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By *urvey1990 OP   Woman
30 weeks ago

Gloucestershire

So been wanting to try and club for ages now.

How ever I would be going alone and thats a bit scary.

Where would be the best places?

Im Gloucestershire way.

Any tips,hint, do and dont do?

Thanks all xx

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By *eautifully TwistedWoman
30 weeks ago

Telford

Just be yourself ,no is no . Staff are typically very good etc.

I was a tad nervous too but once you've been you'll be fine.

Check out the clubs in your area and see what appeals. Some are like clubs and others are very much a swingers club and could be dress down etc.

I look at it like a big social where sex could happen.

No lady friends that would with you maybe? To help you feel at ease.

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By *awpleasureMan
30 weeks ago

Sutton Coldfield

Have you neen a club when it's a social gathering? I know they do them at Xtasia and probably still do at Chameleons.

Thats a good way to get chatting to people. Once you've gone once you'll get the confidence to go again and again.

Alternatively find someone off here to attend clubs with. Meet them socially first and see if you click.

Have to say I do prefer a club meet when you've gone in with someone but once you're a regular there's always someone you k ow or seen before tontalk to.

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By *unner6969Man
30 weeks ago

Maidstone


"So been wanting to try and club for ages now.

How ever I would be going alone and thats a bit scary.

Where would be the best places?

Im Gloucestershire way.

Any tips,hint, do and dont do?

Thanks all xx"

I’m just as scared as a man on my own - still haven’t been brave enough. So any tips for men would also be welcome!

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By *sexman1Man
30 weeks ago

north oxfordshire

When you go to a club for the first time on your own say to the staff that first time and on your own they should f=keep a eye on you if you ask them to

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By *urvey1990 OP   Woman
30 weeks ago

Gloucestershire


"Just be yourself ,no is no . Staff are typically very good etc.

I was a tad nervous too but once you've been you'll be fine.

Check out the clubs in your area and see what appeals. Some are like clubs and others are very much a swingers club and could be dress down etc.

I look at it like a big social where sex could happen.

No lady friends that would with you maybe? To help you feel at ease. "

Unfortunately not i dont tell anyone about this part of my life.

I was hoping to find a regular play friend and then go with them but again thats not really happen.

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By *urvey1990 OP   Woman
30 weeks ago

Gloucestershire


"Have you neen a club when it's a social gathering? I know they do them at Xtasia and probably still do at Chameleons.

Thats a good way to get chatting to people. Once you've gone once you'll get the confidence to go again and again.

Alternatively find someone off here to attend clubs with. Meet them socially first and see if you click.

Have to say I do prefer a club meet when you've gone in with someone but once you're a regular there's always someone you k ow or seen before tontalk to. "

Ya I think I would rather be somewhere thats more a social thing then a club club kinda vibe.

Its just knowing where to even start looking to find the right place really

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By *awpleasureMan
30 weeks ago

Sutton Coldfield


"Have you neen a club when it's a social gathering? I know they do them at Xtasia and probably still do at Chameleons.

Thats a good way to get chatting to people. Once you've gone once you'll get the confidence to go again and again.

Alternatively find someone off here to attend clubs with. Meet them socially first and see if you click.

Have to say I do prefer a club meet when you've gone in with someone but once you're a regular there's always someone you k ow or seen before tontalk to.

Ya I think I would rather be somewhere thats more a social thing then a club club kinda vibe.

Its just knowing where to even start looking to find the right place really "

Just a suggestion but if you're looking for just a companion to go to clubs with, perhaps up your age limit a bit.

Obviously people attend in their 20s and 30s but there are many more that so who are in their 40s, 50s and upwards.

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By *urvey1990 OP   Woman
30 weeks ago

Gloucestershire


"Have you neen a club when it's a social gathering? I know they do them at Xtasia and probably still do at Chameleons.

Thats a good way to get chatting to people. Once you've gone once you'll get the confidence to go again and again.

