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By *erdy and Sparkles OP   Couple
29 weeks ago

Stoke-on-Trent

Hey everyone,

I (female) get freaked out at the idea of mandatory dress-down.Sounds daft I know, just prefer to do it when I'm ready sort of thing. Some club nights I stay more dressed than others in open areas, some nights I'd happily walk round naked (but I don't)... Anyone else feel the same before they went for the first time? It's been a blocker for a few clubs recently and don't want it to be...

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By *iss DevilWoman
29 weeks ago

Bedford


"Hey everyone,

I (female) get freaked out at the idea of mandatory dress-down.Sounds daft I know, just prefer to do it when I'm ready sort of thing. Some club nights I stay more dressed than others in open areas, some nights I'd happily walk round naked (but I don't)... Anyone else feel the same before they went for the first time? It's been a blocker for a few clubs recently and don't want it to be..."

How about trying clubs without mandatory dress down? As not every single club requires people to dress down, even when they move to play areas. Some examples in my "neck of woods" are Jaydees and Penthouse Playrooms. Further afield - the Attic. I think Xtasia doesn't require people to dress down either but not 100% sure.

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
29 weeks ago

Bristol/ Daventry

They’re not for me either. So I avoid them. There’s loads of others out there that are a better fit for the type of play and style I like.

There’s no reason to go anywhere you don’t feel comfortable, IMO comfort, confidence and feeling your best will make for a far sexier time.

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By *ice_couple2012Couple
29 weeks ago

Leicester

First time we went to a dress down club we were extremely nervous and weren't sure it would be 'our thing'at all. In fact it was fine and that club (Chams) is now our absolute favourite. The vibe is much sexier and you feel anything could happen at any time of the day or evening rather than everyone hanging on to dress down and play at some point later in the eveining

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By *lue_OasisWoman
29 weeks ago

birmingham

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By *lue_OasisWoman
29 weeks ago

birmingham


"Hey everyone,

I (female) get freaked out at the idea of mandatory dress-down.Sounds daft I know, just prefer to do it when I'm ready sort of thing. Some club nights I stay more dressed than others in open areas, some nights I'd happily walk round naked (but I don't)... Anyone else feel the same before they went for the first time? It's been a blocker for a few clubs recently and don't want it to be...

How about trying clubs without mandatory dress down? As not every single club requires people to dress down, even when they move to play areas. Some examples in my "neck of woods" are Jaydees and Penthouse Playrooms. Further afield - the Attic. I think Xtasia doesn't require people to dress down either but not 100% sure. "

I go to Xtasia quite often, they don't require you to dress down.

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
29 weeks ago

Stockport

Whilst we have no problem dressing down when we are ready

Mrs j goes to a lot of trouble to get ready , hair nails , sexy dress etc , to just walk in and take it off ?

Once at a dress down club , we watched someone walk in , in their trackers

5 mins later and dressed down , they were trying their luck with us

It made us wonder why we bothered getting dressed up in the first place

We like the social at the bar , and if things go that way , then we're more than happy to dress down

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By *olo_89Couple
29 weeks ago

Kettering

Yeah we avoid dress down clubs, we will straps if and when ready that's why we stick to clubs like Jaydees and Attic. No dress down requirments unless you want to

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By *onicZMan
29 weeks ago

Nottinghamshire

The attic is a great club for this. Busy on their party nights but if you want it quieter then just go on a standard night, not too busy but not dead either.

Also like the naughty pineapple in Leicester if you're looking for a smaller club

Jaydees is one I haven't been to but have heard excellent things about.

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By *erdy and Sparkles OP   Couple
29 weeks ago

Stoke-on-Trent


"Hey everyone,

I (female) get freaked out at the idea of mandatory dress-down.Sounds daft I know, just prefer to do it when I'm ready sort of thing. Some club nights I stay more dressed than others in open areas, some nights I'd happily walk round naked (but I don't)... Anyone else feel the same before they went for the first time? It's been a blocker for a few clubs recently and don't want it to be...

