FabSwingers.com forum: Am I being TOO harsh on members?

By (user no longer on site) OP
38 weeks ago

Over 12 months ago, I'd had enough of the unsolicited "friends" requests. So I

block all of them.

Is that too harsh?

The reason I do this, IMO is becsue I feel they may just want to look at our "friends only pics." I may be wrong but it is how I feel and Mrs L agrees with me.

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By *all me FlikWoman
38 weeks ago

Galaxy Far Far Away

I just add friends if I've met them and like them generally.

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By *ustus5555Woman
38 weeks ago

Nottingham

I have a VERY short friends list & that's because that is what they are. Friends that I've met. Like yourselves, I delete all others. End of the day it's your account so just do what suits you .

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
38 weeks ago

East Sussex

I think it's perfectly reasonable.

We never accept a friend request unless we've chatted to someone.

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By *oochie DeLiciousWoman
38 weeks ago

Wolvo

People on my friends list I've actually met or talk to in real life. There are those that feel entitled to see friends pictures or add you as a friend as a way of getting your attention. Nothing wrong with blocking. X

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By *urious Couple 83Couple
38 weeks ago

Ware

We tend to drop a message and say we don’t accept from people we haven’t either met in person or had a good chat to here beforehand.

If the response is favourable there is a chance they may get added down the line if it is not/there isn’t one we will block.

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By *ootyfruityCouple
38 weeks ago

andover

If we havnt spoken and its a random friend request, usually we wait until we’re together, accept, browse the photos and videos then delete 😂

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By *hefoxesofpenCouple
38 weeks ago

chester

"Over 12 months ago, I'd had enough of the unsolicited "friends" requests. So I

block all of them.

Is that too harsh?

The reason I do this, IMO is becsue I feel they may just want to look at our "friends only pics." I may be wrong but it is how I feel and Mrs L agrees with me."

I do exactly the same. I guess between 10/20 a day. Despite asking not to on the profile, and often in a status update. Winds me up.

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By *rowley616Man
38 weeks ago

Scarborough

I have one friend.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
38 weeks ago

Coventry

"Over 12 months ago, I'd had enough of the unsolicited "friends" requests. So I

block all of them.

Is that too harsh?

The reason I do this, IMO is because I feel they may just want to look at our "friends only pics." I may be wrong but it is how I feel and Mrs L agrees with me."

No, you control how things work for you. That's all that matters. No-one can tell you how to feel about things, so do what's best and most comfortable for you. Personally I'd never simply send a friends request unless I knew someone well enough face to face - and would ask if it was welcome first. As a single guy the only 'comfortable' way to do it is to wait until a woman or couple decide they're happy to add each other. For me it's a part of the trust process and of being a high value man and establishing me as an individual.

You do you!

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
38 weeks ago

Coventry

"I have a VERY short friends list & that's because that is what they are. Friends that I've met. Like yourselves, I delete all others. End of the day it's your account so just do what suits you .

Exactly this!

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By *izandpaulCouple
38 weeks ago

merseyside

We only do friends with people we have actually met. Can't see the point in having friends with people we will never meet or just so they can peek at the friends only photos.

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By *inderellamanMan
38 weeks ago

near the riverside

I think most send friend requests as they are horny and just want a wank over the friends only vids and pics.

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By *i versMan
38 weeks ago

Kirkcaldy

"Over 12 months ago, I'd had enough of the unsolicited "friends" requests. So I

block all of them.

Is that too harsh?

The reason I do this, IMO is becsue I feel they may just want to look at our "friends only pics." I may be wrong but it is how I feel and Mrs L agrees with me."
and so what if they do, you have pics up for a reasons don't you, for people to see them. Alot of people don't make sense on here and are also alot of liars that just picture collect

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By *iss_Juicy79Woman
38 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I block them too have done for a long time. It's not rude, they are rude trying to add without talking first.

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By *eastAndBunsCouple
38 weeks ago

Dorset / Dorchester

We tend to buck the trend on this thread and will send a friend request after a message or two, or even in place of a wink.

For us it's a way to filter messages for those we want to contact, and as we like to see face pics before messaging too much to see if we like them.

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By *eeshellsCouple
38 weeks ago

Reading

We block unsolicited friends. We wouldn't add anyone else as a friend without getting to know them, why are they asking us?

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By *hatsWhatCoupleCouple
38 weeks ago

Northampton

You do you

We don’t get why people get so worked up about it. The request is exactly that; if you don’t want to accept, hit decline.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
38 weeks ago

"Over 12 months ago, I'd had enough of the unsolicited "friends" requests. So I

block all of them.