Alternatively find someone off here to attend clubs with. Meet them socially first and see if you click.

Have to say I do prefer a club meet when you've gone in with someone but once you're a regular there's always someone you k ow or seen before tontalk to.

Ya I think I would rather be somewhere thats more a social thing then a club club kinda vibe.

Its just knowing where to even start looking to find the right place really

Just a suggestion but if you're looking for just a companion to go to clubs with, perhaps up your age limit a bit.

Obviously people attend in their 20s and 30s but there are many more that so who are in their 40s, 50s and upwards.

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Good shout but at same time I need to be with someone I feel comfortable with as well so wouldn't be a fair shout but upping my age limit to over 50s

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By *eautifulChaosWoman
30 weeks ago

Nr Hickleton

I went to Pandoras for final flaunt night alone a couple of weeks ago. I was let down on going with someone and then I was supposed to meet someone there..they didn't show.

I found it overwhelming as a first ever club visit to be alone but I survived and would definitely go back but with someone.

I went to Quest a few days after buy with someone and found it a much more enjoyable experience as it was smaller and less people that night.

I'm quite a quiet person but did get chatting to a lovely couple at pandoras and have stayed in touch.

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
30 weeks ago

Manchester(ish).

Honestly, just take a deep breath and go.

Find a club and event that suits you and go with the expectation of having an interesting evening with like minded people.

No pressure.

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By *eekySweetheartWoman
30 weeks ago

Hampshire

I went by myself the very first time I went to a club about 8 years ago and still go by myself a lot. It can still feel a little overwhelming but I love deciding when I go, what I do or don't do and not have to take anyone else into consideration. It's very liberating! Let the staff know it's your first time and they'll look out for you xx

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By *urvey1990 OP   Woman
30 weeks ago

Gloucestershire

Thanks everyone xx

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By *lyingsolo1000Woman
30 weeks ago

Reading

I regularly go to Ignite on my own, it is really scary the first few times but I know enough people now that I normally bump into someone I know, and have never been without a playmate by the end of the day.

I would look at the clubs that interest you, check out if they host organised socials or maybe couples and single ladies nights dependant on what you are looking for. Once I have decided I am going, I look to see who has a meet posted for the same time and message them to say hello. It doesn’t mean I want to play with them, just a friendly face to look out for.

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By *herrypickedWoman
30 weeks ago

Glasgow

Can't say for your area but I regularly go as a single female in the glasgow area.

Just go with no expectation, be open to chatting to folks and don't hide yourself in a corner. Be happy to say no politely. Can let the staff know your a solo female and generally they keep an eye out for you.

Just do it, it's easier with time

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By *viatrixWoman
30 weeks ago

Gatwick

I personally would go to an organised event. Be it a social or an even organised by someone on the forum? That way the host(s) can keep an eye out for you and can introduce you to other attendees. This is what I did at the beginning.

Or you could go on your own. Staff in clubs are usually great and they show newbies around

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By *urvey1990 OP   Woman
30 weeks ago

Gloucestershire

Where's the best place to search up local events?

Tried search bit on here with no luck so probably looking in the wrong place xx

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By *izzy.Woman
30 weeks ago

Stoke area


"Where's the best place to search up local events?

Tried search bit on here with no luck so probably looking in the wrong place xx"

There are a couple of differebt categories on here to look at.

Club events is one and events and parties is the other. Browse them regularly.

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By *inky little MWoman
29 weeks ago

Low Moor & Leeds

I go to alot of clubs on my own and I also host events at Quest in Leeds

I know it can be daunting at first but you'll soon make friends within the scene xx

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By *he milf next doorWoman
29 weeks ago

bluebell woods


"So been wanting to try and club for ages now.

How ever I would be going alone and thats a bit scary.

Where would be the best places?

Im Gloucestershire way.

Any tips,hint, do and dont do?

Thanks all xx"
as simple as it sounds but don’t get d*unk someone may well take advantage of you

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