How about trying clubs without mandatory dress down? As not every single club requires people to dress down, even when they move to play areas. Some examples in my "neck of woods" are Jaydees and Penthouse Playrooms. Further afield - the Attic. I think Xtasia doesn't require people to dress down either but not 100% sure. "

We do attend clubs that aren't mandatory dress-down and we love them! Haven't ventured to either you mentioned though yet. Just wondering what others thought to the "dress-down" ones as it's definitely stopped us attending what look to be fantastic themed nights xx

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By *erdy and Sparkles OP   Couple
29 weeks ago

Stoke-on-Trent


"First time we went to a dress down club we were extremely nervous and weren't sure it would be 'our thing'at all. In fact it was fine and that club (Chams) is now our absolute favourite. The vibe is much sexier and you feel anything could happen at any time of the day or evening rather than everyone hanging on to dress down and play at some point later in the eveining "

This is super encouraging, Chams is actually on of the ones we've had in mind for quite some time now but keep putting it off xx

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By *erdy and Sparkles OP   Couple
29 weeks ago

Stoke-on-Trent


"The attic is a great club for this. Busy on their party nights but if you want it quieter then just go on a standard night, not too busy but not dead either.

Also like the naughty pineapple in Leicester if you're looking for a smaller club

Jaydees is one I haven't been to but have heard excellent things about."

We love Attic! Busy nights and quiter ones, always a great night. Not had a venture to the other 2 yet xx

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By *eggieMarshmallowWoman
29 weeks ago

Cardiff

The idea terrified me as someone with body dimorphism but as the first club I went to was dress down (I was so terrified at first) I soon became so much more comfortable. Being around people also wearing towels, lingerie or underwear felt so much more communal. If you are considering it, I would recommend you give it a go if you can because going to dress down clubs has helped me a lot with my confidence and body image. You absolutely don't have to stay if you don't like it, but I'm super glad I got through the nerves

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By *inks_apeyCouple
29 weeks ago

Staffordshire

We love chams, so much so nowadays that when we goto clubs that aren't dress down it just feels strange. But not everything is for everyone, so do what you enjoy, that's the point after all. But would recommend chams (Darlaston especially) and see how you get on, if you don't like it, at least you will know for sure.

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By *eautifully TwistedWoman
29 weeks ago

Telford

I love chams it is my favourite club.

It is dress down so I was nervous my first time but everyone is in the same boat so I actually felt really comfortable.

If it's not your thing then just stick with what you like. I think it is worth a go personally , stepping out of comfort zones in a safe way is not usually a bad thing. You either like it or don't but at least you'll know for sure.

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By *andy IanMan
29 weeks ago

cheshire/Preston

My ex and I visited a dress down club regularly I’d wear a towel or boxers she would wear short play dresses with lingerie. She loved the attention from other quests teased and flashed when she wanted too

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By *aomilatteCouple
29 weeks ago

Midlands

We don't go to dress down clubs, we prefer not to see nakedness that we haven't chosen to see in the social areas. We'll go in a lockable playroom and enjoy the nakedness with play partners.

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By *ENW coupleCouple
29 weeks ago

west lancs

We prefer dress down on arrival as we find everyone relaxes easily all on a level field and play starts earlier. We’ve been to non dress down and no one makes a move it’s just like being at the pub. Other options we think is good is dress down at a set time ie 9.30

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By *ebauchery DivineWoman
29 weeks ago

Down in Dickleburgh Drive

I never thought I'd ever find myself at a dress down club! I really didn't like the thought of it, but once I started going to chams I preferred it.

What's the worst that can happen? You go and don't like it, but what if you prefer them as well

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By *otPoshorBecksCouple
29 weeks ago

London

At VA and Jaydees and Penthouse you can stay dressed up as long as you want. There are no rules about lingerie or nudity. Even at Rios a nudist spa you can wear swimwear xx

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By *ice_couple2012Couple
29 weeks ago

Leicester


"First time we went to a dress down club we were extremely nervous and weren't sure it would be 'our thing'at all. In fact it was fine and that club (Chams) is now our absolute favourite. The vibe is much sexier and you feel anything could happen at any time of the day or evening rather than everyone hanging on to dress down and play at some point later in the eveining

This is super encouraging, Chams is actually on of the ones we've had in mind for quite some time now but keep putting it off xx"

As others have said, it's worth stepping out of your comfort zone just once in a while to discover new things that you may like. The worst that can happen is you decide you don't like it and then you can just stick to what you know is ok for you. We've talked to à number of people at Chams who initially had doubts about dressing down that were part of more general body image anxieties but actually they ended up feeling more confident and relaxed.

