FabSwingers.com forum: Bad Hygiene....

By *ickgent OP Man
35 weeks ago

London

Had a shocker of a meet last week. On message it was naughty, and we really clicked. Sorted a hotel meet and she turned up. I asked if she wanted to freshen up but I got pounced on (was happy with that...). Started getting in to it and...I could smell actual shit. I was literally saved by the bell, my mobile went off and I made out like there was a big emergency and had to run. She messaged me the following day and I won't lie, I bottled telling her. I just said we didn't click. Not sure if I did the right thing sparing her feelings or if I've now inflicted her on the next guy.... bottom line (no pun intended), like the looky looky man says...FRESHEN UP

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By *GoodGirlGemxCouple
35 weeks ago

Scotland

"Had a shocker of a meet last week. On message it was naughty, and we really clicked. Sorted a hotel meet and she turned up. I asked if she wanted to freshen up but I got pounced on (was happy with that...). Started getting in to it and...I could smell actual shit. I was literally saved by the bell, my mobile went off and I made out like there was a big emergency and had to run. She messaged me the following day and I won't lie, I bottled telling her. I just said we didn't click. Not sure if I did the right thing sparing her feelings or if I've now inflicted her on the next guy.... bottom line (no pun intended), like the looky looky man says...FRESHEN UP

Is she on here? If so she might read this and be mortified anyway. On another note though I don’t understand people turning up for meets unclean. I sometimes meet at clubs and I’m paranoid about my hygiene especially as they’re often so warm!! In my bag I’ve always got wet wipes, deodorant, perfume, breath mints 🤣

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By *ickgent OP Man
35 weeks ago

London

She is but she's blocked, I really didn't want her reaching out again. I'm mad for personal hygiene, I don't think there's anywhere a tongue shouldn't be allowed to go, so if I've got my head buried somewhere it's gotta taste and smell good! Also, big difference between good, sex generated sweat smell and not washed yer bits since yesterday smell

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By *he Silver FuxMan
35 weeks ago

Utero

It’s not good if someone is so careless with that minimal level of hygiene 🤢

I’d have said “I want us to rim each other, let’s shower and get clean, so I can go to town on that ass”

I do hope it’s NOT the lady that has very recently verified you…

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By *ickgent OP Man
35 weeks ago

London

Hell no I'm not going down on someone with bad hygiene, not once I'd caught that smell. And no it wasn't her, she was great, I'd see her again in a heartbeat

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By *he Silver FuxMan
35 weeks ago

Utero

"Hell no I'm not going down on someone with bad hygiene, not once I'd caught that smell. And no it wasn't her, she was great, I'd see her again in a heartbeat

You don’t- it’s just a strategy to get her in the shower 😄

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By *eri24Woman
35 weeks ago

Bridgend

"She is but she's blocked, I really didn't want her reaching out again. I'm mad for personal hygiene, I don't think there's anywhere a tongue shouldn't be allowed to go, so if I've got my head buried somewhere it's gotta taste and smell good! Also, big difference between good, sex generated sweat smell and not washed yer bits since yesterday smell

Blocked people will still see your forum posts

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By *ev_1Couple
34 weeks ago

Bickliegh

Op anyone can see your posts on the forum blocked or not !!!!!

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By *unguy2429Man
34 weeks ago

worthing

Omg. No way. I’m the opposite I want to make sure I’m clean. I clean to much

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By *eautifully TwistedWoman
34 weeks ago

Telford

You're not wrong for making a run for it.

It's why I do a social meet first, I have been burnt in the past before, it's not a guarantee but hasn't steered me wrong yet.

It's just mind boggling to me how someone could even turn up not shower fresh. If someone is that lax in such a basic thing then it makes me worry how lax they are in other matters

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By *ickgent OP Man
34 weeks ago

London

"Op anyone can see your posts on the forum blocked or not !!!!!"

Ah, it is what it is. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but....

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By *ifty69Man
34 weeks ago

north tyneside

Could be a positive thing if she reads this and improves her hygiene

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

We tell meets in advance that they are expected to freshen up beforehand. They can use the shower and everything.

If they say no we don't play.

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By *uttercupWoman
34 weeks ago

Borders

Well this is different

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By *iss_Juicy79Woman
34 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Had a few turn up stinking I always offer them a shower one didn't so I said well you may aswell go then cause I can't play with tou smelling like that

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By *olds CoupleCouple
34 weeks ago

Louth Lincolnshire

Hell, we shower before travelling to a club and then again in the hotel before going to the club. Plus we always have wetwipes etc on us. Hygiene is paramount to us, there's no excuse for not being clean. As for the woman maybe reading this thread well hopefully it'll shock her into action and she'll literally clean up her act.

