FabSwingers.com forum: Is communication vital for swinging?

By *otPoshorBecks OP Couple
30 weeks ago

London

In my view communication is vital for swinging. I like the social side as much as the physical and mixing with others is important.

But also for consent you need good communication and good communication encourages people to feel comfortable.

Is communication vital for you too?

Sam

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By *issmorganWoman
30 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I'd say yes it is.

So everyone knows what people are down for & there's no crossing of people's boundaries.

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By *ev_1Couple
30 weeks ago

Bickliegh

Yep

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By *allySlinkyWoman
30 weeks ago

Leeds

100% communication is vital. If I say "no anal" or "stop now please" I expect someone to comply immediately

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By *ootnootboopCouple
30 weeks ago

Cheshire

Absolutely!

If there's a lack of proper, decent communication then people's relationships, bodily autonomy and boundaries are going to be decimated.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

It’s absolutely crucial.

Without it you can’t actually get what you want or help others get what they want

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By *urvyBi-84Man
30 weeks ago

Lancs

Absolutely. It’s important to communicate with prospective partners to understand likes, dislikes and, most importantly, boundaries and consent.

If you’re in a couple and potentially meeting separately then it also essential to communicate within that relationship. My partner and I are open about things and discuss everything that we do. She always knows who I speak to and I always check with her before meeting people to make sure it’s OK.

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
30 weeks ago

Maidstone

Nope I prefer them not to open their mouths. I gag them for that reason.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
30 weeks ago

East Sussex

I would say so. That's why the men who don't know how to talk to their partners about swinging are always advised to communicate.

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By *lossomTreeWoman
30 weeks ago

Ipswich

Boundaries discussed before anything private, then while in private regular check ins to make sure everyone is happy, feeling good and having fun.

I in particular have a sensitive spot I enjoy being stimulated so I always give directions if he or she isn't quite hitting the mark

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By *elaxed CoupleCouple
30 weeks ago

Cheshire

"In my view communication is vital for swinging. I like the social side as much as the physical and mixing with others is important.

But also for consent you need good communication and good communication encourages people to feel comfortable.

Is communication vital for you too?

Sam

Yeah. Our terrible party experience made us learn that it's vital. Damaged from it & not likely to happen again because of it.

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By *andb69Couple
30 weeks ago

leeds

"In my view communication is vital for swinging. I like the social side as much as the physical and mixing with others is important.

But also for consent you need good communication and good communication encourages people to feel comfortable.

Is communication vital for you too?

Sam

Not always. We play mainly in clubs and there we find anonymity and spontaneity both a turn on and fun. Too much conversation, if any, can spoil the vibe. In contrast if we occasionally meet outside clubs it is almost always with people we can engage with.

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By *eautifully TwistedWoman
30 weeks ago

Telford

Yes it is but also sometimes I don't need a lot of it. It really does vary, I think a more private 1-1 meet I tend to communicate a lot but in a club it doesn't really happen in great detail. If it's a couple I'll sometimes ask if there is anything that's a no.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
30 weeks ago

East Sussex

Unless you're doing anonymous meets or dark room you do at least need to say hello surely and communicate consent in one form or another.

If you're a couple even if one of you is reluctant there has to be verbal or non verbal communication. We have been to a couple of socials where it was very clear that one of the couple wasn't happy without a word being spoken.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

Absolutely vital. There needs to be excellent communication between all involved parties. Without it, consent can’t be given for what’s occurring.

C x

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By *ctionSandwichCouple
30 weeks ago

Newcastle under Lyme

Communication is important between couples regardless of swinging or not obviously.

When it comes to comms, so long as everyone is clear on what boundaries are beforehand we're not fussy about being social or chitty chatty. A chat to break the ice before or after is fine with us.

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By *heonixrising500Man
30 weeks ago

Barnsley

Yes it is vital

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By *ixenandhoundCouple
30 weeks ago

Plymouth, South west

Not always... hear me out.

Communication between us is vital, it's 100% vital... but we play a lot in clubs, and although there are communications, we also like the anonymous aspect of it... so although mutual consent is there, we have had plenty of experiences with single people and couples where we haven't communicated, as in had a conversation, before, during or after the interaction...

So although I do agree, ad a rule, communication is really important, I think there are situations where its not always needed xx .

