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By *urious_swingrz8487 OP   Couple
39 weeks ago

newark

Hello. My partner and myself have been on this for a couple months now but haven’t managed to have a meet with anyone yet. We have had interest but it doesn’t seem to go any further. Can anyone help with suggestions please?

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

I’d like some help too

Seems like people love chatting short term but flake off when you want to actually meet and play for real

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By *orgetmeKnotCouple
39 weeks ago

Rainham, Kent


"Hello. My partner and myself have been on this for a couple months now but haven’t managed to have a meet with anyone yet. We have had interest but it doesn’t seem to go any further. Can anyone help with suggestions please?"

The best advice we can give is to not treat fab as a dating site. It's great for conversation and making some contacts but organising meets can be a nightmare. You can spend ages in conversation and just never progress to meeting because people's diaries never align or chat fizzles out.

Most seasoned swingers will all say the same thing..."Get yourself to swingers clubs and events"

It's the perfect place to cover all bases, you can have a social, make friends and play without the constant back and forth of using an online platform. We do 99% of our meets at clubs, we don't make plans with others, we just go along with no expectations and enjoy ourselves. It's the absolute best way to enjoy the lifestyle. Then just use Fab as a social networking tool to compliment your hobby.

The moment you start going where all the swingers go is when you will start to explore swinging (and all the wonderful and crazy things it has to offer) to the fullest. X

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By *rregularchoiceCouple
39 weeks ago

Blackpool

My best advice would be to find an event you’re interested in at a club, then message a few of the attendees from the event thread to introduce yourself, let them know you’ll be about on the night, if you’re going out beforehand let them know where you’ll be if they’d like to join you for a social. Hopefully you click with someone but nothing is guaranteed ☺️

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago


"I’d like some help too

Seems like people love chatting short term but flake off when you want to actually meet and play for real"

6 cock pics would be an automatic "No" from us.

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By *outhstaffscoupleCouple
39 weeks ago

cannock


"Hello. My partner and myself have been on this for a couple months now but haven’t managed to have a meet with anyone yet. We have had interest but it doesn’t seem to go any further. Can anyone help with suggestions please?

The best advice we can give is to not treat fab as a dating site. It's great for conversation and making some contacts but organising meets can be a nightmare. You can spend ages in conversation and just never progress to meeting because people's diaries never align or chat fizzles out.

Most seasoned swingers will all say the same thing..."Get yourself to swingers clubs and events"

It's the perfect place to cover all bases, you can have a social, make friends and play without the constant back and forth of using an online platform. We do 99% of our meets at clubs, we don't make plans with others, we just go along with no expectations and enjoy ourselves. It's the absolute best way to enjoy the lifestyle. Then just use Fab as a social networking tool to compliment your hobby.

The moment you start going where all the swingers go is when you will start to explore swinging (and all the wonderful and crazy things it has to offer) to the fullest. X"

Very good advice

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By *outhstaffscoupleCouple
39 weeks ago

cannock


"My best advice would be to find an event you’re interested in at a club, then message a few of the attendees from the event thread to introduce yourself, let them know you’ll be about on the night, if you’re going out beforehand let them know where you’ll be if they’d like to join you for a social. Hopefully you click with someone but nothing is guaranteed ☺️"

This is great advice too

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By *issmorganWoman
39 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

When you say you're after a m/f to be fucked by either of you, what would be the dynamic there?.

Meeting alone or one watching etc, it's not clear whats meant there.

One thing I'd say op is, that many couples probably won't want to show newbies the ropes. I know everybody was new at one point though, so it's a tough one.

Many conversations will fizzle out, especially with couples, as there's 4 people with different schedules etc to factor in..

As others have said, maybe look at organised socials or a club if you feel confident & maybe clarify what you'd offer single people if they met you & your dynamic etc.

Good luck

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By *ex MexicoMan
39 weeks ago

North West


"Hello. My partner and myself have been on this for a couple months now but haven’t managed to have a meet with anyone yet. We have had interest but it doesn’t seem to go any further. Can anyone help with suggestions please?"

What do you mean by "we've had interest"? Do you mean you have whole conversations that don't lead to meets?

Without knowing at what point you strike out, it's hard to offer advice on how you can correct for it.

But as other people have said, if you're total newbies then this website isn't a great place to set up your first meeting. Go to a club.

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By *w funwifeWoman
39 weeks ago

near taunton

the swinging scene is differcult as a new couple it takes time as it shoukd couple for couple play can be very hard as for most 4 way attracion (of sorts) is a must...

dont give in to easy because for couples the longer your on this scene the better it becomes same with all these lifestytles the longer your in it the better you know it especially couples n women...

dont ever be tempted to go with or do something you did not want you'll forever regret it ..

theres no such thing as sex on a plate on this scene everything has to have a pathway....

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By *uriousCouple20224Couple
39 weeks ago

nottingham

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By *uriousCouple20224Couple
39 weeks ago

nottingham


"Hello. My partner and myself have been on this for a couple months now but haven’t managed to have a meet with anyone yet. We have had interest but it doesn’t seem to go any further. Can anyone help with suggestions please?

The best advice we can give is to not treat fab as a dating site. It's great for conversation and making some contacts but organising meets can be a nightmare. You can spend ages in conversation and just never progress to meeting because people's diaries never align or chat fizzles out.

Most seasoned swingers will all say the same thing..."Get yourself to swingers clubs and events"

It's the perfect place to cover all bases, you can have a social, make friends and play without the constant back and forth of using an online platform. We do 99% of our meets at clubs, we don't make plans with others, we just go along with no expectations and enjoy ourselves. It's the absolute best way to enjoy the lifestyle. Then just use Fab as a social networking tool to compliment your hobby.

The moment you start going where all the swingers go is when you will start to explore swinging (and all the wonderful and crazy things it has to offer) to the fullest. X"

Fantastic advice. We have just figured this out for ourselves also x

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By *inkystar1Woman
39 weeks ago

Heathfield


"I’d like some help too

Seems like people love chatting short term but flake off when you want to actually meet and play for real"

It's deemed as rude to hijack someone else's thread. Start your own if you'd like help

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By *lowercandyWoman
39 weeks ago

Lancashire


"Hello. My partner and myself have been on this for a couple months now but haven’t managed to have a meet with anyone yet. We have had interest but it doesn’t seem to go any further. Can anyone help with suggestions please?"

As a couple you get points for showing both of you in your pictures.

My question to you would be if you were looking in.. do they inspire could they be better a smile maybe

Everyone has the same thing about trying to interest people and the profile is your shop window

You are lucky to have each other so get to organised social events and a few clubs

You get to mingle but safe knowing if no one sparks your interest (or you them) you can still have a chilled evening out together

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