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By *GoodGirlGemxCouple
34 weeks ago

Scotland

"Hell, we shower before travelling to a club and then again in the hotel before going to the club. Plus we always have wetwipes etc on us. Hygiene is paramount to us, there's no excuse for not being clean. As for the woman maybe reading this thread well hopefully it'll shock her into action and she'll literally clean up her act. "

I’m the same I get paranoid at clubs because it’s so warm and I feel like I’m sweating so bad 🫣so I’ve got wipes, deodorant, perfume mints etc in my bag at all times

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
34 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

Oh dear. OP, please tell us in your most polite and respectful and empathetic way. Many men want anal sex these days and...accidents do happen. Also if you have a medical condition....sometimes you get a bit carried away with the excitement and forget things...slipping out when you least expect it!!( pee, puke, Poo, periods, fanny farts, fart farts). Sibling has digestive issues and didn't even want to be around their partner due to embarrassment, so intimacy was postponed for 5 months.

I sometimes cycle to one of my playmates and I just don't want my sweat and London exhaust fumes, cycling bugs, rain, cycle grease, mud, etc rubbed into our bodies. Autistic

and not sexy at all.

I once went for a meet, unexpecting, unsuspecting, unprepared and he wanted anal with no prep...luckily, the lack of prep meant my butt hole was too tight and I was too inexperienced to know what was happening. Luckily. If he had got it in there unplanned, shit might have been everywhere. Lol!

Another of my playmates like to go to the gym before meeting me so he has a shower before and I don't have a problem with that no matter how horny I am.

Him and another playmate shower before going back to their wives, which I think is good of them because their wives ( and children- school run after day time meets!) don't need to smell another woman on them.

Personally, I prefer to know my partners so I know I can say to them I think we should shower, go in the Jacuzzi, pool, Relax, cuddle, massage, play with toys, etc when..well my body, their body fails us without feeling like the ground should swallow us up.

Real-life sex isn't like sanitised fantasy porn.

Speaking of sanitiser, I spanked a male sub I met randomly in Torture Garden on Saturday with my bare hands. Well God only knows what my hands touched in the club ( 5 different stair rails) so I was glad that they had hand sanitiser, wipes and condoms in the couples' room. I just let the sub know that I was cleaning my hands so that he felt safe.

When I finish playing with one couple or man in a club, I shower and/or use wipes in case anyone else wants to play with me. I've met couples who don't...Not cool. Yes you as a couple are used to each other's smell but other people are not. As ladies we also know the fish smell of dang near every couple's room I've been in. Boots sells tests for BV, yeast and UTIs. I'd get them when I was married and monogamous, probably down to stress and biological washing powder.

Practice saying that you are uncomfortable and what can WE do to make you more comfortable. OP..because shit happens... pun intended and unintended.

Happy Fabbing.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
34 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

"Had a few turn up stinking I always offer them a shower one didn't so I said well you may aswell go then cause I can't play with tou smelling like that "

God this is why I love the Scots. Some people are into jobby...Others not so much.

Lol!

The Bajan tomboy in me won't let them be smelly. I had one guy who wanted to play at a club but he smelt like he had just come from work.

So I asked him...did you just come from a work shift..he said no...I said Well you smell like it...Then he said he went in and only did 4 hours... I told him take a shower, bring body wipes, do a strip wash in the bathroom at the venue, deorderant, toothpaste, mouthwash and/or breath mint/spray before playing.

He actually thanked me for letting him know.

I get sweaty ( hot flashes) but bad sweat smells usually comes from what you eat, stale sweat and/or a health condition. Fresh sweat is usually ok....otherwise can you imagine the spas would be stinking to high heaven!

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By *ickgent OP Man
34 weeks ago

London

I've massively underestimated, naively, how horrible people can be... The person in my veri has been getting abusive messages on the back of this post (even though I said it WAS NOT her - think about it, would an experience like that get a mutual verification?). Lesson learned....

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By *allySlinkyWoman
34 weeks ago

Leeds

"I've massively underestimated, naively, how horrible people can be... "

Yet it's fine for you to post that you had a shocker of a meet last week as she smelled like shit ?

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By *GoodGirlGemxCouple
34 weeks ago

Scotland

"I've massively underestimated, naively, how horrible people can be... The person in my veri has been getting abusive messages on the back of this post (even though I said it WAS NOT her - think about it, would an experience like that get a mutual verification?). Lesson learned.... "

Some people only read the OP and it doesn’t specify that it’s not her in that post . People willing to send abusive messages would also likely not have the brain capacity to think about mutual verification 😏

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

I’ve had this a couple of times. It’s uncomfortable but you just have to be direct and say you’re not willing to go through with it. I’m like you though, I mostly avoid telling someone that’s it’s because of their hygiene.

