FabSwingers.com forum: First time experience advice

By *ubmissiveSharedAndThick OP Couple
28 weeks ago

Droitwich Spa

My partner is interested in seeing me with another man for the first time. Wives who have done this, any advice on how to make it a great experience for him?

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By *uckingfell59Man
28 weeks ago

Doncaster

Well not a wife but we men have that first experience fear as well, my advice is to make it a great experience for you both , and discuss together how that can be achieved, if your as nervous as I was, I would ask the wife to support and encourage the husband in equal measure

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By *ineapple_turnoverCouple
28 weeks ago

London

The only real advice is to communicate well before, during and after. Set your expectations and limits, what is something that he and you would find uncomfortable. What is that you would both love to see or try. How to do you communicate during if something isn't how you want it to be (some couples use a code word or phrase to help in a situation which can be complex).

As long as you do that you can come away with positive experiences no matter how things go

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By *ormagenericlblokeMan
28 weeks ago

Hertfordshire

I think read what Pineapple has said as the advice is spot on.

Main thing is, be sure its what you both want and you aren't just doing it to try and please the other partner. Same as if it was a female, its a big "new" element to add to your relationship

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By *erPleasureHisRulesCouple
28 weeks ago

Barnsley

My Mrs is also my submissive and I told her of my desire to share her. She wasn't up for it at first, but we talked a lot and she trusts me. So I asked her do you want me to train you to be my slut and she said "yes sir" I took it steady and slowly introduced her to talking to other guys and sending them pics. Long story short she has fucked 3 other guys so far with me there and is loving it, as am I 😍

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By *ubbutteoWoman
28 weeks ago

PDI

From my experience as a shared girlfriend, it really is the best of both worlds — you get the advantages of being single and in a relationship at the same time, and your partner gets to see their fantasy come to life. There’s no loss to be had if you both go into it with honesty and care.

Just make sure you’re clear about each other’s limits before anything happens. Start with chatting online to anyone that takes your fancy — which you’re already doing here — then, when you find the right one, meet for a drink and see where it takes you!

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By *andyrich555Man
28 weeks ago

ub4

My advice would be to have three Safe phrases...

"Do you like my wife tits"

Could mean that your hubby is happy fir you proceed.

"I've always wished my tit's were bigger / smaller"

Could be an indication that you are happy to proceed.

"I wonder if the babysitter has managed to put Tom to bed"

Could mean that either of you wants to stop.

Another idea would be for your husband to direct you and the other man... that way you move at his pace, he is in control and gets to see what he wants, when he is ready to see it

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By *ubmissiveSharedAndThick OP Couple
28 weeks ago

Droitwich Spa

Thanks everyone, really good perspectives. I'm more cautious and shy, but I can't deny I do like the attention and compliments I have been getting!

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By *ubbutteoWoman
28 weeks ago

PDI

Feel free to DM me hun if you have any questions or need any advice from someone thats has been through it all before.

btw I can see why you're getting so many compliments your 🔥 enjoy it.

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By *ust and PoundCouple
28 weeks ago

Wirral

Something we're considering. Our initial plan is to meet a man we've played with together rather than someone new.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
28 weeks ago

Coventry

As others have said communicate openly and clearly, not hold anything back from each other or say something is ok for the team. Also go in to it both with the understanding that despite talking it all through it may not pan out as planned. Nobody 100% knows if one or both of you will be cool with it until you experience it. So you both have to go in knowing you are making a calculated risk and knowing you'll be able to talk it out and find away if it doesn't work out or someone doesn't like it. The elephant in the room regarding swinger couples is sometimes in this scene you drop clangers even with the best intentions. So you need to be tight and communicate openly when things go good and especially when things don't. If you have that security in each other and that open communication you'll be fine either way. And if all goes well the debrief/reclaim after will be hot as fuck.

Personally I would recommend a club. Even if you don't want to play in a club and arrange something outside the club with the right guy. Using fab you can waste hours massaging, being stood up or just finding when you meet in the real world the guy is not for you after all that effort. In a club you don't need to match dates and times with loads of guys and risk getting stood up or lots of individual expenses per meet. You just go at a time that works for you and shamelessly speed date. Meeting face to face first what you see is what you get and you can judge chemistry pretty quick. If a guy is not for you, simply move on to the next. When you find your guy you can sample the good there and then or swap details for something more intimate in the future (or both). You may find it hard to pick and have/find more that one guy to enjoy on their own or maybe have more than one guy at once if the mood takes you.

Thats my thinking anyway.

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