Is that too harsh?

The reason I do this, IMO is becsue I feel they may just want to look at our "friends only pics." I may be wrong but it is how I feel and Mrs L agrees with me. and so what if they do, you have pics up for a reasons don't you, for people to see them. Alot of people don't make sense on here and are also alot of liars that just picture collect"

Are you sure you are on the correct thread as what you have posted does not relate to what I said.

Cheers

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By (user no longer on site) OP
38 weeks ago

I see, many can see my point of view and practice it and reasons why they may block or not, thanks.

Many have talked about "friends list" - we have 4/5 and only one of them keeps in contact or more likle I do - as IMO, once we have met oand or chatted, there is not a lot more to say unless one is very active here and we are not as Mrs is not up to it, ie our age.

I guess the bottom line, do as you see fit but on reading the comments here, I feel less guilty on imediately blocking them, especially those with no messages or just a "hi, I'd like to know bit more about you" type of message -

Others I block is where they blantly claim they have read our profile but have not

Enjoy your day -

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By *iFruityCoupleCouple
38 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

Are friends are those we have met, or are about to meet.

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By *londebiguyMan
38 weeks ago

Southport

Only add them as friends if you have met or if you think that you will meet them.

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By *ouple4voyeurCouple
38 weeks ago

Birmingham

"Over 12 months ago, I'd had enough of the unsolicited "friends" requests. So I

block all of them.

Is that too harsh?

The reason I do this, IMO is becsue I feel they may just want to look at our "friends only pics." I may be wrong but it is how I feel and Mrs L agrees with me."

That's not harsh at all. We block for many more reasons all mentioned in our profile.

You'd be amazed we'll probably not by the many 'hi' only messages we get. Meaning they only looked at the photos and thier 3rd eye can't read.

So yes, they are just photo collectors.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
38 weeks ago

Coventry

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By *eauNaturelMan
38 weeks ago

Malmesbury

It's your profile, your Fab experience, do it the way that works best for you OP - no judgement here.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
38 weeks ago

Coventry

To be honest I've been blocked by people I've never even seen or looked at. Guess some just block if someone isn't what they're looking for. Might be a tad harsh, but can't be taken as personal. Blocking people who act in a less than classy manner is fair dinkum as far as I'm concerned.

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By *herrybakewellCouple
38 weeks ago

Staffordshire

We block people that arent looking for what we are....there's no point seeing each other's profiles.

We also don't accept friends requests unless were talking to or have met them.

Do what works for you.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
Forum Mod
38 weeks ago

Central

We have to learn for ourselves how we can use Fab to work for us. I think you're fine OP.

When I got rid of friends only pics, the random anonymous friend requests fell dramatically. I find them intrusive

. It's a way to potentially spoil it for themselves with just a click.

You learn that Fab attracts a lot of men who just want wank fodder

. They may try to deceive you that they are interested in meeting but they usually stand out. An awful lot of people here have their time wasted, by men with their cock in hand.

I wonder whether the new porn restrictions will push people here more, as Fab has a very easy age proof mechanism, better than most porn sites. We should monitor this perhaps

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By *rinceless PrincessWoman
38 weeks ago

Gloucester

I do exactly the same and it even says in my profile “if we have not met on person and you send a friend request then you will be blocked”

Clearly if they send one then they haven’t bothered to read my profile or they have and chosen to ignore it. Either way they clearly aren’t the person for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
38 weeks ago

Great, many here act the way I do.

It is reassuring reading the majority of the comments and on that basis, I am doing is good for us.

I find it cuts out the time wasters

Another thing I picked up on is the cut and past messages - often one or two sendences or a several detailing how they have read our profile - clealy they have not as I ask them to post something that shows they've read it - IMO its a great way to avoid those that lie from the outset. However, I do get it as they are often single or married men trying their luck and I really get that - but please don't get caught out

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

"If we havnt spoken and its a random friend request, usually we wait until we’re together, accept, browse the photos and videos then delete 😂"

Yep. Exactly what we do toj

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By *loria JamesTV/TS
38 weeks ago

Durham

I don't have any friends only pics they are all public.

I state in my profile that I don't want friend requests unless we've chatted...but I still get them.

Generally i just ignore them and only block if I get rude or crude messages. It's the ones that haven't bothered to read my profile that I find frustrating. First message is a "Hi" second is "wanna meet".