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By *inks_apeyCouple
29 weeks ago

Staffordshire


"First time we went to a dress down club we were extremely nervous and weren't sure it would be 'our thing'at all. In fact it was fine and that club (Chams) is now our absolute favourite. The vibe is much sexier and you feel anything could happen at any time of the day or evening rather than everyone hanging on to dress down and play at some point later in the eveining

This is super encouraging, Chams is actually on of the ones we've had in mind for quite some time now but keep putting it off xx

As others have said, it's worth stepping out of your comfort zone just once in a while to discover new things that you may like. The worst that can happen is you decide you don't like it and then you can just stick to what you know is ok for you. We've talked to à number of people at Chams who initially had doubts about dressing down that were part of more general body image anxieties but actually they ended up feeling more confident and relaxed. "

Completely agree

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By *ctionSandwichCouple
29 weeks ago

Newcastle under Lyme

We were apprehensive of dress down clubs as well, and to be fair tried clubs where that wasn't mandatory first. We've since been to Chams and fou d it fine. It was a quiet night when we went for the first time due to awful weather.

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
29 weeks ago

Around the Midlands

We had the same mindset as others regarding Chams, however once we'd taken that initial step we felt really comfortable and it's now our favourite club!

Best of luck in whatever you decide to do OP 👍🏻

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By *andy IanMan
29 weeks ago

cheshire/Preston

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By *erdy and Sparkles OP   Couple
28 weeks ago

Stoke-on-Trent

Thanks guys and girls You have all had great things to say and have put our minds at ease. Think we might give Chams a try in the near future Any nights / events that people would suggest giving a try first? We're not new to the scene or clubs just to the dress-down ones.

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28 weeks ago

We avoid clubs where it’s dress down straight away, I (Char) don’t feel comfortable with it, so just don’t put myself in that position.

There are quite a few clubs where dress down isn’t mandatory, or is, but only when going through to the play areas.

Do what makes you comfortable.

C

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
28 weeks ago

Around the Midlands


"Thanks guys and girls You have all had great things to say and have put our minds at ease. Think we might give Chams a try in the near future Any nights / events that people would suggest giving a try first? We're not new to the scene or clubs just to the dress-down ones."

Depends on how busy you want it to be. Events are well attended. Check their website for what works for you both

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By *elaxed CoupleCouple
28 weeks ago

Cheshire

Whilst we're far from shy, dress down policies & even the risk of them has prevented us from attending a club. That whole idea of someone else controlling when we take our clothes off is extremely unappealing.

Unfortunately we don't seem to have clubs close by that have a more relaxed policy, so we're guessing it's something that'll never happen for us.

That plus the pvc beds / judo mats & the pink neon makes us shudder a bit.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
28 weeks ago

Coventry

We generally feel more comfortable in a dress down environment. It just puts everyone on a level. We find that it actually seems to make people more open and social. Its one of those things that seems really scary but when you actually try it pretty quickly it becomes a non thing and you realise how carefree you feel.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
28 weeks ago

Coventry


"Thanks guys and girls You have all had great things to say and have put our minds at ease. Think we might give Chams a try in the near future Any nights / events that people would suggest giving a try first? We're not new to the scene or clubs just to the dress-down ones."

To choose the best time to go really depends on what you want from a first visit? Wednesday, Thursday and Sunday are less busy and chilled. Note Thursday night is naked night, so the ultimate dress down . Friday night tend to be busy and open to all. Saturday night is busy but couples and single ladies only. Monday is bi night (mainly aimed at a welcoming space for bi men). There are numerous parties across the year. We tend not to go to the parties as it can be a bit too crowed and busy for us.

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
28 weeks ago

wonderland.