The one time I did, they sent me huge long message saying I was making it up and that they’re perfectly clean and how dare I be so disrespectful etc.

So I’ve learned its easier to just say a different excuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

"Had a few turn up stinking I always offer them a shower one didn't so I said well you may aswell go then cause I can't play with tou smelling like that "

If they smell when they arrive I won’t even offer a shower, it’s just 100% no.

I see that lack of consideration as an indication of poor hygiene and sexual health practices overall. So I’m not willing to risk any sexual contact with someone like that. Showered or not.

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By *ewCoupleHXCouple
34 weeks ago

Halifax

We actually ask and make it clear that we expect very high standards of hygiene and freshly showered (not in the morning), so far no one has been offended by it.

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By *izandpaulCouple
34 weeks ago

merseyside

Its a shocker in this day and age that personal hygiene is a thing.

Have met a few guys who obviously have never heard of that new invention called soap and deodorant.

We generally always meet for a drink and chat, so forearmed. We do tell them by message later, something like "thanks for taking the time to meet us last night. We won't be taking it any further but we think its only fair to mention your personal hygiene or lack of it".

Dental hygiene is also very important for us,not looking for Turkey Teeth just nice clean, flossed knashers.

Don't think its too much to ask.

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By *w214Couple
34 weeks ago

Merseyside

We met a dom guy once for a social. Guy turned up from work, he was a professional cleaner so was wearing ppe and a polo... smelt like he'd put a shift in too. We tried, even got a bit handsy in the beer garden but it was all too much. He blew his shot, you can't unsmell an unwashed dick. Shame because he ticked sooo many boxes.

He shouldn't have taken the meet if he couldn't arrive fresh.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
Forum Mod
34 weeks ago

Central

Fab jetwash service needed

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By *ornucopiaMan
34 weeks ago

Bexley

Hopefully, another lesson to learn is thinking twice about making such an explicit and individually targetted post in the first place!

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By *ornucopiaMan
34 weeks ago

Bexley

Meanwhile, for those with different views on hygiene, visit the 'Unwashed women' thread in the Swingers chat forum.

It would appear that the smelly have a considerable following.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
34 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

EEEk

I got nothing. Unfortunately, most of us women get abuse on these platforms just for existing.

Sorry that you inadvertently put her in the firing line.

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By *ew swingers wxmCouple
34 weeks ago

Wrexham

We got a ban for 3 or 5 days last year for a similar post so hope you don't fall foul of the rules!! No names mentioned yet we were still in the wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

Clean clean then scrubbed … smelling lovely - it’s so important to arrive groomed well dressed and ( oh did I say clean ! )

Clean clothes and underwear !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

In passing lord Nelson asked by letter that Emma Hamilton should not wash before his pending return

( dirty Sod)

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By *ir-spunk-alotMan
33 weeks ago

Southern England

I personally would of just told her there and then that she should shower or at least clean the mess away from her arse. You will be doing her a favour in the long run.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
33 weeks ago

Leeds

"We got a ban for 3 or 5 days last year for a similar post so hope you don't fall foul of the rules!! No names mentioned yet we were still in the wrong."

You can get a ban for discussing a ban !

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By *iddle ManMan
33 weeks ago

Walsall

Basic hygiene should be a given, unfortunately it is not for everyone.

In everyday life I am paranoid about it, but on meet and clubs, and certainly any kind of play, I am going ott with everything, I expect the basics levels in return.

In this day and age there is no excuse for poor hygiene.

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By *ir-spunk-alotMan
33 weeks ago

Southern England

"We got a ban for 3 or 5 days last year for a similar post so hope you don't fall foul of the rules!! No names mentioned yet we were still in the wrong.

You can get a ban for discussing a ban !"

You can get a for discussing a ban about discussing a ban about a ban.

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By *ung-stallionMan
33 weeks ago

Manchester

Bad hygiene is pure laziness, it’s disgusting and disrespectful turning up dirty to a meet

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By *ames 21Man
33 weeks ago

cardiff

My cock literally goes soft if I’m with someone who smells bad. I’m super careful regarding smell and hygiene and expect the same from those I meet.

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By *oewiththeflowMan
32 weeks ago

West Coast

The smell of dung 💩 is enough to stop anyone. Ffs sort it out

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By *ndyman 201Man
32 weeks ago

hereford

"Bad hygiene is pure laziness, it’s disgusting and disrespectful turning up dirty to a meet"

Totally agree,,,the meet would

Quickly be terminated,,,

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By *ihimbiherCouple
32 weeks ago

lightwater

What a GRIM read. Put me of my cornflakes

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