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By (user no longer on site) OP   
37 weeks ago

I see a lot of women and couples block single guys or guys my age , just wondering if that’s a common thing on this site

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By *N MFCoupleCouple
37 weeks ago

Lincoln

Yes, but as some of them would be getting 00s of messages every day otherwise, it’s somewhat understandable

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By *esparate danMan
37 weeks ago

glasgow


"I see a lot of women and couples block single guys or guys my age , just wondering if that’s a common thing on this site "

You're only meant to come here when you are jaded

Go and have a life

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
37 weeks ago

Pembrokeshire


"I see a lot of women and couples block single guys or guys my age , just wondering if that’s a common thing on this site "

we dont block single men just for being men. even though we don't really want to meet any right now. We block anyone who is rude, pushy, asks for female only meets, and doesnt know when to take no reply as a reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

I’ve been on this site for a while I speak with respect and always send a face pic but without even replying I get blocked, instead of blocking just say sorry not my type and we move on…

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By *mmaleiaWoman
37 weeks ago

Trowbridge


"instead of blocking just say sorry not my type and we move on…"

They’ve told you you’re not their type by doing that.

I can’t reply to every guy that doesn’t read what I’m looking for, but mail me anyway in the off chance.

Blocking is an easy filter

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By *ixey and CopperCouple
37 weeks ago

Exeter


"I’ve been on this site for a while I speak with respect and always send a face pic but without even replying I get blocked, instead of blocking just say sorry not my type and we move on…"

When our profile is visible we'll get messages from Single guys asking to meet them.

It clearly says on our profile that we only go to clubs and dont meet.

If they cant be bothered to read our profile, or choose to ignore whats written then they get blocked straight away.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago


"I’ve been on this site for a while I speak with respect and always send a face pic but without even replying I get blocked, instead of blocking just say sorry not my type and we move on…"

Sorry, not our type, moving on.

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By *eautifully TwistedWoman
37 weeks ago

Telford

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By *eautifully TwistedWoman
37 weeks ago

Telford


"I dont block single men for merely being men. I have an age range though and block outside of it. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
37 weeks ago

Good things comes to those who wait

But from what I’m getting single men don’t have a good reputation on here 😅

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By *issmorganWoman
37 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I use age filters yes, as it cuts down the mail I get from those I wouldn't be interested in.

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By *eyeYCouple
37 weeks ago

Nr Leicester

Yes, guy's blocked.

Unfortunately many can't read, or just choose to ignore, the number of messages gets ridiculous.

If we want to meet a single guy, we instigate the conversation with them.

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By *ucka39Man
37 weeks ago

Newcastle

Rather than get inundated with messages are able to do their own messaging if they choose to

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By *illDoXXXMan
37 weeks ago

Preston

As a general tip from a single guys, if the profile says no single guys 10 or 12 times , they mean it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
37 weeks ago

I only posted this because I have very few I can message and I’ve been unfortunate

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By *andybitches1Couple
37 weeks ago

Aberdeenshire


"I see a lot of women and couples block single guys or guys my age , just wondering if that’s a common thing on this site

we dont block single men just for being men. even though we don't really want to meet any right now. We block anyone who is rude, pushy, asks for female only meets, and doesnt know when to take no reply as a reply."

Exactly the same.

Will give most a courteous reply if the message doesn’t sway from our profile wishes but the self awareness of many is comically bad.

The amount that think hubby is giving me away and should be thankful makes us wonder what their life outside of FAB is like.

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
37 weeks ago

Cambridgeshire


"But from what I’m getting single men don’t have a good reputation on here 😅"

Some have a very good reputation. The problem is that there's a huge number that think joining entitles them to something.

Posting a thread about how terrible people are not to reply to his unsolicited messages probably puts the OP in that category.

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By *agicm696Man
37 weeks ago

High Wycombe

Yeah I find it hard to meet couples on here as a single guy 😔

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By *moothGrooveWoman
37 weeks ago

I have a singles profile and a couples profile and single men are my preference, so no I don't blanket block them.