"Hey everyone,

I (female) get freaked out at the idea of mandatory dress-down.Sounds daft I know, just prefer to do it when I'm ready sort of thing. Some club nights I stay more dressed than others in open areas, some nights I'd happily walk round naked (but I don't)... Anyone else feel the same before they went for the first time? It's been a blocker for a few clubs recently and don't want it to be...

How about trying clubs without mandatory dress down? As not every single club requires people to dress down, even when they move to play areas. Some examples in my "neck of woods" are Jaydees and Penthouse Playrooms. Further afield - the Attic. I think Xtasia doesn't require people to dress down either but not 100% sure.

We do attend clubs that aren't mandatory dress-down and we love them! Haven't ventured to either you mentioned though yet. Just wondering what others thought to the "dress-down" ones as it's definitely stopped us attending what look to be fantastic themed nights xx"
I am the opposite... when we have to go to a dress up club i feel awkward

Ive also found that with one exception my favourite clubs are dress down. To be fair if you want to try chams, look for a themed party night... as then you can wear a costume/ outfit.

Personally I found the first time terrifying at a dress down club,but since then its 2nd nature.

Cali

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By *elaxed CoupleCouple
28 weeks ago

Cheshire


"Hey everyone,

I (female) get freaked out at the idea of mandatory dress-down.Sounds daft I know, just prefer to do it when I'm ready sort of thing. Some club nights I stay more dressed than others in open areas, some nights I'd happily walk round naked (but I don't)... Anyone else feel the same before they went for the first time? It's been a blocker for a few clubs recently and don't want it to be...

How about trying clubs without mandatory dress down? As not every single club requires people to dress down, even when they move to play areas. Some examples in my "neck of woods" are Jaydees and Penthouse Playrooms. Further afield - the Attic. I think Xtasia doesn't require people to dress down either but not 100% sure.

We do attend clubs that aren't mandatory dress-down and we love them! Haven't ventured to either you mentioned though yet. Just wondering what others thought to the "dress-down" ones as it's definitely stopped us attending what look to be fantastic themed nights xx I am the opposite... when we have to go to a dress up club i feel awkward

Ive also found that with one exception my favourite clubs are dress down. To be fair if you want to try chams, look for a themed party night... as then you can wear a costume/ outfit.

Personally I found the first time terrifying at a dress down club,but since then its 2nd nature.

Cali"

We attended a large dress down party & getting down to underwear, or less, didn't bother us. But Mr didn't enjoy it. Females will always be the centre of attention, but getting ignored really made his night less than fun.

Pointless if we don't both enjoy the experience really, but we'd give a club a try if we had a clothing optional place relatively close by.

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By *he Silver FuxMan
28 weeks ago

Utero

I like the both the dress down immediately clubs (like Chams) and the ‘hybrids’ (Vanilla Alternative / Liberty Elite)- social clothed, later in the evening dress down to play. The idea of getting undressed and then dressed again is just weird.. and inconvenient.

I like clubs like VA and Libs - I and my dates can an effort and dress up - they get to wear incredibly sexy revealing outfits that wouldn’t be acceptable in many vanilla settings and then dress in lingerie too 🤩

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By *he Silver FuxMan
28 weeks ago

Utero


"Hey everyone,

I (female) get freaked out at the idea of mandatory dress-down.Sounds daft I know, just prefer to do it when I'm ready sort of thing. Some club nights I stay more dressed than others in open areas, some nights I'd happily walk round naked (but I don't)... Anyone else feel the same before they went for the first time? It's been a blocker for a few clubs recently and don't want it to be...

How about trying clubs without mandatory dress down? As not every single club requires people to dress down, even when they move to play areas. Some examples in my "neck of woods" are Jaydees and Penthouse Playrooms. Further afield - the Attic. I think Xtasia doesn't require people to dress down either but not 100% sure.

We do attend clubs that aren't mandatory dress-down and we love them! Haven't ventured to either you mentioned though yet. Just wondering what others thought to the "dress-down" ones as it's definitely stopped us attending what look to be fantastic themed nights xx I am the opposite... when we have to go to a dress up club i feel awkward

Ive also found that with one exception my favourite clubs are dress down. To be fair if you want to try chams, look for a themed party night... as then you can wear a costume/ outfit.

