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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Similar to lost Mojo, I've pretty much lost interest in sex but as hubby is permanently horny I do have to play. As swinging is all about being horny on demand and being up for it in 10 seconds flat, I don't fit in as I take at least 30 mins to 'get going' if at all, which is no good in a club as you've got to be done and dusted in that time so the bloke can go on to the next plus being ugly no bloke is going to bother if I'm enjoying it, I've no illusions that I'm a cunt to fuck in exchange for hubby fucking his missus. I'd be quite happy to drive hubby off to meets on his own but he wants me to join in. I honestly can't be bothered and really resent having to do it. Have tried the pills and supplements to no avail. Maybe you could reply on here that I'm right and he should be pleased I don't care what he does as long as I don't catch anything!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know it might create some tensions but the best way would be to talk to your husband about how you feel...

You've got the right to have some pleasure: you deserve it!! If you don't have pleasure in swinging, maybe it is time to stop.

Just an opinion though: do whatever you want with it

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I'm sorry to say that this came across as an 'ouch' to read post, if that makes sense?

If your not happy, you shouldn't be doing anything just to please your other half!

I think, if your happy for him to play alone (communication is key!), then say so and leave him to his own devices and to find his own meets as a single male!

But no one should be 'made' to do anything they don't want do, as I certainly wouldn't!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No you don't have to play. Forcing someone to have sex when they don't want to.... that's just disrespectful. Among other things.

Can't say much more than that... I'm sure you get the jist. Hugs to you x

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By * Jay69Man
over a year ago

Bridgwater - Somerset

Sad that you've been pressured into it.

At the least you need a break from swinging.

He should be able to understand this, have you talked to him properly about it?

I really hope it turn out well for you.

We all want to please our partners, but there's a limit!

XXX

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

Take a break...Perhaps being put under pressure is what has caused your mojo to go awol.....

You don't have to play if you don't want to....Perhaps hubby feels guilty if he plays and you don't. Talk to him..explain where you are at, I am sure if he loves you and you communicate well that you don't mind him playing solo, that he will respect that.

Once that pressure is off, perhaps your mojo will return....

Best of luck.xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks for your messages, I've decided to drop the swinging and let hubby go off and have his fun. we've decided that we love each other but in the buffet of Life I'm the reliable old pork pie, and if he wants the high octane delights of the fancy cheesecake thats when the sexy ladies of the swinging community come in. Cheers all for giving me lotsa Saturday nights with me bottle of Pinot and Bubble Witch lol xx

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By *ichaelangelaCouple
over a year ago

notts

do not want to appear nasty here, but always horny or not, i think your husband is extremely selfish expecting you to swing when you feel as you do just to please him.

if my wife EVER felt the way you feel, then i would have no hesitation at all in calling a halt to the lifestyle straight away.

i have far too much respect for her to pressurise her into doing something she don't want to.

it did happen to us some years back, and after a few visits to the doctors, it turned out to be a thyroid problem that was the cause. but we never played (either of us) until SHE suggested she wanted to get back into it

love & hugs to you and hope you sort your problems out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sorry to say that this came across as an 'ouch' to read post, if that makes sense?

If your not happy, you shouldn't be doing anything just to please your other half!

I think, if your happy for him to play alone (communication is key!), then say so and leave him to his own devices and to find his own meets as a single male!

But no one should be 'made' to do anything they don't want do, as I certainly wouldn't! "

Very well put...

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By *llie RoseWoman
over a year ago

By the seaside

I found this very sad to read. Not just the doing stuff you don't really want to do but much more the negativity you use in talking about yourself. It sounds like you have very low self esteem and that just don't go well with swinging. Maybe you need to take the time to work on that and your hubby should take a little less time with other women and a bit more time making you feel more cherished. That way you might both be on the same platform to enhance your sex life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...plus being ugly no bloke is going to bother if I'm enjoying it, I've no illusions that I'm a cunt to fuck in exchange for hubby fucking his missus. I'd be quite happy to drive hubby off to meets on his own but he wants me to join in. I honestly can't be bothered and really resent having to do it.

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I re-read your OP.

Hope you're ok x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I found this very sad to read. Not just the doing stuff you don't really want to do but much more the negativity you use in talking about yourself. It sounds like you have very low self esteem and that just don't go well with swinging. Maybe you need to take the time to work on that and your hubby should take a little less time with other women and a bit more time making you feel more cherished. That way you might both be on the same platform to enhance your sex life.

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By *otwifeguyMan
over a year ago

Exeter


"I found this very sad to read. Not just the doing stuff you don't really want to do but much more the negativity you use in talking about yourself. It sounds like you have very low self esteem and that just don't go well with swinging. Maybe you need to take the time to work on that and your hubby should take a little less time with other women and a bit more time making you feel more cherished. That way you might both be on the same platform to enhance your sex life.

"

I think everyone has a mojo , but you have to be with the right person , if your not it goes into hibernation

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