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By *tomCom OP   Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough

If you are a proper swinging couple, when would you say the other half was cheating on you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you are a proper swinging couple, when would you say the other half was cheating on you?

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Not at all if its all open and everybody is happy, cheating is hidden and deceptive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When 1 or the other tries to meet alone without the knowledge of the other partner in a 'closed' swing coupling (ie only play as a couple)

It really saddens me when guys on here as part of a couple message me and ask for a meet on their own cos their OH doesn't know about their liking for cock.

I just think all that supposed openness and trust that a swinging partnership requires and depends on is worthless, cos at the end of the day it is not that open that they can be honest with either themselves and/or their OH.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When the man contacts me/single women from his couples profile, suggesting we meet alone without the wife's knowledge.

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By *tomCom OP   Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough


"When the man contacts me/single women from his couples profile, suggesting we meet alone without the wife's knowledge."

But if they are swingers in an open relationship why would he not tell his other half?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When the man contacts me/single women from his couples profile, suggesting we meet alone without the wife's knowledge.

But if they are swingers in an open relationship why would he not tell his other half?"

cos for some people, there is no such thing as enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When the man contacts me/single women from his couples profile, suggesting we meet alone without the wife's knowledge.

But if they are swingers in an open relationship why would he not tell his other half?"

The replies to that question when I ask them are.......I just can't resist other women.....I enjoy the thrill of the chase.....It is more sexy sneaking about.......just can't get enough.......we don't have sex much as a couple anymore..........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree it's cheating when it's dishonest.

So if it's hidden, it's usually cheating. Yes, in my experience married men often use 'she isn't playing so it's just me, and I'll tell her I'm out with mates; as she doesn't like me going to clubs alone'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When the man contacts me/single women from his couples profile, suggesting we meet alone without the wife's knowledge.

But if they are swingers in an open relationship why would he not tell his other half?"

Because there is a huge difference between having group sex and one party playing alone without the others knowledge.

Swinging and open relationships are not the same thing.

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By *hell and jWoman
over a year ago

Worksop

wud never ever meet without j or without his knowledge x x we love to see each other with other people big turn on for us x x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think I said this before cheating is when you do something that would hurt someone who loves you. If you know someone well enough you will know what that is and if you love them you wont do it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If my OH meets others without telling me, I would consider that cheating....

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By *ats KiltCouple
over a year ago

London

Well my partner has a single profile and has been having parties behind my back with single females he has contacted on the site. What's wrong with me? Shall I dump him?

Susan

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Well my partner has a single profile and has been having parties behind my back with single females he has contacted on the site. What's wrong with me? Shall I dump him?

Susan"

Why think there's anything wrong with you? You could ask him if you could go to his parties as well. The dumping bit is a question only you can answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we first started out we made 1 rule and that was "no secrets" discuss everything, so far that has served us well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I said this before cheating is when you do something that would hurt someone who loves you. If you know someone well enough you will know what that is and if you love them you wont do it!"
I totally agree with this....my other half, even though we dont live together,knows how i would feel about him meeting someone without my knowledge

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"If you are a proper swinging couple, when would you say the other half was cheating on you?

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We're a proper swinging couple and we don't cheat on each other - we're honest and wouldn't dream of compromising our relationship by cheating - what's the point?! Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Swinging and open relationships are not the same thing."

i agree

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"If you are a proper swinging couple, when would you say the other half was cheating on you?

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When they break the rules. Be that meeting behind someone's back or doing one of their special things they keep between them with someone else.

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By *aughtynigel02121980Man
over a year ago

Brandon

Me and my girlfriend are a swinging couple. We have very few rules. The rules as follow are always safe sex, no over nighters and no meeting behind each others backs. If we kept meets to ourselves we class that as cheating. After all we are in an open relationship and have nothing to hide

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally dont understand what people dont understand as cheating..

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By *aughtynigel02121980Man
over a year ago

Brandon

Keen it is when you are having sex behind your partners back wether you are in a vanilla relationship or as part as a swinging couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

few words spring to mind greedy having his cake (wife)eating it (swinging) an wanting more (cheating )plain xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

swinging is not cheating, but swingers can be cheats

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well my partner has a single profile and has been having parties behind my back with single females he has contacted on the site. What's wrong with me? Shall I dump him?

Susan"

This I would consider cheating and not something I would stand for, sorry.

As someone mentioned earlier on this thread, for some people swinging with their partner is still not enough and they will go behind their partners backs on this site. Only you can decide whether that is something you are ok with but for me I would be showing him the door.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I personally dont understand what people dont understand as cheating.."

^ This.

It's self-explanatory really!

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

Completely agree with those that have said secrecy.

Honesty and openness are needed in a relationship - if they go then that's cheating to me.

For me even more so if you're going to be living this lifestyle, f I can't trust him 100% then I don't think I'd feel as confident playing with others, it would allow insecurities to kick in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I personally dont understand what people dont understand as cheating..

^ This.

It's self-explanatory really! "

yes I thought it was pretty evident...someone else misunderstood my post it appears lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When 1 or the other tries to meet alone without the knowledge of the other partner in a 'closed' swing coupling (ie only play as a couple)

It really saddens me when guys on here as part of a couple message me and ask for a meet on their own cos their OH doesn't know about their liking for cock.

I just think all that supposed openness and trust that a swinging partnership requires and depends on is worthless, cos at the end of the day it is not that open that they can be honest with either themselves and/or their OH."

Agreed, think of the fun if they knew! Lol

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Well my partner has a single profile and has been having parties behind my back with single females he has contacted on the site. What's wrong with me? Shall I dump him?

Susan"

is that a serious question? if it is then it depends on how you feel about it i guess.

i spent 3 years playing tit for tat with my ex and it wasnt fun!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Well my partner has a single profile and has been having parties behind my back with single females he has contacted on the site. What's wrong with me? Shall I dump him?

Susan"

Can't answer your questions I'm afraid but if it was me is lick him in to touch tertiary education and all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well my partner has a single profile and has been having parties behind my back with single females he has contacted on the site. What's wrong with me? Shall I dump him?

Susan

Can't answer your questions I'm afraid but if it was me is lick him in to touch tertiary education and all."

@lick

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Well my partner has a single profile and has been having parties behind my back with single females he has contacted on the site. What's wrong with me? Shall I dump him?

Susan

Can't answer your questions I'm afraid but if it was me is lick him in to touch tertiary education and all.

@lick "

I know lol I meant kick of course but was on my phone with autocorrect which is a great help in making me look even more daft than I already am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well my partner has a single profile and has been having parties behind my back with single females he has contacted on the site. What's wrong with me? Shall I dump him?

Susan

Can't answer your questions I'm afraid but if it was me is lick him in to touch tertiary education and all.

@lick

I know lol I meant kick of course but was on my phone with autocorrect which is a great help in making me look even more daft than I already am "

Lord! There'd be guys cheating left, right and centre if they all thought they might get licked into touch as a result

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging is swinging and seriously good fun when the right people meet, even become occasional/regular friends.

Sadly for some swinging is used a a cover for their their lying, sneaking, snake like stuff.

The latter is not the fault of swinging though. It's the way some treat everyone around them as the opportunity arises in all aspects of life.

In contrast there's plenty of good people about with massive respect for themselves equally towards others.

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