It's well set out and easy to read with no spelling or grammatical errors. I read it with a welsh lilt so it read well. Good luck and happy swinging.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's ok. A tad dull maybe ? To many face pics. More body ones x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lets see ur bum and shoulders mmmm

Like the written bit, maybe how available u r to meet?

I think if u were closer and a little older I would try a bit

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesnt really stand out for me or say much about you to be honest and you havent written anything about what you can offer a meet when you do. But thats just my opinion.. If your happy with it. Good luck and happy swinging!

More pics, full body shots. If you dont want them on show put them in private, if you havent already...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for your tips!

I did add some body pics, I have a pic of my bum and a discrete front view.

however, I don't want photos of my face and photos of my mostly nude body in the same account, in case any of my family or friends find it in a google search.

I think I'm pushing it to be honest. This profile is not something I want to share with them you see. I guess that fact says a lot more about me that what I actually put in my profile.

I've messed around on here many times trying to get a profile that is good enough to meet at least one person. and I have yet to meet with anybody.

I ask myself is it really worth it?

OK, I'll hide my face pics and then put my body pics on there...

how can I make it less boring? I thought of putting stuff on there about my hobbies but isn't that for dating sites? It's really tough trying to figure out what people expect.

but then.. if I can't just meet somebody nice to shag with now and then... it seems a bit pointless.

well let's see how this goes.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sounds a bit more like "Im gonna wank so much before we meet that we wont in fact meet"

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"sounds a bit more like "Im gonna wank so much before we meet that we wont in fact meet""

really? my intention was to give an idea of what kind of meeting it might be and what sort of person I am.

I would never do that btw, I mean first of all, I generally only get turned on by how a person responds to me rather than fantasies, pictures or words etc. second of all, I put great value on my word. If I say I'll do something, I do it.

I guess none of that comes across... ^_^;

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"sounds a bit more like "Im gonna wank so much before we meet that we wont in fact meet"

really? my intention was to give an idea of what kind of meeting it might be and what sort of person I am.

I guess none of that comes across... ^_^;"

talking about urself is great, and what u like..it doesnt have to be in depth

for me personally, I try making the text part of my profile more about my personality..and not so much about what I want to do or what uber shagging power I may have

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks very much for your feedback!

I've thought carefully about all this and you're right, I need to sell myself on who I am, not what I want or what I can do.

I've completely re-written the whole lot, paying attention to my personality.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

last paragraph is bit pointless if honest.

doesnt say much as to what looking for regarding meeting someone also and expect/likes

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sorry, but I think it all sounds a bit creepy.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm sorry, but I think it all sounds a bit creepy.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds more like a dating profile than a swinging one but hey perhaps thats what you're looking for

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

creepy?

damn, that stings. I mean, I did my best to describe my personality as a previous poster suggested.

I find that pretty harsh without any explanation as to why describing my personality is creepy...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

however, I don't want photos of my face and photos of my mostly nude body in the same account, in case any of my family or friends find it in a google search.

I think I'm pushing it to be honest. This profile is not something I want to share with them you see.

You're not alone in not wanting to display your face publicly and you can remove your profile from google searches etc via your privacy settings - use the link at the bottom of the left hand column on your account page. You can remove it from internet searches and ensure it is only fully visible to registered members of Fab.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"creepy?

damn, that stings. I mean, I did my best to describe my personality as a previous poster suggested.

I find that pretty harsh without any explanation as to why describing my personality is creepy...

You asked for an opinion and you got one.....if you don't think that saying something like ''I like staring into her eyes'' may come across as creepy then that's fine.....and good luck.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for clarifying.

personally, I thought it was romantic. is there absolutely no place for romance here? I am generally romantic but if people find that creepy then fair enough.

I'll remove that part. thanks for pointing it out.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"creepy?

damn, that stings. I mean, I did my best to describe my personality as a previous poster suggested.

I find that pretty harsh without any explanation as to why describing my personality is creepy...

uve essentially not listened to me lololol...

try being a little more generic..ur still sounding like someone who is masturbating as they write their profile

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was more the journey aspect that was more creepy for me, sounds like you are a deep spiritual person, which isn't a bad thing if you are. The last paragraph isn't necessary...

I wish you well...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You're not alone in not wanting to display your face publicly and you can remove your profile from google searches etc via your privacy settings

thanks, I've done that, I appreciate it!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not sure creepy describes what you have written but I do think you come across as quite intense and people who are looking for light hearted no strings fun might find that off putting but whatever you write there will be people who find your profile is not for them, its a basic fact of the site.

There is nothing wrong with wanting an element of intimacy and eye contact during sex, its how you write it rather than what you want that makes a difference.

Everyone will have different views on what a profile should say, there are 100s of threads on the subject. Ultimately your profile should say what you want it to say and it should reflect you, your character and what you want and bring to the table.

If you feel it does that then it is the right profile for you, it wont appeal to everyone but its true what they say - you can only please some of the people some of the time.

You might do better by becoming more involved in the forums, that way people will get to know you better. Socials are also a good way to meet people and there are plenty of those around, see the meets pages. It can seem daunting at first but people will make you feel welcome, if going to a social is too daunting a meet can be even more so!

Swinging is as much social as it is about sex, loosen up, be yourself and enjoy it for what it is, the meets will come but you do have to be patient - as a single guy you are one in a million so dont expect it to be easy. Expect nothing in fact and then everything is a happy bonus.

Good luck

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It was more the journey aspect that was more creepy for me, sounds like you are a deep spiritual person, which isn't a bad thing if you are. The last paragraph isn't necessary...

I wish you well...

yes you are right, I am a very spiritual person.

I can understand why that doesn't mesh too well... yep I totally get it.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks vie en rouge ,

I would definitely like to go to socials, I have looked for ones being held near Wrexham, but I have yet to find one that doesn't involve having to travel a fair distance.

I need to thank TheTiG for helping me to rephrase that profile now.

I reckon maybe I struggle with this because I'm dyslexic. The only kind of writing I can do is what comes straight into my head.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks vie en rouge ,

I would definitely like to go to socials, I have looked for ones being held near Wrexham, but I have yet to find one that doesn't involve having to travel a fair distance.

I need to thank TheTiG for helping me to rephrase that profile now.

I reckon maybe I struggle with this because I'm dyslexic. The only kind of writing I can do is what comes straight into my head. "

Isnt that how most people write

Think about what you like sexually, what you want sexually, and socially, write your thoughts down in a word doc so spellcheck will highlight the errors (guessing you do this bit already) and then read what you have written, imagine you were a woman/couple whoever reading it and ask yourself would I want to meet this guy?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

Post new Message to Thread