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By (user no longer on site) OP   
38 weeks ago

I plan to go to a club on saturday for the 1st time ever. Really nervous and I keep seeing posts about single males going into a club 1st time knowing no1 are made to feel not wanted or awkward. Has anyone had any experience of this happening or maybe not happening or know hows best to stop it. I dont want to go in and be put off right away

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago


"I plan to go to a club on saturday for the 1st time ever. Really nervous and I keep seeing posts about single males going into a club 1st time knowing no1 are made to feel not wanted or awkward. Has anyone had any experience of this happening or maybe not happening or know hows best to stop it. I dont want to go in and be put off right away "

Firstly have you checked that the club allow single men in on a Saturday? We know a number don't.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
38 weeks ago

Yes they do, I say club, this is more of a spa/club.

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By *arryandhedgehogCouple
38 weeks ago

Essex

Its not that single men are unwanted its poorly behaved single men are unwanted. Go with no expectations be polite to people smile and engage in conversation, if people are engaging in sexual acts don't crowd around them unless invited. Sounds simple but respect is everything and thats where alot of people fail.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
38 weeks ago

London


"Its not that single men are unwanted its poorly behaved single men are unwanted. Go with no expectations be polite to people smile and engage in conversation, if people are engaging in sexual acts don't crowd around them unless invited. Sounds simple but respect is everything and thats where alot of people fail. "

Excellent advice. Manners and common sense go a long way.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

go early, go weekday as this is what we always did, just found it easier to be there almost first and sat watch others arrive and left before 2pm

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By *iss DevilWoman
38 weeks ago

Bedford

You say it's a spa type of club. Therefore, go with the expectations of enjoying the facilities and chilling rather than anything else. Then if anything else does happen, it would be a bonus.

Do try to chat with people. Also, if the club has got a chat group, do join it.

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By *histle do nicelyMan
38 weeks ago

Glasgow South

If its a couple... Don't ignore either partner...Respect will get you farther

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

you stilll there bud?

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By *ongshanks65Man
38 weeks ago

Weymouth

As a single male it can be a challenge, I attend a club in Bournemouth, and go with the attitude, that I'm there for a social evening, and any thing else that happens is a bonus.

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By *ctionSandwichCouple
38 weeks ago

Newcastle under Lyme

Honestly it's no less sad or awkward than a single male going to any normal bar on their own.

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By *hatsWhatCoupleCouple
38 weeks ago

Northampton


"I plan to go to a club on saturday for the 1st time ever. Really nervous and I keep seeing posts about single males going into a club 1st time knowing no1 are made to feel not wanted or awkward. Has anyone had any experience of this happening or maybe not happening or know hows best to stop it. I dont want to go in and be put off right away "

Only you can experience the feeling.

Go, enjoy, be a social butterfly, don’t get d*unk.

Not clear where, but don’t wank in the corner, respect the club rules, respect others and yourself

Have fun. It’s gone wrong if you’re not

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
37 weeks ago

Cambridgeshire


"Go, enjoy, be a social butterfly, don’t get d*unk. "

We were at a couples only event once, and a single woman turned up with some random guy that she'd found so that she could get in, and dropped him as soon as she could.

But we got chatting with him, and he seemed nice, and my partner thought he was kind of cute. We were planning to invite him for a threesome, but as time went on it was clear he was getting very, very d*unk, so we went elsewhere....

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

UNLOS - guess it didn’t go well for OP

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By *hatsWhatCoupleCouple
37 weeks ago

Northampton


"UNLOS - guess it didn’t go well for OP "

Doh!!

Or it went so well that he’s completed his life mission and is now recovering …

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By *rinceless PrincessWoman
37 weeks ago

Gloucester


"UNLOS - guess it didn’t go well for OP "

Awww no!

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Good ending, he found a life partner a dissapeared into the night.

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