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By *he Dinks OP   Couple
34 weeks ago

Eastbourne

Any advice for a first message. I see so many so many profiles saying hi messages get ignored. So how would you start it. A lot of profiles are saying very little so or saying way too much.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
34 weeks ago

Tamworth

There must be something about a profile that makes you want to message. I’d suggest that’s a good start, although I’d absolutely avoid sounding too thirsty.

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By *uddlyguy2025Man
34 weeks ago

Dumfries

I really struggling with what to write to get noticed

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By *he Dinks OP   Couple
34 weeks ago

Eastbourne

I don’t even know what to say sometimes you can say great pics, say something you agree with in their profile or even maybe a shared interest even if you do all that the conversation still goes flat.

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By *eroLondonMan
33 weeks ago

Mayfair

Take inspiration from the profile that your messaging, referencing something that you've seen or read from their profile text. But make it genuine and natural and not just something for the sake of opening a speculative conversation.

If you cannot find anything that stands out from the profile or there's very little to go on then put that down as an incompatibility and move on.

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By *uddlyguy2025Man
33 weeks ago

Dumfries


"Take inspiration from the profile that your messaging, referencing something that you've seen or read from their profile text. But make it genuine and natural and not just something for the sake of opening a speculative conversation.

Thanks

If you cannot find anything that stands out from the profile or there's very little to go on then put that down as an incompatibility and move on."

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By *issmorganWoman
33 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Always read a profile and only message if you think you're what they're looking for.

Try and personalise the message, with something you liked in their bio.

However, many people will only reply if they like what they read /see in your profile.

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By *WB85Man
33 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Tell them why you are messaging.

What specifically about their profile made you message them.

People that send one word.....just dont bother.

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By *arleycplWoman
33 weeks ago

Frodsham


"I don’t even know what to say sometimes you can say great pics, say something you agree with in their profile or even maybe a shared interest even if you do all that the conversation still goes flat. "

When you receive a message what makes you reply to it, or delete it?

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago


"Always read a profile and only message if you think you're what they're looking for.

Try and personalise the message, with something you liked in their bio.

However, many people will only reply if they like what they read /see in your profile. "

This!! 100%. If they don’t reply, they’re probably not interested.

For me, write something, show me that you’ve read our profile. Address us both, we are two people. Send a face photo if there isn’t one on your profile. There has to be some sort of attraction for me and I like to see who I’m talking to. And don’t send me a dick pic. There are far too many adults on the site who don’t understand that sending a dick pic without being asked for one, is illegal and you can be reported. If I ask for one, then you can spam me with your dick!

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

Explain why you are messaging, how you came across the profile and add something that shows you have read the profile and shows you are what they are looking for.

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By *randMrs397Couple
33 weeks ago

durham

More than Hi but doesn't have to be war and peace. The first messages I love are ones like " wanna fuck the Mrs" normally accompanied by a dick pic 😂. Absolutely crease me up. Mrs reaction is normally just an eye roll 😂

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By *lem11Man
32 weeks ago

ipswich


"There must be something about a profile that makes you want to message. I’d suggest that’s a good start, although I’d absolutely avoid sounding too thirsty."
well its obvious really....we message because we like what we see..... try putting that in a quick message without sounding needy or desperate.... whats wrong with "Hi" break ice, look at there profile and reply....yes i said the dirty word....reply with a yes thank or no thanks. simple

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By *lem11Man
32 weeks ago

ipswich


"Always read a profile and only message if you think you're what they're looking for.

Try and personalise the message, with something you liked in their bio.

However, many people will only reply if they like what they read /see in your profile.

This!! 100%. If they don’t reply, they’re probably not interested.

For me, write something, show me that you’ve read our profile. Address us both, we are two people. Send a face photo if there isn’t one on your profile. There has to be some sort of attraction for me and I like to see who I’m talking to. And don’t send me a dick pic. There are far too many adults on the site who don’t understand that sending a dick pic without being asked for one, is illegal and you can be reported. If I ask for one, then you can spam me with your dick! "
i think some people dont read a lot of profiles as they are tooooo long... bleet on with orders...so they try there luck!

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