I'm just starting out again with a new partner, met her on fab , she's new to the scene.
I've put some guard rails in place.
We don't play with people we know , friends, neighbours , work colleagues, exes n family all off limits . To stop things getting messy
We looking to be a couple that does the clubs , the swinging happens at the club and stays at the club we'll us fab for networking. This is because i've been let down a lot on fab as a single man and being in a couple . Plus in the club, you can see what people really look like and how they are.
Hopefully we'll debut on our first club night at the end of this Month, first time out we're not playing with anyone, I just want her to experience the club take in the atmosphere.See what the other women are wearing and at anytime , if she thinks the club is too much ,we'll leave straight away, still if she gets horny in the club and wants to play, then we can play with each other.If she's feeling adventurous ,Maybe in a couples only area , if not in a locked room , i've already explained this to her and how important it is to stick to the rules, sticking to rules builds confidence and trust , i don't want to do too much on the first night.I don't want to put too much pressure on her.
Second time in the club , if she wants to play , it's down to her , she picks who she wants to fuck, i feel this is the proper and correct way to do things the woman chooses, we looking at being a full swap ,same room couple, i want to be with my partner at all times to make sure that she is safe but to start with, I'm looking at just doing MMF after MMF to get her used to it and comfortable with 2 Men , I've talked to her about giving me signs if we're speaking to somebody and she doesn't want to lead the conversation and she's not bothered about playing she just rubs one of my legs and if she wants to play with the person we're talking to then she should start rubbing my cock n bollcks . Then I'll ask them if they want to play and if yes , we'll go through our play rules , I'm 100% straight, no anal , no pain no humiliation etc .
Nobody is going to have her phone number for obvious reasons.
It's difficult to talk about numbers has in time but has as a general rule,I don't want us playing with the same people on a too regular basis , we are only human people can develop feelings. As swingers we play loose but not too loose .
Different couples have different rules and that's perfectly fine as long as we respect each others boundaries .
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Gradually finding my feet, in this lovely agreed reality called life that we share on here. Got thinking about some rules or guidelines I am following, and thought I’d share. Note that I’m a pagan and shamanic practitioner, so some of these may be interesting and challenging. That’s OK, you do you and I’ll do me (unless consent is agreed and we do each other
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1) You move towards what you are visualising. This is it, the big one. Reading a lovely book called the Urban Shaman. The author puts this as thinking about visualising and thus vibrating at the same frequency as other people, since thoughts are electricity between neurons. So either think about that or just go with it. It’s working for me judging by last weekend!
2). Compliment people if they look fantastic. Online, this should be a compliment as in “You look fantastic” but not as my partner Suzyc said yesterday “I’m going to put that in my wankbank and cum all over the place tomorrow”. Everyone needs the former, people will explicitly tell you if they need the latter.
3). Read the body language. Saw a lovely couple at ignite looking at each other. Complemented them on the lovely energy I could see flowing between them, and added I can see you’re desiring space, so I’ll fuck off. And promptly fucked off as they grinned 