Does that ever work?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
38 weeks ago

"I don't have any friends only pics they are all public.

I state in my profile that I don't want friend requests unless we've chatted...but I still get them.

Does that ever work?"

The thing is many dont read the profile and just as many said they have but lie - we know they have not read the profile as we ask them to post a code in the first message - those that claim to have read the profile and clearly have not also get blocked

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By *ucyLicks51Woman
38 weeks ago

Glasgow

I don't delete, I look when their offline then unfriend again

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By (user no longer on site) OP
38 weeks ago

"I don't delete, I look when their offline then unfriend again

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By *ovinglife!40Man
38 weeks ago

Hinckley

"Over 12 months ago, I'd had enough of the unsolicited "friends" requests. So I

block all of them.

Is that too harsh?

The reason I do this, IMO is becsue I feel they may just want to look at our "friends only pics." I may be wrong but it is how I feel and Mrs L agrees with me."

It is rude to send a friend request without speaking first.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

not harsh at all

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By *1nkseekersCouple
38 weeks ago

Bridgwater

Much the same for us

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By *he Happy ManMan
38 weeks ago

Merseyside

"Over 12 months ago, I'd had enough of the unsolicited "friends" requests. So I

block all of them.

Is that too harsh?

The reason I do this, IMO is becsue I feel they may just want to look at our "friends only pics." I may be wrong but it is how I feel and Mrs L agrees with me."

You are not wrong. Lots of people do ask to be friends to get at the friends only pics. Especially the unsolicted friends requests.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
38 weeks ago

"Over 12 months ago, I'd had enough of the unsolicited "friends" requests. So I

block all of them.

Is that too harsh?

The reason I do this, IMO is becsue I feel they may just want to look at our "friends only pics." I may be wrong but it is how I feel and Mrs L agrees with me.

It is rude to send a friend request without speaking first. "

i think you have hit the nail on the head.

Even after messaging/speaking, imo, they must ask before sending a friends request.

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By *issmorganWoman
38 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

No I don't think so.

I block repeat offenders, who send another when you've already deleted the first friend invite and they don't speak etc.

My list has 4 people on it though and I only add those I've met ir know well.

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By *ucka39Man
38 weeks ago

Newcastle

Not harsh at all if they aren't leading anywhere random request are a huge put off

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By *ermanentlyHorny8082Couple
38 weeks ago

North West

We only add people we’ve met/are seriously intending on meeting. Removed a handful, the other day

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

In many cases it shows a lack of respect, especially when mentioned on our profile.

We sometimes ignore them, sometimes block but definitely wouldn't ever play with them as if they can't respect our boundaries on here what will they be like in a play scenario?

Although sometimes we will wait until they're offline, accept the friend request, have a sneaky peek at their pics and then remove them as a friend 😀

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By *lybynightWoman
38 weeks ago

visiting various Wales. .. and Daresbury

You probably find FAB is a lot

more enjoyable when you're trigger happy with the block button.

My friends list is generally people I've met, and the occasional one I've has great chats with.

Admittedly a few, I've added, viewed their pics in case I've mis judged them, then deleted

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By *arkdawsonMan
38 weeks ago

around

"Over 12 months ago, I'd had enough of the unsolicited "friends" requests. So I

block all of them.

Is that too harsh?

The reason I do this, IMO is becsue I feel they may just want to look at our "friends only pics." I may be wrong but it is how I feel and Mrs L agrees with me."

Na you’re right ! Better off to be catious on here

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By *nnocenceExpiredWoman
38 weeks ago

Birstall

My friends list is only people I've met, or may have some intention of meeting

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By *istr3ssWoman
38 weeks ago

Stockton-on-Tees

If I've never spoken to or met the people sending the friends request, I assume they're just photo collectors, so they blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

"Over 12 months ago, I'd had enough of the unsolicited "friends" requests. So I

block all of them.

Is that too harsh?

The reason I do this, IMO is becsue I feel they may just want to look at our "friends only pics." I may be wrong but it is how I feel and Mrs L agrees with me."

I just go through deleting them all... almost daily.. sometimes i just leave them there as then they cant send another.

You only add those you want to add... I dont think it is harsh at all.

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By *andybitches1Couple
38 weeks ago

Aberdeenshire

Pretty new on here so too us a couple of weeks to realise how many pic collectors there are.

Love taking pics and most are open to all so most friends one of us accept usually gets deleted by the other.