There are lots of people on Fab, all looking for different things. Sometimes you just have to accept that you're not for everyone

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By *estinysswingersCouple
37 weeks ago

Worsley

Swinging is mainly a couples sport for us.

If we don’t block single guys our inbox gets swamped with inane messages.

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By *b03Man
37 weeks ago

Exeter

Incredibly common for a multitude of reasons

Some couples only want couples (or a F)

Some couples only want a bi-guy

Theres an inexhaustible supply of single guys here, of which:

A not insignificant amount of time wasters, fantasists or just downright unpleasant/creepy

Gay men pretending to be couples or F

Majority either have blank profiles or put a random picture of their penis and figure that it's sure to work

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

I was a member on here about 13 years ago and through a site called Fuck Buddy I met up with a girl who ended up signing up the Fabs too.

Within minutes of signing up, even before any pictures were uploaded she'd received over 100 "fancy a fuck" type messages with cock pics attached.

It's not fair on the more civilised gent but I totally understand the female perspective in just blocking all single men.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
37 weeks ago

near Putney Heath


"I only posted this because I have very few I can message and I’ve been unfortunate "

The main club that I go to doesn't let anyone in under age 25. Lol!

Maybe they've had too many complaints about Gen Z.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

I can imagine the guys get blocked by something they’ve said or lack of reading a profile in the first place so they deserve to be !!!

If you’ve been respectful yet still get blocked then still don’t worry about it as it’s clearly not a connection to pursue or commit time into, just move on with no hard feelings as they must have their own reasons and you should respect that.

You have to put things into perspective here, I can only imagine the amount of sheer junk mail and messages single ladies and couples have to constantly get through to even find a decent conversation let alone a connection.

Be yourself and you’ll hopefully connect with others with a similar mind, interests and intentions.

Good luck

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By *enelope2UWoman
36 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances


"I’ve been on this site for a while I speak with respect and always send a face pic but without even replying I get blocked, instead of blocking just say sorry not my type and we move on…"

That's what blocking does

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By *enelope2UWoman
36 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances


"I can imagine the guys get blocked by something they’ve said or lack of reading a profile in the first place so they deserve to be !!!

If you’ve been respectful yet still get blocked then still don’t worry about it as it’s clearly not a connection to pursue or commit time into, just move on with no hard feelings as they must have their own reasons and you should respect that.

You have to put things into perspective here, I can only imagine the amount of sheer junk mail and messages single ladies and couples have to constantly get through to even find a decent conversation let alone a connection.

Be yourself and you’ll hopefully connect with others with a similar mind, interests and intentions.

Good luck "

Perfectly stated!! SPOT ON

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
Forum Mod
36 weeks ago

Central

People block those of any types that they don't want contact from - it's a win-win, as nobody gets to waste unnecessary time.

Focus on the others who have contact possible and you fit their requirements.

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By *eepee25Couple
36 weeks ago

South Yorkshire

I second this. If they can’t be bothered to read our profile then we simply won’t reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

We openly put on the profile that if we arent interested, we delete the message and we add that if they cant take rejection to not contact either.

Its really on them after that.

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By *CExeCouple
36 weeks ago

Hong-Kong/Exeter

We block all single males until we're looking for a guy at which point the filters go off for a while.

Reason being is we get inundated with far too many messages otherwise. Most are lovely, but some can't take no or the lack of reply and become unpleasant.

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By *rad670Man
36 weeks ago

South Lakes


"I see a lot of women and couples block single guys or guys my age , just wondering if that’s a common thing on this site "

It's not just your age, from getting to know many couples and a few sigle women over a few years on here it works in their favour to simply block and state not looking for single guys even when they are actually open to meeting some occasionally. I have learned how it seems to work, it's simple, they like to choose themselves rather than have 100s of usually unreadable or over enthusiatic or rude messages a day. Keep looking at profiles you like and if they are looking for single males at the time and see you have looked they may view your profile and if you're lucky you may get a wink or message which then opens the way for you to chat. Patience is the key.

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