FabSwingers.com forum: Profile/fab help

By *olo_89 OP Couple
29 weeks ago

Kettering

Hey all,

So really started to notice quite a few of the people we know do have luck on fab, we never have. No issues in clubs/socials but never really anything on here. Wanted to know of our profile is the turn off, maybe pics just any advice would be nice.

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By *aithRestorerMan
29 weeks ago

Bolton

I understand i am not your target demographic but I do have a couple of thoughts.

1st, your opening paragraph is quite negative, I wholeheartedly understand its purpose and why you did it, but when the 1st thing you read is negative, a lot of people switch off.

2nd, on a lower paragraph you refer to yourselves as on the chubbier side(well not anymore but you will chnage it when confident), I think you can remove this wholesale.

3rd, and this is from previous exchanges with single ladies like is your target demographic, the number of verifications you have can work against you, some find those sorts of numbers intimidating, not everyone, but it can be a sticking point for some.

Also may I ask, are you actively seeking out who you are looking for or are you just waiting to be contacted? If you arent, I would suggest becoming more proactive in your search

I think its a great profile personally but these are things I think could be among the reasons you are struggling, good luck and keep being excellent

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By *eroLondonMan
29 weeks ago

Mayfair

I agree with this fellow...................................⬆️

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Your profile speaks volumes but in fact says very little. There is very little in it that intrigues me or makes me sit up with delight, for nothing really stands out to differentiate you with other couples.

Your opening line is a not-so-positive manner to introduce yourselves. It reads like a doctrine as opposed to you telling us what really excites you, what you're looking for and what YOU offer.

"...always happy to receive club or social invites" — I'm not sure what even means. Are you sitting back whilst everyone comes knocking on your door?

I don't know...I can't quite put my finger on it... there's something amiss. 💚

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By *sm265Woman
29 weeks ago

Perthshire

Nothing wrong that I can see.

I agree with the previous comment, the first paragraph could be viewed as a negative start, but I totally understand why it's there, if you put it at the end it'd be far less likely to be seen! The alternative option would be to just set your message filters so that single men cant message you.

Im outside your age range and too far away for a meet to be an option, but if that weren't the case you definitely sound like my type of people.

Some of your pictures wont be for everyone (the shibari etc), but they reflect your interests and therefore will appeal to people who enjoy similar things.

Your verifications speak for themselves. Some people may be intimidated by the number I guess, others will see that as a positive.

I think you sound great.

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By *olo_89 OP Couple
29 weeks ago

Kettering

Thanks, Will update our main page later x

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By *issmorganWoman
29 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I'm not your target audience, as I'm straight, but the lack of pics of the man would be off putting, if he's wanting to be involved too.

Remember bi women are really in demand here, as most men and couples want an ffm.

They need to be able to see both people, to know if there would be attraction and if it's wortj them persuing.

I think the focus on all the ff play pics may be better, for a single fem account, where she's only playing.

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By *olo_89 OP Couple
29 weeks ago

Kettering

Updated now, will work on getting pics of W though he does hate being in them. What you guys think.

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By *eroLondonMan
29 weeks ago

Mayfair

Your profile is much better. Quite impeccable in fact. 🩶

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By *olo_89 OP Couple
29 weeks ago

Kettering

"Your profile is much better. Quite impeccable in fact. 🩶"

Thank you

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By *aithRestorerMan
29 weeks ago

Bolton

"Updated now, will work on getting pics of W though he does hate being in them. What you guys think."

What a difference just a few changes make, I already thought it was good now, its a 10/10, genuinely. Just the small chnage of where the note to single guys is makes such a large difference in tone.

Good luck I hope these changes bring what you are after, keep being excellent

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By *ex MexicoMan
29 weeks ago

North West

"Hey all,

Your bio plainly states that you're not good at keeping on top of your messages. That alone would be a huge red flag for us (on my couples profile with my OH). What you're basically saying is trying to make plans with you would be a nightmare.

As an ADHD sufferer I get it's hard to stay on top of that kind of thing, but when you forget to message back, to the other person it feels like you're not interested or you don't give a shit. That's 100% not the vibe we want from the people we get naked with.

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By *eroLondonMan
29 weeks ago

Mayfair

"Your bio plainly states that you're not good at keeping on top of your messages...

...trying to make plans with you would be a nightmare."

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Despite the massive improvement in the OP's profile I have to say that I agree with this.

However, I would leave it as it is because it's your 'truth' and changing it would no longer represent the true 'you'.

It's a shame really because - if I was your target audience - I would read your profile and assume that all the effort, chasing and messaging would fall on me, with no reciprocity from you. I would simply move on.

The only people who wouldn't move on are those who would treat you guys as just another hole and take a punt with perfunctory messaging, hoping they can bonk you without any real/true connection. Unless that's what you're really looking for?

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By *aomilatteCouple
29 weeks ago

Midlands

"Hey all,

You have some great photos but none really showing your Man. We're also guilty of having mostly F photos but do put the odd Male photo up.

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By *olo_89 OP Couple
29 weeks ago

Kettering

"Hey all,

You have some great photos but none really showing your Man. We're also guilty of having mostly F photos but do put the odd Male photo up."
going to try and get some over the weekend. I normally avoid the camera or am behind it so will have to make an effort x

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By *olo_89 OP Couple
29 weeks ago

Kettering

"Hey all,

We see what your saying but when we are on we will message but work/life means we arnt on daily and prefer to arrange a face to face social rather than weeks of messages

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By *ex MexicoMan
29 weeks ago

North West

"Hey all,

We see what your saying but when we are on we will message but work/life means we arnt on daily and prefer to arrange a face to face social rather than weeks of messages "

Well, your bio text reads "We are crap at messaging especially on fab as we always forget to message back or are just waiting on feedback from the other one lol.", which tells a different story. Maybe amend it to what you just said rather than this?

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By *harAndBryCouple
29 weeks ago

Downham Market

"So really started to notice quite a few of the people we know do have luck on fab, we never have. No issues in clubs/socials but never really anything on here. Wanted to know of our profile is the turn off, maybe pics just any advice would be nice."

Just to say....these guys are lovely

But also ... seems everything is switching towards themed nights in clubs and we just don't find couples/single women who are looking for home meets, either.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
29 weeks ago

Leeds

I find it offputting you start by saying you are part of the shit swingers club and you're crap. Is it a typo when you say "do take it as we're not interested" ?

I prefer a couples profile picture to be of you both.

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