Some folk we are keeping on for gen reasons but the random requests from many are for one reason only.

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By *ypersoonMan
38 weeks ago

WHITCHURCH, Shropshire

I always leave face shots & most naughtier pics in my friends-only section but then given I rarely get others sending for a friend request, I leave it up to everyone else's perogative

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
20 weeks ago

Coventry

Very rare I'd be friends with anyone I didn't actually know personally. People are strangers until things are genuinely established. May be different couple to couple, but as a single guy I'd absolutely not send a friend request ever. Waiting until a woman feels ready to also shows a lack of a 'pressure sell' and engenders trust in me as a man.

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By *CExeCouple
20 weeks ago

Hong-Kong/Exeter

We don't have a friends photos or videos section, so folks gain nothing by adding us, but they still request anyway. Our inbox is overflowing and I'm crap with Fabmin so use the friends list to remember who to chat with. Have goodness knows how many unsolicited friend invites sitting unaccepted.

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

Out of the blue friend requests are just crazy. As it's been mentioned here, picture collectors? Without having met someone first, it just seems rather desperate or simply not thought through. I have ignored friend requests before deleting after a few minutes.

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By *ellinever70Woman
20 weeks ago

Ayrshire

I see no reason to add anyone as a friend on here

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By *aandLoCouple
20 weeks ago

Southampton

Our profile clearly says if we haven't chatted and you Friend Request us we will delete your request. We make no exceptions as it demonstrates they haven't read our profile, or don't respect our boundaries.

If we chat and want to share our friend/face pics we're happy to add them as a friend. But we will subsequently cancel the friend connection if it looks like we not going to actually meet that person.

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By *reen Eyed GuyMan
20 weeks ago

Hereford

I don't add anyone as a friend until they've beaten me at Mario Kart and/or I've seen them naked

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By *inkPomPomWoman
20 weeks ago

Isle of Man

I block too, especially if they try and send multiple, wink too but no message

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By *enelope2UWoman
20 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

I don't block requests I just don't look at them. I add based on conversations had.. that's it that's all..

I block vile racist messages or makes that think just because I'm on here I'll fuck anything with a pulse that can type ...hey...

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By *igladAndLulahCouple
19 weeks ago

South East

"Over 12 months ago, I'd had enough of the unsolicited "friends" requests. So I

block all of them.

Is that too harsh?

The reason I do this, IMO is becsue I feel they may just want to look at our "friends only pics." I may be wrong but it is how I feel and Mrs L agrees with me."

Our profile states that any unsolicited friend requests will be met with an instant block, so if we get them, I know they have zero interest in us or our profile and just want to look at our pictures, so they get instantly blocked

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By *itty.kat2023Woman
19 weeks ago

Kirkcaldy

I've accepted requests in the past before chatting but tbh, I'm quite 'trigger happy' with the block button as well. I've blocked people I've never had any contact with just from something I've seen pop up on the updates list(usually something dr.ug related ) or if it's just someone who's after different things/I'm not attracted to. Means neither of us waste our time chatting!

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By *1876Man
19 weeks ago

Dudley

"Over 12 months ago, I'd had enough of the unsolicited "friends" requests. So I

block all of them.

Is that too harsh?

The reason I do this, IMO is becsue I feel they may just want to look at our "friends only pics." I may be wrong but it is how I feel and Mrs L agrees with me."

I think the op hit the nail on the head here...although doesn't appear to be on the site anymore

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By *ctionSandwichCouple
19 weeks ago

Newcastle under Lyme

We'll only ever add folk we've actually played with, what's the point otherwise? Private gallery isn't just wank fodder for randos.

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By *ortheastguy99Man
19 weeks ago

Sunderland

Nope keep on i will only ask if i can send a friend request after a long chat or after a meet

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By *andyrich555Man
19 weeks ago

ub4

Its your profile, so your rules.

Its a bit like displaying verifications, some do and some don't.

If im chatting with a couple, or if tgey have really got my interest then I often send them a friendship request. Not to see their private pics (I only look at their public pics last after reading their profile and verifications), but because it allows me to give their new messages priority in my inbox.

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By *arkdawsonMan
14 weeks ago

around

"Over 12 months ago, I'd had enough of the unsolicited "friends" requests. So I

block all of them.

Is that too harsh?

The reason I do this, IMO is becsue I feel they may just want to look at our "friends only pics." I may be wrong but it is how I feel and Mrs L agrees with me."
not harsh enough if you ask me but I’m sound you can except my friend request I just sent

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