FabSwingers.com forum: Club goers: Where do you tell family you're going for day time club visits?

By *edidit OP Couple
36 weeks ago

Bingley

Looking to go for our first club visit in a while and we're gonna have to tell family we're going out and probably where we're going too.

Needs to be somewhere we can drive (so no drinking!) and where we're unlikely to have regular phone access for a couple of hours. We'd be going late morning mid week.

Thoughts so far have been cinema or spa, but its a bit hard to pretend to go to the cinema if you havent actually seen the film and mr isnt the spa type.

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By *olinOfBathMan
36 weeks ago

Corsham

"Looking to go for our first club visit in a while and we're gonna have to tell family we're going out and probably where we're going too.

Needs to be somewhere we can drive (so no drinking!) and where we're unlikely to have regular phone access for a couple of hours. We'd be going late morning mid week.

Thoughts so far have been cinema or spa, but its a bit hard to pretend to go to the cinema if you havent actually seen the film and mr isnt the spa type. "

If you think telling family the truth would be embarrassing, just wait until you get into the club and a couple of relatives and friends are already there...

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By *edidit OP Couple
36 weeks ago

Bingley

"Looking to go for our first club visit in a while and we're gonna have to tell family we're going out and probably where we're going too.

Needs to be somewhere we can drive (so no drinking!) and where we're unlikely to have regular phone access for a couple of hours. We'd be going late morning mid week.

Thoughts so far have been cinema or spa, but its a bit hard to pretend to go to the cinema if you havent actually seen the film and mr isnt the spa type.

If you think telling family the truth would be embarrassing, just wait until you get into the club and a couple of relatives and friends are already there..."

We havent had that yet! This isnt a tell the truth type situation though sadly, if it was just some mates we would

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By *layfullsamMan
36 weeks ago

Solihull

"Looking to go for our first club visit in a while and we're gonna have to tell family we're going out and probably where we're going too.

Needs to be somewhere we can drive (so no drinking!) and where we're unlikely to have regular phone access for a couple of hours. We'd be going late morning mid week.

Thoughts so far have been cinema or spa, but its a bit hard to pretend to go to the cinema if you havent actually seen the film and mr isnt the spa type. "

Tell them you’re off swinging for a few hours, they’ll think you’re joking so job done

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By *itter78Couple
36 weeks ago

Spennymoor

Hiking?

Say its a big health push before Christmas 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

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By *iddle ManMan
36 weeks ago

Walsall

Not so much the family for me. Where do I tell my boss?

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

We say we are going for a meal with friends.

We just have a different eating out in mind.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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36 weeks ago

East Sussex

Tell them that Mr is taking you to a spa as a treat or because he lost a bet even though he doesn't like them. If the club has a hot tub and/or sauna it's not really a lie.

Or say that you need some time alone together so you're going out together and will be turning your phones off for a couple of hours

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By *estinysswingersCouple
36 weeks ago

Worsley

They don’t know all the details but they are aware of our nocturnal activities.

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By *VCouple123Couple
36 weeks ago

Bucks

Somewhere with no phone signal

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By *unny girl7Woman
36 weeks ago

stoke on trent/cheshire border

Tell them that you are 'going to see a man about a dog' they should respect your privacy enough not to make further enquiries.

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By *herrybakewellCouple
36 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Ive never felt the need to tell them. Were going out....end of.

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
36 weeks ago

wonderland.

"Looking to go for our first club visit in a while and we're gonna have to tell family we're going out and probably where we're going too.

Needs to be somewhere we can drive (so no drinking!) and where we're unlikely to have regular phone access for a couple of hours. We'd be going late morning mid week.

Thoughts so far have been cinema or spa, but its a bit hard to pretend to go to the cinema if you havent actually seen the film and mr isnt the spa type. "
i tell them which club im going to incase they need to get hold of me x

Cali

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
36 weeks ago

Coventry

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
36 weeks ago

Coventry

Well we used to tell the kids we're off to the naturist Spa. Thus a perfect excuse for being incommunicado on the phone, shutting down any futher questions and something we know they wouldn't ask if they could come too. So that worked perfectly.

Until a couple of years ago when a spiteful ex told them we were swingers. They asked us about this. They're teenagers and we didn't want to give the ex the satisfaction of having something over us or us squirming over it. So matter of factly we just yes and answered a few quires. And that was it, no problems, they were fine about it and we don't need to lie anymore. So it back fired on the ex, especially because it futher exposed their vile nature. Futher more when they want to know where we're going we just say off to the swingers club now.

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