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By *arny OP   Man
33 weeks ago

coventry

Every time I message someone I’m very polite I do a lengthy post giving plenty of info,I’m never over intrusive or rude Ii always send a couple of face pics never send cock pick as it’s on my profile,I’m always articulate and try to have some humour in my message and I’m never pushy,I think I’m doing everything right yet never ever get anywhere Iv been on here years and never met anyone it’s so frustrating but I really enjoy the site even just to be nosey but would be nice to link up with someone….it’s bloody hard 😂😂😂 literally……

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By *vaRoseWoman
33 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

You’ve not asked for profile advice so I’m going to try and word this carefully.

Women & couples get a lot of messages. Sending war & peace as an opener might be too much, especially if that information you’re filling it with could be better served by being on your profile bio. Oh and no reply is a reply… they’re not interested.

Most ladies and many couples view profiles in ninja mode, I’ll look at a profile before deciding to reply. If it doesn’t reach my standards I won’t bother.

This applies only to me and it’s just my opinion but If I view a profile and…

* it’s just a list of demands but doesn’t tell me anything about them I’ll delete.

* If it’s blank I’ll delete.

* if it’s just what they want and not what they bring to the table I’ll delete

* If it’s a poorly taken public gallery of identical photos from the same angle I’ll delete

* If it’s all cock shots I’ll delete

* If the bio is a single sentence and they’ve still made spelling mistakes I’ll delete

* If it gives me the ick I’ll delete

Effort matters, and low effort profiles don’t and won’t hold my interest. This is all BEFORE I’ve opened the message.

Once I open the message I’ve already mostly made my mind up, if it’s then crude, rude, overly sexual, impersonal or a copy paste - you guessed it, I’ll delete.

Basically a well thought out profile with a short sweet message about something they’ve seen/read on mine will get a reply. Anything else goes in the junk mail folder.

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By *ewCoupleHXCouple
33 weeks ago

Halifax

Things may improve if you put even a fraction of the effort you have put in this post on your profile.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
33 weeks ago

Norwich


"You’ve not asked for profile advice

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It doesn't matter according to the rules, it just has to be relevant.

The ops profile is cock pic heavy, he can't accommodate and his write up is shorter that the op and all in caps.

Anyone who looks at that probably won't reply no matter how well worded the opening message is.

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By *adyNyxWoman
33 weeks ago

Crawley

Do you want profile advice…

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By *WB85Man
33 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Same here, but I keep a positive mindset, one day something will work out.

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By *issmorganWoman
33 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

It's tough for genuinely single men here op, but it's even harder for those who are on here behind a partners back.

Plus you have too many pics of your cock on your profile. Maybe put some of those in your friends only gallery or private.

What are you offering meets? What are you into etc.Tell people a bit about you, as this is your shop window so to speak.

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By *lrightthenMan
33 weeks ago

Bradford

When they leave it unread you keep thinking "did they read it?" I've messaged someone a while back before, then a few weeks later I got a message from them without acknowledging my attempt to interact.

Obviously you don't want to send another message if your first doesn't get a response so just miss opportunities without knowing if they were interested or not.

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By *ellhungvweMan
33 weeks ago

Cheltenham

The answer is the same for everyone who wants a different result: if something isn’t working, change it. If that doesn’t work, change it. Repeat until something does work.

It almost doesn’t matter what you change it to, just make sure that you are not doing what didn’t work in the past.

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By *harAndBryCouple
33 weeks ago

Downham Market

OP....a LOT of people might check out your forum posts before deciding to reply and your post from a day ago is going to put ALL of the women off.

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By *outhstaffscoupleCouple
33 weeks ago

cannock

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By *eus n EuropaCouple
33 weeks ago

Norwich

Naming and shaming other users in your status OP doesn't go down well as it's against site rules

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
33 weeks ago

Reading

You are attached and this is a deal breaker for many.

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By *ewbie1401Woman
33 weeks ago

Leicester

Some verifications might help but that’s catch 22 I suppose if your not meeting people.

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By *earl pWoman
33 weeks ago

Chelsea

Men have a really hard time on here, my advice is always to try attending an event to meet ppl into similar things & get some verifications.

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By *ookingtoseeMan
33 weeks ago

London


"Men have a really hard time on here, my advice is always to try attending an event to meet ppl into similar things & get some verifications. "
it is difficult lol

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By *eautifully TwistedWoman
33 weeks ago

Telford

The post about the step daughter would be yeah just no.

Your married and playing away again it will harder for that alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

It's the being married and playing away hun. The majority won't meet people who are playing away.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
33 weeks ago

East Lincs

You essentially have two types of pics - cock pics and the pic of your body taken from your head view and down the body. You’ve just repeated this type of pic several times, so just have one of each and lose the rest.

You are married, you smoke, you have a ranty status about someone else - all these will lose you people.

These are all things that people consider before they’ve looked at your profile. You aren’t creating a sexy environment for someone to be intrigued.

As someone else has said - change the way you do things if it doesn’t work. Doing the same thing just produces the same results.

K

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By *assy LassieWoman
33 weeks ago

Near Glasgow

Playing away 🚩

Naming an shaming on status 🚩🚩

Green arrow🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

Your messages ain't the problem

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By *ackformore100Man
33 weeks ago

Tin town


"Every time I message someone I’m very polite I do a lengthy post giving plenty of info,I’m never over intrusive or rude Ii always send a couple of face pics never send cock pick as it’s on my profile,I’m always articulate and try to have some humour in my message and I’m never pushy,I think I’m doing everything right yet never ever get anywhere Iv been on here years and never met anyone it’s so frustrating but I really enjoy the site even just to be nosey but would be nice to link up with someone….it’s bloody hard 😂😂😂 literally……"

Your profile and email are all you they have to go on.

It obviously isn't working so make a change. Don't keep doing the same thing and expect a different outcome.

If you want to make a change. Make a change. What are you going to change?

Good luck with it op.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
33 weeks ago

Leeds


"The post about the step daughter would be yeah just no.

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I agree

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
Forum Mod
33 weeks ago

Central

If your wife is comfortable with it, you could visit socials and clubs.

Ultimately, it's only going to be a very tiny minority of people who are mutually compatible. Add in being married and it will shrink that number. It's already very hard for single men here and you could read the posts from many of them, alongside feedback and tips.

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