FabSwingers.com forum: Tips on getting my Mrs to visit a club

By *appy_Chappy567 OP Man
32 weeks ago

Ashwell

Hi all, really want to attend a club one evening but my mrs isn’t interested. What advice would you suggest, I just want to attend so she can see it’s not all about sex. And the worse thing is I know she’d get admirers. TIA

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By *aomilatteCouple
32 weeks ago

Midlands

Your profile says "single guy". If you do have a partner and she's not interested in going to a club then leave it there, it will likely lead to drama. Couples with already great sex lives with each other have the most drama free fun at clubs.

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By *appy-go- luckyMan
32 weeks ago

pothole city

First thing id suggest is create a couples profile with her.

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By *uckingfell59Man
32 weeks ago

Doncaster

If she’s not interested, think your answer is right there

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By *ellhungvweMan
32 weeks ago

Cheltenham

" I just want to attend so she can see it’s not all about sex."

I think she might find it is all about sex.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
32 weeks ago

Tamworth

My advice would be to listen to your wife. She’s not interested.

You don’t get someone to do something they don’t want to do.

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By *irsSubCouple
32 weeks ago

Stockton

You need to be asking this question of your wife, not random strangers on the internet. Whilst I'm not a big fan the idea of "persuading" someone to do something, sometimes it can be that she has concerns that can be solved by talking. Just be prepared that what you want, and what you get might not match

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By *uperstar76Woman
32 weeks ago

North Lanarkshire

Show her your single male profile and see if it "persuades' her

What a ridiculous post, your wife is not interested you dont persuade anyone to do anything they dont want

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
32 weeks ago

East Sussex

When a woman says she isn't interested in something, it actually means she isn't interested.

A wise person would do well to accept that.

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By *orthernJayMan
32 weeks ago

Hyde

The number of guys on here who pose this question is unreal

It’s always a grab the popcorn moment and wait for the inevitable character assassination!

“Show your wife your single man profile” is always my favourite

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By *icecouple561Couple
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32 weeks ago

East Sussex

"The number of guys on here who pose this question is unreal

It’s always a grab the popcorn moment and wait for the inevitable character assassination!

“Show your wife your single man profile” is always my favourite

I wonder if anyone ever takes that advice 🤔

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By *oelMan
32 weeks ago

Midlands, London, Brussels

"Hi all, really want to attend a club one evening but my mrs isn’t interested. What advice would you suggest, I just want to attend so she can see it’s not all about sex. And the worse thing is I know she’d get admirers. TIA"

Don't, don't persuade. My advice is don't, if she wants she will suggest.

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By *irky_coupleCouple
32 weeks ago

Kirky

Imagine you got her to go and she says to you " I want you to get fucked up the arse by that 9in cock on that guy". Would you do it?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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32 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Imagine you got her to go and she says to you " I want you to get fucked up the arse by that 9in cock on that guy". Would you do it?"

I often wonder how people would react if their partner said "yes, I will do X on condition that you do (insert something they have previously refused to do). I know you'll enjoy it".

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
32 weeks ago

Tamworth

"Imagine you got her to go and she says to you " I want you to get fucked up the arse by that 9in cock on that guy". Would you do it?

I often wonder how people would react if their partner said "yes, I will do X on condition that you do (insert something they have previously refused to do). I know you'll enjoy it". "

Or worse… “it would really turn me on.” 😵‍💫

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By *GoodGirlGemxCouple
32 weeks ago

Scotland

I’ll echo the other posts saying if she said she’s not interested then why don’t you believe her? Also if she did agree to go why would you care how many admirers she’s got? Attraction is a mutual thing every guy at the club could “fancy” her but if she isn’t interested in them it’s irrelevant

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By *entenTeaCouple
32 weeks ago

Buckley North Wales

You can try to persuade her and it might even work. However you are just pursuing your fantasy and it will become pretty evident to others at the club that she is not having a good time. The shear awkwardness will be very palpable. She will be left feeling pissed off, uncomfortable and manipulated, you will feel disappointed and resentful towards her.

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By *piceyMan
32 weeks ago

your marital bed given the chance

"The number of guys on here who pose this question is unreal

It’s always a grab the popcorn moment and wait for the inevitable character assassination!

“Show your wife your single man profile” is always my favourite

I wonder if anyone ever takes that advice 🤔"

We all know what’s being said here.

‘Single’ men that really aren’t ‘single’ yeah?

That are married or have a partner.

As a mod are we saying this isn’t allowed? And morally isn’t correct?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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32 weeks ago

East Sussex

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
32 weeks ago

East Sussex

"The number of guys on here who pose this question is unreal

It’s always a grab the popcorn moment and wait for the inevitable character assassination!

“Show your wife your single man profile” is always my favourite

I wonder if anyone ever takes that advice 🤔

We all know what’s being said here.

‘Single’ men that really aren’t ‘single’ yeah?

That are married or have a partner.

As a mod are we saying this isn’t allowed? And morally isn’t correct?

Nope! I meant exactly what I said, that is I wonder if anyone ever does show their partner their single profile .

Being married and on fab as a single person isn't against the rules so me being a mod isn't relevant

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By *igChewyNippsCouple
32 weeks ago

Derby

If a woman says she isn't interested in something, she means she really isn't interested. Just accept the fact and forget about it.

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By *piceyMan
32 weeks ago

your marital bed given the chance

"The number of guys on here who pose this question is unreal

It’s always a grab the popcorn moment and wait for the inevitable character assassination!

“Show your wife your single man profile” is always my favourite

I wonder if anyone ever takes that advice 🤔

We all know what’s being said here.

‘Single’ men that really aren’t ‘single’ yeah?

That are married or have a partner.

As a mod are we saying this isn’t allowed? And morally isn’t correct?

Nope! I meant exactly what I said, that is I wonder if anyone ever does show their partner their single profile .

Being married and on fab as a single person isn't against the rules so me being a mod isn't relevant "

Thank you for the clarification

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By *aughtystaffs60Couple
32 weeks ago

Staffordshire

We don't know your wife.

No one knows what goes on behind closed doors in a marriage or relationship.

I think it is a question none of us can answer as there are too many variables.

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
32 weeks ago

SW Scotland

If you want to show her that a club isn’t just about sex then just go to a social instead. That was she can talk to others outside of a club setting

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By *ctionSandwichCouple
32 weeks ago

Newcastle under Lyme

To be honest for us ot really is mostly about the sex. Making acquaintances and friends along the way is nice but really when we go to a sex club we are looking for sex.

Perhaps not so much for more experienced swingers mind you. Those we can understand the hang out and social side.

Have you asked her is she wants to be spitroasted by you and another man? If she's disinterested in being the focus of attention like that then she probably isn't bothered about swinging.

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