Personally I found the first time terrifying at a dress down club,but since then its 2nd nature.

Cali

We attended a large dress down party & getting down to underwear, or less, didn't bother us. But Mr didn't enjoy it. Females will always be the centre of attention, but getting ignored really made his night less than fun.

Pointless if we don't both enjoy the experience really, but we'd give a club a try if we had a clothing optional place relatively close by."

So this is less about clothing and more about your husband’s experience… Would it have been any different if he had kept his clothes on?

Try the Attic or Xtasia, there’s no requirement to dress down.

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By * and BCouple
28 weeks ago

Durham


"First time we went to a dress down club we were extremely nervous and weren't sure it would be 'our thing'at all. In fact it was fine and that club (Chams) is now our absolute favourite. The vibe is much sexier and you feel anything could happen at any time of the day or evening rather than everyone hanging on to dress down and play at some point later in the eveining

This is super encouraging, Chams is actually on of the ones we've had in mind for quite some time now but keep putting it off xx"

It's really funny how your head can distort your thinking. We used to go to Attic where there is no dress down but recently the men they let in from the street definitely doesn't give it a good vibe, we have now stopped going as we like Chameleons for the dress down code and men being respectful. We used to think dress down clubs weren't for us but very quickly decided it has a much sexier vibe and feels like a swingers club rather than a club disrespectful men think is a sex club. Females can wear a really nice sexy dress for dress down so if the female is spending a lot of time getting dressed up a small little sexy number works or even some really nice sexy lingerie. The good thing about all clubs are some people will like and some they won't. Find a club that works for you but dress down is no different to going swimming where everyone is in a dress down situation. Chameleons is our go to club now and it's 200 miles away, we love it. Mrs F dresses in sexy Lingerie and Mr B in some nice boxers

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By *iddle ManMan
28 weeks ago

Walsall

I know a lot of people that are put off with dress down policy.

Personally I enjoy the fun getting ready and treating it like an evening out to any regular bar/club. The couples I speak to feel the same, I guess people have their own preference.

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By *otInventedHereMan
28 weeks ago

West Midlands

While I am not scruffy, you could put me in the nicest suit and I would feel awkward and like a fish out of water, I am always on edge when I have to dress smartly for an event and can't relax. I am practically throwing my clothes off when I get home from something like that. It's weird I know, maybe I was savaged by a pack of wild tailors when I was a child and have been supressing the memory!

I am 100% a dress down club fan and love being in my birthday suit as soon as I arrive, but I totally get why others don't feel that way and it's great that we have a diverse range of clubs to suit everyone.

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By *ustus5555Woman
28 weeks ago

Nottingham

Not a million miles away from you, so I would try the attic. There's no dress down rule so you can take it at your own pace.

I love it there, sometimes strip off, sometimes not. Sometimes just a sexy outfit.

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By *anandhisminxCouple
28 weeks ago

London

We would hate the idea of mandatory dress down and definitely wouldn't go to a club that has it.

It's great for those that enjoy it but we think it's much less sexy if everyone is naked. There are so many different outfits and clothing choices that are incredibly hot - we want to see as much of that as possible.

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By * and BCouple
28 weeks ago

Durham


"We would hate the idea of mandatory dress down and definitely wouldn't go to a club that has it.

It's great for those that enjoy it but we think it's much less sexy if everyone is naked. There are so many different outfits and clothing choices that are incredibly hot - we want to see as much of that as possible. "

Dress down is not naked, naked nights are naked

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
28 weeks ago

Coventry

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
28 weeks ago

Coventry


"We would hate the idea of mandatory dress down and definitely wouldn't go to a club that has it.

It's great for those that enjoy it but we think it's much less sexy if everyone is naked. There are so many different outfits and clothing choices that are incredibly hot - we want to see as much of that as possible.

