FabSwingers.com forum: Swinging and AuADHD

By *laywithme39 OP Man
46 weeks ago

Derby

Does anyone else here find it rather difficult having the above and wanting to explore the swinging scene?

You know....enjoying the thrill of exploring this world of fun...but finding it rather difficult/frustrating to make and maintain a meaningful connection due to the difficulty around social interactions?

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By *ananaPieCouple
46 weeks ago

Basingstoke

Very much so. We also often don’t reply to messages not because we don’t like them, but because we feel we might not be good enough.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
46 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

"Does anyone else here find it rather difficult having the above and wanting to explore the swinging scene?

I have autism diagnosed only...maybe some ADHD traits.

the swinging world is fickle. You will get the most of it, if you treat it as an experience without expectations of more.

I go elsewhere for my deeper meaningful connections.

Namely, mental health support groups and moving towards Rope Bondage, practised mainly in a non-sexual environment in a group. to the point that people call these groups Rope families, like Drag families.

Most of people on swinging sites and apps are not looking for meaningful connections. Most just want a connection for a short period of time. For a long time, I just wanted to connect sexually but that has changed.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
46 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

"Does anyone else here find it rather difficult having the above and wanting to explore the swinging scene?

Here are the links for all the other neurodivergent threads.

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/1447141

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By *smith87Man
46 weeks ago

totton

Mine affects me in getting easily attached to people

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By *cnugatugMan
46 weeks ago

Chatham

"Very much so. We also often don’t reply to messages not because we don’t like them, but because we feel we might not be good enough. "
this is exactly how I feel

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By *otshot14Woman
45 weeks ago

tunbridge wells

Yep I get attached aswell to who ever I'm having sex with,sometimes it's so hard to walk away even though you know it's hurting you.

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

"Yep I get attached aswell to who ever I'm having sex with,sometimes it's so hard to walk away even though you know it's hurting you.

I'm sorry, but when I was a kid in the 1980's that was called "True Love".

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By *eyDJMan
44 weeks ago

Willenhall

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By *eyDJMan
44 weeks ago

Willenhall

"Very much so. We also often don’t reply to messages not because we don’t like them, but because we feel we might not be good enough. "

Yeah it can be very hard

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By *laywithme39 OP Man
44 weeks ago

Derby

I find it disheartening if im honest.

Ive always struggled with making ans maintaining social connections.

I long for that connection, but i feel that the effort I put in is wasted which frustrates and as said earlier leaves you disheartened.

Where the exceptions I do connect with someone here and they request a pic. Thats where it usually stops. Wouldn't say im ugly but not exactly anyone's cup of tea either.

As it seems repeatable.

Talking about it now leaves me frustrated.

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By (user no longer on site)
44 weeks ago

fellow with an autistic wired brain here

I hear you OP, I can find connecting with folk and maintaining relationships, socially, difficult too, but I just keep persevering with it all and just keep learning, it's the only thing that's within my control

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By *just.meMan
43 weeks ago

hartlepool

Especially when you're an introvert

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By *he_13th_ghostWoman
43 weeks ago

Swindon

I'm riddled with ADHD and it can be a pain sometimes with the scene

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By *andaloriansCouple
38 weeks ago

Malvern

I have autism with adhd traits and C has adhd with autistic traits. It can be a struggle on occasion but also, it can help to help people understand why we are who we are(as long as they arnt closed off that is). Sometimes it really gets in the way of my sex drive which is annoying for us both!

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By *laywithme39 OP Man
3 days ago

Derby

I get what you mean.

Im currently trying to weight up if being on here is worth the effort anymore.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
3 days ago

near Putney Heath

"I get what you mean.

Im currently trying to weight up if being on here is worth the effort anymore."

Hey I can't speak for Derby but it is worth it in London and the Home Counties. That said, I did have a therapist that I could speak to every week and a mental health support group to discuss my awkwardness in social, sex, and vulnerable settings when I started.

the more social you are the more you get out of it but you don't have to be super social. plenty of my swinger partners and kink friends are less social than me and have their social battery drain quite quickly.

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