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By *erdyguy45 OP   Man
36 weeks ago

Solihull/milton keynes & other

Looking for a bit of advice. Been out the scene for quite a while and the site.

Really struggling with getting any chats (never mind a meet).

I don't remember it being this hard 🤣 last time.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

Possibly add more pics. Write up not too bad. Are you attached?

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By *erdyguy45 OP   Man
36 weeks ago

Solihull/milton keynes & other


"Possibly add more pics. Write up not too bad. Are you attached? "

Cheers, will look to add more.

Yes I'm attached but it's a ENM relationship. Never sure to add it though as people just call bs 🤣

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago


"Possibly add more pics. Write up not too bad. Are you attached?

Cheers, will look to add more.

Yes I'm attached but it's a ENM relationship. Never sure to add it though as people just call bs 🤣"

No idea what ENM relationship means.

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By *harAndBryCouple
36 weeks ago

Downham Market


"No idea what ENM relationship means. "

Ethical Non-Monogamy

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By *harAndBryCouple
36 weeks ago

Downham Market


"Looking for a bit of advice. Been out the scene for quite a while and the site.

Really struggling with getting any chats (never mind a meet).

I don't remember it being this hard 🤣 last time."

Couple of things we'd pick up if you messaged us....the one photo isn't very flattering and it's taken in a hotel by the looks of it....we always (often wrongly, maybe) assume that it means a guy only gets a chance to take pics when he's away from home.

Age range could do with setting - doubt you'd really want a 99yr old.

No verifications - Birmingham has clubs and socials that you can get to and get some meet verifications, they at least show you leave the house.

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By *erdyguy45 OP   Man
36 weeks ago

Solihull/milton keynes & other

Hi,thanks for feedback.

I did take in hotels yeah. My work has me away from home nearly every week which is a nightmare currently😭

I'll get some more though 👍

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By *lexi_and_MattCouple
36 weeks ago

Glasgow

As a couple who prefer more than one meet with someone, we really don't engage with guys who go UNLOS and then return after a break. It suggests to us that they get to scratch that itch and then disappear.

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By *erdyguy45 OP   Man
36 weeks ago

Solihull/milton keynes & other


"As a couple who prefer more than one meet with someone, we really don't engage with guys who go UNLOS and then return after a break. It suggests to us that they get to scratch that itch and then disappear. "

Sorry UNLOS?

I think I get it but not the letters 🤣

I was here once a long time ago but when we married we decided to go all in together. A loooong time later we are looking differently that's all.

Not a leave and come back every few months thing but yeah I get how it could look.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
36 weeks ago

Leeds


"Possibly add more pics.

Cheers, will look to add more.

Yes I'm attached but it's a ENM relationship. "

You could ask your partner to take some pics of you.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

Its not a bad profile and we have seen worse pics, but you really should add the ENM relationship to the profile. Let people make an informed choice.

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By *erdyguy45 OP   Man
36 weeks ago

Solihull/milton keynes & other


"Its not a bad profile and we have seen worse pics, but you really should add the ENM relationship to the profile. Let people make an informed choice."

Cheers, yeah maybe will add that on thanks.

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By *erdyguy45 OP   Man
36 weeks ago

Solihull/milton keynes & other


"Possibly add more pics.

Cheers, will look to add more.

Yes I'm attached but it's a ENM relationship.

You could ask your partner to take some pics of you. "

Prob a good idea really

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By *harAndBryCouple
36 weeks ago

Downham Market

Not the OP, but can anyone else that wants profile advice maybe start their own thread instead of messaging us direct, thanks.

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By *ocket and RocketCouple
36 weeks ago

Canterbury


"Possibly add more pics.

Cheers, will look to add more.

Yes I'm attached but it's a ENM relationship.

You could ask your partner to take some pics of you. "

Beat me to it !!! If you have such an understanding partner get her to take some pics for you

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago


"Not the OP, but can anyone else that wants profile advice maybe start their own thread instead of messaging us direct, thanks."

Yeah we got that as well.

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By *eroLondonMan
36 weeks ago

Mayfair

Some useful advice given above by these gentlefolks. I agree that you need more photographs, perhaps with some variety. Thankfully your profile isn't emblazoned with a multitude of cock photos, but your first photo is your cock which isn't a perfect introduction to your gallery.

Good luck OP.

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By *harAndBryCouple
36 weeks ago

Downham Market


"Some useful advice given above by these gentlefolks. I agree that you need more photographs, perhaps with some variety. Thankfully your profile isn't emblazoned with a multitude of cock photos, but your first photo is your cock which isn't a perfect introduction to your gallery.

Good luck OP."

Profile got worse after adding the dick pic.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
36 weeks ago

Leeds


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Profile got worse after adding the dick pic."

I agree

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By *erdyguy45 OP   Man
36 weeks ago

Solihull/milton keynes & other

Checked the wrong box when adding 😭 big fingers little boxes.

Someone asked for one so added it.

Really needed to pay attention

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By *allySlinkyWoman
36 weeks ago

Leeds

You can change it from public to friends only

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By *erdyguy45 OP   Man
36 weeks ago

Solihull/milton keynes & other


"You can change it from public to friends only "

Was meant to be friends only and just pressed the wrong one.

Stupid mistake.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago


"Not the OP, but can anyone else that wants profile advice maybe start their own thread instead of messaging us direct, thanks."

Yep, had the same from a bloke who's so far away from our narrative.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago


"Not the OP, but can anyone else that wants profile advice maybe start their own thread instead of messaging us direct, thanks.

Yeah we got that as well."

Guessing it was the same Bi Man who mailed us too?

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By *erdyguy45 OP   Man
36 weeks ago

Solihull/milton keynes & other


"Not the OP, but can anyone else that wants profile advice maybe start their own thread instead of messaging us direct, thanks.

Yeah we got that as well.

Guessing it was the same Bi Man who mailed us too? "

Thanks for helping me out apologies for the problems with people messaging now

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago


"Not the OP, but can anyone else that wants profile advice maybe start their own thread instead of messaging us direct, thanks.

Yeah we got that as well.

Guessing it was the same Bi Man who mailed us too? "

Yep, I would say so.

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By *erdyguy45 OP   Man
34 weeks ago

Solihull/milton keynes & other

Thanks all for advice. First meet this week and was great. Social quickly turned to more and a great night was had.

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By *ongTongue96Man
34 weeks ago

Sunderland

Any advice for being noticed because honestly I've kind of given up on the site any devices. What do I need to remove or what do I need to add?

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

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By *erdyguy45 OP   Man
33 weeks ago

Solihull/milton keynes & other


"Any advice for being noticed because honestly I've kind of given up on the site any devices. What do I need to remove or what do I need to add?"

Set up your own thread, will get noticed easier. The group here are all brilliant.

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By *ussell Nobbs...Man
33 weeks ago

Lincoln

Get six pack, a car worth more than £30k and a sh1tty attitude...You'll go far on here then.

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By *erdyguy45 OP   Man
33 weeks ago

Solihull/milton keynes & other

🤣

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