Having said that, in my opinion, swinging and no communication between a couple can't end in happy swinging xx

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By *aughtycheshirecoupleCouple
30 weeks ago

Cheshire

Absolutely key

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By *GoodGirlGemxCouple
30 weeks ago

Scotland

"Not always... hear me out.

So although I do agree, ad a rule, communication is really important, I think there are situations where its not always needed xx .

Having said that, in my opinion, swinging and no communication between a couple can't end in happy swinging xx "

I agree with this. Communication between a couple involved in swinging is absolutely vital as it’s so important to establish boundaries and talk about experiences that we either liked or didn’t like. Communication between sex partners in particular at clubs not so important eg our last visit to a club I literally said hi to a guy and the next minute we were in a private room 🤣

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By *ebaucheryrequiredMan
30 weeks ago

Ballymena

Hahah, "shut your mouth when your talking to me" kind of treatment. I'm sure plenty are up for that too.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

Communication is vital to me when it comes to swinging... can express boundaries on both sides... what likes dislikes... etc... keeps things all good fun xx

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By *ixyduoCouple
30 weeks ago

Cheshire ish

Absolutely and it has improved our marriage too. People checking in with me whilst playing turns me on too.

Interesting observation how the majority of replies are female and couples.. a stark contrast to the usual male heavy presence

(F)

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By *otPoshorBecks OP Couple
30 weeks ago

London

"Not always... hear me out.

So although I do agree, ad a rule, communication is really important, I think there are situations where its not always needed xx .

Having said that, in my opinion, swinging and no communication between a couple can't end in happy swinging xx "

Okay fair point I hear you. But very rarely it is that someone joins in that I don’t know who I haven’t chatted to… but the occasional situation has arisen at a club. I hear you for sure xx

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By *lex.and.SexCouple
30 weeks ago

Bedale/Leeds/Stanley

Yes, and I'd go further and say it requires an ability to be direct about it as well.

IMO there's little place for euphemism in this game. We like our intentions and consent to be absolutely explicit, and boundaries the same.

Which isn't to say we aren't flexible, we are, but being clear in communications is how we engender that flexibility.

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By *andaloriansCouple
29 weeks ago

Malvern

I mean, why wouldnt it be? Communication s key for any relationship, be it friend, romance or just sexual. How else are we supposed to know whats on/off the table? More importantly, its imperitive to maintain our relationships with our significant others before, during and after any encounter with others.

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By *w214Couple
29 weeks ago

Merseyside

Equally as important as genitals in our opinion.

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By *ature Gent 73Man
29 weeks ago

Silverstone

For me it’s always been the keystone of any meet up. Allows for expectations to be set and managed prior to any social or physical meet up. Also best to know what everyone wants out of a meet up. Although things can change on the day and you need to be understanding that people do change their mind and it’s one of those things you have to just accept. This scene isn’t all about the sex it’s about meeting likeminded people and having a laugh on the way 😊

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
29 weeks ago

Cambridgeshire

Communication can be verbal and non-verbal. Paying attention to how the person you're with is reacting is just as important as the exact words they're using, if not more so. "Yes" doesn't always mean "yes"...

I've shared some very enjoyable and sexy encounters with women who spoke almost no English, and where I spoke even less of their language. With respect and consideration it's perfectly possible.

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By *ouple_For_BuddyCouple
29 weeks ago

Newport

Absolutely 100% essential in swinging!

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By *arleycplWoman
29 weeks ago

Frodsham

Vital

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By *otPoshorBecks OP Couple
29 weeks ago

London

"Equally as important as genitals in our opinion.

lol haha love this

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By *andybitches1Couple
29 weeks ago

Aberdeenshire

Communications are important to us but more the quality than the quantity.

We try and reply to most and can usually spot those that are not what they claim pretty sharpish and the block list grows bigger daily.

So many can't read the room even after a hint or two so we don't like wasting time any longer.

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By *r_LickCouple
29 weeks ago

aberdeen

I would say its the most important thing because you can't build trust without communication and Swinging doest really work without trust so yeah communication its very important.

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By *layfullsamMan
29 weeks ago

Solihull

Absolutely

Love the banter and build up

Was trying to have a chat with a woman on Here who replied to a message but it was literally one of two word answers so I gave up

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