Dress down is not naked, naked nights are naked "

To be fair dress down can be naked. Seen a few naked people in dress down clubs and you can include us in that too on occasions. However it's not the norm as most people wear a towel or underwear. Seen some beautiful lingerie over the years. Or simply wearing nothing but an item/accessory or two that make a real impact. Dress down doesn't mean you can't make an effort.

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By * and BCouple
28 weeks ago

Durham


"We would hate the idea of mandatory dress down and definitely wouldn't go to a club that has it.

It's great for those that enjoy it but we think it's much less sexy if everyone is naked. There are so many different outfits and clothing choices that are incredibly hot - we want to see as much of that as possible.

Dress down is not naked, naked nights are naked

To be fair dress down can be naked. Seen a few naked people in dress down clubs and you can include us in that too on occasions. However it's not the norm as most people wear a towel or underwear. Seen some beautiful lingerie over the years. Or simply wearing nothing but an item/accessory or two that make a real impact. Dress down doesn't mean you can't make an effort. "

Seen people walking around naked in clubs you don't have to dress down at all, some people love being naked but maybe not down your local pub

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By *im-mikeCouple
27 weeks ago

Leeds

We have come to actually prefer dress down clubs - and Chams is very much our favourite. Any nervousness is really understandable, in fact it would be a bit strange if you didn't feel that way at first. Dress down does *not* mean that you need to be naked - if you are wearing some nice lingerie or a sexy club dress you may not even be showing as much flesh as you might at the beach or at a nightclub.

However we have found that dress down clubs are much more fun and the people are more friendly. Not entirely sure why, but when you are dressed down it is harder to be inhibited or aloof - its hard to snobby when everyone is nearly naked. We go quite often to Cupids in Manchester and the pool table is a great place to meet people and start chatting, and in Chams the hot tub plays the same role.

There does tend to be much more play in dress down clubs, which we see as an advantage (you may not), other clubs are more like nightclubs that happen to have a few playrooms.

So don't be too scared to give it a try - and if you still find you prefer the other kind of clubs then at least you have learnt something about yourselves.

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By *elaxed CoupleCouple
27 weeks ago

Cheshire


"Hey everyone,

I (female) get freaked out at the idea of mandatory dress-down.Sounds daft I know, just prefer to do it when I'm ready sort of thing. Some club nights I stay more dressed than others in open areas, some nights I'd happily walk round naked (but I don't)... Anyone else feel the same before they went for the first time? It's been a blocker for a few clubs recently and don't want it to be...

How about trying clubs without mandatory dress down? As not every single club requires people to dress down, even when they move to play areas. Some examples in my "neck of woods" are Jaydees and Penthouse Playrooms. Further afield - the Attic. I think Xtasia doesn't require people to dress down either but not 100% sure.

We do attend clubs that aren't mandatory dress-down and we love them! Haven't ventured to either you mentioned though yet. Just wondering what others thought to the "dress-down" ones as it's definitely stopped us attending what look to be fantastic themed nights xx I am the opposite... when we have to go to a dress up club i feel awkward

Ive also found that with one exception my favourite clubs are dress down. To be fair if you want to try chams, look for a themed party night... as then you can wear a costume/ outfit.

Personally I found the first time terrifying at a dress down club,but since then its 2nd nature.

Cali

We attended a large dress down party & getting down to underwear, or less, didn't bother us. But Mr didn't enjoy it. Females will always be the centre of attention, but getting ignored really made his night less than fun.

Pointless if we don't both enjoy the experience really, but we'd give a club a try if we had a clothing optional place relatively close by.

So this is less about clothing and more about your husband’s experience… Would it have been any different if he had kept his clothes on?

Try the Attic or Xtasia, there’s no requirement to dress down."

Well actually he did stay dressed mostly. I was dressed quite provocatively. But being ignored really didn't encourage him to change his clothing stance. If I hadn't been encouraging, he'd have stayed dressed. The thing is that he undressed because I did. Nobody other than me bothered with him. I have to say, if the roles were reversed, I'd be the same. It's the women that get the attention & therefore dictate the agenda. It's not a great scenario. We all should feel valued in that environment. When 1 of a couple doesn't, they're either a sub or unhappy. So based on that, we've decided not to repeat the experience.

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