FabSwingers.com forum: Open to criticism or suggestions

By *e Kinky Few OP Man
37 weeks ago

Pembrokeshire

Hi. Was just wondering if some of you lovely people could help. Been on the site a few years on and off and despite my best efforts I’m struggling to meet people and get beyond the first few messages exchanged. Was hoping you lovely experienced fabbers could give me a few pointers on where if falling down, wether it’s my profile, photos or just i if I’m unlikeable… trying to be as open and respectful as I can on my page and in chats but still seems I’m not what people are looking for.

Please help x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
37 weeks ago

East Sussex

I can see nothing wrong and I doubt you're unlikable.

It could be that you're married. I know your wife is aware and happy but it does deter people.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

just accept the fact their are tens of thousands of single men here Vs - single ladies and m/f couples

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By *aomilatteCouple
37 weeks ago

Midlands

Playing solo even with your wifes permission will put many off. Some may doubt it, some may not take the chance of being involved in potential drama. If you go to clubs or socials then your FAB profile doesn’t matter.

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By *enlikesbothMan
37 weeks ago

york or visiting

Mate sometimes it’s just difficult. Profile looks fine. But it’s a couples or ladies choice at the buffet and there’s lots of choice. And some very exceptional choices at that from what I’ve seen in my years on here. It seems that clubs maybe best to get known by a few people which reduces the risk of meeting flakey or dangerous guys.

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By *rinceless PrincessWoman
37 weeks ago

Gloucester

I can only echo what others have said. Your profile looks good but the fact ypur married will put many people off even though you say you have permission.

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By *issmorganWoman
37 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I'd agree with others.

Profile looks good op, but the married may put some off.

Is your wife here too? You could put her solo profile on yours if so, then others can see her & be assured etc.

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By *igBeardyDanMan
37 weeks ago

Bilston

I'm married but have a solo profile on here due to my wife's medical issues and Ive had some couples and single ladies message me and it hasn't put them off. I find it much easier going to my local club which might be an issue for you OP because of your location.

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By *ex MexicoMan
37 weeks ago

North West

As someone who also plays solo with my partner's consent, it might help if you could refer to a couples profile with veris on it so it reassures people? It looks legit to me but other people might be a bit less confident about it.

Even with that I've had a number of women decline to take it further on that basis. Still, it's not the end of the world and lots of women won't have a problem with it.

I'd say generally your profile is fine, it's just the standard thing of it being a really competitive field for single men.

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By *nytime2023Couple
37 weeks ago

Gloucestershire

As others have said, it’s a numbers game for single guys unfortunately. Your profile is actually decent in our opinion, and not a cock pic from a toilet cubicle in sight! The text is decent too. The married thing wouldn’t put us off but we would want some form of chat or meet with her prior to doing anything more intimate. But again, that’s us and many others will have no problem with it.

In fact, the only thing that would stop us messaging you is you’re straight and we’re more into bi guys. Good luck with OP. V&K x

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By *rincessr84Woman
37 weeks ago

Ards area

Your current status would put me off but Im a stickler for spelling and grammar.

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By *iss DevilWoman
37 weeks ago

Bedford

Same as the others have said, profile sounds fine, very informative. Good selection of photos, even though a few of them are from quite far away.

If I were you, I would rethink your age range - I think there are more 40+ women on here than women fitting into 22-45 category. But it's your profile, if that's the age group you are the most comfortable with, then stick with that selection.

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By *ellhungvweMan
37 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I haven’t looked at your profile but you say that you are failing after a few messages so that means you are getting the initial engagement. The issue is therefore in your messaging style?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
37 weeks ago

Leeds

Your name is "_e kinky few" but your profile text makes no mention of kink.

I am puzzled why you only display two of your five verifications.

It makes me wonder if it was a couples profile which you have now turned single.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"Playing solo even with your wifes permission will put many off. Some may doubt it, some may not take the chance of being involved in potential drama. If you go to clubs or socials then your FAB profile doesn’t matter. "

when blokes message us that - i just block them - IMO, be open and honest - dont mention the wife like most guys or dont mention someone who has nothing to do with your sex activities

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By *entlecaressMan
37 weeks ago

Wakefield/ Beverley

I liken Fab to a bus terminal for single men were lots of buses come in but they arnt ones you can get on because they dont fit your journey profile.

Every once in a while the right bus comes and you get on but then how long you can stay on is up to the driver.

Some buses Ive stayed on for a couple of years some only a couple of hours. Some give the promise of turning up but get cancelled some just disapear off the board and some say theyre a number 77 but change to a 33 as they depart, then I sometimes have to jump off to save myself lol.

Then I wait for another bus and so the cycle goes around.

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By *r SensualMan
37 weeks ago

London

You seem to have a pretty decent profile OP - well written bio with tasteful pictures too…

unfortunately though the “competition” on here is huge meaning the selection criteria of women and couples is getting more and more niche. Even the tiniest things, some of which you don’t even know or have control over will rule you out by some.

Like yourself I’m also a partnered gent who plays solo. Some won’t like that even if your partner is aware and you can prove that, it’s just how it is. I had a woman respond to my message the other day with a very snarky remark at the end relating to exactly this.

Getting yourself known in person by going to events is the way to go, can be taken on face value that way.

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