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"Hey everyone, I’m heading to my first club event tonight as a single male and could use some advice on how to approach it the right way. Last week, I went to a social event and met quite a few people. I made an effort to introduce myself to everyone and even joined a few groups when I found myself standing alone. Everyone was polite and welcoming, which really helped ease the nerves. I did notice that some couples only play with bi men, which I totally respect even though I’m not bi myself. I didn’t see it as a big deal but it did make me think about how to read situations better. So my question is – how do you tell which couples or women might be interested and which ones aren’t? I can usually tell when someone’s not into me, but at clubs there seem to be so many different preferences – some only play with couples, others with single guys, or only bi men. When’s the right moment to back off and give space versus when to stay and chat? I’d really appreciate any tips to make things smoother and keep things respectful. Thanks in advance. " Treat it in exactly the same way you did in the non sexual space… talk to people, and everything is no until told otherwise….. | |||
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"Hey everyone, I’m heading to my first club event tonight as a single male and could use some advice on how to approach it the right way. Last week, I went to a social event and met quite a few people. I made an effort to introduce myself to everyone and even joined a few groups when I found myself standing alone. Everyone was polite and welcoming, which really helped ease the nerves. I did notice that some couples only play with bi men, which I totally respect even though I’m not bi myself. I didn’t see it as a big deal but it did make me think about how to read situations better. So my question is – how do you tell which couples or women might be interested and which ones aren’t? I can usually tell when someone’s not into me, but at clubs there seem to be so many different preferences – some only play with couples, others with single guys, or only bi men. When’s the right moment to back off and give space versus when to stay and chat? I’d really appreciate any tips to make things smoother and keep things respectful. Thanks in advance. Treat it in exactly the same way you did in the non sexual space… talk to people, and everything is no until told otherwise….. " Hey man, thanks for the tip  | |||
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"I’m the same I’d love to go to a club event and dress there but just haven’t got the courage to go on my own as yet - any advice welcome x " Hi Karen, I’d love to take you to a club | |||
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"When’s the right moment to back off and give space versus when to stay and chat? I’d really appreciate any tips to make things smoother and keep things respectful." Some people are happy to chat at a club even with people they don't want to play with, and some people only want to talk to people who are their type. And some people want a lengthy chat before anything else, with a slow build, and some people want to play as soon as they've said hello. And then, as a single guy there are the couples who like you, but want to interview a few more candidates before giving you the job. It seems like a minefield. The rule of thumb is to chat to them for as long as you're enjoying it and you feel that they're both enjoying it as well. But if you feel you're getting nowhere it's perfectly acceptable to say something like "Great to meet you, but I'm not going to monopolise you, so I'm going for a scout round.". It's up to you whether you add "Hope to see you in a playroom later". The most successful guys at a club are those who can talk about what they and the couple are looking for, and without making a big deal of it. If you fancy them, make sure you tell them somehow! | |||
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"I’m the same I’d love to go to a club event and dress there but just haven’t got the courage to go on my own as yet - any advice welcome x " Obvious advice would be don't go to a sauna based club, because it's difficult to be a cross-dresser in a naked hot-tub. I've seen very few CDs at normal club nights, so if you go to one, you need to be ready to feel quite excluded. Not to say that you won't get any action, or that no-one will talk to you, but you would feel like the odd one out But then, we went to one club, and it seemed mainly CDs, so I'd say start your own thread and ask about the best clubs to visit. Also some of them have explicitly themed CD friendly events. | |||
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